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Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this 
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
I don't
Why do you? |
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My thought are that lots don’t. Some do
As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.
I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).
Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women find it a turn on because..it's forbidden perhaps? It's dominant behaviour and that can appeal. I never thought I would, but a FWB and I were both curious. So we tried it. |
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"My previous lover enjoyed this, but she was really into bdsm, forceful/domineering degrading play it was a different experience  "
I'm into bdsm but the face is still out of bounds. I suppose we are all different and what suits one will not suit another. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Like anything, if you are going to engage in it then it should be consensual and both should be aware of the potential risks.
I don’t know that many view it as a “turn on” by itself, but they can enjoy it as part of other activities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
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over a year ago
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"My previous lover enjoyed this, but she was really into bdsm, forceful/domineering degrading play it was a different experience
I'm into bdsm but the face is still out of bounds. I suppose we are all different and what suits one will not suit another. "
It felt wrong, she loved choking which was enjoyable both ways, i enjoy her slapping my face |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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I love a good slap occasionally, at the right time with the right person m, with agreement
I have also been known to punch someone in the face for slapping me - best to be sure before you try it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect this thread will attract "this is abuse" type of responses and as a woman who does enjoy it, it's only ever been discussed before hand and done consensually. If a partner doesn't enjoy it, I would never ask him to do it. It's just a kink that some people enjoy. Nothing more. |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px "
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life? |
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"I suspect this thread will attract "this is abuse" type of responses and as a woman who does enjoy it, it's only ever been discussed before hand and done consensually. If a partner doesn't enjoy it, I would never ask him to do it. It's just a kink that some people enjoy. Nothing more. "
Absolutely. I was giving my own thoughts. People have bruises all over them in the name of sexual pleasure. If they’ve agreed to it good luck to them. Nowt to do with me what anyone does as long as they consent. I’ve always said that. |
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As the male half while I can be dominant I don’t think I could ever bring myself to slap a woman across the face even in role play , however I will smack there arse within the boundaries of play of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before embarking on a face slap frenzy, be sure that the recipient is wanting a slap.
You can't generalise "do women like this" as everyone is different.
The first rule of dom / sub play is COMMUNICATION. Know your partners limits, have a safe word or use the traffic light system.
Respect your partner at all times, they are entrusting you to respect the limits they have laid down, break that respect and you will see your activities for the evening get shutdown. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.
However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.
As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.
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"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.
However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.
As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.
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How you you know there hasn't been? |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.
However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.
As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.
How you you know there hasn't been? "
What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.
Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.
However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.
As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.
How you you know there hasn't been?
What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.
Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained."
Thank you.
The film makers of a well known known Kink porn site would show the pre-filmimg negotiation at the start of the film and the actress would state what was approved for the scene and what was off limits. They also ran through the traffic lights system of safe words. So it was clear (as anything can be) the actress had consented to the acts in the scene.
Without that pre scene it is as Lady Jayne has stated. The problem is that porn is largely vanilla even when pretending to be kinky and won't let proper kink protocol get in the way of the sex. |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
I would find it highly humiliating to be slapped in the face. Hard no from me for sexual play and interaction and outside of that, you'd want to have a quick getaway planned in anticipation of my reaction |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"This is the challenge , in the midst of play that kind of accuracy, control, staying risk aware takes a certain type of unflappable personality, because RACK accepts things do go wrong and you should know what to do, physically, emotionally maybe even legally, you maintain an awareness and calmness a lot of people wouldn’t understand ! Whereas SSC probably tell you this isn’t sane, avoid! "
Part of why I tend to align more with RACK over SSC. With the former there's an acceptance that most, if not all, of BDSM play can never really be fully and totally 100% "safe," even with experienced players. Whereas the latter can feel a bit disingenuous and misguided, particularly in the event that something does go badly.
Same reason why I prefer "saf-ER" sex, over "safe" sex. No fluid transfer can ever be totally, fully 100% "safe." All we can do is be risk-aware and mitigate those risks as much as possible until they are within our range of acceptability / comfort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "
Totally agree if someone were to slap me it's an automatic reaction to kick them in the balls...not a turn on at all. |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "
Op. I’m sat on the fence with this. I accept kinks and stuff and would love to explore lots. And I’m attracted to slightly submissive girls.
But in the other hand I also get turned off when I think of pain, so like you, where is the line drawn?
