I work nights at a hotel on my own and just had a very strange encounter. Basically I was invited by two very good looking girls to join them in the room they'd come to book. They were very d*unk which made me hesitate already and then one mentioned having a fallout with a boyfriend - this made me decline their offer. My question is should I have just done it, would I have been in the wrong for it or does it make me a lesser man for not? |
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"I work nights at a hotel on my own and just had a very strange encounter. Basically I was invited by two very good looking girls to join them in the room they'd come to book. They were very d*unk which made me hesitate already and then one mentioned having a fallout with a boyfriend - this made me decline their offer. My question is should I have just done it, would I have been in the wrong for it or does it make me a lesser man for not?"
Grow some balls and do it |
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"The fact that they were d*unk wasn't your main concern?
The fact that you're not sure about the situation is concerning."
In what way? I did decline, I was tempted anyone would be my query isn't much about doubting my decision more what other people would have done. |
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Definite yhe correct decision 100% to decline. In a position you are being paid to looj after the wellbeing of others, you should not impose on vulnerable people.
Meet privately only. Especially without alcoholic interference |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"The fact that they were d*unk wasn't your main concern?
The fact that you're not sure about the situation is concerning.
In what way? I did decline, I was tempted anyone would be my query isn't much about doubting my decision more what other people would have done."
I’d have done my job and been professional about it. Depends when you were clocking off. And even then ermmmmmm. |
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I would have declined if I was working or not, I don't doubt some people would think me inferior for that but I won't take advantage. I have definitely missed out I can't deny that and it likely won't happen again but my curiosity is based around who would have and how could it be justified? |
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You definitely made the right decision, leaving the hotel reception unattended to go up to their room with them would have been very irresponsible and inconsiderate towards the other guests who may have needed your assistance while you were away. |
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You're a professional doing a job with a responsibility to the other guests and your employers.
Its no different to the referee in an FA Cup Final being propositioned in the 56th minute!
So of course you did the 'right' thing.
Charles
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though... "
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here. |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here."
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them? |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them? "
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no"
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?"
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain"
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much. |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much. "
Actually nothing against being called queer I don't think any of my friends are wholly straight, it was the way her attitude flipped, I mean she obviously thought I made a mistake so do couple here in this post |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much.
Actually nothing against being called queer I don't think any of my friends are wholly straight, it was the way her attitude flipped, I mean she obviously thought I made a mistake so do couple here in this post"
I don’t think she called you queer because she thought you made a mistake, it’s was probably because she was annoyed/offended that you turned her down. I doubt her concern was whether you made the right decision or not. Even if she did think you made a mistake, you can’t really take much notice of the opinion of someone who’s d*unk and only has their own interests in mind. She doesn’t care whether you lose your job or not… |
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"The fact that they were d*unk wasn't your main concern?
The fact that you're not sure about the situation is concerning.
In what way? I did decline, I was tempted anyone would be my query isn't much about doubting my decision more what other people would have done."
No, you asked three questions, none of them were about what other people would have done.
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"The fact that they were d*unk wasn't your main concern?
The fact that you're not sure about the situation is concerning.
In what way? I did decline, I was tempted anyone would be my query isn't much about doubting my decision more what other people would have done.
No, you asked three questions, none of them were about what other people would have done.
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And all 3 were about doubting his decision… |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much.
Actually nothing against being called queer I don't think any of my friends are wholly straight, it was the way her attitude flipped, I mean she obviously thought I made a mistake so do couple here in this post"
She did what lots of people do and send abuse once they have been turned down. Women get it here all the time.
I'm amazed that at your age you still don't know if you did the right thing by deciding not to get your dick wet in that situation and if you are looking for validation from the (two?) men who said you made a mistake then you seriously need to manage yourself. |
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much.
Actually nothing against being called queer I don't think any of my friends are wholly straight, it was the way her attitude flipped, I mean she obviously thought I made a mistake so do couple here in this post
She did what lots of people do and send abuse once they have been turned down. Women get it here all the time.
I'm amazed that at your age you still don't know if you did the right thing by deciding not to get your dick wet in that situation and if you are looking for validation from the (two?) men who said you made a mistake then you seriously need to manage yourself."
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PS - No harm ever getting a cheeky phone number for when you're off duty though...
I think that's unlikely going the 'queer' spat at me as she left. That's the barb that lead to the doubts and my posting here.
