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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's being in control of your life choices. Being who you are and making no apologies for it. Standing on my own two feet and not relying on others for anything. Being the woman I want to be, not the woman society expects me to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say"No" more often than I used to.
People forget that the word, on it's own, is a sentence. No further explanation, apology of appeasement needed if you don't want to do something. |
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"I say"No" more often than I used to.
People forget that the word, on it's own, is a sentence. No further explanation, apology of appeasement needed if you don't want to do something."
This is a really good one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I say"No" more often than I used to.
People forget that the word, on it's own, is a sentence. No further explanation, apology of appeasement needed if you don't want to do something."
I love this, it’s so true! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t think I do anything. I don’t really think deeply about things like this. I just get on with it, I’m just me and I get by. "
Is getting by enough? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t think I do anything. I don’t really think deeply about things like this. I just get on with it, I’m just me and I get by.
Is getting by enough?
As opposed to doing what?"
I was just curious about your choice of words I guess.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for me, it's being confident in the choices and actions I've taken.
Maybe at the time those choices and actions hurt me and others, but, after time, knowing they were the right thing to do for my self worth.
Knowing that I value my own self worth and I won't let that go for anyone is empowering  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think for me, it's being confident in the choices and actions I've taken.
Maybe at the time those choices and actions hurt me and others, but, after time, knowing they were the right thing to do for my self worth.
Knowing that I value my own self worth and I won't let that go for anyone is empowering "
That’s great . Did you cultivate that, or is it something you do naturally? |
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I don't know what it means on an individual basis in all honesty.
But in dance class there's a sense of empowering each other. Same as when I did some work the other weekend with school girls. Asking them what does a scientist look like (either Albert Einstein or Doc Brown by the majority) and asking do I look like them? Getting them to ask me questions on how I did it, and how they might do it also. I think empowerment is a bit of a team effort not an individual concept. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Still learning. Mostly to stop apologising for existing and taking up space and that I don't owe anyone femininity or beauty and I'm free to decide what those things are for myself. "
YES! I’m with you on that path  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't know what it means on an individual basis in all honesty.
But in dance class there's a sense of empowering each other. Same as when I did some work the other weekend with school girls. Asking them what does a scientist look like (either Albert Einstein or Doc Brown by the majority) and asking do I look like them? Getting them to ask me questions on how I did it, and how they might do it also. I think empowerment is a bit of a team effort not an individual concept. "
That is AWESOME . What an amazing thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for me, it's being confident in the choices and actions I've taken.
Maybe at the time those choices and actions hurt me and others, but, after time, knowing they were the right thing to do for my self worth.
Knowing that I value my own self worth and I won't let that go for anyone is empowering
That’s great . Did you cultivate that, or is it something you do naturally?"
It's something that has grown with time, so yes I'd say I've cultivated it so that now it comes naturally.
I'll no longer keep myself in situations or around people that make me feel shit just from fear of change or being alone. |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
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I have been in quite a few wars in the last decades. I was always convinced that if women governed the world, this would a better place to live.
Testosterone-related behaviours and empowerment are a dangerous combination |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think for me, it's being confident in the choices and actions I've taken.
Maybe at the time those choices and actions hurt me and others, but, after time, knowing they were the right thing to do for my self worth.
Knowing that I value my own self worth and I won't let that go for anyone is empowering
That’s great . Did you cultivate that, or is it something you do naturally?
It's something that has grown with time, so yes I'd say I've cultivated it so that now it comes naturally.
I'll no longer keep myself in situations or around people that make me feel shit just from fear of change or being alone. "
That’s great, I really love that |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I have never felt the need to be empowered.
I'm just me.
I am happy in the person I am. I have never felt like I need or have needed to be empowered,I control my life and what happens in . I've learnt through experiences how to get through some really horrible times and they have made me stronger in myself.
I have found quite a few who use that phrase tend to look down on others,and think they are more important than others. I am all for people being confident and happy in themselves but when it starts to lean towards misandry or misogyny it's not something I'm interested in being part of. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have never felt the need to be empowered.
