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The longer you’ve been on fab the more easier it is for you to meet people ??
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"I think in a way it’s the opposite OP
Fresh meat and all that 
BG
Yep. You've not turned down people, they've not turned down you etc. The amount of messages new women get! "
Yeah I can understand that the ratio on here is crazy. |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times"
Understood completely buddy it’s how I put myself out there. |
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"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times"
I agree. There is a lot of noise so sometimes it's a case of ceiving through messages with a lot of patience |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times
I agree. There is a lot of noise so sometimes it's a case of ceiving through messages with a lot of patience"
Yeah I can see that the ratio between men and women is  . |
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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago
Market Harborough/ Kettering |
It was much easier to meet people on here when I first joined many moons ago. Not sure if there were more genuine people on here then or just more idiots now but it's a lot harder plus I'm getting older and worn out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Naaa im not having that dude
Just a general thought ? "
i think you either know how to click with people or have to learn some can do it instantly some need a bit of practice and some need much much more i think the trick is to treat being online like your having a laugh at work or with mates with no clothes on  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times"
This. And I think you hone what and who you're looking for. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times"
I would say this too. It's just you'll quickly learn to see what people you get along with and to take rejection on the chin though |
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"I think in a way it’s the opposite OP
Fresh meat and all that
BG
Yep. You've not turned down people, they've not turned down you etc. The amount of messages new women get! "
Exactly a lot is instant attraction through intrigue and/or mystery which diminishing over time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think in a way it’s the opposite OP
Fresh meat and all that
BG
Yep. You've not turned down people, they've not turned down you etc. The amount of messages new women get!
Exactly a lot is instant attraction through intrigue and/or mystery which diminishing over time"
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This. If people don’t meet quickly, i asume with history, the spark and electric attraction fizzles out. They move onto other ‘new’ toy.
Not me, I’m patient - gives me more time to plan my attack  |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times
This. And I think you hone what and who you're looking for. "
What do you mean ??? |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times
I would say this too. It's just you'll quickly learn to see what people you get along with and to take rejection on the chin though "
Always, just thinking because of my age or I don’t know could be doing something wrong ? But it’s just fab in general. I’ve managing to meet quite a lot of people now which makes it easier to understand how this world is. |
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"The longer I've been on, the less I meet because you learn to see through the bullshit x"
Exactly this you think people are super kind and awesome but they end up being full of themselves and liars. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion. The length of time on fab especially with 0 'met in person' verifications can also go against you as it could be perceived as to 'why this person hasn't had anything yet?' |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I find the longer I'm on here the less I want to meet others if I'm honest. Too much background bullshite and disingenuous talk goes on and I get less tolerant the longer I'm on here. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times
This. And I think you hone what and who you're looking for.
What do you mean ??? "
It's like being a kid in a sweet shop for the first time. You see all the glorious sweet things and want to try them all.
But you soon realise that you can't, and that you actually might not really want to try them all, because some just don't have the appeal you thought when you were blinded by the quantity.
So you figure out that you want to try either...
All that you can over whatever timescale you choose.
A few, hoping to find some you really like and will go back to time and again.
One or two, because you find they get better the more you have.
Just one. Because that's all you actually wanted.
And maybe you'll see if that one, or one or two, work well with some others now and again.
You figure it out. But it takes time. |
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"The longer I've been on, the less I meet because you learn to see through the bullshit x
Exactly this you think people are super kind and awesome but they end up being full of themselves and liars. "
 so true x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think that's necessarily true OP. I believe that with time you learn a great deal about how you communicate, portray yourself, and gain further understanding of the swinging lifestyle.
For many people the experiences they have here will differ from good to bad as is with many different things in life.
Let me give some context with a real life example relevant to me...I am a keen runner but that does not mean that the longer I keep running the same route at the same pace that I will improve unless I make some adjustments to see if I have improved.
This is also true for Fab, my profile gets tweaked occasionally, my filters get amended, my wants & limits change, my pics get updated (although not nearly as much as I would like), and more importantly I learn something different about myself because I change.
