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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately "
Daily. I can stand and find fault for hours for I am of a slightly obsessive personality  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately
Daily. I can stand and find fault for hours for I am of a slightly obsessive personality "
Oh I feel im an utter mess thesedays |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats why Jennie exists.
When bloke looks into the mirror, there is always a sense of disappointment. When Jennie looks into the mirror, bloke no longer exists. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thats why Jennie exists.
When bloke looks into the mirror, there is always a sense of disappointment. When Jennie looks into the mirror, bloke no longer exists."
Well im not surprised
Jenny looks delicious |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I’m aware I’m getting old but currently I’d still do me.
Seriously in the past yes but I did things that made me feel like a good person , call up your friends family see if they need anything, smash the workload next week , give staff encouraging feedback, help an old lady with her bags, hit the gym, have a haircut, jump on a sun bed and get a new ridiculously overpriced white tee shirt with a logo , find your mojo , you’ll love yourself again.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’d be good if I could shake the bags under my eyes
Make up ? Haha
No sure it’ll go with the facial fuzz. Sleep would probably be more useful  "
Yes I agree |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m aware I’m getting old but currently I’d still do me.
Seriously in the past yes but I did things that made me feel like a good person , call up your friends family see if they need anything, smash the workload next week , give staff encouraging feedback, help an old lady with her bags, hit the gym, have a haircut, jump on a sun bed and get a new ridiculously overpriced white tee shirt with a logo , find your mojo , you’ll love yourself again. "
If i had the energy haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not hate, but dismay that I allowed my body to get into such a bad condition.
I have a wedding and a holy communion coming up in the summer so I need to lose some weight. "
And its hard going to do it
Trust me i know |
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I am happy in my skin. Am I the most attractive? Not a chance! Do I care? No.
Life is what you make it and I intend to make mine fun. In my opinion that starts by accepting what you have and being glad for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it you have about what you see op?"
I just see someone I feel would never appeal to anyone
Used to look ok ( ish) but lately I can’t stand myself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am happy in my skin. Am I the most attractive? Not a chance! Do I care? No.
Life is what you make it and I intend to make mine fun. In my opinion that starts by accepting what you have and being glad for it."
Great mindset to have my friend |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately "
Hates Strong word and there's always a what if but I'm finding the older I get the more comfortable I'm feeling in my own skin. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately
Hates Strong word and there's always a what if but I'm finding the older I get the more comfortable I'm feeling in my own skin."
Id be happy with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen many changes through the years whenever I stop and look in the mirror. This body has born 3 children via c section (otherwise I wouldn't be alive to see them grow into adults). I've endured lots of things life, 21 yr marriage, a cancer scare and the weight has gone up and down like a yo yo. My current issue is the menopause and undergoing investigations and all that is associated with it. Not happy about it but hey, I'm 52 and alive.... Main thing is acceptance of yourself and appreciation of what you have - who wants to be perfect anyways?  I like being me - I'm good at being me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've seen many changes through the years whenever I stop and look in the mirror. This body has born 3 children via c section (otherwise I wouldn't be alive to see them grow into adults). I've endured lots of things life, 21 yr marriage, a cancer scare and the weight has gone up and down like a yo yo. My current issue is the menopause and undergoing investigations and all that is associated with it. Not happy about it but hey, I'm 52 and alive.... Main thing is acceptance of yourself and appreciation of what you have - who wants to be perfect anyways? I like being me - I'm good at being me "
Great mindset
And i hope everything is ok for you |
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I hate that bits of my body don't work properly, more than the aesthetics. My left leg is just useless. My lumbar spine is falling to bits. My under carriage is trying to turn itself inside out. I have constant neuropathic pain. I currently can't get most shoes on my left foot. So it's that which I hate. The uselessness. The lack of function. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
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Put** |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate that bits of my body don't work properly, more than the aesthetics. My left leg is just useless. My lumbar spine is falling to bits. My under carriage is trying to turn itself inside out. I have constant neuropathic pain. I currently can't get most shoes on my left foot. So it's that which I hate. The uselessness. The lack of function. "
