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"God you’re a fussy one aintcha!" Yes I am. | |||
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"Damn I was close until the hot part " | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " Inbox full yet? x | |||
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"Damn I was close until the hot part "Most guys fail on that part, don't worry too much. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Inbox full yet? x"My box is always empty | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Inbox full yet? x
My box is always empty"I'm it gonna apply. I'm too old and not hot x | |||
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"I like weird so send the weirdos my way. No dick heads though! " I'm a weirdo  | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " Tick, tick, tick, tick, oooh no..failed that last one. Sorry I cannot help you. | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options " A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " I am all those things but bat for the other team | |||
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"If only I was hot "You are. | |||
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"Depends what you mean by dickhead? Like you can be funny and be nice and be a dickhead. As long as the weird isn't "weird" weird then that's ok too. I am weird but not "weird" weird "You have a shower  with pictures x | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. " That might be your answer | |||
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"Depends what you mean by dickhead? Like you can be funny and be nice and be a dickhead. As long as the weird isn't "weird" weird then that's ok too. I am weird but not "weird" weird "Well, yes. I accept funny dickheads and a little weird. The funny and hot part are non negotiable though | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. That might be your answer " Sarcasm...  | |||
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"Damn I was close until the hot part
Most guys fail on that part, don't worry too much. "I'm not | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. " And your modest! | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I put it down to location " | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. And your modest! " And rather sarcastic.... | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " I can only cover the decent, non dickhead part, sorry | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. And your modest! And rather sarcastic...." My kinda  | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I can only cover the decent, non dickhead part, sorry " Oh and I'm funny, well I think so anyway | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I can only cover the decent, non dickhead part, sorry Oh and I'm funny, well I think so anyway "As long as you think that, that's all that matters. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up your only here 3 weeks ......or are you returning " | |||
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"Whats wrong with weird????" There's good weird and bad weird. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " Localish too Distant isn't an issue until it is | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I can only cover the decent, non dickhead part, sorry Oh and I'm funny, well I think so anyway
As long as you think that, that's all that matters. "It's not only me | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Localish too Distant isn't an issue until it is"
Distance isn't an issue. | |||
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"I only tick the last bit Fuck "I had noticed. | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. And your modest! And rather sarcastic...." And also awesome! You are and what is the problem in saying it and owning it? People who say derogatory or negative things about their person get told all sorts of affirmations but when we affirm ourselves it's viewed as a negative. Really can't win | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up your only here 3 weeks ......or are you returning " Repeat offender | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " All of those qualities are subjective OP; I think I'm all them but many wouldn't agree... But don't give up OP, that person is out there... Somewhere | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Localish too Distant isn't an issue until it is
Distance isn't an issue."Even with the cost of diesel?  | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Inbox full yet? x
My box is always empty"Just like an Amazon delivery then. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Localish too Distant isn't an issue until it is
Distance isn't an issue.
Even with the cost of diesel? "She uses a pink fluffy cloud for travel | |||
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"Ask yourself what you have to offer Those types of guys have many options A - I'm fucking awesome I don't think I need a b. And your modest! And rather sarcastic.... And also awesome! You are and what is the problem in saying it and owning it? People who say derogatory or negative things about their person get told all sorts of affirmations but when we affirm ourselves it's viewed as a negative. Really can't win" I had noticed this! | |||
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"Pretty lady - there’s a needle in this haystack " Can it come prick me please. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Localish too Distant isn't an issue until it is
Distance isn't an issue.
Even with the cost of diesel?
She uses a pink fluffy cloud for travel "Ah you know me so well. | |||
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"Pretty lady - there’s a needle in this haystack " Every silver lining has a cloud . . . . | |||
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"I like weird so send the weirdos my way. No dick heads though! " Mmmmmmmm, bargain bucket, finger lickin good  | |||
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"I like weird so send the weirdos my way. No dick heads though! " I'm on my way | |||
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"On a serious note you look good from the photos I can see. You are very dry and funny from your posts …surely there is a guy for you on here somewhere haha There’s bloody enough of em! " I mean, you'd think so!! | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x " | |||
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"M'lady "Are you out of bed yet?? | |||
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"For saying you’ve taken a vow of chastity, you seem to be looking for hot guys a lot! "I can look! | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time "But why settle for just anyone? | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time
But why settle for just anyone?
"I refer the learned lady to my above statement. What might start unpromising, may surprise | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x " Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?  | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time
But why settle for just anyone?
