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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it is very much a decision for the pregnant individual and her partner.
Why do you think it should stop? In what way is it disrespectful to the unborn child? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think whether a woman is pregnant or not determined whether she’s swings or not, it’s her personal choice, she’ll obviously be as careful as she can no matter what the circumstances are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
I agree with this, i know its everyones choice but for the sake of the baby am sure people can put their lifestyle on hold, too many risks involved |
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing. "
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen  |
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing. "
Yep. Very |
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing.
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen "
That’s not what he said. |
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing.
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen
That’s not what he said. "
Oh. I read a than! My bad |
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
It's not something I would do but I defend the rights of those that want to. You are also assuming the woman is a passive receptor to a mans fetish/desire.
How about the men who admit to violating womens consent by stealing their used underwear to use as wank fodder?
What's your take on that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing.
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen "
I think he's saying the Gent is likely to be turned on more by the fact the lady is pregnant, more than if she was not.
Rather than he turned on more then she. |
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing.
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen
I think he's saying the Gent is likely to be turned on more by the fact the lady is pregnant, more than if she was not.
Rather than he turned on more then she."
Yeah. Someone pointed that out further up...I read a than rather than a that. Too late to change it lol. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults..."
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy"
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different "
That’s the same argument used by prolife campaigners…
I do see your point but I do still think that even in those circumstances, it’s still got nothing to do with you or me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
As a man my thoughts are you have no say at all over what a woman wants to do.
I personally took a break but I'd never judge someone else. |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
That’s the same argument used by prolife campaigners…
I do see your point but I do still think that even in those circumstances, it’s still got nothing to do with you or me "
Of course not. We can’t tell people what to do but we can give an opinion when asked. We can agree, disagree, be disgusted etc. That’s allowed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"More specifically the latter months of pregnancy... The concept alone of a man (more importantly not the father) spunking in the close proximity of a baby and who is probably turned on more that the lady is pregnant, is pretty disturbing.
As others have said, each to their own...but I'm curious why you think the man would be more turned on than the pregnant person? Pregnancy hormones are pretty strong and can result in some pretty horny times (from what I hear). It sounds like you think the woman is doing something she doesn't really want to. I think if she's chosen to do it. It might just be because she's horny and wants to, that can happen
That’s not what he said. "
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults..."
And that was my rational adult response. It has nothing to do with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I completely agree with you. I would never dream of playing with anyone but my partner if I was carrying a child. I was so protective over my bump.
But it's her body and her choice. And if she is happy to put her child at risk that is her problem. I'm hugely disgusted by men who get off on someone carrying a child too, there is something very strange about a pregnancy fetish. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
That’s the same argument used by prolife campaigners…
I do see your point but I do still think that even in those circumstances, it’s still got nothing to do with you or me
Of course not. We can’t tell people what to do but we can give an opinion when asked. We can agree, disagree, be disgusted etc. That’s allowed. "
Am I allowed to be disgusted with what you choose to do? Would that be ok?
Cos those shoes… |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
That’s the same argument used by prolife campaigners…
I do see your point but I do still think that even in those circumstances, it’s still got nothing to do with you or me
Of course not. We can’t tell people what to do but we can give an opinion when asked. We can agree, disagree, be disgusted etc. That’s allowed.
Am I allowed to be disgusted with what you choose to do? Would that be ok?
Cos those shoes… "
Of course. I believe we are still allowed (just!) to express our opinions
All my shoes are amazing btw |
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In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one). |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one). "
Well there's no risk of her getting pregnant I suppose....... 
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It's her decision. I can think of a lot of other behaviour which is more dangerous. Swinging should always mean being careful about STDs and sexual health in general, and I don't see that sex in swinging could be more dangerous than sex with a partner, in purely kinetic terms. You might as well ask pregnant women not to take the stairs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one). "
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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" What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, "
I think that's a tenuous additional risk though isn't it? Using that same logic, pregnant women might never leave the house for fear of bad people out there.
For the record, I've never been pregnant, so I think my view probably carries less weight than someone's who has been!
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby"
I can see your points yeah.
I don't know that turning violent is any more likely to happen in a swinging situation than at other times and if people are playing I'd like to think they are taking as many precautions as they can about people's character and also using condoms to lower the risk of STIs.
I suppose there will be some people who are less careful and I can understand people thinking they should be more careful to protect the baby from harm but like someone said above...we wouldn't let pregnant women do anything if they had to avoid all possible risks.
