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over a year ago
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I’m not going to name them, they live very far away and its pointless trying to arrange anything or they simply instruct that they don’t meet on their profile or in here. It would be pointless trying.
Off forums, 99% anyone I think is attractive will be hard for me to get to talk to. inbox will be full of much more suitable men for them. But message would have been sent. I just don’t have the energy to send any more. So, I’ve now come unattainable to them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a few smoking hot guys in birmingham on my hot list but I know they wouldn't look twice at me which is a shame but we can't be for everyone I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If distance is the only issue then don’t let it be !
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Sing…
When all I want to do is meet this girl, share a little bit of me….
Lets meet up in the middle, and let it be e e e! |
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None. 
There's a few that I like their pic styles and similar that I align with their forum views.
But without seeing them in real life, hearing their voice and seeing their specific mannerisms I don't think anyone can make me that giddy in a pure 2d format. |
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Holy washing machines Batman! I couldn’t possibly say  . He likes a maths test though. Probably the only one on here I’d want to meet and have done for about 7 years. Unfortunately I’m not allowed within 100 yards of him. I think he’s just playing hard to get 
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"Holy washing machines Batman! I couldn’t possibly say . He likes a maths test though. Probably the only one on here I’d want to meet and have done for about 7 years. Unfortunately I’m not allowed within 100 yards of him. I think he’s just playing hard to get
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Restraining order?
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"Holy washing machines Batman! I couldn’t possibly say . He likes a maths test though. Probably the only one on here I’d want to meet and have done for about 7 years. Unfortunately I’m not allowed within 100 yards of him. I think he’s just playing hard to get
Restraining order?
Winston"
Yeah  . Caught me in a tree in his front garden  |
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Yes of course there are but if you took that view you would never contact them. I have on numerous occasions punched way above my weight on here as my verifications testify . However it wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t have the balls to reach out to them in the first place. Nothing ventured nothing gained  |
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A couple on here in our hometown
They are younger than us
Only by 10 years or so but we know their parents
We’ve spoke to each other but the above fact put us all off meeting for anything more than a social |
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"Holy washing machines Batman! I couldn’t possibly say . He likes a maths test though. Probably the only one on here I’d want to meet and have done for about 7 years. Unfortunately I’m not allowed within 100 yards of him. I think he’s just playing hard to get
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Or like me, out of your age range
Did I say I like your style? |
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"Nobody is unattainable until they say to me “no chance ya beardy weirdy” or something similar.  "
I’m so nicking that. “No chance ya beardy weirdy”.
Is that better than just a delete do you think? Or maybe a bit too rude?  |
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I used think that people were unattainable to me.
Was worried about distance mostly, but I have recently realised that actually life is just to short to admire from afar and watch on wistfully from the sideline.
So I've now adopted the attitude of if you don't ask, you'll never get. If you get a no (or no response at all) you've lost nothing and are still watching from afar, but if you do get a yes, then you've potentially gained so much.
I say just go for it! |
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Since being on here I've attracted some very desirable ladies that I wouldn't have thought would find me attractive, so I no longer think about someone being unattainable and I leave that way of thinking to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To play seriously- Nicecouple561 (mrs N), Inconceivable and MrsPricklePants.
Because of age, possibly them not finding me attractive (idk), because I don’t meet couples and I’m sure many other reasons I’m not aware of |
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes. "
No need to apologise. Same for me.
SteviePickly, tippy topy blokee.
*shoulder punch.
Winston |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
1 or 2 even on this thread. I tried one message each. For me no reply is a reply and I’ll probably won’t send the second one. More messages to send less attractive subject become. I want to keep these profile desirable as I just like them much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not unobtainable.... However a fair few are logistically challenging ... A combo of distance and commitments.
Plus they get too many messages !!
A fair few on this thread... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have one definite on this thread. Already established a few weeks ago that I am not her kind of doughnut. I've heard she prefers custard rather than jam!
I find the logistics one interesting. As a few have said, I'd travel quite a way for a great connection, but I think most people don't believe you are that committed.
I'm also open to travellers who want to visit the North West. That would be a new dynamic for me.
Ultimately, I have little control over whether I am someone's type or not but I'm definitely visual and personality. I can't have one without the other
I mean.... Amber Heard!! |
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"To play seriously- Nicecouple561 (mrs N), Inconceivable and MrsPricklePants.
Because of age, possibly them not finding me attractive (idk), because I don’t meet couples and I’m sure many other reasons I’m not aware of "
Well! You could have knocked me down with a feather.  |
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All the ones North of Portsdown Hill... Distance is always the issue for me, I can't travel.
But I have chatted and the invite of "if you're ever down this way" is open. So who knows what might happen?! |
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I have a few like most. But I’ve always message to them and some got a response and I didn’t just comes down to distance and how much lust we have.
