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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do people thinking about editing/retouching pics?
I never usually edit my pics, except for artsy black and white filters, cropping out floordrobes and putting stickers on my no-no bits because I believe in putting yourself out there as you are. Buuuuuttt (and it's a big butt) I just took a butt pic that I'm really feeling, apart from some discolouration I've spotted on my inner thigh that's really bothering me. I'm out of the lingerie now and I don't think I can get that exact angle again... Not gonna lie the urge to install a photo editing app and blur those bits out is strong.
Is it cheating if it's just smoothing out skin tone? |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I can tell when pics are over-smoothed to the point of misrepresentation.
As long as you don't go beyond what you *could* look like, then I think you'll be OK.
I've never used filters, but I have used contrast, sharpness, saturation, and what you might call "traditional" photo processing...which is probably just as "dishonest" on some level. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK I've tried blurring it out but it's gone all weird... I think I am just gonna leave it as it is. None of my ~lovers~ have ever brought it up, I don't see why anyone would now (hopefully) |
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
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Nah, it’s still your body
If the images are more accurate than not there’s no problem. Especially if you’ve got others on show.
I edit pics to add makeup if I take a good photo when I’m not wearing any, I don’t change other stuff, just add mascara, sometimes pale lipstick etc |
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"OK I've tried blurring it out but it's gone all weird... I think I am just gonna leave it as it is. None of my ~lovers~ have ever brought it up, I don't see why anyone would now (hopefully) "
. We are often our own worst critics.
Do what makes you comfortable.
I can't see anyone bringing it up x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to  "
Thank you 
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be |
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I use blur alot to get rid of identifying marks like tats/scars. Just helps us feel secure in anonymity. And also, totally feel ya when you've had that oerfect angle. It's alot of effort to go to so yeah a little retouch never hurt anyone. Remember this is your journey and your profile. It has to work for you before it needs to work for anyone else xxx |
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be"
You've probably noticed I don't blow smoke, I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. It's like me with horrible feet, I think everyone notices then first  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I use blur alot to get rid of identifying marks like tats/scars. Just helps us feel secure in anonymity. And also, totally feel ya when you've had that oerfect angle. It's alot of effort to go to so yeah a little retouch never hurt anyone. Remember this is your journey and your profile. It has to work for you before it needs to work for anyone else xxx"
Yeah I feel like my whole vibe is being an unapologetic plus sized gal on a self love journey, so editing would probably not fit in with all that anyway (and totally not the fact that I just tried to use an editing tool and basically made my butt look like blurry play-doh) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be
You've probably noticed I don't blow smoke, I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. It's like me with horrible feet, I think everyone notices then first "
Oh girl same, I HATE my feet  |
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"I use blur alot to get rid of identifying marks like tats/scars. Just helps us feel secure in anonymity. And also, totally feel ya when you've had that oerfect angle. It's alot of effort to go to so yeah a little retouch never hurt anyone. Remember this is your journey and your profile. It has to work for you before it needs to work for anyone else xxx
Yeah I feel like my whole vibe is being an unapologetic plus sized gal on a self love journey, so editing would probably not fit in with all that anyway (and totally not the fact that I just tried to use an editing tool and basically made my butt look like blurry play-doh) "
Then just do what feels right foe you. There shouldn't be any judgement from anyone else here. I'm sure you look delicious anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can see what you mean, but only because you mentioned it.
Could reasonably be thought of as a trick of the light.
I can't imagine it being a dealbreaker for anyone!"
Probably shot myself in the foot here  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OK I've tried blurring it out but it's gone all weird... I think I am just gonna leave it as it is. None of my ~lovers~ have ever brought it up, I don't see why anyone would now (hopefully) . We are often our own worst critics.
Do what makes you comfortable.
I can't see anyone bringing it up x"
Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nah, it’s still your body
If the images are more accurate than not there’s no problem. Especially if you’ve got others on show.
I edit pics to add makeup if I take a good photo when I’m not wearing any, I don’t change other stuff, just add mascara, sometimes pale lipstick etc"
Fair enough! God those filters make me look like a whole different person!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others above me have said, you're not changing the shape or distorting the image so you should be golden. Touching it up (hehe touching) is about the same as using filters, or contrast, or other things.
I've felt bad in the past using certain angles or lighting because it definitely feels like I'm catfishing people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As long as you're not changing your shape etc I don't see the issue, I have some scarring I sometimes blur out a little if I'm having an off day x"
Lol I'd end up doing a Kardashian job with wobbly backgrounds if I tried altering the shape |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No I wouldn't say so. You're not altering your shape or size, thigh discolouration can really bring out the meh. Edit away if it makes you feel happy enough to post the photo. "
Ugh can we just put thigh discolouration in the bin? Along with hair on the backs of legs  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not against editing so long as it doesn’t alter or distort the image too much. It’s good to be honest regarding the picture but ultimately insecurities are insecurities "
Thank youuuu social media  |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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It's a butt. A very fine picture, and I'd not want to attempt to recreate it if I were you.
