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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Freedom and independence to do what I want, whenever I want, with whoever I want, wherever I want, with no one to answer to, is what I value most for being single.
However, I do miss the intimacy of being with another person from time to time.
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over a year ago
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Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that."
Sounds like you have the best of two worlds?  |
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i miss the fun the intermacy and the bond you have not coming home to make some one happy on there bases looking after some one else have some on elook after me as well and i miss not having me cuppa earl grey brought to me in bed in the mornign or even mornign sex z |
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that.Sounds like you have the best of two worlds? "
I would like to think so, but it is not all a bed of roses
I think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that.Sounds like you have the best of two worlds?
I would like to think so, but it is not all a bed of roses
I think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work."
I think you are right and that is where some relationships go wrong ... as people expect things to just work out. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner  "
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happy to be in a relashionahip!
We are best friends and lovers! We are not joined at the hip and can do what we want when we want! We share good and bad times!
And it's nice to have someone to snuggle up to on these cold winter nights |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work.
agreed..
and hard work, compromise, sacrifice and honesty etc to name but a few.."
And not taking the other for granted even after a long time...! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Happy to be in a relashionahip!
We are best friends and lovers! We are not joined at the hip and can do what we want when we want! We share good and bad times!
And it's nice to have someone to snuggle up to on these cold winter nights "
Hugely important to be best friends as well as lovers, well for me anyway.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that.Sounds like you have the best of two worlds?
I would like to think so, but it is not all a bed of roses
I think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work.I think you are right and that is where some relationships go wrong ... as people expect things to just work out."
Yes and expect the other to be a mind reader, I think regardless of what you have to say, you need to be honest and be able to freely speak your mind in a relationship without any backlash to truly appreciate how one another feels.
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him "
miss, miss...me miss... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that.Sounds like you have the best of two worlds?
I would like to think so, but it is not all a bed of roses
I think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work.I think you are right and that is where some relationships go wrong ... as people expect things to just work out.
Yes and expect the other to be a mind reader, I think regardless of what you have to say, you need to be honest and be able to freely speak your mind in a relationship without any backlash to truly appreciate how one another feels.
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That is where the honesty comes into the equation as Surrey said as well... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happy to be in a relashionahip!
We are best friends and lovers! We are not joined at the hip and can do what we want when we want! We share good and bad times!
And it's nice to have someone to snuggle up to on these cold winter nights
Hugely important to be best friends as well as lovers, well for me anyway. "
Yes I would consider M and I as soulmates, a bond that can not be replaced by a "normal" best friend. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss... "
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-) |
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"i think it is very difficult and takes communication, time and patience to make a relationship work.
agreed..
and hard work, compromise, sacrifice and honesty etc to name but a few..And not taking the other for granted even after a long time...!"
indeed, making the effort to sort something 'special' even if they were snoring last night ..  |
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)"
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? "
Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sometimes miss the freedom to selfishly do whatever I want, when I want, with whom I want, but that feeling soon passes when I realise that if I was single I'd rarely get to do what I want, with whom I want, whenever I want... anyway.  |
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-)"
sounds good but we need a head to head on the terminology for the service provider..
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-)
sounds good but we need a head to head on the terminology for the service provider..
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Was thinking that myself as I was writing it - have you got any suggestions? BTW Juliewonders does not require your services so I ll have a double helping. Hell I am not single... Ah well I ll be the test pilot taking one for the team |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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Update : Had a both a suggestion and a request from Bobbytupper... he suggests the name "roaming romeo" for cuddlie... and puts himself forward, bravely and selflessly, to be on the rota |
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-)
sounds good but we need a head to head on the terminology for the service provider..
Was thinking that myself as I was writing it - have you got any suggestions? BTW Juliewonders does not require your services so I ll have a double helping. Hell I am not single... Ah well I ll be the test pilot taking one for the team"
thought she was a timewaster..
will need to do some practise before extending the service so all good there... |
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"Update : Had a both a suggestion and a request from Bobbytupper... he suggests the name "roaming romeo" for cuddlie... and puts himself forward, bravely and selflessly, to be on the rota "
sounds like a porn actor..
cue dodgy muzak and out of sync moaning..  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Update : Had a both a suggestion and a request from Bobbytupper... he suggests the name "roaming romeo" for cuddlie... and puts himself forward, bravely and selflessly, to be on the rota
sounds like a porn actor..
cue dodgy muzak and out of sync moaning.. "
ok, come up with a better suggestion....;-) |
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"Update : Had a both a suggestion and a request from Bobbytupper... he suggests the name "roaming romeo" for cuddlie... and puts himself forward, bravely and selflessly, to be on the rota
sounds like a porn actor..
cue dodgy muzak and out of sync moaning.. ok, come up with a better suggestion....;-)"
dodgy moaning? |
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Its night like this that I am on me tod... friends are with partners and kids and I am here... that gets me thinking that OMG its pants being single...