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"Do women actually find this a turn on?
I know I don't."
My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.
She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!
We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab. |
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"Do women actually find this a turn on?
I know I don't.
My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.
She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!
We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab. "
So, you stayed for an hour after being punched in the face? |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?"
Who says she has to? |
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"I always wince when in a porn film the male actor spanks the female actor and there has been no prior discussion or clearly given consent. In real life such contact without consent is assault.
However consent is the key and in the same way some people like being flogged, or their ass spanked and other impact play, some people like face slapping. Like all impact there is a way of doing it and this should be researched. Additionally like all impact,unless you are playing with a regular partner who you are on the same page you don't start at 100% of force.
As with all impact some people will love some will hate it on principle. But kink enjoyment does not run in accordance with principle.
How you you know there hasn't been?
What he's meaning is when negotiation and consent isnt depicted as part of the porn and the 'vanilla' male actor just starts spanking the female actress mid sex as opposed to the performers giving consent to it happening prior to filming.
Because depicting encounters without showing negotiation etc re-enforce to *some* men that consent doesn't need to be explicitly gained."
Perfectly put (both comments) |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px "
Consent is key  As with basically everything.
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"Do women actually find this a turn on?
I know I don't.
My very first fab meet enjoyed this and more. Unfortunately she forgot to tell me during the 2 social meets we had prior to meeting at an hotel.
She took a different approach and rather than discussing it she punched me in the face because she wanted me to retaliate. I didn't and told her to fuck off!
We discussed it at that point and she apologised but an hour later drove her knee into my balls. I left at that point and left the site a couple of days later thinking this was how all women approached fab.
So, you stayed for an hour after being punched in the face?"
As i said it was my very first fab meet and first meet of any description like that. We had met twice before so I was naive enough to think it was a misunderstanding and most of that hour was spent explaining why I wasn't that person and asking why she even thought I might be or why she had never asked? |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?
Who says she has to?"
Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?
Who says she has to?
Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask "
Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?
Who says she has to?
Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask
Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though "
Correct |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?
Who says she has to?
Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask
Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though
Correct "
The only time it’s really concerned me is when she has children how you can explain something that looks like abuse to kids without the obvious risk of excusing or dumbing down domestic abuse. I have to say no to visible bruises on the face then.
With colleagues / family it’s easy - tell them you enjoy displaying bruises you get from your partner during sex and the feeling of being owned and pressing into them later to re-experience it , they will understand |
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"different strokes for different folks
im currently sporting pretty blue palm prints over my face and neck.. why? because my partner and i both happen to consent to, and enjoy, the same things.
if you AND your partner are both on the same page, and want the same things, there's only one way to find out if you'd both like it.. if you aren't comfortable, stop.
Px
Given that the marks are on a part of you that's visible, how do you explain that in real life?
Who says she has to?
Nobody. But if she's going about her business with a bruised face, I'd imagine colleagues/friends/family might ask
Possibly. She doesn't need to answer though
Correct
The only time it’s really concerned me is when she has children how you can explain something that looks like abuse to kids without the obvious risk of excusing or dumbing down domestic abuse. I have to say no to visible bruises on the face then.
With colleagues / family it’s easy - tell them you enjoy displaying bruises you get from your partner during sex and the feeling of being owned and pressing into them later to re-experience it , they will understand "
I'm not okay with that |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"This is the challenge , in the midst of play that kind of accuracy, control, staying risk aware takes a certain type of unflappable personality, because RACK accepts things do go wrong and you should know what to do, physically, emotionally maybe even legally, you maintain an awareness and calmness a lot of people wouldn’t understand ! Whereas SSC probably tell you this isn’t sane, avoid!
Part of why I tend to align more with RACK over SSC. With the former there's an acceptance that most, if not all, of BDSM play can never really be fully and totally 100% "safe," even with experienced players. Whereas the latter can feel a bit disingenuous and misguided, particularly in the event that something does go badly.
Same reason why I prefer "saf-ER" sex, over "safe" sex. No fluid transfer can ever be totally, fully 100% "safe." All we can do is be risk-aware and mitigate those risks as much as possible until they are within our range of acceptability / comfort."
I need an applaud Emoji...
I always go with RACK over SSC for all of the reasons you mention (especially as a lot of my kinks can head into edge play so sane and safe can't be applied...)