I’ve got nothing to lose. if you don’t ask you don’t get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes.
No need to apologise. Same for me.
SteviePickly, tippy topy blokee.
*shoulder punch.
Winston"
See  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To play seriously- Nicecouple561 (mrs N), Inconceivable and MrsPricklePants.
Because of age, possibly them not finding me attractive (idk), because I don’t meet couples and I’m sure many other reasons I’m not aware of
Well! You could have knocked me down with a feather. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes.
Winston is a sweetheart "
Oi, he’s mine |
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I have accepted most of those I really fancy are out of my league, there's at least one (actually on this thread) who I would jump at the chance to get to know a little better, but I guess it'll never be... |
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes.
Winston is a sweetheart "
Awwwwwwwwww.
I think we worked out these are pointless.
I bloody love old Portsmouth too.
Winston |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To play seriously- Nicecouple561 (mrs N), Inconceivable and MrsPricklePants.
Because of age, possibly them not finding me attractive (idk), because I don’t meet couples and I’m sure many other reasons I’m not aware of
Well! You could have knocked me down with a feather.
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Oh stop it! (Giggles inanely) |
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"I'm too damn old to be lusting after unattainable men.
What about attainable men?
*asking for a friend
Winston
Does your friend have a pashmina?"
An attractive woman in a pashmina.....
*swoon
Thats the dream ticket, right there.
Winston |
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Even the most unattainable people from your own point of view have their own doubts about attraction.
Ask the question, grab the opportunity, seize the day.
I’m happy to say that we count some people considered unattainable as close friends now.
Make the move.
X |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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The more I looked at the different profiles on here the more the self esteem kicked in and virtually everyone felt unattainable… lots of people i didn’t message but absolutely fancied the pants off of.
But luckily (still not sure how) two or three of that list have messaged me and one of them has become a top buddy over the last year.
Lesson learned. The feeling of unattainable is on me not them. So if the profile bio looks a good fit then why not reach out. |
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"The more I looked at the different profiles on here the more the self esteem kicked in and virtually everyone felt unattainable… lots of people i didn’t message but absolutely fancied the pants off of.
But luckily (still not sure how) two or three of that list have messaged me and one of them has become a top buddy over the last year.
Lesson learned. The feeling of unattainable is on me not them. So if the profile bio looks a good fit then why not reach out. "
Exactly
We should not see anyone as unattainable. Give it a go and see. Even distance, I met guys that travelled from Wales and Ireland. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm too damn old to be lusting after unattainable men.
What about attainable men?
*asking for a friend
Winston
Does your friend have a pashmina?
An attractive woman in a pashmina.....
*swoon
Thats the dream ticket, right there.
Winston "
Don't think I've seen the word pashmina in years! But oh the halcyon days of pashminas in every colour...  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"The more I looked at the different profiles on here the more the self esteem kicked in and virtually everyone felt unattainable… lots of people i didn’t message but absolutely fancied the pants off of.
But luckily (still not sure how) two or three of that list have messaged me and one of them has become a top buddy over the last year.
Lesson learned. The feeling of unattainable is on me not them. So if the profile bio looks a good fit then why not reach out. "
This is very true.
You never know unless you try.
In my case the unattainable ones are the ones that said ‘no thanks’ but at least I know |
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"The more I looked at the different profiles on here the more the self esteem kicked in and virtually everyone felt unattainable… lots of people i didn’t message but absolutely fancied the pants off of.
But luckily (still not sure how) two or three of that list have messaged me and one of them has become a top buddy over the last year.
Lesson learned. The feeling of unattainable is on me not them. So if the profile bio looks a good fit then why not reach out. "
I agree  |
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes.
Winston is a sweetheart
Awwwwwwwwww.
I think we worked out these are pointless.
I bloody love old Portsmouth too.
Winston "
Oh Winston... It is lovely at this time of year! |
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"None.
There's a few that I like their pic styles and similar that I align with their forum views.
But without seeing them in real life, hearing their voice and seeing their specific mannerisms I don't think anyone can make me that giddy in a pure 2d format."
Yes. This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are a few ladies I really like and I am already friends with.
There is 1 lady up there I like but haven't told. I normally dont have any issue telling people and just go for it. However, my confidence is very low at the minute and cant bring myself to message her, I think I'm broken |
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"There are a few ladies I really like and I am already friends with.
There is 1 lady up there I like but haven't told. I normally dont have any issue telling people and just go for it. However, my confidence is very low at the minute and cant bring myself to message her, I think I'm broken "
Do you need someone to try and fix you monkey? |
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There are many that I find physically attractive, but even if they all said yes, there just aren't enough days in the year
There are a few who's profile (the words) spikes my interest, same answer as above.
