It’s challenging to find genuine good friends when your old friends move away . I’ve got used to doing my own thing . I have FWB but that’s not the same as platonic mates

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By *iberius61Man over a year ago

Pontefract

I have a few independent circles. Spanking, scuba diving, sailing, saxophone and triathlon (I had to get one hobby that doesn't begin with the letter S). There isn't really much crossover. Quite funny if I ever do a BBQ where people come from the different communities.

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

Small but mighty.

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I have a handful of very close friends whom I see regularly, we go out, they all often dine here, we all talk regularly.

What makes this circle special?……

There is respect for each other amongst all

There is no envy or jealousy

We all share similar taste /sense of humour

We don’t talk about each other behind backs

I am pleased to call everyone of them a close friend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not much of a circle because they don’t know one another. But I have like 3/4 great friends that are always there for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I do and im so grateful for every single one or them x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, I have a lovely circle of friends whom I don't see often enough. I love catching up with any or all of them. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, I'm a crap friend tbh"

I doubt that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s challenging to find genuine good friends when your old friends move away . I’ve got used to doing my own thing . I have FWB but that’s not the same as platonic mates "

I moved away and found new friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Small but mighty. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a handful of very close friends whom I see regularly, we go out, they all often dine here, we all talk regularly.

What makes this circle special?……

There is respect for each other amongst all

There is no envy or jealousy

We all share similar taste /sense of humour

We don’t talk about each other behind backs

I am pleased to call everyone of them a close friend. "

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not much of a circle because they don’t know one another. But I have like 3/4 great friends that are always there for me.

Fabulous

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Small circle but just one or two I can class as "brothers from another mother".

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By *r WhispererMan over a year ago

brynmawr

I’ve a very small number of very close friends.. problem is they all live at opposite corners of the Uk so don’t see them very often..

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Very good have a lovely bestie i spent this afternoon with and yesterday met for lunch with work friends can't belive 4 hrs flew by and we still sat chating ! Another good friend is coming on holiday with me and my sister next week! Very important to me all of them x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have 2 separate friend groups. One is my school friends, we’re all still really close and probably always will be. The other is my going out friends, the type you can call any day of the week and if you need a good night out at least 2-3 of them will be up for it.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple over a year ago

Debauchery

My closest friends are also part of my work family. They're the ones I see most of and one especially is a very close friend who I'd do anything for.

My family is large and we're all close pretty much, we'll pull together as quite a force if anyone wrongs one of us!

Between all of my friends outside of fab I confide in each of them in different ways.

Cherry x

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

Almost non-existent. I have acquaintances rather than friends. People I had considered good and trusted friends have continually and consistently let me down, so now the only person I trust and rely on is me.

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By *tarflyLouWoman over a year ago

Preston

I have a lot of friends who live elsewhere who I chat to online/message. The friends I have nearby are acquaintances really, I don’t have anybody whose house I pop to or who ever comes to mine. It does make me sad if I stop to think about it

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By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

I don't do people, they tend to shit on me. I reckon there are 2 folk outside of my mum and Small I can rely on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Small circle but just one or two I can class as "brothers from another mother"."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve a very small number of very close friends.. problem is they all live at opposite corners of the Uk so don’t see them very often.. "

But I bet when you get together it’s brilliant

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Very good have a lovely bestie i spent this afternoon with and yesterday met for lunch with work friends can't belive 4 hrs flew by and we still sat chating ! Another good friend is coming on holiday with me and my sister next week! Very important to me all of them x"

Lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have 2 separate friend groups. One is my school friends, we’re all still really close and probably always will be. The other is my going out friends, the type you can call any day of the week and if you need a good night out at least 2-3 of them will be up for it."

That’s lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My closest friends are also part of my work family. They're the ones I see most of and one especially is a very close friend who I'd do anything for.

My family is large and we're all close pretty much, we'll pull together as quite a force if anyone wrongs one of us!