I would love nothing more right now than a kiss and a cuddle...  |
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By *vana sukalotWoman
over a year ago
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him "
That sounds like a good plan |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I remember years ago when i was married me and my then wife were in bed together making love, now obviously i loved her, but i looked down at my wife and then it just hit me, at that moment i realised how much i loved her the emotions that ran through me it was overwhelming, so much so i actually started to cry, sadly we weren't meant to be, but its a feeling hopefully one day i will feel again |
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By *xpresMan
over a year ago
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"Freedom and independence to do what I want, whenever I want, with whoever I want, wherever I want, with no one to answer to, is what I value most for being single.
However, I do miss the intimacy of being with another person from time to time.
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By *xpresMan
over a year ago
Elland |
"Freedom and independence to do what I want, whenever I want, with whoever I want, wherever I want, with no one to answer to, is what I value most for being single.
However, I do miss the intimacy of being with another person from time to time.
Ditto
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-)
sounds good but we need a head to head on the terminology for the service provider..
Was thinking that myself as I was writing it - have you got any suggestions? BTW Juliewonders does not require your services so I ll have a double helping. Hell I am not single... Ah well I ll be the test pilot taking one for the team
thought she was a timewaster..
will need to do some practise before extending the service so all good there..."
Lol banged to rights |
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him
miss, miss...me miss...
I was thinking of you actually... but you would be covering the West Midland area, so we need probably another 3...;-)
have to be done on a rota..
any training required? Full training will be given on the job - rota....? Err I will have to confer with a few singlies who _xpressed the need for one of the Cuddlies...;-)
sounds good but we need a head to head on the terminology for the service provider..
Was thinking that myself as I was writing it - have you got any suggestions? BTW Juliewonders does not require your services so I ll have a double helping. Hell I am not single... Ah well I ll be the test pilot taking one for the team
thought she was a timewaster..
will need to do some practise before extending the service so all good there...
Lol banged to rights "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx"
quick go grab that 53 yr old.. he might have been great at cuddles lol |
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx
quick go grab that 53 yr old.. he might have been great at cuddles lol "
fook off.... |
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx
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Errrmmmm excuse me,.. What about me...
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extra cuddles for you |
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx
+2
Errrmmmm excuse me,.. What about me...
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i'll give ya a cuddle |
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx
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Errrmmmm excuse me,.. What about me...
i'll give ya a cuddle"
thanks eves xxx |
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"Miss the cuddles, the holding hands and just the nice feeling of having someone special in my life
yup miss that too..
cuddles for cute xx
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Errrmmmm excuse me,.. What about me...
extra cuddles for you "
hummm thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning sex lol that's what I miss being single
Over all I prefer being single, I love my freedom and wouldn't give it up for anyone but i do miss waking up with someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thing with me is tho I have been married, more than once lol I've never loved anyone so I was never happy in any of my marriages, therefore I can't honestly say I miss any of it
I'm much happier on my own
Ok you can get the violins out now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the grass is allways greener...I think the longer your single the more you want to stay single...because you get so used to doing your own thing...sure you don't get so much regular sex.....but what's better sex or freedom?...ha ha...I'm making my relationships sound like prison sentences... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on my own since April 2011. I would love a relationship but it'd have to be someone in the same lifestyle as me. I couldn't now have a vanilla relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I remember years ago when i was married me and my then wife were in bed together making love, now obviously i loved her, but i looked down at my wife and then it just hit me, at that moment i realised how much i loved her the emotions that ran through me it was overwhelming, so much so i actually started to cry, sadly we weren't meant to be, but its a feeling hopefully one day i will feel again "
That's made me fill up - I miss that feeling of being with someone. |
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I consider myself very lucky. We lead very different lives and tend to be like ships that pass in the night! He works very long hours and offen away, when he's home I'm offen working. But because we are lucky to share a bed 2/3 nights a week when we are both home together it makes the imtmatcy even more special.
I couldn't be in a relationship where I felt smothered |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Morning sex lol that's what I miss being single
Over all I prefer being single, I love my freedom and wouldn't give it up for anyone but i do miss waking up with someone "
I've had more morning sex with my meets than I ever did with my husband.
