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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I seriously over think things at time...by making scenarios in my head as if something might happen as to how I will respond to the situation...it drives me mad & I end up tense & mentally exhausted.
It's like I have to be prepared for it should it happen  |
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I do this, especially if I'm unsure of the situation, but I just look at it as mentally preparing myself, and I don't let it spiral out of control into fantasy.
Oh and mine was first triggered when I became a mum, that's probably important |
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I know this all too well
I was taught a technique many years ago which has helped. When you start to get into a cycle of overthinking, stop and figure out:
* What's the worst that could happen? (And we're all fantastic at this bit of course!)
* What's the best that could happen?
* Given the above, what's the most likely thing that will happen?
I found structuring my thoughts like that stopped my brain spinning off into scenarios which had plots, sub-plots, characters and more!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know this all too well
I was taught a technique many years ago which has helped. When you start to get into a cycle of overthinking, stop and figure out:
* What's the worst that could happen? (And we're all fantastic at this bit of course!)
* What's the best that could happen?
* Given the above, what's the most likely thing that will happen?
I found structuring my thoughts like that stopped my brain spinning off into scenarios which had plots, sub-plots, characters and more!
B x"
Yes I do these techniques..
But sometimes they don't work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s good to think through how you will respond in situations ahead of them. Whenever I have a difficult meeting I do this and have a plan to get the outcome I need."
It's ok if you know something is happening that's different..
It's when you don't know.. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"It’s good to think through how you will respond in situations ahead of them. Whenever I have a difficult meeting I do this and have a plan to get the outcome I need.
It's ok if you know something is happening that's different..
It's when you don't know.."
Can you give an example?Is it anxiety / panic attacks bought on by general future uncertainty ?
Sometimes you might just need a sounding board to bring those conversations out of your head; it works for my daughter , I rarely offer any advice but after a phone call where she forsv90% of the taking she feels loads better
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"I seriously over think things at time...by making scenarios in my head as if something might happen as to how I will respond to the situation...it drives me mad & I end up tense & mentally exhausted.
It's like I have to be prepared for it should it happen "
You need a distraction, a new interest or hobby. It can be difficult leaving past trauma behind you and moving on. Keep thinking positively, think positive, then think it again and again. Dump folk who don't make you happy, choose friends wisely. Sit on that bench near your house that overlooks the valley and chill. When your head goes round in circles stop yourself !. Brainwash yourself into enjoying what is around you, including that divine body of yours (how would Tony know that ?  ) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's not over thinking, it's your body's way of preparing yourself for things that may happen as a protecting factor. Managing anxiety this way isn't actually a bad thing if it helps people in certain situations.
The best thing you can do is try to let go of the things you can't control and try to let things happen as they are meant too. Prepare yourself to a point but some things we need to deal with in the moment as it's happening in real time.
Don't give yourself a hard time about the way your brain fuctions. We all have our coping mechanisms and that's okay. Feel what you need to feel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do this at night, its torturing..overthing everything then look at the clock and bam its 3am.
Ive found taking a diazepram & zapain stop it so i do that now  |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"I seriously over think things at time...by making scenarios in my head as if something might happen as to how I will respond to the situation...it drives me mad & I end up tense & mentally exhausted.
It's like I have to be prepared for it should it happen "
I’m a 9th Dan black belt in pre-emptive thinking and despite that experience, things almost invariably turn out far better than my gloomy presumption.
I’ve got a little better with it in recent years; I still do it but have learned to ignore myself more than I used to.
But yes, it’s very tiring. |
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I do this a lot but what I work hard on now is setting myself 15 minutes worry time every day and when things pop up I forget about them as best I can until my 15 minutes time then I just try and feel my feelings at that time. Sounds nuts but instead of thinking of all the various things I'm anxious about i try and find what is feeling in my body- do I feel sick, tense muscles, butterflies, etc. Then just try and feel them and let go. I have been doing this for a few months and am generally feeling a lot better and more in control |
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"I seriously over think things at time...by making scenarios in my head as if something might happen as to how I will respond to the situation...it drives me mad & I end up tense & mentally exhausted.
It's like I have to be prepared for it should it happen "
I’d seriously recommend Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life, and especially the chapter of chaos and order. Some people are prone to overthinking, and stress and anxiety as a result. The books isn’t a quick fix, self help guide but it does explain a lot of cultural context, neurobiology and findings from his clinical practice to put this issue in context. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This I’m completely guilty of also, my head can race at a million mile an hour, causes crap situations that send it spiralling into a tornado of thoughts, sleep then becomes sporadic and then that makes the days that little more tough.
But I know now with some “normal” thinking where my head is at now and what I want to come.
Definitely not more overthinking from now on though, let go of what’s not supposed to be and embrace what is to be is may be is my new focus  |
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