Between all of my friends outside of fab I confide in each of them in different ways.

Cherry x"

That’s so lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Almost non-existent. I have acquaintances rather than friends. People I had considered good and trusted friends have continually and consistently let me down, so now the only person I trust and rely on is me."

I’ve been there … it can get better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a lot of friends who live elsewhere who I chat to online/message. The friends I have nearby are acquaintances really, I don’t have anybody whose house I pop to or who ever comes to mine. It does make me sad if I stop to think about it "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do. I've got lots of friends that I've made from different places - school, college, uni, family friends (I'm lucky that I've got three sisters in law and I count all of them as good friends), running and parenting friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't do people, they tend to shit on me. I reckon there are 2 folk outside of my mum and Small I can rely on"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I'm incredibly lucky with my friends, truly blessed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I do. I've got lots of friends that I've made from different places - school, college, uni, family friends (I'm lucky that I've got three sisters in law and I count all of them as good friends), running and parenting friends. "

Lovely

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

I have friends, but they're all singular rather than a group. I don't really like hanging out with lots of people at the same time.

I have a lot of "people I know" also, who aren't quite friends, but I still chat to, would have a cuppa with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I'm incredibly lucky with my friends, truly blessed. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have friends, but they're all singular rather than a group. I don't really like hanging out with lots of people at the same time.

I have a lot of "people I know" also, who aren't quite friends, but I still chat to, would have a cuppa with. "

That’s lovely

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By *ack688Man over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

It’s a circle of one, an ex in the states that I talk to for hours every day, I don’t really see anyone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s a circle of one, an ex in the states that I talk to for hours every day, I don’t really see anyone else"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I live in a cave behind a waterfall...

What do you think

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes, I'm very lucky!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live in a cave behind a waterfall...

What do you think

You’re Batman?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, I'm very lucky! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

They weren’t really your friends if they disappeared because you’re disabled

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I have two very close friends and I'm blessed to have both in my life.

I also have a wide circle of more casual mates and extended family. I love them all but it's a very different, much less supportive relationship.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

That’s sad to read Mrs KC. I experienced similar with my daughter’s issues and when she had to change schools. People just seemed to disappear. You realise who your true friends are at certain times x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

Some of the people we have met through fab have become some of the best people in our lives and so supportive. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My circle is tiny. And my proper good friends circle is smaller than that.

People drift off and go on another journey, or I realised that I put more energy into the friendship than they did. One of those. Which is life I suppose.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

They weren’t really your friends if they disappeared because you’re disabled"

Yes, I've realised. We'd been "friends" since school too. A very long time to pretend.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

You do indeed. True friends make you pizza at 10pm and offer their spare room so you don't have to pontificate on your Dad's condition on your own. Fab friends

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By *91kMan over a year ago

Maidstone

"You have a good circle of friends away from here?

I am so blessed to have mine - regularly check in with me and basically they are like aunts and uncles to my daughter.

What’s your circle, outside Fab like? "

Night and day difference... Fab is a bit of a lonely place for most single males, some get very lucky and good on them. But wouldn't say I had a fab circle at all

Whereas real life is very different. Met some incredible people over the years I've made inseparable bonds with. Fab is a fantasy land, real life is not...

That's how I see it anyway

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not anymore, no. A lot of our friends seemed to melt away when I acquired my disability, unfortunately. I have one very good friend left but she lives at the other end of the country.

It's been Fabsters who've picked me up after my Dad's recent serious accident and have looked after me

You do indeed. True friends make you pizza at 10pm and offer their spare room so you don't have to pontificate on your Dad's condition on your own. Fab friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My best and truest friends are scattered around the country, all from my time in the services. The type of friends who I don’t physically see often, but when we do get together, we pick up exactly where we were before as if no time has passed at all! There are a few friends who I work with but we seem to be friendly, rather than friends in the sense we spend our time together with each other away from work

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have two very close friends and I'm blessed to have both in my life.