I feel it's too general a situation to pass a blanket opinion, like everything in life there are shades of grey between the extremes.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent,
I think that's a tenuous additional risk though isn't it? Using that same logic, pregnant women might never leave the house for fear of bad people out there.
For the record, I've never been pregnant, so I think my view probably carries less weight than someone's who has been!
Gbat "
Ye never know though, putting not just you and ur unborn child at risk for the sake of a shag, leaving the house is a whole different scenario altogether and thats not what the post was about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby
I can see your points yeah.
I don't know that turning violent is any more likely to happen in a swinging situation than at other times and if people are playing I'd like to think they are taking as many precautions as they can about people's character and also using condoms to lower the risk of STIs.
I suppose there will be some people who are less careful and I can understand people thinking they should be more careful to protect the baby from harm but like someone said above...we wouldn't let pregnant women do anything if they had to avoid all possible risks.
I feel it's too general a situation to pass a blanket opinion, like everything in life there are shades of grey between the extremes.
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I just think for the sake of a few month can you not just put the health and well being of your unborn child 1st |
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby
I can see your points yeah.
I don't know that turning violent is any more likely to happen in a swinging situation than at other times and if people are playing I'd like to think they are taking as many precautions as they can about people's character and also using condoms to lower the risk of STIs.
I suppose there will be some people who are less careful and I can understand people thinking they should be more careful to protect the baby from harm but like someone said above...we wouldn't let pregnant women do anything if they had to avoid all possible risks.
I feel it's too general a situation to pass a blanket opinion, like everything in life there are shades of grey between the extremes.
I just think for the sake of a few month can you not just put the health and well being of your unborn child 1st"
This is where the each to their own comes in. Different people will view the level of risk / benefit in different ways. As it is their decision, I'm not gonna suggest they are doing something right or wrong. |
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So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect? |
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"It's her decision. I can think of a lot of other behaviour which is more dangerous. Swinging should always mean being careful about STDs and sexual health in general, and I don't see that sex in swinging could be more dangerous than sex with a partner, in purely kinetic terms. You might as well ask pregnant women not to take the stairs!"
When I was pregnant last time, people tried to treat me like I was a china doll. It was quite claustrophobic.
PS: We didn't swing then, so my pregnancy + swinging isn't relevant. It wouldn't be my choice to do, but women have autonomy over their bodies and so it is their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is totally the choice of the woman involved, be like saying sex should be banned the moment that test comes back positive! How many men have used the "my wife is pregnant so need to have an affair" card?
If someone wants to play and is safe with what they do then good for them, let them enjoy things.
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect? "
Because condoms aren’t 100% safe, some (I’ve seen it on here) don’t bother with condoms. The risk of STI is higher the more people you have sex with. STIs can affect pregnancy, affect the mother and more importantly have short and long term consequences for the unborn baby.
That is why she is less worthy of my respect. How can you talk about choice if, God forbid, that child was affected for the rest of their life. Where was their choice in that?
To me, no it’s not a risk worth taking and anyone who is willing to take that risk I have no time for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby"
Some people care more about fucking around with strangers than their own kids. Unborn... or in their bedrooms while they invite strangers round for a fuck. |
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby
Some people care more about fucking around with strangers than their own kids. Unborn... or in their bedrooms while they invite strangers round for a fuck. "
It’s quite disturbing really |
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect?
Because condoms aren’t 100% safe, some (I’ve seen it on here) don’t bother with condoms. The risk of STI is higher the more people you have sex with. STIs can affect pregnancy, affect the mother and more importantly have short and long term consequences for the unborn baby.
That is why she is less worthy of my respect. How can you talk about choice if, God forbid, that child was affected for the rest of their life. Where was their choice in that?
To me, no it’s not a risk worth taking and anyone who is willing to take that risk I have no time for. "
This totally |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect?
Because condoms aren’t 100% safe, some (I’ve seen it on here) don’t bother with condoms. The risk of STI is higher the more people you have sex with. STIs can affect pregnancy, affect the mother and more importantly have short and long term consequences for the unborn baby.
That is why she is less worthy of my respect. How can you talk about choice if, God forbid, that child was affected for the rest of their life. Where was their choice in that?
To me, no it’s not a risk worth taking and anyone who is willing to take that risk I have no time for. "
I agree 100% with this
Also the same with people that smoke heavily and take drugs during the pregnancy too, not giving that unborn child a decent start to life at all. |
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Although the feminist in me is a steadfast advocate for a woman's bodily autonomy, I just can't help but think it's grim to do that while pregnant.