So sorry to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
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I do try ,, but i need to like myself i think, when your in a rut no matter what anyone says about you its hard to climb out |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
Put**"
dont worry ,, im a one finger typer too haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
I do try ,, but i need to like myself i think, when your in a rut no matter what anyone says about you its hard to climb out "
I get that but there must be some things you like about yourself. Not even necessarily physically, it could be your personality, your intelligence, anything really. Find a couple of things you like about yourself and really focus on them. You’ll soon forget about the negativity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope... I know I am not especially pretty... And I am overweight... But I am probably the happiest I have ever been, with myself and looking forward to hitting 50 in a couple of months "
Well you look great to me
And glad you feel that way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The older I get the more comfortable I am in my own body. My kind is a different thing though. "
Im very very self conscious
I really need a kick up the arse tbh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
I do try ,, but i need to like myself i think, when your in a rut no matter what anyone says about you its hard to climb out
I get that but there must be some things you like about yourself. Not even necessarily physically, it could be your personality, your intelligence, anything really. Find a couple of things you like about yourself and really focus on them. You’ll soon forget about the negativity."
I tend to be a joker
I seem to be able to make people laugh
Maybe thats my only talent |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"The older I get the more comfortable I am in my own body. My kind is a different thing though.
Im very very self conscious
I really need a kick up the arse tbh"
Doh, my mind.
I am becoming less self conscious. It's more about motivation after LD, I have loads I want to do but researching them then starting is the problem. |
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"What is it you have about what you see op?
I just see someone I feel would never appeal to anyone
Used to look ok ( ish) but lately I can’t stand myself "
That implies to me that you're feeling low or even depressed.
Tell me one good thing about your looks. You are not allowed to say "nothing"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it you have about what you see op?
I just see someone I feel would never appeal to anyone
Used to look ok ( ish) but lately I can’t stand myself
That implies to me that you're feeling low or even depressed.
Tell me one good thing about your looks. You are not allowed to say "nothing" "
You could be right, i have suffered in the past with that affliction
Errrr brown eyes, stubble, short brown hair ,, old as hell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
I do try ,, but i need to like myself i think, when your in a rut no matter what anyone says about you its hard to climb out
I get that but there must be some things you like about yourself. Not even necessarily physically, it could be your personality, your intelligence, anything really. Find a couple of things you like about yourself and really focus on them. You’ll soon forget about the negativity.
I tend to be a joker
I seem to be able to make people laugh
Maybe thats my only talent "
That’s a great start. Once you realise people like you because you’re funny you’ll forget about the stuff you don’t like about yourself.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately
I’m not overly enamoured with my reflection at present, either."
Not just me then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people out far too much value in what they see in the mirror. I used to be very self conscious but for some reason that has changed over time.
I know I’m not the best looking man in the world but I also know that I have a lot more than just looks to offer.
Hopefully
I say this quite often to people on similar posts. Stop fixating on what you perceive as your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
I do try ,, but i need to like myself i think, when your in a rut no matter what anyone says about you its hard to climb out
I get that but there must be some things you like about yourself. Not even necessarily physically, it could be your personality, your intelligence, anything really. Find a couple of things you like about yourself and really focus on them. You’ll soon forget about the negativity.
I tend to be a joker
I seem to be able to make people laugh
Maybe thats my only talent
That’s a great start. Once you realise people like you because you’re funny you’ll forget about the stuff you don’t like about yourself.
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"What is it you have about what you see op?
I just see someone I feel would never appeal to anyone
Used to look ok ( ish) but lately I can’t stand myself
That implies to me that you're feeling low or even depressed.
Tell me one good thing about your looks. You are not allowed to say "nothing"
You could be right, i have suffered in the past with that affliction
Errrr brown eyes, stubble, short brown hair ,, old as hell "
I've got 11 years on you!