I have also come across FRIES recently (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific) which I also love and feels quite appropriate given some of the responses...
I love being slapped and punched, but there are specifics regarding that... I have areas which are a hard limit, consent to slap me doesn't override those, it means that negotiations and expressed consent need to be specificly granted. |
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over a year ago
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"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them"
Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now?  . This is escalating to proper bdsm |
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"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them
Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now? . This is escalating to proper bdsm "
I guess it raises the question of hard or soft centres |
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"Don’t forget you also need to consent to doing it to OP. Just because the lady loves milk tray you don’t have to buy them
Are you going to slap her with a box of chocs now? . This is escalating to proper bdsm
I guess it raises the question of hard or soft centres "
It’s all fun and games until someone gets an walnut whirl in the eye |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"I need an applaud Emoji...
I always go with RACK over SSC for all of the reasons you mention (especially as a lot of my kinks can head into edge play so sane and safe can't be applied...)
I have also come across FRIES recently (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific) which I also love and feels quite appropriate given some of the responses...
I love being slapped and punched, but there are specifics regarding that... I have areas which are a hard limit, consent to slap me doesn't override those, it means that negotiations and expressed consent need to be specificly granted. "
FRIES… I like it. It’s like an upgraded Informed Consent. Thanks for sharing |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
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Would say most women are not into this, have experienced those that do but it's few and far between. Slapping women during sex, just don't do it unless explicitly invited to if you're comfortable with it that is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not for me, even if they did find it a turn on, it would make me deeply uncomfortable slapping a woman around the face. I get the whole consent and safe word application but the thought of striking a woman I care for just doesn't sit right, personally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be delighted if you slap me around the face and anywhere else that you like to. You can feel my juices flow when riding a hard cock and getting slapped. |
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The "I'll knock you out" comments are killing me.
A. No you won't
B. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that the face slapping is consensual and had been discussed before hand. Cunts are not just rocking up with a cut man looking together into a fight. |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
This was what made me step away for a while after a guy did this to me definitely not a turn on left my ear ringing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thought are that lots don’t. Some do
As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.
I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).
Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you "
Agreed if it's your kink and the other person agrees, just go for it. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"My thought are that lots don’t. Some do
As usually, all people are people and can’t be pigeon holed into what they like based on arbitrary physical traits.
I’ve known women that hated it. I’ve had men beg for it (even offering to pay).
Don’t look too deeply into kinks, especially if they don’t hurt anyone. Just do you
Agreed if it's your kink and the other person agrees, just go for it."
I'd say understanding of any deeper meaning behind kinks is exceptionally healthy... Some kinks sometimes come from darker places and being able to recognise that is important, in my mind it's one of the things (along with consent) that separates SM from abuse. |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "
Hahah!
Thats the place I really hate to be slapped. Like NO way. I don’t understand this kink |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
It's just Impact Play.
Generally happens after lots of Clear Concise Consensual Conversations |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?
This was what made me step away for a while after a guy did this to me definitely not a turn on left my ear ringing "
If he's done that to you without prior consent that's sexual assault. What an absolute piece of s@*t!  |
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There are lots of kinks that don’t do anything for me and make me drier than the Sahara. This is one of them. Much the same as name calling or any sort of degradation.
Nothing wrong with those that do like it though. We like what we like.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah slap me round the face I’ll knock you the fuck out. There’s my thoughts "
Absolutely, anyone slaps me on the face gets a sharpe kneeing in the groin area |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
It's can be part of play OP it's not the slap alone that's a turn its a part of the whole . Think of it like this you don't just slam your Jolly roger into a woman you do it inconjuction with a load of other acts leading upto part of and in conjunction with .
Face slapping is part of a kink scenario and it would only happen as part of the sex if the top new the bottom like it or had agreed to it before hand . |
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This is something I'm really enjoying at the moment with a trusted play partner...which was first initiated at her request. Just a case of then working out the force that results in the right balance of pleasure and pain for her.
It can be a wonderful addition to a wild/mad fucking we find.  |
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If we are doing rough play then I’ll slap the wife’s face. Never hard enough to leave a mark. She’s the only lady I’ve ever slapped and only because she likes it.
I’m not surprised that most women aren’t into it though. Feels wrong. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I don’t. I don’t like being grabbed by the throat either."