I can see what you're referring to, but if you'd not mentioned it I'd have assumed it was a shadow or the like, I certainly wouldn't have noticed without looking.
I don't agree with changing pictures so they're inaccurate in a major way, but something like that I wouldn't think twice about if it made me uncomfortable.
There's a line but each person has to decide for themselves where it is.
Great pic TS.
Posh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a hot pic
I can't see what you wanted to change, but I will say I don't think it would be dishonest. You're not changing anything drastic to not look like you.
I blur my tattoos, but it's noticeable in my photos you just can't make out what's under the blur. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looks like a bum to me 
If it looks like a bum... And it smells like a bum...
BUM!! I hope you cleaned it "
Nah gotta bring some flavour to the table  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Like others above me have said, you're not changing the shape or distorting the image so you should be golden. Touching it up (hehe touching) is about the same as using filters, or contrast, or other things.
I've felt bad in the past using certain angles or lighting because it definitely feels like I'm catfishing people "
Oh shush I'm sure you look just as good irl |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your bum looks fantastic OP! No one will notice it, I had to point it out to a lover after a year of meeting them because it doesn't quite register in the same way it does to us. "
Thank you! I've been doing SO many weighted squats omg  wanted to show me off some results haha
Yeah I think most guys just go "BUUUUUMMM" to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have some pics which are heavily edited but still shows glimpses of the real me, and in all honesty I find it makes very little difference since the peeps I meet in person can identify me with pics. in keeping it real.
not once have I been rejected because of my not appearing to be like in my pics.
always a first time for everything, but if & when it happens I’ll not be phased by it, since all down to choice...
Thankfully, only the once have I had to walk away from a meeting due to a guy having portrayed himself in his profile/pics which resembled nothing like him in person... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be
You've probably noticed I don't blow smoke, I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. It's like me with horrible feet, I think everyone notices then first
Oh girl same, I HATE my feet "
Just for research I've spent the last six hours 33 minutes and 12 seconds looking and the only conclusion I can make is I'd need to see in real life.
Hope that helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Filters yes. I like black and white. I like al sorts of borders and vignette. I like soft lighting and harsh contrast. It makes the subject look good.
Angles? Mmmm. If you’re trying to show something different to how it is, sure, it looks good but when I finaly see it and it’s not the same, I’m going to be surprised which might include disappointment. I’m looking at you McDonald’s Resteraunts. Have at least one or two that show the true you without filters maybe. That’s also a nice surprise amongst all the edits. Mix it up.
But I am a bit of a fan of those that do Edit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see no harm as long as you have other pictures that are true likeness ones. Not all pictures are posted just to get you laid.
So many profiles are made up rubbish, then why not pictures too. After all, how many professional people in search of likeminded people that are experts in one form of sex or another can you get on one website? |
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We see no issue with colour filters we like black and white pictures.It’s when they change their shape and even their dick size and when they have so many filters on their face their unrecognisable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a butt. A very fine picture, and I'd not want to attempt to recreate it if I were you.
I can see what you're referring to, but if you'd not mentioned it I'd have assumed it was a shadow or the like, I certainly wouldn't have noticed without looking.
I don't agree with changing pictures so they're inaccurate in a major way, but something like that I wouldn't think twice about if it made me uncomfortable.
There's a line but each person has to decide for themselves where it is.
Great pic TS.
Posh "
Thanks Posh!
Most of it is shadow to be fair. I think the shadow just accentuates what I already knew was there and I got in my head about it. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be"
We all have parts of our bodies that we either dislike or have insecurities about.
It's easy to be more aware of one's supposed flaws and imperfections than others are and to make a bigger deal of them than they are in actuality.
Your much self conscious of it and more critical of yourself than you need to be.
It's a classy pic of a lovely bum. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a hot pic
I can't see what you wanted to change, but I will say I don't think it would be dishonest. You're not changing anything drastic to not look like you.
I blur my tattoos, but it's noticeable in my photos you just can't make out what's under the blur. "
Yeah tattoos are understandable tbh. No one's gonna recognise me by my inner thighs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"have some pics which are heavily edited but still shows glimpses of the real me, and in all honesty I find it makes very little difference since the peeps I meet in person can identify me with pics. in keeping it real.
not once have I been rejected because of my not appearing to be like in my pics.
always a first time for everything, but if & when it happens I’ll not be phased by it, since all down to choice...
