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Finally saw the doctor today.
I can deal with this menopause stuff
I don’t need help, I don’t want tablets etc
I don’t have time to go docs and deal with this
I’ll be ok
I deal with everything
I don’t want to come off the pill. I don’t want that scary coil thing that’s supposed to kill having it put in!
So that was me before.
After reading a few things on here, finally watching the programme and a girly lunch and chat with my friends last week and the fact I am a fucking witch to live with and after reading the symptoms I have 75% of them I decided to do something about it and a plan has now been set.
So what I’m trying to say is ladies please don’t be like me! Do something about it!
I’m hoping to bring you lovely nice placid Nora in the near future 
Much love x |
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt! 
bloody awful aren’t they??
Yeah. She kept saying relax. You’re not relaxing! You need to relax! "
I can’t bloody relax… feels like my boobie is going to explode!!!!!! |
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt!
bloody awful aren’t they?? "
Mine wasn't painful, uncomfortable.
Hrt...im on patches and taking tablets, about a month in so not seeing any changes yet. Hopefully, I will see changes in the next month or so. |
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt!
bloody awful aren’t they??
Mine wasn't painful, uncomfortable.
Hrt...im on patches and taking tablets, about a month in so not seeing any changes yet. Hopefully, I will see changes in the next month or so."
My friend who is 6 months younger than me said it took a while but made such a difference. |
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"Finally saw the doctor today.
I can deal with this menopause stuff
I don’t need help, I don’t want tablets etc
I don’t have time to go docs and deal with this
I’ll be ok
I deal with everything
I don’t want to come off the pill. I don’t want that scary coil thing that’s supposed to kill having it put in!
So that was me before.
After reading a few things on here, finally watching the programme and a girly lunch and chat with my friends last week and the fact I am a fucking witch to live with and after reading the symptoms I have 75% of them I decided to do something about it and a plan has now been set.
So what I’m trying to say is ladies please don’t be like me! Do something about it!
I’m hoping to bring you lovely nice placid Nora in the near future
Much love x"
Good for you. I am afraid i am the previous Nora before you went to the doctors. A lot of the symptoms but a can't be arsed attitude, too busy and too much other crap going on. I definitely need a kick up the bum  |
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over a year ago
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The patches have helped me - but horrendous periods now.
My moods have altered, but the other is a bitch!!
It’s worth it though. Mine needs tweaking a little still, but I hope everything works out well |
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"Finally saw the doctor today.
I can deal with this menopause stuff
I don’t need help, I don’t want tablets etc
I don’t have time to go docs and deal with this
I’ll be ok
I deal with everything
I don’t want to come off the pill. I don’t want that scary coil thing that’s supposed to kill having it put in!
So that was me before.
After reading a few things on here, finally watching the programme and a girly lunch and chat with my friends last week and the fact I am a fucking witch to live with and after reading the symptoms I have 75% of them I decided to do something about it and a plan has now been set.
So what I’m trying to say is ladies please don’t be like me! Do something about it!
I’m hoping to bring you lovely nice placid Nora in the near future
Much love x
Good for you. I am afraid i am the previous Nora before you went to the doctors. A lot of the symptoms but a can't be arsed attitude, too busy and too much other crap going on. I definitely need a kick up the bum "
I’ve always been like that. If it’s one of the kids I’m get to the doctors now. Me, I just get on with it. I go to the doctors about once every 2 years with a list . I should have done this a lot earlier really. Make time! X |
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"The patches have helped me - but horrendous periods now.
My moods have altered, but the other is a bitch!!
It’s worth it though. Mine needs tweaking a little still, but I hope everything works out well "
Yeah this is what worries me a bit. I’m on the pill where you take it straight through so haven’t had a period for years. The reason I went on it was because they were so horrendous. This is the main thing that’s stopped me really x |
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Well done Nora- I hope it all goes well.
If my wife is anything to go by I recommend you keep monitoring the HRT on a regular basis. It is not a "fire and forget" treatment although GPs would love you to walk away. Tinkering is standard practice. |
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"Well done Nora- I hope it all goes well.