But that's only my personal opinion, "you do you". |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I think it's their choice and it's actually nothing to do with anyone else who isn't involved. I've never been pregnant but seeing friends who have been I cannot imagine if I was that swinging would be first and foremost on my mind or even in it at all . But I also won't slate women and couples who carry on swinging as it's not place to.Like I said it's their choice. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect?
Because condoms aren’t 100% safe, some (I’ve seen it on here) don’t bother with condoms. The risk of STI is higher the more people you have sex with. STIs can affect pregnancy, affect the mother and more importantly have short and long term consequences for the unborn baby.
That is why she is less worthy of my respect. How can you talk about choice if, God forbid, that child was affected for the rest of their life. Where was their choice in that?
To me, no it’s not a risk worth taking and anyone who is willing to take that risk I have no time for.
I agree 100% with this
Also the same with people that smoke heavily and take drugs during the pregnancy too, not giving that unborn child a decent start to life at all. "
True….but isn’t a heavily pregnant woman , with a (low tar) cigarette and a can of (non alcoholic) strongbow kinda hot ? No kink shaming hey |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect?
Because condoms aren’t 100% safe, some (I’ve seen it on here) don’t bother with condoms. The risk of STI is higher the more people you have sex with. STIs can affect pregnancy, affect the mother and more importantly have short and long term consequences for the unborn baby.
That is why she is less worthy of my respect. How can you talk about choice if, God forbid, that child was affected for the rest of their life. Where was their choice in that?
To me, no it’s not a risk worth taking and anyone who is willing to take that risk I have no time for.
I agree 100% with this
Also the same with people that smoke heavily and take drugs during the pregnancy too, not giving that unborn child a decent start to life at all.
True….but isn’t a heavily pregnant woman , with a (low tar) cigarette and a can of (non alcoholic) strongbow kinda hot ? No kink shaming hey "
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Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here. |
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here."
I'm not saying nothing, i agree with every word above |
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here."
No it’s not kink shaming. I agree a woman’s body her choice- absolutely. When it’s just her body |
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here."
Thats like comparing apples and pears. Not the same. I never felt judged or belittled whilst pregnant. Having sex whilst pregnant isn't a kink, perfectly normal and natural. But with a stranger with all the inherent risks, that baby has no choice. Just my opinion which we are all entitled to. |
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As if people are comparing leaving the house, using a seat belt vs having sex with multiple strangers. 
Do I judge someone who wears a seatbelt and crosses a road whilst pregnant? No, of course not.
Do I judge a pregnant a woman who has multiple sex partners, partakes in drugs and drinks when pregnant? Yes I do.
If you can't go nine months without a strangers cock inside of you to protect your child then you've got issues.
I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of my opinion, just like the women couldn't care less who risk the health of their unborn child. |
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over a year ago
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here.
No it’s not kink shaming. I agree a woman’s body her choice- absolutely. When it’s just her body "
This again
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How about the men who admit to violating womens consent by stealing their used underwear to use as wank fodder?
What's your take on that?"
Glad you touched on that as i also find it alarming the amount of guys who admit to violating someones privacy and trust by doing this, especially those who say they do it while working in a strange womens home. Shocking. |
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"As if people are comparing leaving the house, using a seat belt vs having sex with multiple strangers.
Do I judge someone who wears a seatbelt and crosses a road whilst pregnant? No, of course not.
Do I judge a pregnant a woman who has multiple sex partners, partakes in drugs and drinks when pregnant? Yes I do.
If you can't go nine months without a strangers cock inside of you to protect your child then you've got issues.
I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of my opinion, just like the women couldn't care less who risk the health of their unborn child. "
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here.
Thats like comparing apples and pears. Not the same. I never felt judged or belittled whilst pregnant. Having sex whilst pregnant isn't a kink, perfectly normal and natural. But with a stranger with all the inherent risks, that baby has no choice. Just my opinion which we are all entitled to."
Yes we're all entitled to an opinion. But the kink shaming point was not meant for the pregnant woman herself, but the men who enjoy sex with pregnant women. |
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here.
Thats like comparing apples and pears. Not the same. I never felt judged or belittled whilst pregnant. Having sex whilst pregnant isn't a kink, perfectly normal and natural. But with a stranger with all the inherent risks, that baby has no choice. Just my opinion which we are all entitled to.
