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Is it wrong to meet up with people within a 2 mile radius
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Following on from my last question of how far you would travel for playing, what's the point where it's too close. I'm in n wales and there's dozens of profiles all within a mile of me. Is it too risky or is that part of the thrill. What's people thinking |
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"Following on from my last question of how far you would travel for playing, what's the point where it's too close. I'm in n wales and there's dozens of profiles all within a mile of me. Is it too risky or is that part of the thrill. What's people thinking"
Depends on how open you are about the lifestyle and what you consider a risk.
Why is being within 2 miles riskier than say 10? Or 50?…. Got something to hide? |
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"Following on from my last question of how far you would travel for playing, what's the point where it's too close. I'm in n wales and there's dozens of profiles all within a mile of me. Is it too risky or is that part of the thrill. What's people thinking"
Totally your preference but I'd be wary if your looking to swing with others you may know them! Or even work with these ppl! So yeh I wouldn't search to close to home for that reason alone lol unless it was my school crush I might rethink that lol |
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"More a case of bumping into them in tesco etc. Doesn't bother me but maybe others have different views "
I occasionally wear ma Ace Winger T-Shirt when I go out, it's a good conversational topic with some people   |
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over a year ago
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I'd avoid, if it all went wrong it could be awkward bumping into them.
Especially if they showed up as parents in the same schools as your own kids, or you took a new job and they ended up a colleague or boss.
That's without having anything to hide. But God forbid you then bumped into them and they turned out to be married and you didn't know etc. That could be even more awkward.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Near,closer by down to choice and descreation factor.
Guess many dealer' s we most pass daily sure most know what they are upto.
Most things in society are taboo.
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"I'd avoid, if it all went wrong it could be awkward bumping into them.
Especially if they showed up as parents in the same schools as your own kids, or you took a new job and they ended up a colleague or boss.
That's without having anything to hide. But God forbid you then bumped into them and they turned out to be married and you didn't know etc. That could be even more awkward.
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Agreed , as it may initially be convenient or exciting it could also go pair shaped and you then see them all the time and it’s just like an ex |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Far too risky. Some people are clueless about privacy. "
Yep.
I agree with all the previous comments about adults being adults and not being ashamed of anything you're doing.
But if something goes wrong on a meet or the person turns out to be just a tad more batshit than anticipated, then I'd much prefer that they were a few more miles than 2 away from us.
Just because 'you' (as in you in general) know how to be respectful and maintain confidentiality/discretion, doesn't guarantee that others do too.
I was threatened with being outed to the company I worked for about 10 years ago by someone who visited a swingers club I worked at and recognised me from my day job, where I had a reputational disrepute clause in my contract that I can guarantee would have resulted in my dismissal. I called their bluff but it could easily have cost me my job.
So always worth considering all factors, including how close to home you play. 
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"More a case of bumping into them in tesco etc. Doesn't bother me but maybe others have different views "
We had our profile name called out in the supermarket… now was it a term of surprise or did they recognise us… the million dollar question? |
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I had a couple of socials with someone who lived a 5 minute walk away. Not once have I seen him out and about anywhere.
Never bumped into anyone else who I've met that's local either thinking about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn’t meet someone who lives nearby. We don’t like the idea of bumping into them in Asda or possibly having mutual friends.
We like to keep swinging and our real life completely separate. |
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"More a case of bumping into them in tesco etc. Doesn't bother me but maybe others have different views
We had our profile name called out in the supermarket… now was it a term of surprise or did they recognise us… the million dollar question? "
Did they have tights and a black mask on while walking up the side of the building? |
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