If my wife is anything to go by I recommend you keep monitoring the HRT on a regular basis. It is not a "fire and forget" treatment although GPs would love you to walk away. Tinkering is standard practice. "
Thanks. Yes a few people have said that. What works for one may not work for another. A bit trial and error really x |
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Hooe you are ok Nora! I fear I may too be headed down this route but holding off for now
Though I had a letter from the NHS referral service today saying I have been referred to a specialist and need to make an appointment....
I don't know what it means or who I am seeing because I've not been to the Dr's in a while and the last conversation I had with them was I had to make an appointment to talk to him about my heavy erratic periods. But I never did 
Will ring tomorrow and see |
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"Hooe you are ok Nora! I fear I may too be headed down this route but holding off for now
Though I had a letter from the NHS referral service today saying I have been referred to a specialist and need to make an appointment....
I don't know what it means or who I am seeing because I've not been to the Dr's in a while and the last conversation I had with them was I had to make an appointment to talk to him about my heavy erratic periods. But I never did
Will ring tomorrow and see "
If it is to do with this I’d take it. It’s really hard to actually get to see someone for the first step! I’d tried before a few times and couldn’t get in so just left it and left it and left it again! x |
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"Hooe you are ok Nora! I fear I may too be headed down this route but holding off for now
Though I had a letter from the NHS referral service today saying I have been referred to a specialist and need to make an appointment....
I don't know what it means or who I am seeing because I've not been to the Dr's in a while and the last conversation I had with them was I had to make an appointment to talk to him about my heavy erratic periods. But I never did
Will ring tomorrow and see
If it is to do with this I’d take it. It’s really hard to actually get to see someone for the first step! I’d tried before a few times and couldn’t get in so just left it and left it and left it again! x "
Yeah I will, thank you lovely. It has to be about either my heart or my periods and my cardiologist is happy that I don't need to be seen that regularly now x |
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"Hooe you are ok Nora! I fear I may too be headed down this route but holding off for now
Though I had a letter from the NHS referral service today saying I have been referred to a specialist and need to make an appointment....
I don't know what it means or who I am seeing because I've not been to the Dr's in a while and the last conversation I had with them was I had to make an appointment to talk to him about my heavy erratic periods. But I never did
Will ring tomorrow and see
If it is to do with this I’d take it. It’s really hard to actually get to see someone for the first step! I’d tried before a few times and couldn’t get in so just left it and left it and left it again! x
Yeah I will, thank you lovely. It has to be about either my heart or my periods and my cardiologist is happy that I don't need to be seen that regularly now x"
Oh that’s good news xx |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end! "
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me! |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end!
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me! "
Keep telling yourself that...... |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end!
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me!
Keep telling yourself that...... "
Tis you needs to go and see that doc ya stroppy mare . Early menopause.  |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end!
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me!
Keep telling yourself that......
Tis you needs to go and see that doc ya stroppy mare . Early menopause. "
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"I think it's brilliant that you're a) being open about it and encouraging others to not shy away and b) getting it sorted. I hope that things are better for you soon Nora. "
Cheers Meli. It’s not like me  . And I’m kinda regretting it now but yeah if it encourages someone x |
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Ah good for you Nora! I did the exact same thing for a year. Until I reached bottom and made an appointment. Six weeks on, HRT is helping. I have several other friends sitting on their hands too. Why do we do this to ourselves?  |
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What would you say the first noticeable symptoms were? So many cross over with the issues I already have it's hard to know what's what. My periods are still regular, but I've definitely felt more foggy and emotional recently. |
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"Ah good for you Nora! I did the exact same thing for a year. Until I reached bottom and made an appointment. Six weeks on, HRT is helping. I have several other friends sitting on their hands too. Why do we do this to ourselves? "
Really? Coz I did think it was just me being a stubborn idiot to be honest. It is actually good to know other people have done similar. Glad it’s helping you too! x |
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"Ah good for you Nora! I did the exact same thing for a year. Until I reached bottom and made an appointment. Six weeks on, HRT is helping. I have several other friends sitting on their hands too. Why do we do this to ourselves?
