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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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Obviously everyone has preferences and something that they’re looking for, not everyone can be those things and that’s completely OK, however, that means that there are going to refusals, rejections and pure blunt ‘No’’s.
So how do you handle the ‘no thanks’ aspect of things?
Do you delete? Block? A gentle “you’re not what I’m looking for”? Are you a vague emoji user? Or something else?
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Obviously everyone has preferences and something that they’re looking for, not everyone can be those things and that’s completely OK, however, that means that there are going to refusals, rejections and pure blunt ‘No’’s.
So how do you handle the ‘no thanks’ aspect of things?
Do you delete? Block? A gentle “you’re not what I’m looking for”? Are you a vague emoji user? Or something else?
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To clarify; how do you reject others?
Not how do you handle rejection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank the person for they time
If it’s a forum user would leave them unblocked incase off forum related messages
If not a form user would probably block so they don’t appear on my searches
Also I have a rule that if you say no it’s a no for life there is no changeing that
Ie say no here we meet a club or social or something and they realise they maybe should have sed no
Sorry but you all ready sed no
Or in terms off dateing once they say no it’s a no for life
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its a message from someone who clearly hasn’t read our profile, its an instant delete, if they continue to message after that its a three strike and you’re blocked.
If they’re clearly read our profile, its a polite ‘thanks for your message but you’re not our type’
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"If its a message from someone who clearly hasn’t read our profile, its an instant delete, if they continue to message after that its a three strike and you’re blocked.
If they’re clearly read our profile, its a polite ‘thanks for your message but you’re not our type’
Flo x"
Same rules here |
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"Thanks but no thanks. I always try and reply.
Even when I get told no, I always reply “no worries, enjoy fabbing”.
Manners costs nothing"
I agree. I always do the thanks but no thanks but find that the guys just stop communicating. Sometimes they block but rarely. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I thank them for their message and tell them that unfortunately they are not what I’m looking for and wish them all the best. "
That’s what we do…unless it’s a two word message, or obvious they haven’t read our profile, or it’s obvious they’ve messaged us at 4AM during a session - then we just ignore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would I reject anyone or put anyone off? I’m a single male… anything with a pulse right? 
I’d like to think I’m polite and leave a person with a good feeling that there are good people around, we can still have a laugh, but sex wouldn’t be great between us if one of didn’t want to. That type of thing.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ignore and delete.
I've tried giving a reason so many times, too far away, neither can accommodate, not my type etc I've never had anyone accept it they have always tried to convince me to reconsider.
If they continue to message when I've said no or ignored and deleted it's a block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally have a 10 word minimum rule before I consider a reply. I almost always end up sending a longer message back than I’ve been sent. I usually thank them for their message and let them know I’m not meeting at the moment (although that’s clearly stated on my profile ) and wish them well in their search. Only block if I get abuse or repeated messages asking me why not. |
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"I ignore and delete.
I've tried giving a reason so many times, too far away, neither can accommodate, not my type etc I've never had anyone accept it they have always tried to convince me to reconsider.
If they continue to message when I've said no or ignored and deleted it's a block. "
This sadly. It's too frustrating/awkward to deal with either attempts to change mind or aggressive responses unfortunately.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I ignore and delete.
I've tried giving a reason so many times, too far away, neither can accommodate, not my type etc I've never had anyone accept it they have always tried to convince me to reconsider.
If they continue to message when I've said no or ignored and deleted it's a block.
This sadly. It's too frustrating/awkward to deal with either attempts to change mind or aggressive responses unfortunately. "
It's unfortunate for those that would take no for an answer and make the effort with a message.
But the arguing back and not taking no for an answer just gives me another reason why they aren't for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually say that I'm looking for something a little different but thank you anyway. It's never nice to reject or be rejected but you can only be polite about it I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the message is well-written, I'll send a polite "Thank you, but you're not for me. I wish you all the best in your Fab adventures.  " message, but I will still immediately block and delete too.
Even the most polite first messages have come back abusive or trying to persuade me otherwise after a rejection and I can't be bothered with it. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks but no thanks. I always try and reply.
Even when I get told no, I always reply “no worries, enjoy fabbing”.
Manners costs nothing"
If delete and Block.
How is that a manner trait or issue to affect the person/couple on the other side??
I get the returen abuse stalking perstering etc.
No reply,delete,and blocked. Does that not say in loud actions you are not for them rather than they have to explain in detail why!
Just looking at all possible ways things are done said expressed with actions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say it is manners. If out and someone approached you, you couldn't just delete and block- even though it would be helpful.."
To be fair, if anyone out and about approached me in the way some people do on here, I think a delete and block would be the last of their worries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say it is manners. If out and someone approached you, you couldn't just delete and block- even though it would be helpful.."
Here is not about out and about in the real world and in the flesh and inperson.
This is Pm messages of interest or just a hello etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say it is manners. If out and someone approached you, you couldn't just delete and block- even though it would be helpful..