Overall its kind of a numbers game. There are x number of people I'd like to get intimate with. X-Y number of those would want to get intimate with me. That gives me z number to play with. As long as z is greater than 0, then I'm happy.
I don't really ever think, I wish I could play with x, but I'll make do with y, that just isn't the way I think. I've had sex with supermodel types and not enjoyed it as much as sex with people considered less attractive, haven't we all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The more I looked at the different profiles on here the more the self esteem kicked in and virtually everyone felt unattainable… lots of people i didn’t message but absolutely fancied the pants off of.
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On a serious note, I have this. My confidence rides high, I message and we talk. Quickly I find doubt, I know fab. I know profiles and men/women who, in my opinion, are ‘hot’. So I imagine I just slip down a list and at the bottom of a queue of others they’d rather meet up with.
So they do feel unavailable, unattainable or out of my league, Same thing really.
But I get on with it, my dog wags it’s tail and greets me, and we don’t even like each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are many that I find physically attractive, but even if they all said yes, there just aren't enough days in the year
There are a few who's profile (the words) spikes my interest, same answer as above.
Overall its kind of a numbers game. There are x number of people I'd like to get intimate with. X-Y number of those would want to get intimate with me. That gives me z number to play with. As long as z is greater than 0, then I'm happy.
I don't really ever think, I wish I could play with x, but I'll make do with y, that just isn't the way I think. I've had sex with supermodel types and not enjoyed it as much as sex with people considered less attractive, haven't we all?"
No I've never had sex with a supermodel type |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"There are many that I find physically attractive, but even if they all said yes, there just aren't enough days in the year
There are a few who's profile (the words) spikes my interest, same answer as above.
Overall its kind of a numbers game. There are x number of people I'd like to get intimate with. X-Y number of those would want to get intimate with me. That gives me z number to play with. As long as z is greater than 0, then I'm happy.
I don't really ever think, I wish I could play with x, but I'll make do with y, that just isn't the way I think. I've had sex with supermodel types and not enjoyed it as much as sex with people considered less attractive, haven't we all?"
Maths A-level algebra would have been way more exciting if they'd used these as scenarios ...
...awesome! |
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"Also WinstonandLadyAstor. Both of them. Although Winston in a non sexual way (sorry bro) he’s just amazing vibes.
Winston is a sweetheart
Awwwwwwwwww.
I think we worked out these are pointless.
I bloody love old Portsmouth too.
Winston
Oh Winston... It is lovely at this time of year!"
My lovely lady organised a surprise day out, we ended up in Old Portsmouth and had afternoon tea in Spinaker Tower.
Little did she know how special old Portsmouth is to me. *moist eyes
So many fantastic memories of O P.
Winston |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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There was a couple but they're no longer in the site, and a fella but he's not around any more.
Ah well.
To those saying"they're out of my league", I doubt the people in question would be offended by you asking, you never know what people like (Hell, someone married me fgs!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only lust after the ones in the virus forum.
For their infectious smiles? "
Maybe it is just for their super-human energy, they certainly have a lot how rowdy it gets in there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find I quickly lose interest if they are not attainable or don't like me back. Life's too short!"
This...
Though i have retained 2 long term hotties in the hotlist just so i can perve over their videos!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Overall its kind of a numbers game. There are x number of people I'd like to get intimate with. X-Y number of those would want to get intimate with me. That gives me z number to play with. As long as z is greater than 0, then I'm happy."
So you’re saying if my maths is on point, I could have the girl i want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am one of those who won't contact someone unattainable. Because I don't want to be with them if they're such a perfect specimen physically. I could never measure up to that. Even when I was younger and thinner I felt like that. Insecurity, I guess. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"None.
There's a few that I like their pic styles and similar that I align with their forum views.
But without seeing them in real life, hearing their voice and seeing their specific mannerisms I don't think anyone can make me that giddy in a pure 2d format."
I'm the same. I can't lust after a few pics and written text. They might have a voice like Joe Pasquale and walk like Norman Wisdom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've seen the word pashmina in years! But oh the halcyon days of pashminas in every colour...
I only have 3 "
And I'm sure you look gorgeous in each of them KM |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We can’t imagine anyone seeing us as unattainable but if you do, don’t. Here’s your moment. Say hi, we won’t be offended. Xx"
just don't be a man . 
Ps hi |
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"So you’re saying if my maths is on point, I could have the girl i want? "
Once, I explained to a lady* the grammatical distinction between 'that' and 'which', and when to use each. Unexpectedly she thought that was hot and I banged her. I'm only pointing this out because I'm sure there must equally be ladies who are turned on by maths skills
*no, she wasn't a student, and I'm not a teacher |
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