I refer the learned lady to my above statement. What might start unpromising, may surprise "I know from the off if someone's funny and hot. You guys are pretty good at hiding the weird and the dickhead stuff though. | |||
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"M'lady
Are you out of bed yet??"Of course, typing this on the toilet as we speak | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time
But why settle for just anyone?
I refer the learned lady to my above statement. What might start unpromising, may surprise "I agree with this and it's sometimes the other way around as well | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time
But why settle for just anyone?
I refer the learned lady to my above statement. What might start unpromising, may surprise
I know from the off if someone's funny and hot.
You guys are pretty good at hiding the weird and the dickhead stuff though."I revel in my weirdness. Dickhead is about perspective | |||
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"If we all waited for someone to meet every single minutae of our requirements, we'd all be single a very long time
But why settle for just anyone?
I refer the learned lady to my above statement. What might start unpromising, may surprise
I know from the off if someone's funny and hot.
You guys are pretty good at hiding the weird and the dickhead stuff though."Ah, generalisations. Well, I've no skin in this game, but I'm an open book and what you see is what you get. Far too old for bullshit and lies x | |||
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"M'lady
Are you out of bed yet??
Of course, typing this on the toilet as we speak "Awesome | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek? "There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush "Who's my number one crush?? | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
Who's my number one crush??"As if I need to name him | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush "You sure? Funny person, funny bio, funny answers. There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
Who's my number one crush??
As if I need to name him "Unattainable crush. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
You sure?
Funny person, funny bio, funny answers.
There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom"Sad but true. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
You sure?
Funny person, funny bio, funny answers.
There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom"I'm definitely sure | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
Who's my number one crush??
As if I need to name him
Unattainable crush. "We all have them but at least some of them are in the public eye to admire | |||
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I think fab is lacking trust a bit. Too many failed stories make us all be cautious about even genuine profile.
As a normal genuine guy I don’t dedicate my life to this site. I have busy life outside it and meets need to be planned ahead and a bit of connection established beforehand. That is sometimes make me seeing as timewaster. Sorry, I am not sorry, not going to sleep with all site or meet on first demand.
Probably clubs and parties are the answers how to meet likeminded fabbers.
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
You sure?
Funny person, funny bio, funny answers.
There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom
Sad but true."I did offer to read you a story | |||
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"If only I was hot "If only I was not a dickhead | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " I was very close until the non dickhead part, mine very much so has a head | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
You sure?
Funny person, funny bio, funny answers.
There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom
Sad but true.
I did offer to read you a story "The acoustics between my legs aren't great for that. | |||
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"Six criteria??? Ffs.... #SoManyHoops" Yes indeed. | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Be patient, dont try to hard, maybe write some more info in your bio..x Did you not read the thread with a slight amount of tongue in cheek?
There's no tongue in cheek to it
There's nobody that can cover all those things, not even her number one crush
You sure?
Funny person, funny bio, funny answers.
There's more tongue action here than in her bedroom
Sad but true.
I did offer to read you a story
The acoustics between my legs aren't great for that."They would be if I used a speculum | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? " Six requirements in one sentence
I give up. I am sure there are might be more | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " Try 5 different men, each 1 might have a feature you are looking for.
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I thought you said you Give up .Can you please move along now so us blokes can get on with our Fart jokes and burp recordings thanks op " | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. I thought you said you Give up .Can you please move along now so us blokes can get on with our Fart jokes and burp recordings thanks op " | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " Maybe they’re all off meeting the decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot women?  | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Maybe they’re all off meeting the decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot women? "I am not laughing at this... | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Maybe they’re all off meeting the decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot women? "They don't exist either | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Maybe they’re all off meeting the decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot women?
They don't exist either " I resemble that remark | |||
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"Six criteria??? Ffs.... #SoManyHoops Yes indeed." I'll just have a wank. Less hassle, more satisfying | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. Maybe they’re all off meeting the decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot women?