I'm just me.
I am happy in the person I am. I have never felt like I need or have needed to be empowered,I control my life and what happens in . I've learnt through experiences how to get through some really horrible times and they have made me stronger in myself.
I have found quite a few who use that phrase tend to look down on others,and think they are more important than others. I am all for people being confident and happy in themselves but when it starts to lean towards misandry or misogyny it's not something I'm interested in being part of. "
That an interesting way to look at it. I’m trying to be more empowered, but not because I think I’m better or more important at all.
I think your point about feeling in control is an important one |
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From a male perspective you be surprised what men can learn from female empowerment. My mother was from Jamaica and she took no shit from nobody, despite the discrimination she had experience in the 70's and 80's. She was kind to others, but also tough when necessary.
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I've been described as forthright, outspoken and various other adjectives. I've never considered the fact I was born with XX chromosomes to have any specific impact on the way I live my life, and that's been the case ever since I was very young. I've had a lot of shite to deal with in my 36 years and I've come through relatively unscathed so far, but my Teflon-like behaviour has nothing to do with my gender. At least I don't see that it does.
Basically, I do things in a particular way because I think that's the right way. It might be the same way people (including men) around me think is the right way, or it might be a different way. I just do what I think is right, in the way I think is best.
Interestingly, I've never had any issues working with or relating to men. I've had big issues when I've worked in a group of mainly women. I understand that I don't go about things in a traditionally feminine way, but it's a completely uncønscious thing.
I have no idea if any of the above relates to female empowerment?!  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I have never felt the need to be empowered.
I'm just me.
I am happy in the person I am. I have never felt like I need or have needed to be empowered,I control my life and what happens in . I've learnt through experiences how to get through some really horrible times and they have made me stronger in myself.
I have found quite a few who use that phrase tend to look down on others,and think they are more important than others. I am all for people being confident and happy in themselves but when it starts to lean towards misandry or misogyny it's not something I'm interested in being part of.
That an interesting way to look at it. I’m trying to be more empowered, but not because I think I’m better or more important at all.
I think your point about feeling in control is an important one "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been in quite a few wars in the last decades. I was always convinced that if women governed the world, this would a better place to live.
Testosterone-related behaviours and empowerment are a dangerous combination"
There are many wars and atrocities in history under the command of women too. |
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Not empowered just independent. Not something I do, it’s just how I’ve always been. Keep my own counsel, solve my own problems.
I’m not a fan of the word empowered, feels like I need et is soon to do something, which I don’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know what it means on an individual basis in all honesty.
But in dance class there's a sense of empowering each other. Same as when I did some work the other weekend with school girls. Asking them what does a scientist look like (either Albert Einstein or Doc Brown by the majority) and asking do I look like them? Getting them to ask me questions on how I did it, and how they might do it also. I think empowerment is a bit of a team effort not an individual concept. "
Love this.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Shutting down the multiple sexist and derogatory comments I get daily in my job.
They all think I’m sweet and innocent until they realise they’d never be able to handle me "
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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I’ve never let being a woman stop me from doing anything. Is that empowered?
I just see it as living my life as I want to within the lines of my own moral boundaries.
Besides if I didn’t go and do things on my own I’d never experience anything new or exciting like all the incredible things I’ve done and achieved so far in life.
I like to talk about my solo adventures so other women feel empowered to do things they are afraid of doing alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me. |
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"Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me. "
Are men actually saying this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me.
Are men actually saying this?"
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me.
Are men actually saying this?"
You must know this is a common occurrence? |
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"Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me.
Are men actually saying this?
Yes"
Where?
When?
Why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Largely I'm just trying to stay afloat but I refuse to let men push me down anymore. I refuse to be told to hush. Or that my voice is too loud or that I'm making a fuss. My voice matters as much as anyone else's does - that empowers me.
Are men actually saying this?
Yes
Where?
When?
Why?"
You do this every time I say anything on the forum. I've said my truth. If it's not yours, lucky you. I don't have to give details of every time a man has tried to stifle my words. If you need to know why (some) men do this - you're not paying attention. |
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