Especially love my main man letting himself in on a sunday morning and waking me up.
But it would be bliss to be in a fully intimate loving relationship again. Miss that so much it hurts. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I consider myself very lucky. We lead very different lives and tend to be like ships that pass in the night! He works very long hours and offen away, when he's home I'm offen working. But because we are lucky to share a bed 2/3 nights a week when we are both home together it makes the imtmatcy even more special.
I couldn't be in a relationship where I felt smothered "
It sounds to me like you have just about the right balance without feeling smothered. |
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"I consider myself very lucky. We lead very different lives and tend to be like ships that pass in the night! He works very long hours and offen away, when he's home I'm offen working. But because we are lucky to share a bed 2/3 nights a week when we are both home together it makes the imtmatcy even more special.
I couldn't be in a relationship where I felt smothered It sounds to me like you have just about the right balance without feeling smothered. "
It works for us
But this week I'm close to killing him! He was ment to be away tues-fri but is crippled with his back, so I've had him and the kids under my feet 
Sooner he goes back to work the better!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship for me, I like having someone else to think about, their needs and the intimate bond you share.
For me I can still do what I want, when I want, but being in part of a relationship I can share that."
Ditto....always smile when peeps say you canny do what u want when in a relationship....i know i do what i want...spend my money how i choose...please myself and please others if i choose yo do so.Know i have the best of both worlds and im happy as larry...good ole larry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him "
I like being single because I'm able to do what I want when I want, but as with everyone else I miss the intimacy of a relationship and cuddles. I make for a good huggle buddy.... Mainly because I'm always warm lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems the common link is the intimacy thatyou get when in a relationship. I admit I miss having someone to cuddle up to and to sspoil and cook for especially during the winter |
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"in a relationship...
What are the benefits of the one over the other? "
There's no dilemma for me as I do as I wish whether in a relationship or not.
I enjoy being single again...for now. I like having someone caring about me, and I them. |
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"Vanilla is definately the best.
It does, however, have a tendancy to end in severe heartburn 
huggles hun "
A healing program of hedonistic debauchery has been planned and will be embarked upon shortly |
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"Vanilla is definately the best.
It does, however, have a tendancy to end in severe heartburn
huggles hun
A healing program of hedonistic debauchery has been planned and will be embarked upon shortly "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im no good at relationships ive always went after the wrong type. I like being single as u know where u are and being single for years ive got used to the independance. i hav lots of friends family and a lovely sexy fb. So im not lonely thats the main thing. Maybe when im old i wud like to hav a partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just been told I'm miserable via PM - and even though I know they're joking thought I'd extrapolate on my early post.
I see no dilemna because:
There'll always be too many issues in mine!!
1. I'm happy in my own company.
2. I'm too bloody selfish to be at anyone else's beck and call.
3. I'm actually a really shit husband/boyfriend - and that's my opinion rather than anyone else's! I much prefer to spare them the days/weeks/months finding that out!
4. If I want company, be it for chat, a drink or sex - I can usually find it - and if not - so be it!
5. See point 3 - it's important!!
6. I get bored very easily with any kind of routine - work, social or personal.
7. I'm shit with money. My own especially but I can be a very bad influence.
8. I have annoying habits. They don't bother anyone presently as they aren't around me long enough to find them irritating.
9. I can happily go days, and in some cases weeks/months without speaking to friends/family and not be bothered by this.
10. I'd rather eat marmite than join a dating site!
However - I completely respect the choices of others who prefer to be in relationships or actively date !
You crazy bastards!!! |
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over a year ago
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Sometimes I miss cuddles, morning sex, someone to snuggle with to watch a DVD, or to go out to eat with or to the cinema, or whatever.
Some of those things I can do with friends but it's not quite the same.
That said, I miss less as a single person than I disliked in past relationships.
I don't rule out having another relationship but it would have to be someone very special for me to want that. There would also have to be a degree of openness in the relationship. I don't think I'm made to be completely monogamous.
Ideally I'd like a few friends with benefits that I can do all the above things with but without the ongoing commitment. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Just been told I'm miserable via PM - and even though I know they're joking thought I'd extrapolate on my early post.
I see no dilemna because:
There'll always be too many issues in mine!!
1. I'm happy in my own company.
2. I'm too bloody selfish to be at anyone else's beck and call.
3. I'm actually a really shit husband/boyfriend - and that's my opinion rather than anyone else's! I much prefer to spare them the days/weeks/months finding that out!
