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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Someone asking to chat off site within a few messages means they are usually scammers or trying to get you to invest money in a crypto currency scheme. I've had loads on Facebook dating. I only stay on there to reel them in and shame them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually don't mind sharing my number if I'm getting along okay chatting. That's what the block function is there for if they turn out to be a tit. Mostly stick to kik/telegram if it's on offer though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone asking to chat off site within a few messages means they are usually scammers or trying to get you to invest money in a crypto currency scheme. I've had loads on Facebook dating. I only stay on there to reel them in and shame them."
Really? Never had that.
Did you buy the dip? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Someone asking to chat off site within a few messages means they are usually scammers or trying to get you to invest money in a crypto currency scheme. I've had loads on Facebook dating. I only stay on there to reel them in and shame them.
Really? Never had that.
Did you buy the dip?"
I tell them my money is in my mattress. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Within about 5 or 6 messages on another site, it sort of makes alarm bells ring. Or at least it does for me. What are your thoughts?"
Who offered exchanging numbers first? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Within about 5 or 6 messages on another site, it sort of makes alarm bells ring. Or at least it does for me. What are your thoughts?
Who offered exchanging numbers first? "
No one. I messaged a joke and she said that deserves my WhatsApp  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I think that’s pretty normal for single folk outside of the fab world.. this place makes us cynical."
Are you on any dating sites? They're full of men pretending to be widowed engineers with a child who lives in the US. Or US Marine divers with a child overseas. Most have terrible English and talk about how they want to lavish women with love.
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"07745281466
FUCK!!! WHAT HAVE I DONEEEER 
It's ok, you don't even have WhatsApp . . . . .
 Oh yeah!!! Phew!!! Glad you checked though????"
Yep, can't get you all the good deals on Stairlifts and conservatory replacement roofs unless I check you out first . . . |
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"I think that’s pretty normal for single folk outside of the fab world.. this place makes us cynical.
Are you on any dating sites? They're full of men pretending to be widowed engineers with a child who lives in the US. Or US Marine divers with a child overseas. Most have terrible English and talk about how they want to lavish women with love.
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Yeah but I don’t often communicate  can spot a sane one though and it’s easier to chat nonsense by phone. Though I’m the laziest dater ever so rarely bother. |
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"07745281466
FUCK!!! WHAT HAVE I DONEEEER
It's ok, you don't even have WhatsApp . . . . .
Oh yeah!!! Phew!!! Glad you checked though????
Yep, can't get you all the good deals on Stairlifts and conservatory replacement roofs unless I check you out first . . ."
I need a stairlift! |
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"I think that’s pretty normal for single folk outside of the fab world.. this place makes us cynical.
Are you on any dating sites? They're full of men pretending to be widowed engineers with a child who lives in the US. Or US Marine divers with a child overseas. Most have terrible English and talk about how they want to lavish women with love.
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 I played online scrabble & used to get messages exactly like this |
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"I think that’s pretty normal for single folk outside of the fab world.. this place makes us cynical.
Are you on any dating sites? They're full of men pretending to be widowed engineers with a child who lives in the US. Or US Marine divers with a child overseas. Most have terrible English and talk about how they want to lavish women with love.
I played online scrabble & used to get messages exactly like this "
Haha words with friends was it, the game? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I think that’s pretty normal for single folk outside of the fab world.. this place makes us cynical.
Are you on any dating sites? They're full of men pretending to be widowed engineers with a child who lives in the US. Or US Marine divers with a child overseas. Most have terrible English and talk about how they want to lavish women with love.
I played online scrabble & used to get messages exactly like this "
That's where they started lol Lots of fake US Military men who couldn't speak English. Now it's mostly fake engineers, divers or Military medics.
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By *exyFZeeCouple
over a year ago
Harrow |
I'm so confused... we give our numbers out all the time as a couple/solo. So much easier to get to know ppl....and you can always block someone? Mines a second number dedicated to extracurricular fun |
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I don’t tend to give my number to people from fab unless I’ve met them, though there are exceptions.
