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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY  |
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over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY "
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's their insecurities, and their shitty upbringing. Good filter to gauge people on, the way they sling words.
Also fuck 'em. You're hot, they're not.  "
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Sometimes it'd be nice if I could filter them before they said the shitty things though. But thank you |
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If they feel the need to bring you down OP then it says a lot more about them than you.
I know it's easier said than done, but fuck what the keyboard warriors say on here, 99% of them will always be a stranger and their opinions mean fuck all xx |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY "
Just ignore the little scroats!! If was younger I would be giving you a lot of positive attention  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It takes a very miserable person to go out their way to drag other's down. I know it's easier said than done but walk away with your head high. Know who you are and your worth, the opinions of strangers on the internet mean nothing |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?"
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people "
I misunderstand negging then |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
I misunderstand negging then "
As with most of these buzz word type things, most do because they are brought into the spot light with a view to get clicks, which means taking the most extreme forms without any nuances |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x"
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
I misunderstand negging then "
Negging is low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances. So still very mean and inappropriate! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people "
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker"  |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker" "
That’s just abuse. It’s not to get your attention. The attention line after is just more abuse
Basically “I said something mean haha, and look you’ve reacted to it so I know it’s hurt you haha again!”
Fuck them |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it "
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour  .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY "
Never ever let a random stranger (or anyone for that matter!!) take away your confidence. It is yours alone and your pics portray a beautiful confident person, continue to own it. My inbox is always open if you need a friend to rant at. You got this! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Fat women like myself have been likened to whales, hippos and baby elephants by men on here.
Insults don't bother me and won't make me pity fuck a man who thinks I should be grateful he's paying me attention. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you."
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed 
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Fat women like myself have been likened to whales, hippos and baby elephants by men on here.
Insults don't bother me and won't make me pity fuck a man who thinks I should be grateful he's paying me attention. "
It says a lot that the men I've slept with have never made any reference to me being "curvy" or whatever and have just seemed to see me as a person they are attracted to. Take from that what you will *shrug* |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight... "
Doesn't matter if you are say slim, big busted, flat chested etc, you will always get someone who is just downright nasty and ignorant x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
Never ever let a random stranger (or anyone for that matter!!) take away your confidence. It is yours alone and your pics portray a beautiful confident person, continue to own it. My inbox is always open if you need a friend to rant at. You got this! "
Thank you
I think it genuinely upsets people that I have the absolute gumption to be somewhat confident and love myself even at this size (I know that's the case with some of my family members ) but I will never understand the need to project that. Like, can you not just be pissed on the inside like everyone else? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Fat women like myself have been likened to whales, hippos and baby elephants by men on here.
Insults don't bother me and won't make me pity fuck a man who thinks I should be grateful he's paying me attention.
It says a lot that the men I've slept with have never made any reference to me being "curvy" or whatever and have just seemed to see me as a person they are attracted to. Take from that what you will *shrug*"
It isn't attractive for someone to treat us like lumps of flesh.
I think some try to make us feel better about our weight, because they think we're sad about being fat.
I know my weight is my responsibility but I've been thin and I didn't need flattery to get me into bed then either.
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The one that always makes me laugh is (before I tightened up my message filters) the guy in his late 60s (so clearly quite a way outside my desired age range) telling me I was "too BBW" for him.
We'd never interacted before that point, he just sent me a message out of the blue to tell me that. Obviously I was heartbroken and cried for a week
I don't really get the mindset either OP, but some people make themselves feel better trying to make others feel worse. As someone has already said, it's not about you, it's about them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker"
That’s just abuse. It’s not to get your attention. The attention line after is just more abuse
Basically “I said something mean haha, and look you’ve reacted to it so I know it’s hurt you haha again!”