They don't exist either
I resemble that remark " | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " When you say "non-weird" you mean like scone, cream, jam weird, or wants to shit in your handbag weird? *asking for a friend...... Winston | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. "  | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. " I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. " I have a question - do you actually want to meet somebody? Who would you rather not have the hassle? Often the problem isn’t the external one we focus on but rather an internal thing about ourselves. Easy to project it out | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. What? You're only giving up now? I gave up months ago. " | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women " Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. " Not *too* intelligent | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women " The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. " I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. " Do agree with this. Also the prep and time into meeting someone and looking spot on. I’m not saying men don’t prep, but it’s a lot less time consuming for them for sure. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part "I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure. | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. " Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure. "So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours | |||
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" Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. Noooooo. Please tell me you're joking and don't actually believe bullshit like this "Yes I'm joking, I do have a friend though that went for only the bad boys and was miserable but is now actually with someone nice and never been happier | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with " Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women." I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have | |||
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"Maybe because you hate men. You could be onto something " See… I’m not just a pretty face | |||
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"A decent, non-weird, non-dickhead, funny hot guy?? I give up. ***here*** " | |||
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" Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. Noooooo. Please tell me you're joking and don't actually believe bullshit like this
Yes I'm joking, I do have a friend though that went for only the bad boys and was miserable but is now actually with someone nice and never been happier "Sometimes people chase after scraps of attention from people that treat them badly but it's often a result of low self esteem or attachment issues. Sometimes as a result of having an emotionally abusive parent or witnessesing an abusive relationship between their parents. People don't consciously choose it because they enjoy complaining. It's often very destructive for them. It's like how some people end up in multiple abusive relationships. They actually want nothing more than someone nice and decent but they don't know what that looks like. They often mistake things like patience, space and being given agency by potential romantic partners as lack of interest. I know this is quite a heavy response in a fairly lighthearted thread but I'm just really so tired of the people who genuinely believe women choose to be treated badly and don't want guys to be nice. | |||
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"I’ll put myself under the decent, non weird and non dickhead banners
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" Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. Noooooo. Please tell me you're joking and don't actually believe bullshit like this
Yes I'm joking, I do have a friend though that went for only the bad boys and was miserable but is now actually with someone nice and never been happier
Sometimes people chase after scraps of attention from people that treat them badly but it's often a result of low self esteem or attachment issues. Sometimes as a result of having an emotionally abusive parent or witnessesing an abusive relationship between their parents. People don't consciously choose it because they enjoy complaining. It's often very destructive for them. It's like how some people end up in multiple abusive relationships. They actually want nothing more than someone nice and decent but they don't know what that looks like. They often mistake things like patience, space and being given agency by potential romantic partners as lack of interest. I know this is quite a heavy response in a fairly lighthearted thread but I'm just really so tired of the people who genuinely believe women choose to be treated badly and don't want guys to be nice. "I completely understand what you're saying and I don't think anyone actually wants to be treated badly unless it's part of a dynamic in the bedroom. Everyone wants to be treated nicely, unfortunately it's very hard to find genuine people that actually keep it up past the honeymoon period | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have " I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours "I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand. | |||
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" Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. Noooooo. Please tell me you're joking and don't actually believe bullshit like this
Yes I'm joking, I do have a friend though that went for only the bad boys and was miserable but is now actually with someone nice and never been happier
Sometimes people chase after scraps of attention from people that treat them badly but it's often a result of low self esteem or attachment issues. Sometimes as a result of having an emotionally abusive parent or witnessesing an abusive relationship between their parents. People don't consciously choose it because they enjoy complaining. It's often very destructive for them. It's like how some people end up in multiple abusive relationships. They actually want nothing more than someone nice and decent but they don't know what that looks like. They often mistake things like patience, space and being given agency by potential romantic partners as lack of interest. I know this is quite a heavy response in a fairly lighthearted thread but I'm just really so tired of the people who genuinely believe women choose to be treated badly and don't want guys to be nice.
I completely understand what you're saying and I don't think anyone actually wants to be treated badly unless it's part of a dynamic in the bedroom.
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. " Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. " The pay gap makes no difference on what I earn so that struggle is mine
Also nobody is safe from getting attacked, there is lots of guys that are attacked violently and sexually assaulted but it's not usually reported.
