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My first thought was that this involved someone singing James Brown songs in my final days, but after more research it does sound like a great support and comfort to many. |
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"Having recently sat with my mum as she passed away I wouldn't. For my father, brothers and I it was a private occasion and we didn't feel we needed anyone but the very compassionate nurses"
It's not for everyone, few things seldom are, and those with close family ties may not deem it necessary but not even close family can be there all the time and sadly many people are left to die alone or at the hands of inept care home staff. Many people, even family, don't know how to deal with death, i've witnessed this myself and believe it essential that staff receive this specialist training as part of their job.
Also, soul midwives are trained in grief counselling and are able to offer support to relatives after the death of a loved one. I am familiar with their work and think this is a much overlooked profession and a great boon. Something more of us should consider. |
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"Having recently sat with my mum as she passed away I wouldn't. For my father, brothers and I it was a private occasion and we didn't feel we needed anyone but the very compassionate nurses
It's not for everyone, few things seldom are, and those with close family ties may not deem it necessary but not even close family can be there all the time and sadly many people are left to die alone or at the hands of inept care home staff. Many people, even family, don't know how to deal with death, i've witnessed this myself and believe it essential that staff receive this specialist training as part of their job.
Also, soul midwives are trained in grief counselling and are able to offer support to relatives after the death of a loved one. I am familiar with their work and think this is a much overlooked profession and a great boon. Something more of us should consider."
Every member of staff we encountered at the hospital where my mum died was excellent in their attitude and compassion. I can only assume we were lucky to be cared for by trained people.
I agree that soul midwives are a good thing for people who feel they need it. I'm not knocking it |
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"Midwife means 'with woman' in old English so I'd be inclined to use the word 'doula' instead although it should be loved ones caring for each other.
Topsy, a retired Midwife. "
I hear what you're saying. A group of soul midwives i know thought about changing the name to death doula until i pointed out that it sounded like something from the Underworld franchise.
I think soul midwife is apt enough. A midwife (not necessarily a woman) is someone who eases the passage of birth. A soul midwife is someone who eases the passage at the other end of life, again, not necessarily a woman. |
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