Fuck them "
Mate some guys genuinely think it's a compliment. I had a "discussion" once with someone off tinder who told me I had "such a beautiful face but such an ugly body", then proceeded to tell me it was okay because he was still willing to date me and we would work on sorting my body out together  I can send you screenshots, it was genuinely staggering but also kind of hilarious |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker"
That’s just abuse. It’s not to get your attention. The attention line after is just more abuse
Basically “I said something mean haha, and look you’ve reacted to it so I know it’s hurt you haha again!”
Fuck them
Mate some guys genuinely think it's a compliment. I had a "discussion" once with someone off tinder who told me I had "such a beautiful face but such an ugly body", then proceeded to tell me it was okay because he was still willing to date me and we would work on sorting my body out together I can send you screenshots, it was genuinely staggering but also kind of hilarious"
Wow, yeah see it’s so strange to me I struggle to think anyone could say that and be serious! I believe you they are, it’s just so foreign to me.
How is that even a compliment? “I’ll take your “faults” (that he’s deemed a fault himself) and fix you”.
Weird world. And I know people say ignore it whatever, but it’s not always so easy to ignore when it happens often. I face something similar, a physical insult hurled around so much it becomes hard to ignore. Starts to shake whatever confidence you have, you start questioning everyone intentions. It’s rough |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The worse the insult, the more sad they are that they can't have you.  "
I'm not sure how true that is haha I'm aware I'm not that much of a catch I just think maybe they don't see me as someone where it matters if they hurt my feelings |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
Just ignore the little scroats!! If was younger I would be giving you a lot of positive attention "
Haha who doesn't love some positive attention |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
There are so many people that truly hate themselves...and they can't control that hate, and they need to express it in such a way that the world can feel it, so they attack everyone that comes along their way (regardless how they look), and they will find one tiny "imperfection" and use it to such extreme and in such aggressive manner that you can't help but feel the hate they give. Nobody is perfect and we all have "imperfections" that can be used against us by these people (some more visible than others) ...for some it's maybe their weight, for others their age, for me my height.
Eventually you start to care less and less about it...the more you get exposed to it, the faster you learn to deal with it. You got this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are so many people that truly hate themselves...and they can't control that hate, and they need to express it in such a way that the world can feel it, so they attack everyone that comes along their way (regardless how they look), and they will find one tiny "imperfection" and use it to such extreme and in such aggressive manner that you can't help but feel the hate they give. Nobody is perfect and we all have "imperfections" that can be used against us by these people (some more visible than others) ...for some it's maybe their weight, for others their age, for me my height.
Eventually you start to care less and less about it...the more you get exposed to it, the faster you learn to deal with it. You got this! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fat women like myself have been likened to whales, hippos and baby elephants by men on here.
Insults don't bother me and won't make me pity fuck a man who thinks I should be grateful he's paying me attention. "
I thought the baby elephant comment this morning was a compliment. Baby elephants are adorable! 
The pity fuck men are incredibly sad though. Using their tears as wank lube... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The worse the insult, the more sad they are that they can't have you.
I'm not sure how true that is haha I'm aware I'm not that much of a catch I just think maybe they don't see me as someone where it matters if they hurt my feelings "
I doubt they give a shit about anyone's feelings.
I think you're hot!
You are human and hence a trillion times better than them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are so many people that truly hate themselves...and they can't control that hate, and they need to express it in such a way that the world can feel it, so they attack everyone that comes along their way (regardless how they look), and they will find one tiny "imperfection" and use it to such extreme and in such aggressive manner that you can't help but feel the hate they give. Nobody is perfect and we all have "imperfections" that can be used against us by these people (some more visible than others) ...for some it's maybe their weight, for others their age, for me my height.
Eventually you start to care less and less about it...the more you get exposed to it, the faster you learn to deal with it. You got this! "
Eh? What's wrong with your height 
I get what you're saying but tbh I get it off my family as well, and have been for 20 years so it's nothing new. Trust me, the more you hear it the worse it feels. |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker"
That’s just abuse. It’s not to get your attention. The attention line after is just more abuse
Basically “I said something mean haha, and look you’ve reacted to it so I know it’s hurt you haha again!”