One of them was ‘queer’ and spat at you? Why didn’t you mention this in your opening post? Do you mean that when she spat at you it lead to you having doubts about going up to their room with them?
No she spat it at me, calling me queer when I said no
Oh I see, so what did that lead you to have doubts about?
About if I did right thing, if other people think so or think I wasted an opportunity, work aside I've never been into anyone d*unk and the cheating was a write off alone but I wonder sometimes if I should switch off my brain
I’d have thought her calling you queer for turning her down would have confirmed you did the right thing as she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Or do you mean that you’re worried that they actually think you’re gay because you turned them down? I think you’re being a bit over sensitive if you’re letting a d*unk woman calling you queer affect you this much.
Actually nothing against being called queer I don't think any of my friends are wholly straight, it was the way her attitude flipped, I mean she obviously thought I made a mistake so do couple here in this post
She did what lots of people do and send abuse once they have been turned down. Women get it here all the time.
I'm amazed that at your age you still don't know if you did the right thing by deciding not to get your dick wet in that situation and if you are looking for validation from the (two?) men who said you made a mistake then you seriously need to manage yourself."
I'm not so much looking for validation as i am curious about othet peoples handling like I've said. Validation or not it's done now.
Other people might have this happen to them but I don't, so no its not such an easy thing to brush off and dealing with had given me things to think about |
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"Every man has five or six encounters that he’ll kick himself for bottling out of. This will be your number one."
"I highly doubt that. OP would have been an idiot to accept the invite. "
No, he's right, the OP will always wonder if he would have had the time of his life.
But the OP made the right decision. The likelihood is that it would have gone bad, if not on the night then in the days after, when the woman sobered up and began to wonder if she had been taken advantage of.
Good choice OP. |
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The only opportunity you missed was having the police remove the one that spat at you.
People need to learn there are consequences for their actions and spitting at someone is assault.
No room refund just a night sleeping in a cell. |
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"The only opportunity you missed was having the police remove the one that spat at you.
People need to learn there are consequences for their actions and spitting at someone is assault.
No room refund just a night sleeping in a cell."
Yes absolutely!!
If that was a d*unk man, who came to hotel, tried to get the female receptionist back to his room, spat on her when she declined, there's no way he's actually getting to the hotel room. |
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"The only opportunity you missed was having the police remove the one that spat at you.
People need to learn there are consequences for their actions and spitting at someone is assault.
No room refund just a night sleeping in a cell.
Yes absolutely!!
If that was a d*unk man, who came to hotel, tried to get the female receptionist back to his room, spat on her when she declined, there's no way he's actually getting to the hotel room. "
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"The OP clarified earlier that she didn't spit at him. He meant that she spat the word "queer" at him.
Still a horrible thing to do but slightly less illegal."
Ah OK.
Then, refuse the booking due to verbal abuse.
You get kicked off the bus for being abusive to the driver.
You get refused NHS treatment for being abusive to staff.
More companies should run zero tolerance for shitty behaviour instead of allowing their staff to be disrespected and essentially letting the perpetrator believe their behaviour is acceptable by continuing to do business with them.
Cut that shit dead. |
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"Every man has five or six encounters that he’ll kick himself for bottling out of. This will be your number one.
I highly doubt that. OP would have been an idiot to accept the invite.
No, he's right, the OP will always wonder if he would have had the time of his life.
But the OP made the right decision. The likelihood is that it would have gone bad, if not on the night then in the days after, when the woman sobered up and began to wonder if she had been taken advantage of.
Good choice OP."
Exactly. If he really wanted to do anything, just should have had a private fantasy wank in his break and be done with it. The thought of what could have followed if you had gone to them doesn't bear thinking about. Be safe sensible and mostly professional. Just saying |
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
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Work is your money, never jeopardise what pays your bills for pleasure, you could have ended up being a very large pay day for them and having your name mixed with dirt, that trouble is not worth no amount of fun, you did right to turn them down however the fact that your asking if you did the right thing, has me thinking |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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I've read all this thread, and it seems to me there's deeper going on here as the Op is so affected.
As regards the actual incident, right decision not to do anything for many reasons. Don't mix work and pleasure, and beware of repercussions. What if they had said they did not consent, taking advantage of 2 vulnerable d*unk women? Could have cost your job or worse. |
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