4. If I want company, be it for chat, a drink or sex - I can usually find it - and if not - so be it!
5. See point 3 - it's important!!
6. I get bored very easily with any kind of routine - work, social or personal.
7. I'm shit with money. My own especially but I can be a very bad influence.
8. I have annoying habits. They don't bother anyone presently as they aren't around me long enough to find them irritating.
9. I can happily go days, and in some cases weeks/months without speaking to friends/family and not be bothered by this.
10. I'd rather eat marmite than join a dating site!
However - I completely respect the choices of others who prefer to be in relationships or actively date !
You crazy bastards!!! "
Point 3 - delete husband/boyfriend, add wife/girlfriend...delete my opinion rather than anyone else's, add my opinion, everyone else's
Point 4 - delete I can usually find it, add I can always find it (single bi-fem dontcha know)
I prefer to have my bed to myself...shared last night at a party and cos I struggle with pain from my hip, I usually starfish all over the bed, changing position every 10 mins or so - poor bugger that was sleeping with me was woken every 10 mins, worried I was ok, using up a lot of the bed (he was 6 ft 9) and I didn't get much sleep...on the plus side - I do miss a Morning Glory... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I have spent more of my adult life in relationships than I have being single.
For me - the benefits of being single far, far outweigh the benefits of being in a relationship. And are more than worth any of the drawbacks of being alone, most of which are easy to overcome, in my experience.
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The freedom of being single is nice, as can have those scruffy weekends when you want, but snuggling a pillow hardly cuts it at night.
Have been the bit on the side for a lady for a year or so (not from here so can chat about it)
That is almost harder, as you get the odd night of fun and cuddles and intimacy, but then its all over for a while.
Clubbing at swing clubs fills the social hole, where you can be a bit fruity, the need to not offend makes it very hard to be flirty with boundaries at work these days. |
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Ooh, I dunno, I change my mind daily on this
I think I'm too selfish actually to want a relationship for any of the right reasons. I can't help seeing relationships as investments... 'if you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you' If you can't be arsed then neither can I lol!
If I'm ill, I miss having someone to just let me be ill and look after me a bit.
Life is less stressfull if someone else can get rid of the spider in the bath.
My jokes are funnier if someone else is laughing at them other than myself.
None of the above either singularly or combined make for a perfect ralationship unfortunately. A couple of days with a guy, being cuddly, affectionate and whatnot is very nice...any longer than that and I get antsy...a whole week and I want to murder them
I think I could have a great relationship if they didn't expect anything from me, lived a few miles away from me and let me do exactly what I wanted
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
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I think I could have a great relationship if they didn't expect anything from me, lived a few miles away from me and let me do exactly what I wanted
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Can I join this club too Fia???? |
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I think I could have a great relationship if they didn't expect anything from me, lived a few miles away from me and let me do exactly what I wanted
Can I join this club too Fia???? "
Why yes of course, welcome aboard ...so what can you do for me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm staying single forever, my dear Dad died a week ago and the pain and sadness we all feel is awful but my poor mum is in bits. I'd rather not be in love then I wouldn't get so hurt when they leave. But then seeing how much they adored each other gives me a bit of hope. Confused and very sad |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooh, I dunno, I change my mind daily on this
I think I'm too selfish actually to want a relationship for any of the right reasons. I can't help seeing relationships as investments... 'if you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you' If you can't be arsed then neither can I lol!
If I'm ill, I miss having someone to just let me be ill and look after me a bit.
Life is less stressfull if someone else can get rid of the spider in the bath.
My jokes are funnier if someone else is laughing at them other than myself.
None of the above either singularly or combined make for a perfect ralationship unfortunately. A couple of days with a guy, being cuddly, affectionate and whatnot is very nice...any longer than that and I get antsy...a whole week and I want to murder them
I think I could have a great relationship if they didn't expect anything from me, lived a few miles away from me and let me do exactly what I wanted
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and bring u round the occasional cooked meal lol |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I'm staying single forever, my dear Dad died a week ago and the pain and sadness we all feel is awful but my poor mum is in bits. I'd rather not be in love then I wouldn't get so hurt when they leave. But then seeing how much they adored each other gives me a bit of hope. Confused and very sad "
Probably time for bed. G'nite. |
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"I sometimes miss the freedom to selfishly do whatever I want, when I want, with whom I want, but that feeling soon passes when I realise that if I was single I'd rarely get to do what I want, with whom I want, whenever I want... anyway. "
and as Angie just said to me "Yes, but who would make your tea" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only been on my own once ,long time ago but I do remember I hated it, going home to an empty cold house , id go home bath then pub just to be round people, thankfully it wasn't for too long .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooh, I dunno, I change my mind daily on this
I think I'm too selfish actually to want a relationship for any of the right reasons. I can't help seeing relationships as investments... 'if you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you' If you can't be arsed then neither can I lol!