I give it more freely on dating sites, though always after a fair few messages. I’m not sure why that is though as I find men on fab overall more respectful and decent than many on dating sites.
I did have a call from a withheld number late at night a few days ago sounding like he was having an asthma attack and asking if I was in bed yet. I’ve been scrolling through my WhatsApp convos trying to work out which one is the weirdo without asking them  |
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"I don’t tend to give my number to people from fab unless I’ve met them, though there are exceptions.
I give it more freely on dating sites, though always after a fair few messages. I’m not sure why that is though as I find men on fab overall more respectful and decent than many on dating sites.
I did have a call from a withheld number late at night a few days ago sounding like he was having an asthma attack and asking if I was in bed yet. I’ve been scrolling through my WhatsApp convos trying to work out which one is the weirdo without asking them "
I thought breathless "dirty" calls were a thing of the past?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t tend to give my number to people from fab unless I’ve met them, though there are exceptions.
I give it more freely on dating sites, though always after a fair few messages. I’m not sure why that is though as I find men on fab overall more respectful and decent than many on dating sites.
I did have a call from a withheld number late at night a few days ago sounding like he was having an asthma attack and asking if I was in bed yet. I’ve been scrolling through my WhatsApp convos trying to work out which one is the weirdo without asking them "
But you haven’t answered my question?
Are you? Wheeze in bed yet? |
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"I don’t tend to give my number to people from fab unless I’ve met them, though there are exceptions.
I give it more freely on dating sites, though always after a fair few messages. I’m not sure why that is though as I find men on fab overall more respectful and decent than many on dating sites.
I did have a call from a withheld number late at night a few days ago sounding like he was having an asthma attack and asking if I was in bed yet. I’ve been scrolling through my WhatsApp convos trying to work out which one is the weirdo without asking them
I thought breathless "dirty" calls were a thing of the past?! "
So did I. I was very slow working out what was going on |
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"Someone asking to chat off site within a few messages means they are usually scammers or trying to get you to invest money in a crypto currency scheme. I've had loads on Facebook dating. I only stay on there to reel them in and shame them."
Not always. I happily share my Kik and Telegram username (it is the same as my Fab username anyway, no surprise there) but I take a long while before I will share my WhatsApp/Mobile number. I like to have some privacy and keep my Fab life separate from my real life. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Someone asking to chat off site within a few messages means they are usually scammers or trying to get you to invest money in a crypto currency scheme. I've had loads on Facebook dating. I only stay on there to reel them in and shame them.
Not always. I happily share my Kik and Telegram username (it is the same as my Fab username anyway, no surprise there) but I take a long while before I will share my WhatsApp/Mobile number. I like to have some privacy and keep my Fab life separate from my real life."
We're not talking about Fab people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually don't mind sharing my number if I'm getting along okay chatting. That's what the block function is there for if they turn out to be a tit. Mostly stick to kik/telegram if it's on offer though "
Yes, me too.. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation. "
You know yourself if it feels normal .. I'd never give mine out .. only when meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation. "
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation.
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number. "
You seem like a good number…
*nope, doesn’t work  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation.
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number.
You seem like a good number…
*nope, doesn’t work "
You tried. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation.
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number.
You seem like a good number…
*nope, doesn’t work
You tried."
I’ll try another 999 times …*starts counting this as another one. 998 |
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation.
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number. "
Only 1000  |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Within about 5 or 6 messages on another site, it sort of makes alarm bells ring. Or at least it does for me. What are your thoughts?
Who offered exchanging numbers first?
No one. I messaged a joke and she said that deserves my WhatsApp "
Sounds perfectly normal to me ...  |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"I actually don't mind sharing my number if I'm getting along okay chatting. That's what the block function is there for if they turn out to be a tit. Mostly stick to kik/telegram if it's on offer though
Yes, me too.. "
Yep, me three ... |
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If the messages continue between me and someone i would like to meet i will offer my number or kik. Its just easier and quicker than the messaging on here.
