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No one else is ruining it for you. It is what you make it!
Sure, I get lots of very strange messages, but also chat to lots of decent guys! The ones who put a bit of effort in and can have a normal conversation. |
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Okay let me explain in abit more detail
I was happily looking for someone just to chat and vibe with almost become friends no expectations just good vibes. It’s almost as if when you tell people this they don’t believe you due to past experiences this site doesn’t have to be all about sex sometimes I just want good company real life or phone |
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"Stop blaming others for ruining the site for you. Poor excuse, only you can influence how you are seen by others on here. "
Exactly this.
Have a break if it's getting you down, OP, but not others' fault if you're not enjoying it. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
"Okay let me explain in abit more detail
I was happily looking for someone just to chat and vibe with almost become friends no expectations just good vibes. It’s almost as if when you tell people this they don’t believe you due to past experiences this site doesn’t have to be all about sex sometimes I just want good company real life or phone "
You might be better off going to the pub and meeting people there. |
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By *aui.Man
over a year ago
around here |
Don't take messages being deleted without being read or read and deleted etc as a personal insult. It happens to everyone. They don't know you and for whatever reason at that particular time they decided not to get to know you.
You've got to take it all with a pinch of salt. If you take every rejection to heart it'll destroy your self esteem. |
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"Okay let me explain in abit more detail
I was happily looking for someone just to chat and vibe with almost become friends no expectations just good vibes. It’s almost as if when you tell people this they don’t believe you due to past experiences this site doesn’t have to be all about sex sometimes I just want good company real life or phone "
I wouldn't be looking to just chat or have a penpal  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
As others have said no one else ruins it for anyone if anything the decent guys stand out. People will chat if they like you if they don't they won't. It's really just that simple.
And yes a lot of chats turn into why won't you meet me or send pics or they want sex talk but it's just as easy to stop chatting when that happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Okay let me explain in abit more detail
I was happily looking for someone just to chat and vibe with almost become friends no expectations just good vibes. It’s almost as if when you tell people this they don’t believe you due to past experiences this site doesn’t have to be all about sex sometimes I just want good company real life or phone
You might be better off going to the pub and meeting people there."
The chat rooms can be like going to the pub.
Maybe try there OP? There can be some really funny and interesting convos to get involved in and many friendships are made that way. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
"Okay let me explain in abit more detail
I was happily looking for someone just to chat and vibe with almost become friends no expectations just good vibes. It’s almost as if when you tell people this they don’t believe you due to past experiences this site doesn’t have to be all about sex sometimes I just want good company real life or phone
You might be better off going to the pub and meeting people there.
The chat rooms can be like going to the pub.
Maybe try there OP? There can be some really funny and interesting convos to get involved in and many friendships are made that way. "
This is true. Good shout. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Good luck op with whatever you do
My reply would be the exact same."
Excellent  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's tough to get meets. The odds are heavily stacked against us , for me personally I thrive on punching above my weight. Am I successful? Hell no but it does not deter me.
Nothing worth having comes easy
Not my quote ^^^ but he's dead so he won't mind me stealing it.
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This place can be fun, boring or totally toxic. Just take a break, hide your profile and wait until you feel ready.
I regularly hide ours, ignore the messages for a bit and stay away from the forum. The break does me good.
Katie. |
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By *aui.Man
over a year ago
around here |
"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Good luck op with whatever you do"
My reply would have been the same but I definitely agree the general mood of the responses would have been different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Good luck op with whatever you do"
No because theyd all be trying to get into her filthy nickers! |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Who is going to start a conversation with someone they aren't attracted to, if they are looking to meet? You don't want to chat, you want to flirt/talk sex, so only people that are interested in you will reply  |
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same?? "
Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Join in on the forums
I find the forums is the best place
I have had so meny reply’s back from messages just because off the forums
Even from none forum users they maybe not post but far more people than you would think read the forums
It allows people to see what your like without even ever have talk to you
Witch again is a plus point
If anyone wants to see what kind off person I am before ever have talked to me
They just have to look at my thousands off forum comments and posts to get a ruff idear off what kind off person I am
Carres a lot off wight
Ie they know I am not going to go all creepy on them and try and divert the chat to sex chat within 3 or 4 messages
They no I am not going to spit the dummy out if say I am not for them
They know I can hold a conversation about general Everday things
Without expectations
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I find that the bad guys make the good ones stand out tbh .
You get days where sometimes you feel like deleting ,I've blocked 2 people today because of the really graphic messages they've sent me.
Then other days you speak to some top people ,when it's annoying me I hide my profile for a bit.