If I'm ill, I miss having someone to just let me be ill and look after me a bit.
Life is less stressfull if someone else can get rid of the spider in the bath.
My jokes are funnier if someone else is laughing at them other than myself.
None of the above either singularly or combined make for a perfect ralationship unfortunately. A couple of days with a guy, being cuddly, affectionate and whatnot is very nice...any longer than that and I get antsy...a whole week and I want to murder them
I think I could have a great relationship if they didn't expect anything from me, lived a few miles away from me and let me do exactly what I wanted
and bring u round the occasional cooked meal lol "
 I can't believe I forgot this one! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I sometimes miss the freedom to selfishly do whatever I want, when I want, with whom I want, but that feeling soon passes when I realise that if I was single I'd rarely get to do what I want, with whom I want, whenever I want... anyway.
and as Angie just said to me "Yes, but who would make your tea" "
Lol.. just just nailed it for me.. why did nt I think of that one... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm staying single forever, my dear Dad died a week ago and the pain and sadness we all feel is awful but my poor mum is in bits. I'd rather not be in love then I wouldn't get so hurt when they leave. But then seeing how much they adored each other gives me a bit of hope. Confused and very sad "
Ask your mum if she'd trade all the days of happiness she spent with your dad if the pain she feels now would go away.
Love is not just being happy with the one you're with, but also feeling the sadness of not being with the one you love. x |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I'm staying single forever, my dear Dad died a week ago and the pain and sadness we all feel is awful but my poor mum is in bits. I'd rather not be in love then I wouldn't get so hurt when they leave. But then seeing how much they adored each other gives me a bit of hope. Confused and very sad
Ask your mum if she'd trade all the days of happiness she spent with your dad if the pain she feels now would go away.
Love is not just being happy with the one you're with, but also feeling the sadness of not being with the one you love. x"
+1 |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"mine allways start like fires
they burn pour petrol on them and
they burn more but after so long they
slowly die and fade never to be lit again "
Sounds like you put your heart and soul into a new relationship and that in my books is a good thing. What would we be if we did not have that passion, that enthusiasm, that hope that this time... it will work out. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Being single,you can't be called a cheatin bitch and finding out who your real friends are"
I personally would not ever pass judgment on anybody - it is not my place and I also think people never know the entire story. And neither should they! They should just jolly well not judge or call others names. Maybe I am being naive here.
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"Being single,you can't be called a cheatin bitch and finding out who your real friends areI personally would not ever pass judgment on anybody - it is not my place and I also think people never know the entire story. And neither should they! They should just jolly well not judge or call others names. Maybe I am being naive here. "
I refer to the thread entitled
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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago
yorkshire |
well for me (ian) i get to have a lift every day to the hospital. Down side for her (sue) she has to take me, 7am every day.
So the is our up and down on our relationship. Plus side for Sue am good shag LOL.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I'm happier being single I do miss intermacy ( not that I had any in a relationship lol )
Think I need a cuddle partner
I just had a funny idea... we should name somebody offocially as a cuddle partner for all those who need one. It could be a rotating role for a well-mannered, kind and yet sexy man who would be happy to travel the country and be cuddly for those who need him "
can i share hin too |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've been single now for over 5 years! Through choice I may add, In a way I love being on my own, have my own space, do what I want or not do (ie housework! lol) Spend my weekends in bed reading (I'm so rock and roll!) But then I will admit, I do get slightly worried I'm too used to my own company, I don't want to be single for the rest of my life... but hey what do you do? Just wait and see I suppose x |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been single now for over 5 years! Through choice I may add, In a way I love being on my own, have my own space, do what I want or not do (ie housework! lol) Spend my weekends in bed reading (I'm so rock and roll!) But then I will admit, I do get slightly worried I'm too used to my own company, I don't want to be single for the rest of my life... but hey what do you do? Just wait and see I suppose x"
Precisely the dilemma I was thinking about...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being single,you can't be called a cheatin bitch and finding out who your real friends are"
You seem very happy, why worry about what anyone else says? |
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