Fuck them
Mate some guys genuinely think it's a compliment. I had a "discussion" once with someone off tinder who told me I had "such a beautiful face but such an ugly body", then proceeded to tell me it was okay because he was still willing to date me and we would work on sorting my body out together I can send you screenshots, it was genuinely staggering but also kind of hilarious"
No wonder you block single blokes from messaging you on here but we ain’t all that bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gorgeous photos, OP!
Give yourself an hour.
Then, picture the person as a bowling ball…. And throw them off a cliff.
And move on with your day
Works a treat |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight... "
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies."
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
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Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
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It just shows how looks are equated with worth though doesn't it. Despite what people say |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
I'm not even that kinky either "
He probably could get any woman he wants, he quite clearly wants you. Why on earth wouldn't he?
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"Gorgeous photos, OP!
Give yourself an hour.
Then, picture the person as a bowling ball…. And throw them off a cliff.
And move on with your day
Works a treat "
Hehe thanks, and you're right I'm over it now! 
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
I'm not even that kinky either
He probably could get any woman he wants, he quite clearly wants you. Why on earth wouldn't he?
Would you listen to yourself saying you're embarrassed to exist around someone because they're good looking "
LOL I'm being honest! Have you not ever been all nervous and horribly self-aware around someone because they're so beautiful? |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
I'm not even that kinky either "
I think that about my FwB. I still find it hard to believe that he would go for someone like me x |
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It's easier said than done, but just remember, people like this are generally self loathing and can't take rejection. You hold your head high and keep on being you xx |
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"Awww hugs in my eyes your absolutely perfect and wonderful your a 30 out off 10 your beautiful in ever shape and forum x"
You're always so lovely to me you're like the human equivalent of warm sheets straight from the dryer on a cold night (and then getting into them with freshly shaved legs) x |
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"Awww hugs in my eyes your absolutely perfect and wonderful your a 30 out off 10 your beautiful in ever shape and forum x
You're always so lovely to me you're like the human equivalent of warm sheets straight from the dryer on a cold night (and then getting into them with freshly shaved legs) x"
All smooth, like a dolphin |
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"Awww hugs in my eyes your absolutely perfect and wonderful your a 30 out off 10 your beautiful in ever shape and forum x
You're always so lovely to me you're like the human equivalent of warm sheets straight from the dryer on a cold night (and then getting into them with freshly shaved legs) x"
Your welcome anytime and awww thank you so much means a lot to here that  x |
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"Is that negging?
Nah, it’s just nasty, negging Is way more subtle and not out right mean.
Oh ok but negging is still mean and nasty right?
Not really, although as with anything there will be a lot of people that get it wrong and are just nasty
I don’t think this is even trying to get her attention, it’s just nasty people
To be fair I have questioned it a couple of times and mostly have gotten something along the lines of "well at least I've got your attention". Like the guy who thought telling me I was so fat I'd obliterate his bed would make "a good ice breaker"
That’s just abuse. It’s not to get your attention. The attention line after is just more abuse
Basically “I said something mean haha, and look you’ve reacted to it so I know it’s hurt you haha again!”
Fuck them
Mate some guys genuinely think it's a compliment. I had a "discussion" once with someone off tinder who told me I had "such a beautiful face but such an ugly body", then proceeded to tell me it was okay because he was still willing to date me and we would work on sorting my body out together I can send you screenshots, it was genuinely staggering but also kind of hilarious
Wow, yeah see it’s so strange to me I struggle to think anyone could say that and be serious! I believe you they are, it’s just so foreign to me.
How is that even a compliment? “I’ll take your “faults” (that he’s deemed a fault himself) and fix you”.
Weird world. And I know people say ignore it whatever, but it’s not always so easy to ignore when it happens often. I face something similar, a physical insult hurled around so much it becomes hard to ignore. Starts to shake whatever confidence you have, you start questioning everyone intentions. It’s rough "
Ah I'm sorry you go through this too hard to imagine about what though!