Yes we're all entitled to an opinion. But the kink shaming point was not meant for the pregnant woman herself, but the men who enjoy sex with pregnant women. "
Ah ok, point taken. But there is still another life involved who has no choice so i still stand by my original comment. |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different "
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
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"Her body, her choice.
Pregnant women face enough judgement. Will you belittle every pregnant woman who gets on a plane or puts on a seatbelt? Many situations can put an unborn baby at risk.
And I thought kink shaming was looked down on here.
Thats like comparing apples and pears. Not the same. I never felt judged or belittled whilst pregnant. Having sex whilst pregnant isn't a kink, perfectly normal and natural. But with a stranger with all the inherent risks, that baby has no choice. Just my opinion which we are all entitled to.
Yes we're all entitled to an opinion. But the kink shaming point was not meant for the pregnant woman herself, but the men who enjoy sex with pregnant women. "
Heaven forbid we kink shame the woman when there's a man to direct our disgust at eh?
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr"
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr"
As in continue with pregnancy? In which case no none at all x |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
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Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
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What was it Rachel said?
"No uterus no opinion?"
I personally would play while pregnant nor would I play with a pregnant woman however I don't see how it's anyone's business except the woman and her partners
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
Touch
Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
Mr"
No this is being twisted a bit. I couldn’t give a toss who people have sex with. My issue is the potential risk to the unborn baby. Swinging can be lots of different partners therefore more of a risk. What you’re asking wasn’t the original question. I’m not 100% on what my answer would be to your question therefore I wouldn’t have commented. However I am 100% on my opinion on pregnant women having sex with multiple partners. |
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As said above . A topic chosen to cause argunents. Everyone will have an opinion. Not everyone will agree.
Makes me wonder if it was started because there was a pregnant ladies picture in hotpics... since removed (as i imagine shes seen this thread) |
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"As said above . A topic chosen to cause argunents. Everyone will have an opinion. Not everyone will agree.
Makes me wonder if it was started because there was a pregnant ladies picture in hotpics... since removed (as i imagine shes seen this thread)"
Most topics do invite different opinions. I don’t see anyone arguing on here. As for hot pics I wouldn’t have a clue who was on it. |
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
It’s an interesting thought
Does the baby have a right to say? Can we ask any babies? |
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?
It’s an interesting thought
Does the baby have a right to say? Can we ask any babies? "
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"As said above . A topic chosen to cause argunents. Everyone will have an opinion. Not everyone will agree.
Makes me wonder if it was started because there was a pregnant ladies picture in hotpics... since removed (as i imagine shes seen this thread)"
Not the type of argument that you're eluding to but more of a healthy debate, which I think it has been. |
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It’s falls into when does life start I guess.
If you think life starts at conception then shouldn’t the baby have a say? Can it consent to the dangers involved? Are those dangers realistic enough to consider? What responsibilities does a pregnant mum have?
Is it illegal for her to smoke? Take drugs? Eat unhealthy food?
Sounds like there’s very little black, very little white, and a whole load of grey.
For me, if the risks are minimised I think crack on. If your that worried about the risk to the baby maybe you should campaign to ban pregnant women from being in a car. A baby can’t consent to that and it’s one of the most dangerous things we do |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
Touch
Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
Mr
No this is being twisted a bit. I couldn’t give a toss who people have sex with. My issue is the potential risk to the unborn baby. Swinging can be lots of different partners therefore more of a risk. What you’re asking wasn’t the original question. I’m not 100% on what my answer would be to your question therefore I wouldn’t have commented. However I am 100% on my opinion on pregnant women having sex with multiple partners. "
But swinging doesn't have to involve multiple partners.
I'm definitely not trying to twist your words or have a go at you or anyone else, I replied to you in the first instance because the question I asked was in response to your statement.
I see a situation that lots of people have expressed very definite opinions on that I don't think it's as black and white as is being portrayed. There's a whole world of difference between bareback gangbangs in a woodland carpark with 50 random strangers and a longterm swinging partner for example so even the question in the OP is pretty meaningless without defining what is meant by swinging.
Like many others in the thread I feel it's none of my business. I know that what I feel is ok to do is only an arbitrary point on a wide spectrum of possible behaviors and has no more moral defensibility than another person's point somewhere else on that line.
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What are your thoughts?
It’s an interesting thought
Does the baby have a right to say? Can we ask any babies?
I'm sure if the baby did, it wouldn't want a penis poking against it."