Join in here . |
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By *tooveMan
over a year ago
belfast |
"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones "
Ooohhhh... I'm so nice. Other guy's aren't. Boo hoo hoo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones
Ooohhhh... I'm so nice. Other guy's aren't. Boo hoo hoo"
I'm the only knight in shining armour left on this site... |
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By *tooveMan
over a year ago
belfast |
"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones
Ooohhhh... I'm so nice. Other guy's aren't. Boo hoo hoo
I'm the only knight in shining armour left on this site... "
No. I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never understood the argument that says the bad guys ruin it for everyone. In fact I would like to take this opportunity to thank the arseholes out there for making my Fab life easier. Their behaviour means I really don't have to try as hard as I may otherwise need to in order to stand out as a decent human being. 
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones
Ooohhhh... I'm so nice. Other guy's aren't. Boo hoo hoo
I'm the only knight in shining armour left on this site...
No. I am. "
Ladies don't listen to this fellow he's a crook. I am the only knight left, follow me. |
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread "
True. I've said before that it's hard work, only to be told I'm obviously not doing it right/I'm talking to the wrong people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Good luck op with whatever you do"
Tbf, I often ask this question, both of myself and others, but in this instance the answer is yes. Blaming other people because you are not popular is not cool in my book.
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones "
I can understand where you're coming from. You seem like a sensitive chap. .
People's feelings do get hurt, or sometimes you feel a low esteem. You'll get over it. There are nice and not so nice people on here and everywhere else. Forget the ones you don't click with and concentrate on the positive ones. Keep a little something back and don't offer to much of yourself or expect the same from others until your both confident with each other. Best wishes |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread "
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that) |
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that)"
The question was "If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??"
My answer was "Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread ".
So I am telling you it is true because that is what I would do.
If you judge my potential action to be wrong that's your problem not mine at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you might need to accept that most people here aren't interested in a chat and company.
I get asked for this periodically in messages and (if asked politely) I say "I'm not here for that, that's what the forum is for". That has little to do with other men. I do find that I end up chatting with people via the forum - lots of people. If I find them interesting or we have something in common. But being asked directly for "chat" just isn't appealing, sorry to say. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that)
The question was "If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??"
My answer was "Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread ".
So I am telling you it is true because that is what I would do.
If you judge my potential action to be wrong that's your problem not mine at all."
There's no problem...I'm not disputing the fact that you would give the same reply to both men and women . I'm simply saying not all threads like this are about "no one wants me" sympathy...some people simply want to express themselves and what they have gone through on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that)"
Posting about your experiences is very different to blaming other people for your lack of success. To use your example, if a woman posted about receiving abusive messages and blamed the fact she got them on the behaviour of other women on the site I'm quite certain she'd get an absolute flaming.
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"I'm simply saying not all threads like this are about "no one wants me" sympathy...some people simply want to express themselves and what they have gone through on fab "
I didn't say that either. But most are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that)
The question was "If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??"
My answer was "Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread ".
So I am telling you it is true because that is what I would do.
If you judge my potential action to be wrong that's your problem not mine at all.
There's no problem...I'm not disputing the fact that you would give the same reply to both men and women . I'm simply saying not all threads like this are about "no one wants me" sympathy...some people simply want to express themselves and what they have gone through on fab "
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"Posting about your experiences is very different to blaming other people for your lack of success. To use your example, if a woman posted about receiving abusive messages and blamed the fact she got them on the behaviour of other women on the site I'm quite certain she'd get an absolute flaming.
Mr"
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"Just a thought
If a woman posted this …. A popular, regular poster - would you all reply the same??
Yes, I would. Anyone looking for 'no one wants to meet me' sympathy is just posting a boring look at me thread
That's not necessarily true, some people simply want to express their experiences...there are many threads opened about the same thing (nasty/rude/abusive men) by women, that mention how hard it is for them to find the right guy, because of these men, so there is truth to what he says...
Both men and women should be allowed to express their experiences and their feelings about their experiences in the forums, without being approached with animosity, ridicul or passive aggressiveness (not saying you did that, I'm saying some of the comments are like that)
Posting about your experiences is very different to blaming other people for your lack of success. To use your example, if a woman posted about receiving abusive messages and blamed the fact she got them on the behaviour of other women on the site I'm quite certain she'd get an absolute flaming.
Mr"
We can agree to disagree ...I personally don't see him blaming those men, I see him mentioning a factor that makes his experience on fab... not the best. I agree that it's the incorrect approach, and everyone on fab should focus on themselves, but I also believe people should open any thread they want ( as long as it's not racist, homophobic, sexist or offensive) and again, although his approach might be wrong, we can most certainly try and tell him that in a more positive way... but again, we can agree to disagree. Enjoy your evening |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t really think some men spoil it for others.
You can only be yourself and if someone likes what they see/read then they will chat. I hope you find what you’re looking for OP  "
looking for everything he deleted probably. 
Op. Just hide your account next time. Much easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones "
The rude men do piss people off. Makes them angry, less likely to reply to even polite messages. The rude men who are abusive can make people stop meeting because they feel shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinda had enough of the site so took all my pictures down. What happened to the art of conversation so many rude guys ruining it for us good ones "
Yeah that can happen on here unfortunately |
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