Really? Coz I did think it was just me being a stubborn idiot to be honest. It is actually good to know other people have done similar. Glad it’s helping you too! x "
Yep, me and most of my friends are stubborn idiots too it would seem. I hope things improve rapidly for you. X |
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"What would you say the first noticeable symptoms were? So many cross over with the issues I already have it's hard to know what's what. My periods are still regular, but I've definitely felt more foggy and emotional recently."
Tiredness. Foggy is an apt word to be honest. Like brain fog! It’s hard to explain. Very emotional. Snappy over the most ridiculous things. No time for anyone. Friends, family. I’d pretty much blanked everyone. I actually went on citalopram for a while but it did nothing. I thought it was depression but I think it’s all linked. No reduction in libido unfortunately though  |
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"Finally saw the doctor today.
I can deal with this menopause stuff
I don’t need help, I don’t want tablets etc
I don’t have time to go docs and deal with this
I’ll be ok
I deal with everything
I don’t want to come off the pill. I don’t want that scary coil thing that’s supposed to kill having it put in!
So that was me before.
After reading a few things on here, finally watching the programme and a girly lunch and chat with my friends last week and the fact I am a fucking witch to live with and after reading the symptoms I have 75% of them I decided to do something about it and a plan has now been set.
So what I’m trying to say is ladies please don’t be like me! Do something about it!
I’m hoping to bring you lovely nice placid Nora in the near future
Much love x
Good for you. I am afraid i am the previous Nora before you went to the doctors. A lot of the symptoms but a can't be arsed attitude, too busy and too much other crap going on. I definitely need a kick up the bum
I’ve always been like that. If it’s one of the kids I’m get to the doctors now. Me, I just get on with it. I go to the doctors about once every 2 years with a list . I should have done this a lot earlier really. Make time! X"
Oh i am.exactly the same...and yes i will x |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end!
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me!
Keep telling yourself that......
Tis you needs to go and see that doc ya stroppy mare . Early menopause. "
Be quiet Patsy |
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Good for you for going!
I never had a lot of discomfort having coils put in or out, the side effects of the Mirena were horrible for me though - even outweighed having no periods! I managed it for six months and had to have it out. Does make me concerned that my lack of tolerance for hormones means I’ll have to suffer the menopause when it hits full force (I think it’s starting a bit)
I hope you get some good results xx |
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"Good for you for going!
I never had a lot of discomfort having coils put in or out, the side effects of the Mirena were horrible for me though - even outweighed having no periods! I managed it for six months and had to have it out. Does make me concerned that my lack of tolerance for hormones means I’ll have to suffer the menopause when it hits full force (I think it’s starting a bit)
I hope you get some good results xx"
Can I ask you a private question? I can’t message you. If you don’t mind could you message me x |
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"Looking forward to the What's App messages you send me being more pleasant in the future
See, told you it would work out in the end!
What you talkin bout Willis. I’m absolute pleasant fucking delight me!
Keep telling yourself that......
Tis you needs to go and see that doc ya stroppy mare . Early menopause.
Be quiet Patsy "
Hahaha |
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Off to the GP end of month when I get some time off work to check up.
Mild symptoms so far, but enough to follow up on.
Sometimes being a woman is cruel |
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"Off to the GP end of month when I get some time off work to check up.
Mild symptoms so far, but enough to follow up on.
Sometimes being a woman is cruel "
Good on you! It is finding the time though I know what you mean! |
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"Off to the GP end of month when I get some time off work to check up.
Mild symptoms so far, but enough to follow up on.
Sometimes being a woman is cruel
Good on you! It is finding the time though I know what you mean! "
Just guilty of thinking all will be okay I guess. Can't be put off forever though.
Thanks for sharing your post OP |
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"Off to the GP end of month when I get some time off work to check up.
Mild symptoms so far, but enough to follow up on.
Sometimes being a woman is cruel
Good on you! It is finding the time though I know what you mean!
Just guilty of thinking all will be okay I guess. Can't be put off forever though.
Thanks for sharing your post OP "
I know the feeling. Ah it’ll just go away eventually x |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt!
bloody awful aren’t they??
Yeah. She kept saying relax. You’re not relaxing! You need to relax!
