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over a year ago
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I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.
But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.
What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result? |
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" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.
But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.
What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?"
I'm looking for a new job.
As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it. |
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" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.
But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.
What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?
I'm looking for a new job.
As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it. "
Is that consultancy work? |
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10% off my coffee please.
If price is an issue I can do you 10% less coffee for 10% less.
V
Can I get an Americano?
2.95 please.
Can I get an espresso and some hot water on the side?
1.80 for the espresso. Water is free.
Hardly challenging stuff
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" I watched an interesting clip, suggesting that next time you order a coffee, you should ask for discount.
But this isn't to simply get discount, it's to build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.
What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?
I'm looking for a new job.
As an "experienced hire", I'm expensive. It's hard to stand your ground and name your price. But its ultimately worth it.
Is that consultancy work? "
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" build resilience in learning to be refused, and to be comfortable enough to ask awkward questions.
What's the most awkward question you've asked, which put you out of your comfort zone and what was the result?"
Think I've done enough of that in nightclubs when I was younger! |
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There is value in learning to ask what you want and process / experience things beyond conventional society issues or self-doubt problems. I know a guy who works in a huge place, fancies a woman and has never asked her out, and he’s been in this situation for years. He is a grey guy, but he’s never got to the point of courage. And in reality there is not a terrible consequence if she says no, or yes.
The coffee one is still a bit daft, but to get to the original point - I have asked very personal and direct questions in tense situations, often related to professional scenarios. I think if anything it makes you more relaxed overall, as most things truly don’t matter, in the sense of impact. |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?"
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward? |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward? "
Totally agree.
Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics. |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?
Totally agree.
Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics. "
There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?
Totally agree.
Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics.
There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them"
Back when I was studying (and then subsequently got a job in the same area) in the city I would always pop down to the nearest Pret around 3/4pm, make some conversation, a joke or two, and lo and behold my pastry would be on the house  I learned it was company policy to start giving out certain perishables around late afternoon if they weren't going to sell, but that baristas can pick and choose who they give them to. I made sure to put my friendliest face on and got a TON of free pastry that year (gained a lot of weight too...) |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward?
Totally agree.
Although I doubt Baristas will appreciate the tactics.
There's no way I'd use a captive audience like that to try to develop my skills. It doesn't seem fair on them
Back when I was studying (and then subsequently got a job in the same area) in the city I would always pop down to the nearest Pret around 3/4pm, make some conversation, a joke or two, and lo and behold my pastry would be on the house I learned it was company policy to start giving out certain perishables around late afternoon if they weren't going to sell, but that baristas can pick and choose who they give them to. I made sure to put my friendliest face on and got a TON of free pastry that year (gained a lot of weight too...) "
Haha!
I think there's a difference between being nice to people and demanding discounts they can't give though |
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"I wouldn't want to embarrass the barista. Is it a good thing to get used to asking awkward questions, can you get used to it?
Obviously the clip wasn't providing advice on coffee discount tactics as you know, but I think it's good to challenge our comfort zones and politely say what we want.
How many times have we politely rolled over and accepted something instead of speaking out, even though it may feel awkward? "
I agree we should politely ask for what we want |
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