I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost. |
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I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.
It's a numbers game. |
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"I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.
It's a numbers game. "
Hedge your bets.. 
Smart thinking. |
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"I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.
It's a numbers game.
Hedge your bets..
Smart thinking."
Women do it too. They have multiple profiles on more than one site. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.
It's a numbers game.
Hedge your bets..
Smart thinking.
Women do it too. They have multiple profiles on more than one site. "
#notallwomen
#notallmen |
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"I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost."
Tinder has the biggest user base. But that's also a negative as there are the most guys on there too
It really is a numbers game, a harsh and cruel one at times.
Got any hobbies? Join a club. Friends of friends etc? |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost."
I'm sorry to hear that my friend...dating apps are a weird thing as there is little of your personality you can showcase on your profile (similar to fab actually), so most matches happen based on appearance, and even those people that will first read your profile before they match (or like your profile) will be initially attracted by your picture.
I don't think dating apps work for everyone...and approaching a woman in a public place, I would never have the courage to do (so I understand that aspect)
I think the best thing do for any person in this position is to focus on themselves, and get to a point where they feel comfortable enough with themselves... I always ask myself "am I the type of person I would want to date? " and if the answer is yes, than I am content, and I am just patient until I find someone...or they find me.
Hope you find someone my friend |
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"I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost.
I'm sorry to hear that my friend...dating apps are a weird thing as there is little of your personality you can showcase on your profile (similar to fab actually), so most matches happen based on appearance, and even those people that will first read your profile before they match (or like your profile) will be initially attracted by your picture.
I don't think dating apps work for everyone...and approaching a woman in a public place, I would never have the courage to do (so I understand that aspect)
I think the best thing do for any person in this position is to focus on themselves, and get to a point where they feel comfortable enough with themselves... I always ask myself "am I the type of person I would want to date? " and if the answer is yes, than I am content, and I am just patient until I find someone...or they find me.
Hope you find someone my friend "
Yes, so true. I too hope OP does find some one nice. |
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"I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost."
Sorry you feel this way, OP. Don't let it get you down. For me, and know this always very personal, but stop "trying", if that makes sense. Focus (or find) things you enjoy and find groups where you can meet other people doing them. Just get to know people, male and female, as friends. You will relax, I would think your confidence will grow, and your social circle will widen, which is often how I've met friends that became more than friends. Trying to "date" relentlessly is tiring, imho, so just try to get to meet lots of people and have fun doing things you enjoy along the way. Good luck! |
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I would certainly avoid approaching women in a public place and particularly in a non-public place! It’s clear women do not like this and you may find you’re actions are misinterpreted as being creepy or pervy.
I hear you on the dating app front. I’ve had zero luck there either. Not even so much as a date. I agree with others it’s a little one dimensional.
I’m thinking of going on meet me, which links people to shared interest groups - ie, cooking, travelling etc…
Failing that it’s luck and I wish you plenty if it! |
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Thanks guys I just hate being lonely,my friends have all moved on and got kids and I don't see them at all.i have been to a few social meets but no luck there and when I go to a pub no one talks to u.i guess u lot are right stop trying. |
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I’ve stepped away from everything, putting the energy into myself and doing the things I want to do. Maybe get stuck into some hobbies and meet people through that instead? At least you know you’ll share some things in common and the approach will be less daunting if you’re mixing with a likeminded crowd |
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"Thanks guys I just hate being lonely,my friends have all moved on and got kids and I don't see them at all.i have been to a few social meets but no luck there and when I go to a pub no one talks to u.i guess u lot are right stop trying."
No one said stop trying. You've got to be in it to win it.
Just don't expect anything.
Maybe come off them for a bit, refresh. New pics, new text and try again.
It can be disheartening but it can be amazing too. |
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I think I've tried every dating site going as ironic as it seems although I'm on here I do genuinely want to meet someone for a relationship. I unfortunately find that most people on dating sites are just looking for one night stands. |
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How well have you written your profile description on the sites? Its very important as you are selling yourself! Imagine youre selling a car, have you described it well? Photos..take some good ones, in the sunshine, well dressed makes a Big difference. Dont go on a date expecting to marry them! Just go along, you may end up as friends, or lovers or neither, often people expect too much from a transient encounter... |
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"If you are located looking for something serious, try Hinge and Bumble. Most young other apps you mentioned are full of spammers and scammers. "
On them already nothing whatsoever not even a match |
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"If you are located looking for something serious, try Hinge and Bumble. Most young other apps you mentioned are full of spammers and scammers.
On them already nothing whatsoever not even a match"
I'd definitely suggest a profile refresh, better pics, better text. It's not easy but it's not impossible |
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