I also have a wide circle of more casual mates and extended family. I love them all but it's a very different, much less supportive relationship."

They all bring happiness though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My circle is tiny. And my proper good friends circle is smaller than that.

People drift off and go on another journey, or I realised that I put more energy into the friendship than they did. One of those. Which is life I suppose.

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By *orace99Man over a year ago

York

Does a circle of one count?

They joys of being an introvert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope i choose not to have friends they seem to all move on with there lives or die so i figure why bother so now i have only people i know and team mates

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By *iromancergirl1Woman over a year ago

bolton

I have 3 very close friends one for 33 years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don't have any close friends. My closest friends distanced themselves when I became a parent and everyone else is just a casual chat/cup of coffee kind of friend.

I have a very close group of friends I met online when I was 15, but as we all live in different parts of the world it's very rare we can meet up, but we stay in touch most days.

I do hope eventually I'll find friends again once I'm in a job and put myself out there. I'm lucky I have my partner really, he's my best bestie.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People drift off and go on another journey, or I realised that I put more energy into the friendship than they did. One of those. Which is life I suppose.

Yes, 100%. I hate when you're the only one making an effort to keep the friendship alive.

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By *ighty_tightyMan over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Work friends, small family. No real friends group anymore.

When I'm single I'm very much a loner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Aww lovelies

We’re all friends here

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By *ooBulMan over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

I had 4 very close friends.

One was an arse with me - so now I've got nothing to do with him any more.

One got married & she told me where I could find her in the future. However, I can’t find her internet wise as she seems to have slipped off the edge. I do hope she is alright…..? I’m sad as I miss her for her advice. She would have been of great help to me! I hope Covid has not claimed her….

Another got married, has had kids & just seems to have drifted away a bit over the years. I’m not upset as you gain & loose friends throughout your lifetime. It’s just ebb & flow. Kismet perhaps?

That only leaves me with one remaining. I have not seen him since before Covid. I’ve texted him over the past couple years though just to make sure he is o.k. He is! We will arrange a drink soon...

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

I have a few mates, none of them are good enough to contact me regularly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a good circle of friends away from here?

I am so blessed to have mine - regularly check in with me and basically they are like aunts and uncles to my daughter.

What’s your circle, outside Fab like? "

I’d say if you even mention fab in the same breath as actual real life world touch feel human beings then you’re life is already fucked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be happy with a semi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a good circle of friends away from here?

I am so blessed to have mine - regularly check in with me and basically they are like aunts and uncles to my daughter.

What’s your circle, outside Fab like?

I’d say if you even mention fab in the same breath as actual real life world touch feel human beings then you’re life is already fucked. "

My daughter, and her partner know I'm on here. I guess I'm doubly screwed? But not in the way I prefer then?

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Unfortunately not, I lost a lot of friends when I moved down south, and never made any there, moving back home it's just me, I have work colleagues I'm friendly with but noone I can call a true friend that's not fab related

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately not, I lost a lot of friends when I moved down south, and never made any there, moving back home it's just me, I have work colleagues I'm friendly with but noone I can call a true friend that's not fab related "

Do you call Fab related friends then? Not being funny, I'm genuinely interested. I have folk I've moved over to whatsapp & whatnot. We chat/craic on. I like them definitely. But not sure if I'd say 'friends'? I certainly wouldn't expect them to put me up in their spare room. Yet, I have a few folk I'd definitely hang out with if they were in the area... Weird one I guess?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have to beat mine off with a shitty stick

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By *ussex-steveMan over a year ago

brighton

Lost all mine when I got divorced. Starting a fresh.

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By *ussex-steveMan over a year ago

brighton

People drift off and go on another journey, or I realised that I put more energy into the friendship than they did. One of those. Which is life I suppose.

Yes, 100%. I hate when you're the only one making an effort to keep the friendship alive. "

This exactly.

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