Thankfully, only the once have I had to walk away from a meeting due to a guy having portrayed himself in his profile/pics which resembled nothing like him in person..."
Yeah I think I just prefer to lay it all out there so no one is disappointed and/or can accuse me of fatfishing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't know how to! Would like to know and maybe try to do this for some pics x"
Honestly same
I've tried editing before but I think because I know it's been edited it looks too obvious to me. So I usually just end up reverting to original. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be
You've probably noticed I don't blow smoke, I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. It's like me with horrible feet, I think everyone notices then first
Oh girl same, I HATE my feet
Just for research I've spent the last six hours 33 minutes and 12 seconds looking and the only conclusion I can make is I'd need to see in real life.
Hope that helps "
It does! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Filters yes. I like black and white. I like al sorts of borders and vignette. I like soft lighting and harsh contrast. It makes the subject look good.
Angles? Mmmm. If you’re trying to show something different to how it is, sure, it looks good but when I finaly see it and it’s not the same, I’m going to be surprised which might include disappointment. I’m looking at you McDonald’s Resteraunts. Have at least one or two that show the true you without filters maybe. That’s also a nice surprise amongst all the edits. Mix it up.
But I am a bit of a fan of those that do Edit "
I do like to play around with filters and hues for ~aesthetic~ purposes but I also like to have some realistic representation of what you're gonna get |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like playing with colour filters. If I have a spot I’ll erase it and blur out my surrounding clutter, but that’s it."
Haha I am a clutter cropper too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I see no harm as long as you have other pictures that are true likeness ones. Not all pictures are posted just to get you laid.
So many profiles are made up rubbish, then why not pictures too. After all, how many professional people in search of likeminded people that are experts in one form of sex or another can you get on one website?"
Nope, some of my pics are posted for Sydney Uni documentation purposes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We see no issue with colour filters we like black and white pictures.It’s when they change their shape and even their dick size and when they have so many filters on their face their unrecognisable."
Yeah tbf I actually have a 9" dick I crop out of my pics |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be
We all have parts of our bodies that we either dislike or have insecurities about.
It's easy to be more aware of one's supposed flaws and imperfections than others are and to make a bigger deal of them than they are in actuality.
Your much self conscious of it and more critical of yourself than you need to be.
It's a classy pic of a lovely bum."
Oooh classy! What a compliment
And yes I agree, it's like when I think the whole world is focusing on the hormonal acne under my chin, but in reality the fact I've layered 10 different foundations and concealers over it probably makes it stand out more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a great pic and its a real body! I was only saying to someone that's what I like about Fab, seeing real, normal bodies. "
Happy to be real and normal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the way to tell is if you'd he happy to meet someone who'd edited their photo in the same way. If yes, then go ahead . I don't think there's a problem myself "
It's surprising how many difficult questions this approach works for.
Mr |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"Well I've looked and I can't see what you're referring to
Thank you
It's definitely there, but I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it needs to be
We all have parts of our bodies that we either dislike or have insecurities about.
It's easy to be more aware of one's supposed flaws and imperfections than others are and to make a bigger deal of them than they are in actuality.
Your much self conscious of it and more critical of yourself than you need to be.
It's a classy pic of a lovely bum.
Oooh classy! What a compliment
And yes I agree, it's like when I think the whole world is focusing on the hormonal acne under my chin, but in reality the fact I've layered 10 different foundations and concealers over it probably makes it stand out more "
Yeah, we live in our skin for 24hrs each day and as it's only natural that we compare ourselves to others we tend to think so much about what we perceive as being imperfections that they become insecurities. Even if other people don't even notice them. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I don’t think blurring/smoothing is a bad thing, it’s it changing your basic size and shape, I crop pics and change the lighting and colour effects sometimes and don’t think it’s misrepresentation. I think that using certain types of filters on face pics to basically change what you look like certainly is though and if the photos that are posted are old and no longer look like you then that’s a bit shady too. |
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I edit my photos but not too much that it’s a totally unrecognisable image of myself. However my videos I don’t touch at all, that’s what I look like.
Certainly anyone who’s met me, have never complained that I don’t look like my pictures.
You see it a lot on dating apps, the removing of wrinkles / blurring is quite funny. So these are easily swiped left as you know they’ll never look like their photos, so why waste time meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What you're describing is natural and I don't think you should airbrush it away. I like to be quite upfront about my skin texture as it doesn't show in some photos so some people could expect clear smooth skin if they met me but that's not the reality. Is it dishonest that you're lightening and smoothing? I'd say a little bit yes if that doesn't reflect the reality.