To be fair, if anyone out and about approached me in the way some people do on here, I think a delete and block would be the last of their worries. "
Exactly.
This post is about Pm's and how and what others do in reply or otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reject by not responding to their messages. It feels harsh BUT I learnt years ago from multiple experiences that a lot of people kick up no matter how soft you try to be, or they engage you in conversation to change your mind. I find only a tiny minority kick up if I ignore the message, so this way seems to work |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I would say it is manners. If out and someone approached you, you couldn't just delete and block- even though it would be helpful.."
In public, people tend not to approach with cocks out or spouting a litany of filth either though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My god theres loads i say really depends who what where why if i dont fancy em its a no ta im not for you
Or if i do fancy em im likely too busy or cheap anyway so may as well just say im not meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say it is manners. If out and someone approached you, you couldn't just delete and block- even though it would be helpful.."
What about if they approached me and said "nice tits x" and showed me three dick pics? Because that's what men do here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone has sent me a reasonable message and no dick pics, but they're not my cup of char - I say "Thanks for the message, but I'm not interested. Happy fabbing."
If they haven't sent a reasonable message, they clearly haven't read my profile or they've attached dick pics - I will delete their message. Probably unread. I might block depending on the message.
I do all of my rejecting when they're not online as I've learnt my lesson! |
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"I just say ok no worries, it's not the end of the world and I just assume they make bad choices  "
Above is receiving obviously
I'm quite straight to the point if talking to them and not attracted I just say there's no attraction for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Obviously everyone has preferences and something that they’re looking for, not everyone can be those things and that’s completely OK, however, that means that there are going to refusals, rejections and pure blunt ‘No’’s.
So how do you handle the ‘no thanks’ aspect of things?
Do you delete? Block? A gentle “you’re not what I’m looking for”? Are you a vague emoji user? Or something else?
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Depends if they have read my profile or just gone straight in with a friend request without messaging.
I usually thank them though for a wink or their message and if not for me I will just say so but kindly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses "
Nora the anal cavity explorer  |
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer "
She will tie you up and dive in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in"
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her? |
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her? "
Noooooo! I don’t do bums! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums! "
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that  |
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums!
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that "
Ewwwww noooooooo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums!
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that
Ewwwww noooooooo "
Hey everybody!!! Nora takes it up the shitter, pass it on |
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums!
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that
Ewwwww noooooooo
Hey everybody!!! Nora takes it up the shitter, pass it on "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on why am rejecting. If its just a crude message and they cleqrly haven't read my profile, its a no reply and if they message again, block.
If its a articulate message usually say why they are not for me. Mostly its a height thing, I have stated tall in my profile and people 5'9 and under keep messaging. |
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums!
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that "
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"I don't. I stick to the site rule of no response is a no thanks
I do this too.
You would never break the rules
She likes breaking arses
Nora the anal cavity explorer
She will tie you up and dive in
I had a vindaloo last night. If that’s her thing then who am I to stop her?
Noooooo! I don’t do bums!
You’re a taker not a giver. I respect that
Ewwwww noooooooo
Hey everybody!!! Nora takes it up the shitter, pass it on "
Only once a month after her wax and bleaching |
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It depends on how the other person has approached me, what sort of mood I'm in (I'm far more likely to send a polite response on a day when I haven't already had to read and respond to a shit-tonne of dreck) and how much time I have available.
Sometimes I'll go back with a thanks but no thanks (sometimes I'll give a reason, sometimes not), sometimes I don't respond.
I only tend to block because of a message if someone follows up with abuse.
I would never respond with an insult, just not my style. |
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"Obviously everyone has preferences and something that they’re looking for, not everyone can be those things and that’s completely OK, however, that means that there are going to refusals, rejections and pure blunt ‘No’’s.
So how do you handle the ‘no thanks’ aspect of things?
Do you delete? Block? A gentle “you’re not what I’m looking for”? Are you a vague emoji user? Or something else?
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Depends on what the message is.
If someone's crafted something witty or made a bit of an effort, I may say "not for me thanks".
If its cut n paste or gibberish, I'll delete.
If I get something crude or derogatory, I block. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"Obviously everyone has preferences and something that they’re looking for, not everyone can be those things and that’s completely OK, however, that means that there are going to refusals, rejections and pure blunt ‘No’’s.
So how do you handle the ‘no thanks’ aspect of things?
Do you delete? Block? A gentle “you’re not what I’m looking for”? Are you a vague emoji user? Or something else?
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Generally a "Thank you for the kind message and interest but you aren't what I'm looking for. Stay safe and happy fabbing" |
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"The absolute worst is being straight up ignored and deleted! Like I get it but a simple no thank you goes a long way! :D"
Well no, it doesn't work like that. If they do reply and then change their filters you would not be blocked because they had messaged you.
No reply is absolutely fine |
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