I think we can all spot the scammers and fakes after a few messages, when you have been here for a while ! |
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Need to get a reply from a message to have any chance of a subsequent form of communication.... my WhatsApp only ever goes off when someone I know needs something
Forgotten what the little yellow message box looks like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the optimum number of messages before you share numbers? I think it totally depends on the interaction and your gut feel of the situation.
Last time I gave someone my number we exchanged a 1000 messages on here first.
That seems like a good number. "
Damn. Only 980 messages to go. Not that anyone is counting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Within about 5 or 6 messages on another site, it sort of makes alarm bells ring. Or at least it does for me. What are your thoughts?"
Prefer to chat a bit longer first, move to Kik after that as it is more private, not actually giving out your phone number, I only give out my number when I am totally comfortable... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"01772 203203 ring anytime
I honestly think you will regret this
Google the number"
It shows up both as an Indo-chinese catering company and Preston Police! I know the force has been hit by budget cuts but didn't expect a sideline in spring rolls! |
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We both have WhatsApp but don't use it for meets/chats on Fab.We always make it clear that we only use Fab as a method of communication.If people aren't happy with this it just means we're not compatible and won't take the conversation any further.
M and M |
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
nottingham |
I think people over think the use of WhatsApp when it comes to chatting.
After all, you can do the same on there if you don’t enjoy the chat or exchange, by blocking and deleting them!
Kik isn’t reliable and snap chat can get annoying. And using other apps just means your using excessive amounts of storage on your phones so just stick to the easy option.
Better yet don’t give them your number and keep using fab for communication, if they don’t like it, move along. |
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"01772 203203 ring anytime
I honestly think you will regret this
Google the number
It shows up both as an Indo-chinese catering company and Preston Police! I know the force has been hit by budget cuts but didn't expect a sideline in spring rolls!"
i think it's just free delivery while the officers are picking up there food, at least you'd know it would be hot when it got there and not been to 20 other houses before yours |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Within about 5 or 6 messages on another site, it sort of makes alarm bells ring. Or at least it does for me. What are your thoughts?"
I prefer it. It means they are free to have no filter for fear of being banned from previous site so it's a great filter.
C |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times."
Wanna bet? - a FB of mine is separated but still lives in family home separate bedrooms….. depends if they trust you or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times.
Wanna bet? - a FB of mine is separated but still lives in family home separate bedrooms….. depends if they trust you or not "
So they're still single then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you share a phone number that you use elsewhere, you risk:
- social media accounts being hacked or controlled
- as we use SM accounts to login to other apps and platforms this could mean additional hacking/impersonation
- having your information passed to 3rd parties who could spam your number
- Sim-jacking which means hackers can gain access to your bank accounts
Google it if you don't believe me. |
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"If you share a phone number that you use elsewhere, you risk:
- social media accounts being hacked or controlled
- as we use SM accounts to login to other apps and platforms this could mean additional hacking/impersonation
- having your information passed to 3rd parties who could spam your number
- Sim-jacking which means hackers can gain access to your bank accounts
Google it if you don't believe me. "
I'm not that suspicious of those I swap numbers with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you share a phone number that you use elsewhere, you risk:
- social media accounts being hacked or controlled
- as we use SM accounts to login to other apps and platforms this could mean additional hacking/impersonation
- having your information passed to 3rd parties who could spam your number
- Sim-jacking which means hackers can gain access to your bank accounts
Google it if you don't believe me. "
I only give it to people I trust. And they should trust me too.
I often think how much I want the person to feel safe, if someone felt like yourself if I asked them to meet me or swap numbers, I wouldn’t meet them with fear of scaring the shite out of them.  |
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"I actually don't mind sharing my number if I'm getting along okay chatting. That's what the block function is there for if they turn out to be a tit. Mostly stick to kik/telegram if it's on offer though
Yes, me too..