Brown eyes are lovely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every fucking day mate. I stopped taking selfies I’ve realised, been a month since I felt attractive and that was for one day. "
Been 10 years tbh
But yes i get ye |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it you have about what you see op?
I just see someone I feel would never appeal to anyone
Used to look ok ( ish) but lately I can’t stand myself
That implies to me that you're feeling low or even depressed.
Tell me one good thing about your looks. You are not allowed to say "nothing"
You could be right, i have suffered in the past with that affliction
Errrr brown eyes, stubble, short brown hair ,, old as hell
I've got 11 years on you!
Brown eyes are lovely "
Thanxxxxx , |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"None of us want to age, some age better than others, I think it's easier for women to age than it for men sadly."
Id have thought it was the other wY around |
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately "
Are we talking about hating the fact that we’re getting older - and looking older op? Or have you never liked the view in the mirror?
I’m not thrilled that I’m getting older - each day there are new wrinkles (or seem to be) and a new part of me decides to ache.
I physically can’t run any more - my body just won’t do it - I can kinda hobble fairly quickly but that’s all.
However - sometimes I look in a mirror (usually after some effort with clothes and makeup) and think - ‘yeah - I’ve still got it!’ I still think that - on a good day - I’m relatively attractive for an old fart.
Lately I’ve started hitting the gym again - that helps as I’m slowly beginning to tone up again.
Overall I’d say that whilst I know I’m definitely not gorgeous I haven’t been beaten by the ugly stick either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately "
I've never been happy with my looks but over the years I've learned to just get on with it.
Never done too badly with the women, but that's usually due to my personality than my looks.
Would definitely love to feel like I'm more than a 4/10 though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Limit the time you look in the mirror, I have stopped doing this. The longer you stare into it, the more critical and picky of yourself you become. We all spend far to long trying to change who we are rather than embrace it. Be kind to yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have good days (few) alot of bad days, am no oil painting but i try to be happy with who i am, as not much can do about it, ive joined the gym so hopefully things will get better & ill be fitter & maybe sexy to some ladies, i can but hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately "
Sorry you feel like that. Is this a sudden thought? Or have you always been inclined to this way of thinking? You have to learn to like yourself, just a little at first.
I get it though, I'm 47 and not getting younger, I'm a bit lumpy in places and at one stage it really got me down.
I joined the gym and it's working on my mindset as well as my body. I am a work in progress but you got to keep moving forward in the positive mindset |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately
Sorry you feel like that. Is this a sudden thought? Or have you always been inclined to this way of thinking? You have to learn to like yourself, just a little at first.
I get it though, I'm 47 and not getting younger, I'm a bit lumpy in places and at one stage it really got me down.
I joined the gym and it's working on my mindset as well as my body. I am a work in progress but you got to keep moving forward in the positive mindset "
I know n thanks
Yes ive always been the same really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else look
In the mirror and hate what they see?
Not a violin post just my thoughts lately
Sorry you feel like that. Is this a sudden thought? Or have you always been inclined to this way of thinking? You have to learn to like yourself, just a little at first.
I get it though, I'm 47 and not getting younger, I'm a bit lumpy in places and at one stage it really got me down.
I joined the gym and it's working on my mindset as well as my body. I am a work in progress but you got to keep moving forward in the positive mindset "
Exactly where I am right now as well. I've lost that extra stone I was carrying, eating better, and about to join the gym to tone up again as gravity is starting to take effect! Oh to be 21 again and not have to bother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No im quite surprised how i look better as i age in my opinion im getting hotter but saying that the inside part has become much darker more detached and tired of chaos |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No im quite surprised how i look better as i age in my opinion im getting hotter but saying that the inside part has become much darker more detached and tired of chaos "
Wish i was |
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But honestly, I'm happy with myself. I've even been having good hair days lately, which definitely helps 
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