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Would you view someone as relationship material
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway "
Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here  |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "
If I were looking then no it would not as it means they've got the same past time as me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes why not just because someone on here dose not make them any less desirable
Just because someone my have had loads off sexually partners dose not make them any less desirable
Wouldn’t bother me one bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway
Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here "
some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette |
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"I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway
Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette "
Or the dating sites, most are just hook ups now |
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"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?
So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of? "
Also no it wouldn't put me off because I'm on here but it might put people off that aren't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "
No just be completely open and honest with them.
I’m also in the same situation as you and looking for a long term partner.
Fabs for me now is just about the forums and that’s it really.
I’ve had my fun and that has be a lot of fun but now for me it’s about finding someone who we both just want each other if that makes sense?
I’ve even told one I’m talking to off of here about fabs.
She was curious and we chatted about it and it seems like she’s very cool about it as it’s now in my past so to speak.
But if you can’t be completely honest then that could cause issues.
If you aren’t then what makes you think they are I guess.
And those that don’t accept us for who we are don’t deserve our time really. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, in fact I'd be very turned on by it. I'm also on a dating site and would love to find a partner for life. especially if we enjoyed the same activities;-) x |
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I met my partner on here, so that should confirm my view on it.
There are, however, some people that wouldn't date people from here...on a past thread I can remember rolling my eyes at a post which was something along the lines of "girls on here are alright for fun, but none of them are wifey material"  I've seen many posts along the same lines in the past.
I think the universal answer to questions like this is "some will, some won't, find the people that are compatible with you" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway
Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette
Or the dating sites, most are just hook ups now "
exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m in here. So my view is from only one point of view.
But yeh, relationships can start anywhere. Love rules and will bite your ass when you least expect it.
So what, they’re a swinger….you love em right? |
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I would see a massive red flag in any potential partner if they were judgemental or tried to make me feel bad for my sexaul past. Our sexuality and how we express this is part of us. I would resist choosing someone who didn't love and respect me for all I am or someone that wanted to control me and mold me into a box that didn't fit.
I met My Girl on here and we are engaged. We are together because we love each other, build each other up and want to share all that we are together. Love should not be a cage. We should be free individuals and with that person because we chose their love, their company and because we are loved back for who we are. Not because they've put us in a box or don't love all that we are.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m in here. So my view is from only one point of view.
But yeh, relationships can start anywhere. Love rules and will bite your ass when you least expect it.
So what, they’re a swinger….you love em right? "
This too, I mean I guess where you meet doesn’t matter.
Love can come from meeting anyone in any place I guess.
But for me I personally that I want that exclusivity of a relationship.
Where both only want the other.
So for me that’s not something I’d find on fabs and that’s cool.
I’ve had amazing times and met some truly beautiful people here who I will always continue to call friends.
But now it’s the long game and that’s not with fabs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?
So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of? "
The clue words that you casually throw into the conversation to see if they're on your wave lenght |
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"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?
So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of?
The clue words that you casually throw into the conversation to see if they're on your wave lenght"
Exactly |
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"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "
If a potential partner was aware of swinging and or fabswingers.com they would more than likely be quite open-minded and not have dated ideas about women |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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What people have done before you met them should have no impact on how you view them.
When you have met them and start a relationship that’s when you decide on what you consider acceptable in the future.
If I met someone that used to be a escort or porn star pre that would not cause me a problem on how a view them and I would still date/marry them no problem or jealousy.
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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A wise friend of mine once said to me "if she doesn't make you a better person & you her then what's the point of being together?"
So, to answer your question "Op" why not? Past is in the past & irrelevant to me. I don't want to know.
I suppose you can only be honest with her & talk about anything & everything. Oh & no secrets... They weigh you down!
Do I need to take me rosy tinted glasses off now? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"A wise friend of mine once said to me "if she doesn't make you a better person & you her then what's the point of being together?"
So, to answer your question "Op" why not? Past is in the past & irrelevant to me. I don't want to know.
I suppose you can only be honest with her & talk about anything & everything. Oh & no secrets... They weigh you down!
Do I need to take me rosy tinted glasses off now? "
Sums it up very nicely - I would second that and no, it is not unrealistic!  |
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Relationship material. Hmm, surely anybody is suitable to he in a relationship with if you suit each other. If something about you (or them ) puts you off being with them it just means you're not compatible, it doesn't mean either of you aren't suited to be in a relationship with anybody. |
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Honestly, I don't get the whole "relationship material" vs "only good for a shag" thing. If I like and get on with someone, I don't put them in a box. Maybe it's easy for me to say as I'm in a relationship, the nature of any additional relationships is more clear than if I were single?
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship material. Hmm, surely anybody is suitable to he in a relationship with if you suit each other. If something about you (or them ) puts you off being with them it just means you're not compatible, it doesn't mean either of you aren't suited to be in a relationship with anybody."
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I would be very happy to have a proper relationship with a lady who had been on Fab and I have met some lovely people on here.
The apocryphal Islamic gift for suicide bombers of 72 virgins in heaven is the single most awful thing I can imagine. Give me a sexy experienced lady any day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "
What about you? |
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"I would see a massive red flag in any potential partner if they were judgemental or tried to make me feel bad for my sexaul past. Our sexuality and how we express this is part of us. I would resist choosing someone who didn't love and respect me for all I am or someone that wanted to control me and mold me into a box that didn't fit.
I met My Girl on here and we are engaged. We are together because we love each other, build each other up and want to share all that we are together. Love should not be a cage. We should be free individuals and with that person because we chose their love, their company and because we are loved back for who we are. Not because they've put us in a box or don't love all that we are.
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It’s entirely personal. It would put me off, but that doesn’t mean it would put others off. And theirs plenty that it would turn on!
If you bring on here turns them off then they aren’t for you. Don’t be ashamed or feel judged for doing things you like, especially when your hurting no one’s |
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Ultimately, I’m looking for a relationship and think that you get way more honesty on sites like Fab than more generic dating sites. I wouldn’t want to hide this part of myself now either…. Took way too long to find it! Lol |
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"I met my partner on here, so that should confirm my view on it.
There are, however, some people that wouldn't date people from here...on a past thread I can remember rolling my eyes at a post which was something along the lines of "girls on here are alright for fun, but none of them are wifey material" I've seen many posts along the same lines in the past.
I think the universal answer to questions like this is "some will, some won't, find the people that are compatible with you" "
Agree |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone?"
Okay, as a man this is my viewpoint on it. If I was searching on dating sites / apps for a lady to potentially become a long term partner, if she told me she had a Fab / Fet / Whatever profile upfront then I'd be fine with it (encouraged we would be compatible long term, even). I wouldn't be fine, however, with meeting a potential long term partner on a dating website / app who hid / didn't tell me about their Fab account.
If you want to meet someone who will love you and accept you for who you are, then you can use telling them about Fab as a kind of litmus test for what kind of person they are and weather or not you're compatible with them. If they get upset or judgemental about it, then would you really want to be with them in the long run? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't come out with it as a pickup line, but being open and honest if asked about your past is fair enough as you get to know someone.
We both mentioned to each other that we'd had threesomes in the past long before I (hubby) suggested swinging. Before we were married if I recall correctly. |
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"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "
If you met someone and your history was an issue for them then that's their problem, not yours.
Whether that's because you've been on here, had 4 previous husband's or 11 kids, any future partner needs to accept you for you. |
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