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Struggling to find a unicorn!
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Hi guys we’re a M/F couple trying to find females for meets and fun times, I’m not new to the swinging scene have been on fab years back, but we are new to this as a couple. We are really struggling to find girls though is it us or is it normal?! We’re trying not to sound too pushy in our messages but still not boring at the same time! We don’t have public photos as we are both in professions where we would rather not be seen on here. But we’re now just stuck as in what else to do/try as we really want to get back in the scene together!! Thanks in advance you lovely lot xxx  |
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over a year ago
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"Hi guys we’re a M/F couple trying to find females for meets and fun times, I’m not new to the swinging scene have been on fab years back, but we are new to this as a couple. We are really struggling to find girls though is it us or is it normal?! We’re trying not to sound too pushy in our messages but still not boring at the same time! We don’t have public photos as we are both in professions where we would rather not be seen on here. But we’re now just stuck as in what else to do/try as we really want to get back in the scene together!! Thanks in advance you lovely lot xxx "
A club environment really is the best way , majority of single women feel more comfortable in that environment. We’ve met some lovely singles by doing so . All the best on your quest |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Most couples are all looking for the same op.
Perhaps add a pic of you both together or at least one of the male if you're all going to be involved .
Or as said above Try a club as it seems to have a better outcome judging by other threads.
Good luck |
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You say on the profile that the female has been here before as a single…so…would you have picked your couples profile, when you were single, bearing in mind you only have one pic of Mrs and none of Mr?
We’ve been lucky enough to meet a few single females and I guess what attracts them is that we have a good range of pics of both of us, a fairly detailed profile bio and we both engage when we start chatting.
Single women are being courted by everyone - guys, other single girls, couples, so they have a massive choice. Your profile is your shop window…if you are setting it out solely for single women then you need to sell both of you, not just one of you.
Good luck 
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
Pics of both of you help, they don't have to be revealing just an idea of what you are body type etc, if I'm meeting a couple I want to see both of them as I need to be attracted to both of them. |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
You're going to need good photos and a profile that suggests you make an effort and that you've given consideration to what someone playing with you will get out of the experience. That's the bare minimum.
Probably the most common mistake couples make when looking for a play partner is making it all about their needs.
I'd also ditch the line explaining away the lack of photos and put more imaginative photos up that maintain discretion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no pics of Mr so that would be a no from me, I know you say "professional" however faces can be cropped out.
There are lots of amazing ladies on fab, but I'd want to see more than 1 half of the couple before engaging in conversation.
Mrs |
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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago
somewhere sweet and sour |
Partly why I stick to clubs cos if I go and the couple doesn't show, I can still have fun whether play or just socialising. Also females are let down a lot of the time too... was having a lovely convo with a couple and my last message was just let me know if you are going on the 15th (to a club) and I've been blocked lol... fab is a strange world.  |
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There's nothing on your profile to entice single women. Why should they play with you ? What are you offering her?
Unicorn hunting couples aren't popular amongst single women at the best of times so your profile needs to be spectacular to entice them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you often hide your profile?
I only ask because if I get a message and the profile is hidden it generally gets deleted.
As a unicorn, for me, there are certain red flags. I feel uncomfortable if it isn't clear who I'm speaking with. If when chatting about what the couple wants, there is a lot of uncertainty.
Sometimes it is simply that you get bad vibes. |
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Oddly enough we tend to find it easier to find a single lady where the chemistry is just right than we do a couple. Actually when you think about it it's perfectly logical.
In our experience clubs are the best place. Maybe couples and single ladies nights even better for women seeking couples because other nights tend to have women who are mainly seeking singles guys. At a club lone women can come to a neutral safe environment and be social butterflies. This is your opportunity show off who you are in the real world, without the bs, danger and potential disappointment of the online world. Lone women are normally pretty good at picking up the right vibe from the right people. Those who they are attracted to, feel safe with and truly respected. Likewise its the same opportunity for couples to gauge compatability with the lady. If everyone clicks and the feeling is right your good to go. And of course you can always take things outside of the club in the future if you all wish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same, been looking a while ! These unicorns really are elusive  .
I think as others say the club is probably the best route to go down. Some great advice regarding that. Good luck x |
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