I can’t bloody relax… feels like my boobie is going to explode!!!!!! "
Stood on tiptoes at a really awkward angle not fun but worth it. |
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt!
bloody awful aren’t they??
Yeah. She kept saying relax. You’re not relaxing! You need to relax!
I can’t bloody relax… feels like my boobie is going to explode!!!!!!
Stood on tiptoes at a really awkward angle not fun but worth it. "
A friend of mine said she had to stand on tiptoes too! I didn’t have that problem. I had to bend down a bit! |
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"Having tests next week go Nora!!
Fuck you hormones.
And I had a mammogram. Fuck me that hurt!
bloody awful aren’t they??
Yeah. She kept saying relax. You’re not relaxing! You need to relax!
I can’t bloody relax… feels like my boobie is going to explode!!!!!!
Stood on tiptoes at a really awkward angle not fun but worth it. "
I’m taking a step stool next time, trying to stay still in the most awkward position, is not easy on tip toes |
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Nice one Nora. As a partner all I can say is it's so worth doing. Its never nice watching someone you care about suffering and hard work at times to make allowances for their behaviour. Hope you feel better soon.
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"Nice one Nora. As a partner all I can say is it's so worth doing. Its never nice watching someone you care about suffering and hard work at times to make allowances for their behaviour. Hope you feel better soon.
Mr"
Thanks Mr xxx |
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"What would you say the first noticeable symptoms were? So many cross over with the issues I already have it's hard to know what's what. My periods are still regular, but I've definitely felt more foggy and emotional recently.
Tiredness. Foggy is an apt word to be honest. Like brain fog! It’s hard to explain. Very emotional. Snappy over the most ridiculous things. No time for anyone. Friends, family. I’d pretty much blanked everyone. I actually went on citalopram for a while but it did nothing. I thought it was depression but I think it’s all linked. No reduction in libido unfortunately though "
I have chronic pain/fatigue anyway, so I don't think I could be much more tired. Brain fog is pretty normal for me too... I guess I'll see how things are over the next few months.
Coil insertion... I nearly p@ssed out having one fitted (copper) was laid on the couch for about an hour until I felt well enough to leave. Considering the mirena, to see if that's any better, but always struggled with anything that has hormones. Yet I know others who never had any issues with it.
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I spent two years with the doctors telling me, its your age and not as much blood as you think! I was using two super plus and they were barely lasting an hour!
Eventually I had a scan and they discovered adenomyosis. Had the mirena coil fitted. No pain and my symptoms disappeared almost overnight
However, peri menopause affected my mental health which was already dodgy. Hot flushes and night sweats horrendous but can't take anything else whilst I have the coil
The joys of being female!
Missy x |
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I really don't know how you ladies know that you've hit the menopause. If I Google menopause symptoms I have so many but the symptoms can also be present because of how my life is ie tiredness, can't sleep, emotional can all be put down to what is happening in my life.
Can doctors carry out an accurate test to see if you are actually menopausal? |
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I’m current in perimenopause hell… low mood, anxiety, night sweats & my god the brain fog.
Needed to get a new coil as the progesterone has stopped working and they needed to replace this before prescribing hrt..
Cue… going to get it removed & replaced & they couldn’t find the fucker. So awaiting hospital appointments for this.
Topped off with a result from a smear showing I need further investigations… it’s looking like a long haul to fix!  |
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"I really don't know how you ladies know that you've hit the menopause. If I Google menopause symptoms I have so many but the symptoms can also be present because of how my life is ie tiredness, can't sleep, emotional can all be put down to what is happening in my life.
Can doctors carry out an accurate test to see if you are actually menopausal?"
It could be perimenopause…. Which can only be diagnosed by symptoms as hormone tests are not accurate as they vary so much at this stage.
Menopause matters has a common list of perimenopause symptoms.
Menopause is only usually diagnosed if you haven’t had any periods for a significant time if you’re not on the coil or jab. |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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I’m the same as you, keep saying I must make an appointment but can’t be arsed, telling myself I can live with it, but keep getting hints everywhere that I should go, had a letter about breast screening, then smear test came through and just today blood pressure check, something tells me I’m getting old.
As for the Mirena coil I had it taken out, I could only put up with it for 6 months.
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