Yeah that exact feeling is the reason I left the first time around and took some time to sort myself out. Just the constant doubting of myself and others and overthinking peoples' intentions because of the few shitty experiences that destroyed all my self-assurance. I seem to have returned to the exact same thing but I did miss the good people that made it worthwhile. Plus the dating apps are absolutely fucking brutal  |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
I'm not even that kinky either
He probably could get any woman he wants, he quite clearly wants you. Why on earth wouldn't he?
Would you listen to yourself saying you're embarrassed to exist around someone because they're good looking
LOL I'm being honest! Have you not ever been all nervous and horribly self-aware around someone because they're so beautiful? "
Yes I have been nervous around someone very good looking. A male friend of our daughter's who I didn't know knocked on the door one night, I was stunned into silence be his beauty. All I could do was stutter hello and point upstairs to her room . I didn't feel embarrassed to exist next to him though
If you think in those terms about yourself and you said you were being honest you will start to think that the insults thrown your way are the truth. They're not. |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
It just shows how looks are equated with worth though doesn't it. Despite what people say"
I've not brought her up to be vain or competitive with other women. The age difference between me and my partners could have something to do with it.
My elder daughter briefly met my long term partner and gave me a silent fucking hell mum and hi five as we passed in the hallway. |
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"People trying to make me feel bad about myself as a means of getting my attention. You'd think I'd be used to it by now but it still wrecks me...
PSA (loud and clear for the people in the back): I'M FAT. I KNOW. I GET IT. I'M NOT GRATEFUL THAT YOU STILL WANT TO FUCK ME ANYWAY
This says EVERYTHING about them and absolutely nothing about your beautiful body x
Thank you, although it does say something about me that I'm still allowing myself to get upset about it
It's ok to be upset by such behaviour .
People are horrible, they target a perceived weakness (in my case it's my age) and then use it in an attempt to manipulate you.
I'm sorry to hear it happens to you too, I would have never assumed
I do wonder sometimes what people would find to pick on if I was slim and they couldn't say anything about my weight...
I'm one of those lucky people who genuinely only care about what the people I love think or say about me. It probably means I have a massive lack of self awareness...
If it wasn't your weight it would be something else. It really is about them and how they feel about themselves, it always is with bullies.
My adult daughter once said to me that men who I've met must have a Shallow Hal syndrome.
She had seen some photos of them and was incredulous that men who looked like them would be interested in me.
She then told me her partner had said to her I must be filthy in bed to get those kinds of men.
I found both to be funny and we did laugh about it, because it's near on impossible to offend me.
Hahaha I was literally JUST thinking this about my current fwb yesterday he is so incredulously good looking and perfect in every way, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even exist around him like, he could very easily get any woman he wants.
I'm not even that kinky either
He probably could get any woman he wants, he quite clearly wants you. Why on earth wouldn't he?
Would you listen to yourself saying you're embarrassed to exist around someone because they're good looking
LOL I'm being honest! Have you not ever been all nervous and horribly self-aware around someone because they're so beautiful? "
I've never been embarrassed or ashamed about my body. Not when I had stretch marks, or tiny boobs because I was very thin, or when I turned into a "fat, doughnut-eating cunt" (my husband's words when I put on 9 stone). I've been undressed by men years younger and much much better looking than him.
But that doesn't matter either.
I don't measure my worth by the men who want sex with me.
Be choosy, be confident, and above all, be yourself.
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If they’re calling you fat it’s because they’re not man enough to cope with you. Curves are sexy, more to explore, totally delicious!!! If they call you fat, say yeah I’m PHAT, pretty hot and tempting!!!!
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Remember that those who put you down are already beneath you. They are obviously unhappy people with issues and I find that very sad.
You're gorgeous OP from what I can see, take no bloody notice if the haters. |
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Absolute playground stuff !! I honestly don’t understand why people have to be nasty and say disgusting things rather than just handle a bit of rejection and politely move on. |
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