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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.
swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:
1. to love and respect my wife more than ever
2. people are not always what they seem
3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality
4. not to get hangups about my own body
5. to respect other peoples views and wishes
6. to enjoy life
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i knew what i knew twenty years ago i would have become a swinger earlier rather than leave it till i was 30! Lol and to trust no one. Plus more people cheat so i would have probable found an ex on here lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust no-one.
There are some brilliant people out there.
Sex and love are two totally different things.
Respect and trust are hard earned and easily lost.
Have fun, have patience.
Relax.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No longer have hang ups about my body.
If one person thinks i'm a fuggly the next will find me sexy.
The sex is great and i'm more open about what i want or like.
I find it a lot easier to talk to people rather than just sit there listening.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To not get excited about a meet till they totally turn up ! To go with the flow and be open minded about fantasy u never no what turns u on and being blindfolded defo does it for me as we'll as being told what to do (unlike in real life )  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 excelent thread
When i was married and played with wife on swinging scene i can honestly say we felt more connected and didnt want to stray. The sex was great and we Both enjoyed everything.
With regards to respect; im sure im not only person here that will that without respect its just a shag without feelings - you have to like the person/people before you give your body up i guess.
Yes since being single i have sadly came accross many time wasting silly people who love to play mind games - goes with the teritory i guess again
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To trust no-one even a close friend one day can let you down the next.
That there's a whole world out there I didn't know about.
How to make love to a lady properly.
That its easier to talk about sex than bottle it up inside.
Now realize how boring my sex life was 10yrs ago!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.
swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:
1. to love and respect my wife more than ever
2. people are not always what they seem
3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality
4. not to get hangups about my own body
5. to respect other peoples views and wishes
6. to enjoy life
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you shouldve done all those things before you started swinging son |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trust no-one.
There are some brilliant people out there.
Sex and love are two totally different things.
Respect and trust are hard earned and easily lost.
Have fun, have patience.
Relax.
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I like this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have leanrt that even when honest, I will still get it wrong but I have also learnt not to let it bother me, its their loss....
Life is for living and as long as my husband has no issues then I can play.
S xxxx
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Not to use someone else's hotness as a measure of who they will fancy - have met and played with lots of gym bunnies with model looks who think my body shape is their ideal.
Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. 
So now I give it a punt and if the answer is no I don't let it get me down since I have a host of fitties in my phone and there are more out there!
It's also made me take rejection in other circles much better - water off a ducks back! And I've had more confidence talking to the gorgeous in social situations only to discover that many are shy and that most won't approach them so if we haven't played we've still had fun conversations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That it doesn't matter that I'm not skinny.
That people don't care that I've got scars.
That its ok to think women are sexy.
That my submissive side can be brought out.
That I'm allowed to be 26, single and have a bloody amazing sex life.
Oh and that I'm not sure I have a type!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's teaching me(as I believe that learning is an ongoing thing) how to have more confidence, that I'm nowhere near as bad in bed as I used to believe, that sexiness is just as much to do with personality(if not more) as it is looks...
...and to make sure I join the queue for the buffet at Chams at least 15 mins before it's served |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That my ex was the problem in bed and not me.
That I am far better at sex than I realised (God that sounds sooo conceited!)
That wa-a-a-a-y too many people live completely unrewarding sex lives - and just accept it.
That I know who I am, am happy with it.
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"It's teaching me(as I believe that learning is an ongoing thing) how to have more confidence, that I'm nowhere near as bad in bed as I used to believe, that sexiness is just as much to do with personality(if not more) as it is looks...
...and to make sure I join the queue for the buffet at Chams at least 15 mins before it's served "
Especially at a bbw night 
It's shown me that I am not alone. O have always had a keener interest in sex than my friends, always known I was a bit submissive etc and I am enjoying exploring that side of me |
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1. Not to be as naive and trusting as I used to be. (One of my early meets nicked my unlocked iPhone).
2. There's a LOT more bi men out there than people realise.
3. I've learned to take care when texting (after texting a friend mid-meet to say it wasn't going well, only to accidentally send it to my meet)!
4. If planning on shaving in the hotel rather than at home, it's all very well remembering to take a new blade, but it's no good without the razor.
5. Certain hotel chains are swines, after they tried to charge £500 for trashing a hotel room. (I hadn't btw). I later saw on Watchdog they tried it on with lots of other people.
6. Being in love with someone that enjoys swinging as much as me is blinking awesome
7. Whilst there are some vile, nasty people lurking on this website, there's also some proper diamonds, thank god!
8. Never go anywhere without an ample supply of condoms, you never know...
Oh and a general tip, not necessarily learned from swinging.... Never, ever, go shopping in Tesco with love eggs in if you have a nasty cough.  |
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By *er himWoman
over a year ago
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"That my ex was the problem in bed and not me.
That I am far better at sex than I realised (God that sounds sooo conceited!)
That wa-a-a-a-y too many people live completely unrewarding sex lives - and just accept it.
That I know who I am, am happy with it.
Pork"
Same here for both of us...so glad we have ex's and met each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not to take rejection so personally either here or in general and that some very sexy ladies find me desirable which has helped me be more confident in every day life too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.
swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:
1. to love and respect my wife more than ever
2. people are not always what they seem
3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality
4. not to get hangups about my own body
5. to respect other peoples views and wishes
6. to enjoy life
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The more mature woman is preferable to the younger woman... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That there are still lots of people around who are still hung up about sex and their bodies despite the changes in society which took place in the late 60s and 70s.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't believe the amount of people that have said how poor at sex the thought they were it has truly shocked me, it has taught me to be more tolerant of other people, I'm still miserable but less so |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That there are still lots of people around who are still hung up about sex and their bodies despite the changes in society which took place in the late 60s and 70s.
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