Nothing like this should occur by surprise in a sexual scenario. If it’s going to be enjoyed it should be made clear before or during, and if it hasn’t been made clear it’s non-consensual. |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
What makes you think they do ?
Cos you met one woman who does ?
Cos you saw a film about a woman that did ?
Cos you like it ?
If someone slapped me in the face they'd die...... ( okay the real me would probably walk out but I'd want to harm them for sure ) |
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I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?
But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.
I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.
I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.
I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.
I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?
I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.
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By (user no longer on site)
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""Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying
This is true. I don’t like to receive but give yes. Nothing nicer than my hand round a man’s throat "
Rare to find people genuinely into it. Some people try hard to do it and you can see they aren't into it. But when someone does it naturally well, there is nothing else that can beat that chemistry. |
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"I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?
But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.
I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.
I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.
I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.
I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?
I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.
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Granny's thread was removed? That's unfortunate. Some interesting discussions were happening there. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way. "
You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.
What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.
My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Different strokes for different folks. As long as its safe, sane & consensual then go for it, no shame/ judgement here.
Though definitely not for me - face is a limit, I prefer arse/ pussy/ boob spanking in moderation & the right moment.
I find bdsm play liberating. It becomes a safe, trusted space for taking back power, & either taking or relinquishing control, centring/ focusing your mind away from your life stresses/ anxieties into a physical/ sensory experience.
For me it looks a certain way, to others it will look different. Sexual liberation comes from an absence of shame/shaming & judgement though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't know why Granny's thread was removed when this one is still active?
But in response to what Granny asked in her thread.
I honestly don't know why I enjoy it so much. I always find pain during sex turns me on if I'm in that kind of mood. I love hard choking, slapping and biting and being degraded, name calling, being bossed around and told what to do.
I've never thought too much about. I don't know why my partner enjoys it, I've never really spoken to him about it but I don't think he would know why. Maybe he enjoys the power play aspect.
I'd only ever enjoy this type of sex with someone I have a lot of trust in, otherwise it would completely turn my stomach which makes me wonder even more where this desire truly stemmed from.
I have sometimes wondered if it has any connection to physical and sexual abuse I went through as a child. Maybe I like knowing I have some control over it in a loving way?
I couldn't tell you and be 100% sure.
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It's really interesting that you say growing up in an abusive environment may have possibly contributed to your sexual preferences now.
My violent childhood has had the opposite effect, I believe. Being dominated, especially physically with slaps and hair pulling, fills me with fear. I'm definitely more of a princess than a sub. |
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"Why do women find this a turn on?
As a man I'm feeling divided over this, like the way it's a turn on but of course don't want to over step the mark.
No faces were reddened in the pursuit of this
Any thoughts?"
My thought is: Why on earth would you find this a turn on? I'm not in any way divided on the issue. I would hate to do it. Luke |
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"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way.
You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.
What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.
My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects."
Agreed. I once had someone do it to me without my consent. He also had his arm around my neck to the point my eyes felt like they were popping out. Also spat in my mouth too. All without my consent. Horrible experience. So my views probably stem form that experience. |
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"I don’t enjoy it, I don’t like seeing it. I personally find it degrading. I know others won’t see it that way.
You are entitled to have your view of how you should be treated, and there will be many that agree with you.
What a number of us have been stating for years is that there should be no shaming of people whether they are into something or not into something. Saying "I am not into X" is fine, however saying "People who like X are weird" and the other variants, is not acceptable.
My own view apart from the prior consent requirement, is that people should get educated or do the research before accepting such acts or asking for such acts. This stuff is edgeplay and can be dangerous and needs treating with respect from both the physical and psychological aspects.
Agreed. I once had someone do it to me without my consent. He also had his arm around my neck to the point my eyes felt like they were popping out. Also spat in my mouth too. All without my consent. Horrible experience. So my views probably stem form that experience. "
True. Consent is the most important. The next part is sanity. Face slapping if done wrongly can lead to ear drums being ruptured. It's insane to let a random person who doesn't know anything about it to do it. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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""Some men" too find it a turn on to receive face slapping. Just saying
This is true. I don’t like to receive but give yes. Nothing nicer than my hand round a man’s throat
Rare to find people genuinely into it. Some people try hard to do it and you can see they aren't into it. But when someone does it naturally well, there is nothing else that can beat that chemistry."
Ive never been submissive just turn me off when met try it on |
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