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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So one of my brothers asked if I can help one of his friends who is elderly with her electrics. She is an elderly lady in her late 80's. Oh wow I was amazed at how so organised her house was, it was like a time warp. She has a car but she can't drive because she is too old. Yet she loves talking, well when you're elderly and on your own it's nice to have company. It's nice to be around elderly folks, it gives you a perspective of the future? |
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Awww, I think that’s lovely.
Old people can be racist, smelly, cantankerous, judgemental and even in some cases - religious, but it’s important not to home that against them.
Joking aside, I like old people - I think it must be terribly difficult to be one of the last ones remaining from your social group and family. |
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I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.
I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care.  |
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"I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.
I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care. "
Or she steadfastly refused to go in to care. My mum refused despite the fact that at 94 my dad was exhausted trying to look after her. |
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"I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.
I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care.
Or she steadfastly refused to go in to care. My mum refused despite the fact that at 94 my dad was exhausted trying to look after her."
Yes. That can be a real issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin
Aaah, the delights of the older woman.
It's a rarely mentioned feature but so attractive  "
Then i am remiss. You are gorgeous.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're knocking on now but we still love to chat to elderly people, everyone has a story to tell and the older ones obviously have a lot more years of tales to tell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's a fantastic song by the late, great song writer John Prine called "Hello in There" which he wrote when he was only 22 years of age.
It was a tribute to the older generation and the great affection he personally felt for them.
Sure, old people can look in the rear view mirror a little too much at times but I think the younger generation can learn a lot from them. We all learn from each other. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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When I was a young teen I studied with Jehovas witness. They assigned me to an elder. A gentleman in his late 70's. He use to tell me stories of life back in the 40's and his Harley Davidson motor bike. The noise it made and a car carriage that was attached to it. With his girlfriend then wife. How he refused to fight in the war because of his religion. He was from Greenwich. South East London. His wife use to always bake. The smell was amazing. He was like a grand father as my real grandfather was in Vietnam. |
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I had an elderly “friend” she talked a lot of drivel and was manipulative, she also drank a lot of whiskey (3 litres each week) but was adamant she wasn’t an alcoholic, she puffed on those e-cigarettes and moaned when they gave up the fight for life. She really was an old bag, but I liked her, and felt sorry for her dog. He was 9 when I met him and so reactive to other dogs to the point he just wanted to eat their legs! Despite never having received any training in his 9 years, I did just that when out with my own dog, until he realised that when my dog was running towards him it didn’t necessarily mean she was running at him…. They became friends in time, and also in time it became possible to start him at scent training classes in close proximity with other dogs, without him trying to eat them, he just barked at them instead! She died last year, and I miss the old sod. |
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"I had an elderly “friend” she talked a lot of drivel and was manipulative, she also drank a lot of whiskey (3 litres each week) but was adamant she wasn’t an alcoholic, she puffed on those e-cigarettes and moaned when they gave up the fight for life. She really was an old bag, but I liked her, and felt sorry for her dog. He was 9 when I met him and so reactive to other dogs to the point he just wanted to eat their legs! Despite never having received any training in his 9 years, I did just that when out with my own dog, until he realised that when my dog was running towards him it didn’t necessarily mean she was running at him…. They became friends in time, and also in time it became possible to start him at scent training classes in close proximity with other dogs, without him trying to eat them, he just barked at them instead! She died last year, and I miss the old sod. "
Wow 3 bottles a week. I'm planning for my Macallens to last a month. Well I'm on the wagon. Tea total now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nobody loves a fairy when she's [forty] fifty
Nobody loves a fairy when she's old
She may still have a magic power but that is not enough
They like their bit of magic from a younger bit of stuff
When once your silver star has lost its glitter
And your tinsel looks like rust instead of gold
Fairy days are ending when your wand has started bending
No-one loves a fairy when shes old
For years I reigned in Fairy Dell
I waved my wand and waved it well
If I can't do all I did Im satisfied because
I'd sooner be a Has-Been that I would a Never Was
The face of this Immortal One to many has appealed
But gone is the illusion once you've had it soled and heeled
When you've lost your little fairy dimples
And the moth holes in your dress let in the cold
The Goblins and the Pixies turn their backs and say Hi Nixey
No one loves a fairy when she's old.
As far as I can see they try to push you off the map
When once your wand has withered and your wings refuse to flap
When you can't cast a spell without it spilling
And a fairy tale for years you haven't told
You stand there shouting What O.. but they all pass by your Grotto
Nobody loves a fairy when shes old.
They don't give you an earthly chance to make a livelihood
Theyre building council houses now in my enchanted wood
When you are past the age for Television
And the air you use is government controlled
It seems that they would sooner
Listen to a blinkin' crooner
Nobody loves a fairy when shes old.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes have a natter to the neighbours. They are in their late 80s and good to talk to."
I'm lucky I have good neighbours. Every one works or are retired. |
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Two things I dread as I get older are the fear of having to go into a care home at some point, and also the possibility of having to give up driving.
I am however blessed with having a circle of close friends both old and young who try to keep me on the straight and narrow path. |
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"Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe.
Is he at home now?"
No, still in hospital because he's not safe to be at home alone with a neck brace on. Obviously he disagrees with that. We're waiting for a rehab centre place. He keeps ringing me to shout at me, at all times of the day/night. My brother and I are visiting every other day but apparently we're neglecting him. We're doing our best. |
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"Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe.
Is he at home now?
No, still in hospital because he's not safe to be at home alone with a neck brace on. Obviously he disagrees with that. We're waiting for a rehab centre place. He keeps ringing me to shout at me, at all times of the day/night. My brother and I are visiting every other day but apparently we're neglecting him. We're doing our best. "
yes you are doing your best. |
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I love elderly people and thought I would like to have worked with them, but I would be too sensitive I think when they died, as I likely would have grown fond of them  |
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"I love elderly people and thought I would like to have worked with them, but I would be too sensitive I think when they died, as I likely would have grown fond of them "
I only do so in a voluntary capacity - yeah, it's hard. |
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