I've got quite a few names for guys if you want a few pointers
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand. "The forums are always a eye opener, not always in a good way | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. " What about cougar and milf and the rest of those god awful words used for older women? | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. What about cougar and milf and the rest of those god awful words used for older women?" You said it, awful. Is there the female equivalent of a silver fox? | |||
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. " Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. What about cougar and milf and the rest of those god awful words used for older women? You said it, awful. Is there the female equivalent of a silver fox?" Is silver fox a bad thing though? I never really thought of it as a derogatory phrase. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
The forums are always a eye opener, not always in a good way
Get a room you two and don't forget to very each other
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? " How did a thread about meeting end up here? | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
The forums are always a eye opener, not always in a good way
Get a room you two and don't forget to very each other
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Baffled me as well
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? How did a thread about meeting end up here?" I was just thinking that. I read threads backwards so I just quickly looked what the thread title was | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. What about cougar and milf and the rest of those god awful words used for older women? You said it, awful. Is there the female equivalent of a silver fox? Is silver fox a bad thing though? I never really thought of it as a derogatory phrase. " Exactly. The ones you suggested are less than nice. Silver fox is a compliment. | |||
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? How did a thread about meeting end up here?" Fuck I only read short and sweet comments. Somewhere out there men are being assaulted by women. Are we ready for these conversations? | |||
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? " It wasn't the point of this particular discussion, no. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
The forums are always a eye opener, not always in a good way
Get a room you two and don't forget to very each other
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Baffled me as well
*Verify* f*ucking auto correct"I worked out that but was still wondering why you said get a room | |||
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" Men are more likely to be assaulted or murdered. By quite a large percentage I meant by a partner or experience sexual violence. I get that. But men are more at risk of violence generally. It shouldn't be a competition. Yes, from other men. Isn't that the point? How did a thread about meeting end up here? I was just thinking that. I read threads backwards so I just quickly looked what the thread title was "“I want to meet a handsome man” “Genocide against men is a real problem” I’m lost. | |||
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"1. Because we're living in a patriarchal society where the expectations placed on men is lower than it is on women. 2. Because you're hanging around on a website where a high percentage of men are cheating or think it's a sex site so they can treat you like a wank receptacle. 3. Sometimes, you come across as abrasive and rude (in the forums and on your profile). Some decent men might avoid you as they're respecting your vow of celibacy or because they're avoiding negativity. My advice: join a running club. It's where the fitties hang out. I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women The implication is that in society as a whole, there is less pressure on guys to be better, so the standards are lower. Many consider being ‘nice’ to be a positive personality trait, whereas it should just be the baseline. On fab the balance is skewed the other way, which is why so many guys kick up a fuss. Being nice is a hindrance though sometimes as some look for the bad boys because they like the opportunity to complain about how badly they always treat them. The real problem is that the opposite sex seems to think it's easy for the other when it's not the case, we all have pressures and things we're exspectd to be able to do or cope with Your first paragraph. No. Just. No. Your second paragraph - I'm not saying men don't have pressures that they have to cope with. But I do think that generally in our current society, men have it easier than women. I wasn't being serious with the first part. That's not right to say men have it easier though because you don't live as a man and it's downplaying any struggles they have I'm not downplaying men's struggles. And, you're right, I live my life as a woman so I don't know how it is to be a man. But men have the advantage professionally - you can't ignore the gender pay gap. In terms of safety, I'm much more likely to assaulted or murdered than you are. Sexually - there's no make equivalent to the words like slag. And there's no female equivalent to phrases like silver fox so, as a woman, I get to be an old crone when I grow old. I'm not saying it's easier for every single man. But as a society in general, men have the advantage. What about cougar and milf and the rest of those god awful words used for older women? You said it, awful. Is there the female equivalent of a silver fox? Is silver fox a bad thing though? I never really thought of it as a derogatory phrase. Exactly. The ones you suggested are less than nice. Silver fox is a compliment. " I think people think the words cougar and milf are nice/compliments though. I don’t. | |||
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" I think you're wrong with number 1, there's definitely more pressure on guys than women Really? That's interesting. I feel like I'm under pressure to be good at my job but still have a clean house and a happy family, grow old gracefully, have a high sex drive but still have a low 'body count' (which is a grim phrase), be intelligent but not intelligent, be pretty but not look fake... The list is endless. Then men can meet the most basic levels of being a decent human being and that makes them special. I think you will find all those things apply to males as well, apart from the being pretty part
I've not found that to be true. There are many expectations on men but they're quite different to the ones women feel under pressure to deliver. I think both sexes feel the pressure.
So with you saying that you don't understand our pressure and we don't understand yours
I didn't say that? I've found Fab forums to be quite an insight into expectations on men and how they feel. I try to understand.
The forums are always a eye opener, not always in a good way
Get a room you two and don't forget to very each other
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Baffled me as well
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