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
Each to their own, I didn't meet while I was pregnant, that was just me but I was totally put off men and that continued afterwards too, so meeting wasn't for me. But I don't see anything wrong with others meeting.
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?
It’s an interesting thought
Does the baby have a right to say? Can we ask any babies?
I'm sure if the baby did, it wouldn't want a penis poking against it.
. Bloody hell how big is your penis! "
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
Touch
Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
Mr
No this is being twisted a bit. I couldn’t give a toss who people have sex with. My issue is the potential risk to the unborn baby. Swinging can be lots of different partners therefore more of a risk. What you’re asking wasn’t the original question. I’m not 100% on what my answer would be to your question therefore I wouldn’t have commented. However I am 100% on my opinion on pregnant women having sex with multiple partners.
But swinging doesn't have to involve multiple partners.
I'm definitely not trying to twist your words or have a go at you or anyone else, I replied to you in the first instance because the question I asked was in response to your statement.
I see a situation that lots of people have expressed very definite opinions on that I don't think it's as black and white as is being portrayed. There's a whole world of difference between bareback gangbangs in a woodland carpark with 50 random strangers and a longterm swinging partner for example so even the question in the OP is pretty meaningless without defining what is meant by swinging.
Like many others in the thread I feel it's none of my business. I know that what I feel is ok to do is only an arbitrary point on a wide spectrum of possible behaviors and has no more moral defensibility than another person's point somewhere else on that line.
Mr"
I’m not saying it is my business though! The op
asked for thoughts/opinions. I gave mine. That’s not me saying to the pregnant woman on my updates every night asking for men that she can’t do that. Why did he say swinging if he met one partner. I think we both know he wasn’t talking about one partner. You asked me other questions which weren’t relevant to the op. Like if a man should have a say in an abortion. I comment on things if I have a strong opinion on or know enough about a subject to hold my own. I’m not 100% on that question so therefore wouldn’t have answered it on a thread.
I can say that if I wanted to swing with multiple partners when I was pregnant then yes my husband would have absolutely had a right to
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
Touch
Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
Mr
No this is being twisted a bit. I couldn’t give a toss who people have sex with. My issue is the potential risk to the unborn baby. Swinging can be lots of different partners therefore more of a risk. What you’re asking wasn’t the original question. I’m not 100% on what my answer would be to your question therefore I wouldn’t have commented. However I am 100% on my opinion on pregnant women having sex with multiple partners.
But swinging doesn't have to involve multiple partners.
I'm definitely not trying to twist your words or have a go at you or anyone else, I replied to you in the first instance because the question I asked was in response to your statement.
I see a situation that lots of people have expressed very definite opinions on that I don't think it's as black and white as is being portrayed. There's a whole world of difference between bareback gangbangs in a woodland carpark with 50 random strangers and a longterm swinging partner for example so even the question in the OP is pretty meaningless without defining what is meant by swinging.
Like many others in the thread I feel it's none of my business. I know that what I feel is ok to do is only an arbitrary point on a wide spectrum of possible behaviors and has no more moral defensibility than another person's point somewhere else on that line.
Mr
I’m not saying it is my business though! The op
asked for thoughts/opinions. I gave mine. That’s not me saying to the pregnant woman on my updates every night asking for men that she can’t do that. Why did he say swinging if he met one partner. I think we both know he wasn’t talking about one partner. You asked me other questions which weren’t relevant to the op. Like if a man should have a say in an abortion. I comment on things if I have a strong opinion on or know enough about a subject to hold my own. I’m not 100% on that question so therefore wouldn’t have answered it on a thread.
I can say that if I wanted to swing with multiple partners when I was pregnant then yes my husband would have absolutely had a right to
have a say in that. "
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"It’s falls into when does life start I guess.
If you think life starts at conception then shouldn’t the baby have a say? Can it consent to the dangers involved? Are those dangers realistic enough to consider? What responsibilities does a pregnant mum have?
Is it illegal for her to smoke? Take drugs? Eat unhealthy food?
Sounds like there’s very little black, very little white, and a whole load of grey.
For me, if the risks are minimised I think crack on. If your that worried about the risk to the baby maybe you should campaign to ban pregnant women from being in a car. A baby can’t consent to that and it’s one of the most dangerous things we do "
O can assure you that there is a great deal of judgment from all sorts of people, about what pregnant women should and should not do. I was criticised heavily for continuing to drink caffeinated tea, for example. Complete strangers think it is acceptable to come up to you in public, to give you unsolicited "advice".