I don't think any of us look the exact same as our photos and you should always expect a slight difference once movement, expressions etc are involved... I would say that as long as you could put that picture side by side and it still resembles you then I'd say that's an honest representation.
I just hate seeing super smooth and bright skin everywhere. I see so many friends airbrush themselves to the point they look unreal and it's makes me sad, but I totally get why people do it. |
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It is cheating because that’s not how you look
Ultimately, your cheating yourself though
No one with a spine is just gonna accept that. Especially if your looking to date. Your gonna get rejected for 2 things.
Not looking like your pics
Lying
To each their own. I think it’s disrespectful because it’s a huge waste of someone’s time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's sex, hot and empowering if a woman touches up her pics to make her look amazing. Close up angles, filters etc. Go girl! 
If a man does it he's creepy and weird. And women would club together to rage at him for lying about what he looks like because when they meet he looks totally different....
Odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"*deep breath*
OK I uploaded. If anyone is mean to me it's coming straight back down 
It's a great juicy booty."
Coming from you, the juiciest of all the juicy lemons |
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I understand the reasons for both sides. For fun I think people should be able to do what they want as long as they’re not hurting anyone else. If it makes you feel better or more comfortable to post a pic then why not?
When it comes to social media etc however, it can send the wrong impression, depending on who will see it. I.e the young impressionable youth...
I’m sure there are loads of other reasons too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What you're describing is natural and I don't think you should airbrush it away. I like to be quite upfront about my skin texture as it doesn't show in some photos so some people could expect clear smooth skin if they met me but that's not the reality. Is it dishonest that you're lightening and smoothing? I'd say a little bit yes if that doesn't reflect the reality.
I don't think any of us look the exact same as our photos and you should always expect a slight difference once movement, expressions etc are involved... I would say that as long as you could put that picture side by side and it still resembles you then I'd say that's an honest representation.
I just hate seeing super smooth and bright skin everywhere. I see so many friends airbrush themselves to the point they look unreal and it's makes me sad, but I totally get why people do it. "
I do like those tik toks and YT shorts lately where make up artists zoom into their skin under natural lighting and show all the texture in an attempt to normalise it. Can't tell you the amount of money I've wasted on skin blurring primers/mattifying foundations/setting powders etc trying to replicate a look that is faked with ring lights and post-editing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is cheating because that’s not how you look
Ultimately, your cheating yourself though
No one with a spine is just gonna accept that. Especially if your looking to date. Your gonna get rejected for 2 things.
Not looking like your pics
Lying
To each their own. I think it’s disrespectful because it’s a huge waste of someone’s time "
Editing out some small marks is not the same as catfishing which is what your describing. Most of the time, no one is going to see those parts unless they get naked with the person anyway. People above have said they do it for tattoos etc so are they all cat fishing too?
OP, personally I don't see anything wrong with removing a mark here or there. I've done it myself. I can't see the mark your referring to but great bum!
Pxx |
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"It is cheating because that’s not how you look
Ultimately, your cheating yourself though
No one with a spine is just gonna accept that. Especially if your looking to date. Your gonna get rejected for 2 things.
Not looking like your pics
Lying
To each their own. I think it’s disrespectful because it’s a huge waste of someone’s time
Editing out some small marks is not the same as catfishing which is what your describing. Most of the time, no one is going to see those parts unless they get naked with the person anyway. People above have said they do it for tattoos etc so are they all cat fishing too?
OP, personally I don't see anything wrong with removing a mark here or there. I've done it myself. I can't see the mark your referring to but great bum!
Pxx"
Hmm… seems like a thin line and a slippery slope to me. You either look like your pic or you don’t. Obviously in your opinion “honesty” is a sliding scale where as long as you only edit a few marks it’s still honest enough
That’s not for me. In OPs example if I saw discolouration on the inner thighs in a pic it wouldn’t both mr at all
If I didn’t see it in the pic and we hooked and it was there? That would bother me. Because I feel I’ve been lied to, deceived. You’ve purposely edited a picture.
That’s just me though, I might be overly picky about being mislead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"have some pics which are heavily edited but still shows glimpses of the real me, and in all honesty I find it makes very little difference since the peeps I meet in person can identify me with pics. in keeping it real.
not once have I been rejected because of my not appearing to be like in my pics.
always a first time for everything, but if & when it happens I’ll not be phased by it, since all down to choice...
Thankfully, only the once have I had to walk away from a meeting due to a guy having portrayed himself in his profile/pics which resembled nothing like him in person...
Yeah I think I just prefer to lay it all out there so no one is disappointed and/or can accuse me of fatfishing "
their loss  |
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