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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.
I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.
Maybe share a bed on days off?
How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it? |
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Hubby works night shifts (4 on 4 off) so we get the best of both worlds, although I can't say which nights I sleep better on 
We also have a huge bed and both sleep the edge so it can be like sleeping alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it depends how quietly each person sleeps and how good the bed is. In some beds you can't tell the other person had moved. There's no hard and fast answer to this, it's what works best. |
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"We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well  ... until I start snoring...
LvM"
OMG..the snoring!! I just can't. I'd get woken up countless times during the night because of snoring.
It's my first question when interested in dating someone, how they feel about separate beds and whether they snore.... |
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"...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.
I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.
Maybe share a bed on days off?
How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it?"
The ex used to boot me to the spare room if I had an early start.
She also used to moan that I wasn't in bed with her, when I tried to reclaim some of the sheets, when I rolled over, when I got up before she woke up. You get the jist.
Other partners I've never had an issue, we made space for each other, shared the bed, slept "together".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve struggled to understand my sleeping problems. I’ve read and tried all sorts.
I don’t feel better sleeping alone? No, it’s just the same, I wake often and sleep lightly so anything wakes me.
But there’s a nice contentment that I miss when I wake alone, nobody to hold and feel close too etc. Who doesn’t want to feel safe and comforted by someone else, even if your asleep or awake in bed.
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By *ev257Man
over a year ago
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The wife n I have been sleeping in separate beds for a few years now n we find we sleep better n also argue alot less now.
A bit silly now sleeping in same bed when have a larger than average 3 bedroom house to ourselves now kids have left home. |
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I’m not sleeping very well at the minute due to a shoulder injury I’m up and down all night .
I have painkillers etc in my drawer next to me so I’m not banging around stupid times in the morning and I don’t wake him .
Even tho we have spare rooms we would never sleep separately It just don’t feel right .The times when we’ve been apart I’ve struggled to get to sleep I’m just not used to not sharing my bed. |
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I'm a light sleeper and stir if he moves, so wouldn't do longer than a weekend in the same bed
A double bed with two single mattresses and seperate bedding would be nice if I considered it for the future |
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"...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.
I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.
Maybe share a bed on days off?
How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it?"
I could never sleep with another person in my bed ever again. I love having the bed to myself |
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"We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well ... until I start snoring...
LvM
OMG..the snoring!! I just can't. I'd get woken up countless times during the night because of snoring.
It's my first question when interested in dating someone, how they feel about separate beds and whether they snore.... "
I have the exact same problem. |
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