It prepared me well for the unsolicited "advice" I now get as a disabled person |
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"It’s falls into when does life start I guess.
If you think life starts at conception then shouldn’t the baby have a say? Can it consent to the dangers involved? Are those dangers realistic enough to consider? What responsibilities does a pregnant mum have?
Is it illegal for her to smoke? Take drugs? Eat unhealthy food?
Sounds like there’s very little black, very little white, and a whole load of grey.
For me, if the risks are minimised I think crack on. If your that worried about the risk to the baby maybe you should campaign to ban pregnant women from being in a car. A baby can’t consent to that and it’s one of the most dangerous things we do
O can assure you that there is a great deal of judgment from all sorts of people, about what pregnant women should and should not do. I was criticised heavily for continuing to drink caffeinated tea, for example. Complete strangers think it is acceptable to come up to you in public, to give you unsolicited "advice".
It prepared me well for the unsolicited "advice" I now get as a disabled person "
I bet there is, and I don’t think all of it, if any comes from a bad place. Maybe a misinformed place, or an ignorant place. |
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"As said above . A topic chosen to cause argunents. Everyone will have an opinion. Not everyone will agree.
Makes me wonder if it was started because there was a pregnant ladies picture in hotpics... since removed (as i imagine shes seen this thread)"
I hope it wasent because of this thread!  x |
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"It’s falls into when does life start I guess.
If you think life starts at conception then shouldn’t the baby have a say? Can it consent to the dangers involved? Are those dangers realistic enough to consider? What responsibilities does a pregnant mum have?
Is it illegal for her to smoke? Take drugs? Eat unhealthy food?
Sounds like there’s very little black, very little white, and a whole load of grey.
For me, if the risks are minimised I think crack on. If your that worried about the risk to the baby maybe you should campaign to ban pregnant women from being in a car. A baby can’t consent to that and it’s one of the most dangerous things we do
O can assure you that there is a great deal of judgment from all sorts of people, about what pregnant women should and should not do. I was criticised heavily for continuing to drink caffeinated tea, for example. Complete strangers think it is acceptable to come up to you in public, to give you unsolicited "advice".
It prepared me well for the unsolicited "advice" I now get as a disabled person
I bet there is, and I don’t think all of it, if any comes from a bad place. Maybe a misinformed place, or an ignorant place. "
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Each to their own…. It’s her body and free to do what she likes
It’s not for me and I feel it’s disgusting…. I personally don’t agree with it! But that’s my thoughts on it and nothing to do with me! X |
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I wouldn’t play with others while pregnant because I’d feel uncomfortable doing so, I would still post pictures because why not! Haha but I’m sure there are plenty who would, they’re probably just extra careful. |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
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Children including unborn ones are not properly of their parents , not in the U.K. anyway, unlike some cultures when children and women are legally owned by then men.
Children are temporarily entrusted by the state to legal guardians and they may keep them as long as they do a good job of looking after them.
Why people think it’s different for unborn children , they are not owned by mothers or fathers , they are human beings separate from the parents with legal rights to life. |
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"In the interest of understanding other points of view. What risks and issues do people have with pregnant swingers?
I'm just curious what people think is going to happen if a pregnant woman has sex with someone other than her partner (if she has one).
Lots of things, the guy could turn violent, pass on a an sti etc the woman chooses who shes sleeps with but she has an obligation to care for her unborn baby
I can see your points yeah.
I don't know that turning violent is any more likely to happen in a swinging situation than at other times and if people are playing I'd like to think they are taking as many precautions as they can about people's character and also using condoms to lower the risk of STIs.
I suppose there will be some people who are less careful and I can understand people thinking they should be more careful to protect the baby from harm but like someone said above...we wouldn't let pregnant women do anything if they had to avoid all possible risks.
I feel it's too general a situation to pass a blanket opinion, like everything in life there are shades of grey between the extremes.
I just think for the sake of a few month can you not just put the health and well being of your unborn child 1st"
I fail to see how having sex is a danger to your unborn child, yes you said sti's but I would presume the woman would be extra cautious and how many men from here have turned violent during sex with you because none have with me, you're making up reasons to shame women in my opinion.
I would never do it but what other women choose to do is non of my concern |
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect? "
We as individuals also have the right to pass judgement on others compared to our own set of standards. That's how society works. You don't have to be an asshole about it, but to suggest no one should ever have an opinion or a bias is unrealistic and just plain oppressive.
As someone once said, I'm not a homeless serial killer does that mean I'm not allowed to judge a homeless serial killer?