Yep, me three ... "
Me four. I take the view that if someone continues to chat on WhatsApp outside fab then they actually are pretty invested I wanting to meet, and by and large if they're happy to give out their number then they're less likely to have anything to hide about their living arrangements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you share a phone number that you use elsewhere, you risk:
- social media accounts being hacked or controlled
- as we use SM accounts to login to other apps and platforms this could mean additional hacking/impersonation
- having your information passed to 3rd parties who could spam your number
- Sim-jacking which means hackers can gain access to your bank accounts
Google it if you don't believe me.
I only give it to people I trust. And they should trust me too.
I often think how much I want the person to feel safe, if someone felt like yourself if I asked them to meet me or swap numbers, I wouldn’t meet them with fear of scaring the shite out of them. "
I've had men ghost me after meeting them in person. So it's very very rare I give my number to anyone now. I think I've given it to two people in the last year.
Telegram or nothing. |
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We have given out our phone numbers to people in the past but usually only after a lot of talking here or after meeting in socials ect.
I'm OK with people having my number because I have no Facebook or any other type of social media.
At least I was until a vanilla friend from an on line game contacted me out of the blue one day. It was a bit of a shock. But her potential connections to me and my family are limited |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually don't mind sharing my number if I'm getting along okay chatting. That's what the block function is there for if they turn out to be a tit. Mostly stick to kik/telegram if it's on offer though
Yes, me too..
Yep, me three ...
Me four. I take the view that if someone continues to chat on WhatsApp outside fab then they actually are pretty invested I wanting to meet, and by and large if they're happy to give out their number then they're less likely to have anything to hide about their living arrangements."
Yup to that but I've had little success on Kim and I find telegram a bit intrusive but that might be because of constant pings from group chats in it. |
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If we like the look of the person/couple we are happy to give out our WhatsApp’s quite early. That way we can make a group chat between the 3 or 4 people so we can see everyone is genuine and both members of the couples are into it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a second number for this side of life, so giving it out isn't an issue and they can be blocked anyway. Wouldn't think twice about offering it if we were getting on.
PW |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a second number for this side of life, so giving it out isn't an issue and they can be blocked anyway. Wouldn't think twice about offering it if we were getting on.
PW "
You have a burner phone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times."
You would think the amount of married and partnered guys that send me their mobile number is unreal. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bracknell (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times.
You would think the amount of married and partnered guys that send me their mobile number is unreal."
One phone left at work / gym bag?! ...must take some effort though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times.
You would think the amount of married and partnered guys that send me their mobile number is unreal.
One phone left at work / gym bag?! ...must take some effort though "
Probably I don't give out my personal number anyway. Unless I really know the person usually after we've meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a second number for this side of life, so giving it out isn't an issue and they can be blocked anyway. Wouldn't think twice about offering it if we were getting on.
PW
You have a burner phone? "
Old phone and cheapest sim out there. It's a no brainer surely? |
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By *l1pp3ryCouple
over a year ago
Bradford |
"My thoughts are they are probably single. No married man gonna risk their phone pinging at random times.
^This is also how I see it "
You can mute a WhatsApp thread. We have a couple of phone numbers for married guys and they mute it when at home and un mute and chat when they're at work.
We also have a guy who doesn't mute but only my hubby chats with him through WhatsApp, if I want to chat with him or he wants to message me its done on here. When hubby messages him it's generic and in code, like, do you fancy a pint this weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a second number for this side of life, so giving it out isn't an issue and they can be blocked anyway. Wouldn't think twice about offering it if we were getting on.
PW
You have a burner phone?
Old phone and cheapest sim out there. It's a no brainer surely? "
Exactly - I've a dual SIM phone so if I was that bothered I'd get a PAYG and slot it in (oo er Mrs). A four way group message between couples is open and all above board. In reality for me if you can't hold a conversation with me/us on the phone then what confidence do you think I will have that you will commit to turning up and talking to my/our face let alone insert appendages in each other? |
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