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By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
My ex wife was very much of the opinion that in a household there were men’s jobs and women’s jobs (blue and pink), which I never liked or agreed with but went along with to keep the peace. As someone who has lived alone quite often I’m used to doing all my own cooking, cleaning, laundry etc as well as all the Maintenance jobs and I much prefer a partner who thinks the same. I get that there might be things people just aren’t capable of doing but otherwise I think both of you should do any of the jobs that need doing and just share the work equally. How does/has it worked in your relationships? |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
I live on my own so do pink and blue jobs within my capability. I think jobs should be shared but whether one cleans the bathrooms and the other tends the garden shouldn't be a matter of gender or roles, just who is best at doing that job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting. Think these things differ from culture to culture. For example in lots of Caribbean households it’s pretty usual for men to do the cooking and I grew to with the idea of men cooking being normal compared to other friends.
Uh, I would say although roles are probably shared better nowadays I doubt they’re shared all equally (generally speaking) and think they’d probably still be categorised as ‘blue or pink’ roles.
Also thought it was interesting reading an old study that talked about men doing more housework but still seeing it as women’s work and calling it ‘helping out around the house’. Same way Dad’s often say they’re ‘babysitting’ when looking after their own kids  . |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"There are certain things I don't have the skills for and the same goes for Mr N. For the rest of depends who's got the time"
This. For example in our house, DIY is a pink job and the dishwasher is a black job ??
(Pink and black based on hair colour not traditional gender roles) |
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"There are certain things I don't have the skills for and the same goes for Mr N. For the rest of depends who's got the time
This. For example in our house, DIY is a pink job and the dishwasher is a black job ??
(Pink and black based on hair colour not traditional gender roles)"
Lol.
My mum was horrified to learn that I had no idea how the washing machine worked |
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The way I see it, I can’t do any DIY or traditional blue stuff. I do my stuff & Mr does his 