Ridiculous. |
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
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Mostly it's theirs when the questions are about the man's responsibilities and hers when it comes to choosing whether to keep it or not. This appears to be an awkward situation.
Let's say a couple get pregnant and split up and she meets someone new. Does the father of the child have the right to demand she didn't have sex with her new partner? If not then why with a swinging partner? Should she have to prove a level of commitment to a new man before she's allowed sex with him?
Should she abstain from any sex with a new boyfriend? If not then why with a singing partner? What about a long term fuck buddy?
Mr
No this is being twisted a bit. I couldn’t give a toss who people have sex with. My issue is the potential risk to the unborn baby. Swinging can be lots of different partners therefore more of a risk. What you’re asking wasn’t the original question. I’m not 100% on what my answer would be to your question therefore I wouldn’t have commented. However I am 100% on my opinion on pregnant women having sex with multiple partners.
But swinging doesn't have to involve multiple partners.
I'm definitely not trying to twist your words or have a go at you or anyone else, I replied to you in the first instance because the question I asked was in response to your statement.
I see a situation that lots of people have expressed very definite opinions on that I don't think it's as black and white as is being portrayed. There's a whole world of difference between bareback gangbangs in a woodland carpark with 50 random strangers and a longterm swinging partner for example so even the question in the OP is pretty meaningless without defining what is meant by swinging.
Like many others in the thread I feel it's none of my business. I know that what I feel is ok to do is only an arbitrary point on a wide spectrum of possible behaviors and has no more moral defensibility than another person's point somewhere else on that line.
Mr
I’m not saying it is my business though! The op
asked for thoughts/opinions. I gave mine. That’s not me saying to the pregnant woman on my updates every night asking for men that she can’t do that. Why did he say swinging if he met one partner. I think we both know he wasn’t talking about one partner. You asked me other questions which weren’t relevant to the op. Like if a man should have a say in an abortion. I comment on things if I have a strong opinion on or know enough about a subject to hold my own. I’m not 100% on that question so therefore wouldn’t have answered it on a thread.
I can say that if I wanted to swing with multiple partners when I was pregnant then yes my husband would have absolutely had a right to
have a say in that. "
I feel like I'm annoying you and that isn't my intention. I didn't say you thought it was your business, only that my opinion on the subject is that it isn't mine - and this wasn't a dig at you. You have given your opinion on how you feel about it and that is mine, I totally respect that you feel differently even if you wouldn't express it anywhere other than here.
The OP simply said "pause their swinger lifestyle" so I disagree with your comment "we both know he wasn't talking about one partner" a swinger lifestyle means lots of things to lots of people.
Instead of asking rhetorical questions which I think are coming across as me expecting you to have answers, I'll try a different approach.
I'm a little uncertain of exactly where the OP stands, he seems to be one of those men with the strange idea that sex while pregnant is harmful to the baby (he talks about poking it with a cock and getting sperm on it etc, if these are what he believes he has quite a loose grasp of biological facts) so I'll start by saying this is nonsense. Sex with your partner is totally fine, it doesn't have any ill effect on a baby. At the other end of the spectrum I would agree that a gang bang down the woods with strangers is (for me) too big a risk for the baby's health. In between there's a huge range of possible behavoir. For example, people in poly relationships - I'm happy about them having sex while pregnant so I can't see any reason to differentiate between that and a long term trusted FB, so why not two? Three? Im not sure myself where I would draw the line. All I can say is somewhere between a couple of trusted partners and a BB gang bang is where I think is acceptable but, and I quote, "swinging lifestyle" falls either side of my line so I cannot say I believe it's wrong.
My comments above are not aimed at you, they are for the whole thread/ debate.
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"I think it's got nothing to do with you.
This is a place on here for discussion is it not? And as far as I was aware we're all rational adults...
It is a place for discussion but why do you want to discuss it, OP?
You stated yourself that it will raise arguments, so why are you trying to start them?
Making and passing judgement on what a woman does with her body is sooo last patriarchy
I did think that to be fair. Why post this thread but he did so I commented. I don’t think it comes under the same umbrella as “what a woman chooses to do with her body”. It’s not just her body, there is another body involved in this, there is also the father of this child who I believe has every right to have a say on it too.
Totally different
Do you believe the father of the child should have a say in whether a woman keeps her baby? Genuine question.
Mr
Her baby? Or their baby?
Difficult one that as depends on the situation. If she didn’t know who he was then that would be a bit difficult wouldn’t it.
Children including unborn ones are not properly of their parents , not in the U.K. anyway, unlike some cultures when children and women are legally owned by then men.
Children are temporarily entrusted by the state to legal guardians and they may keep them as long as they do a good job of looking after them.
Why people think it’s different for unborn children , they are not owned by mothers or fathers , they are human beings separate from the parents with legal rights to life."
Pretty sure no one mentioned owning anything, that would take a rather bizarre interpretation of English to read into the sentence above. Using your own logic, your reply means the state owns children. I would refer to my mum as my mum but I don't think I own her
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"So much judgement on this topic. At the end of the day it is her choice. If condoms are used there is no more risk to the mother or the child than there would be if she was having sex with her own partner.
If she is happy to play while pregnant then that is her choice.
As for those finding it disgusting and saying you don't respect a woman that would do it my question is why??
She has as much right to swing while pregnant as she does when she isn't she is doing nothing wrong. Why does pregnancy make it disgusting and make her less worthy of respect?
We as individuals also have the right to pass judgement on others compared to our own set of standards. That's how society works. You don't have to be an asshole about it, but to suggest no one should ever have an opinion or a bias is unrealistic and just plain oppressive.
As someone once said, I'm not a homeless serial killer does that mean I'm not allowed to judge a homeless serial killer?
Ridiculous."
More people should actually say what they think, rather than jumping on a favouritism bandwagon, or simply cowering away from any type of personal opinion.
It would balance out a dangerous trait from a minority of people, who try to close down alternate opinions to theirs, but expect to be listened to as well.
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It's your life, your body, not my place to say. Personally I have no morale or logical objections. I'm not overly screamish and it a perfectly natural state. For me a woman being pregnant or not doesn't matter (bar some practical and safety considerations). It's the woman I'm interested in being with not her physical circumstances at the time. |
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I wouldn’t. I was hugely protective of my bumps.
Plus, although I had the raging horn (and wasn’t getting any help with that), I was so hormonal I’d probably burst into tears…a bit awks with a stranger |
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"I wouldn’t. I was hugely protective of my bumps.
Plus, although I had the raging horn (and wasn’t getting any help with that), I was so hormonal I’d probably burst into tears…a bit awks with a stranger "
Very awkward with a stranger |
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"I'm sure it'll be a subject that'll raise a few arguments... Call me old fashioned but I think once a lady becomes pregnant, the respect toward the baby should pause their swinger lifestyle.
What are your thoughts?"
I'm with you on this.
Get ready for the hate mail's. |
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If everyone is happy, why not?
I know some women get especially horny while pregnant. Obviously there is a point during pregnancy it becomes too difficult for anything too wild. |
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"None of your business what a woman does with her body."
I agree.
I also think if women can opt out of being a parent then men should be allowed the same choice. |
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The simple aswer to everything seems to be " people can choose to do what they want" , true. However just because they make a choice doesn't mean it's the right one. I'm not necessarily talking about swinging while pregnant but I just feel like people get away with wrong choices just because 'they're free to make their choices'.
In regards to swinging while pregnant, pregnacy is an intimate thing between partners, to me a woman having sex with other men during such a intimate time isn't something i agree with. |
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This is a pretty outrageous standpoint. Think about people who think your lifestyle is ‘disgusting’ and have no respect for your sexual habits. How do you feel about them and their attitude? You’re now behaving like them.
It’s narrow minded at best.
This whole thread is a bit of a tragedy. Talk about inclusivity and kink shaming.
Oh and it’s blindingly obvious it’s mostly the people without kids doing the judging… |
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Posted one message already, but ‘safety concerns’ and ‘for the health of the baby’ - read a f***ing book, and keep your uneducated, narrow minded opinions to yourselves. |
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"Posted one message already, but ‘safety concerns’ and ‘for the health of the baby’ - read a f***ing book, and keep your uneducated, narrow minded opinions to yourselves."
Read a what? |
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Each to their own, but it's a big assumption to make that a pregnant lady would still be with the father. I've a friend who had been in a relationship for a number of years before falling pregnant. Once they found out, her partner couldn't get away quick enough |
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From the NHS:
"It's perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy unless your doctor or midwife has told you not to.
Having sex will not hurt your baby. A penis or penetrative sex toy cannot penetrate beyond your vagina, and the baby cannot tell what's going on."
So the safety of the unborn child issue would appear to be a non starter (STI exception accepted) |
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