Good things come to those who put in the great work, my successes on fab have been because I too put in equal effort to make them positive experiences. Now that maybe because I have been here for a while or more probably because that's the kind of person I am.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If anything it gets much much harder, unfortunately. Had a few meets early on, and now can't get a message or a meet to save my life. Haha "
How strange  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
The longer you are here it should get easier or you’re not learning and growing.
I think negative attitude, reduced patience & tolerance can get in the way, like if you’ve been in a job too long and start to go backwards you need a change or a break |
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"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times"
You also spot the fakes more easily, so don’t waste your time on them |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Can't be true.
Otherwise some people would just hide their profiles when they fancied a break instead of deleting and starting a fresh one under an entirely new identity..... 
Unless there's another reason they destroy all previous evidence of existence of course.
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"The longer I've been on, the less I meet because you learn to see through the bullshit x"
Guess that’s what ruins it for the best of us but hopefully we get filtered out through the nonsense  |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"The longer I've been on, the less I meet because you learn to see through the bullshit x
Exactly this you think people are super kind and awesome but they end up being full of themselves and liars. "
Why taking time is key in all of this I guess |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"I find the longer I'm on here the less I want to meet others if I'm honest. Too much background bullshite and disingenuous talk goes on and I get less tolerant the longer I'm on here. "
Is that why clubs and socials meets are so much better ?? |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No.
You just learn the best way to approach people and how to ‘sell’ yourself.
There’s still a lot of rejection and it’s still hard work at times
This. And I think you hone what and who you're looking for.
What do you mean ???
It's like being a kid in a sweet shop for the first time. You see all the glorious sweet things and want to try them all.
But you soon realise that you can't, and that you actually might not really want to try them all, because some just don't have the appeal you thought when you were blinded by the quantity.
So you figure out that you want to try either...
All that you can over whatever timescale you choose.
A few, hoping to find some you really like and will go back to time and again.
One or two, because you find they get better the more you have.
Just one. Because that's all you actually wanted.
And maybe you'll see if that one, or one or two, work well with some others now and again.
You figure it out. But it takes time."
The best way to put it bless you |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"How you use fab and present yourself is what gets you meets.
But actually getting out there to socials and clubs also helps. Not the amount of time you’ve been here. "
Yeah that’s why I’ve got myself out there and thanks to a couple of ladies I’ve got my self into some meets at some clubs and hopefully it goes from there. Still don’t get why I’m not verified though |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"In my opinion. The length of time on fab especially with 0 'met in person' verifications can also go against you as it could be perceived as to 'why this person hasn't had anything yet?' "
Completely get that but I guess that comes with time ?? |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"It's nice to see and share a thread with people who, like me have been here, seen that and erm done here.
Hello OGs!
Basically why I put this thread out there
You've been here before? "
Clearly not as I thought meets were a thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet people off here?
I know right, apparently its a thing these day's
Jesus! I wish someone had told me years ago!
I've been doing it all wrong! "
Well apparently self gratification is less traumatic so not totally wrong. |
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"The longer you’ve been on fab the more easier it is for you to meet people ??"
Hell no, this site is much worse than it was some 8 years ago when we first joined. Full of fakes and timewasters now, one letdown after another... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah too many delusional women. I littlerally have no problem on tinder. I think either fakes profiles or truly delusional women. Point incase I fucked a chick of here on tinder. No on fab a sex site, fucked after a drink tinder. Women hold the power, rude hungry men don't help. Though understandable from some of these women reactions or no reaction. Thing is it's a sex site. And the women are ruining it slyly. Possibly alot of undercover insecurities and/or mental health. It's just sex aslong as it's safe and people are respectful. Most of these women ain't! |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Nah too many delusional women. I littlerally have no problem on tinder. I think either fakes profiles or truly delusional women. Point incase I fucked a chick of here on tinder. No on fab a sex site, fucked after a drink tinder. Women hold the power, rude hungry men don't help. Though understandable from some of these women reactions or no reaction. Thing is it's a sex site. And the women are ruining it slyly. Possibly alot of undercover insecurities and/or mental health. It's just sex aslong as it's safe and people are respectful. Most of these women ain't! "
Wanker women!!!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Nah too many delusional women. I littlerally have no problem on tinder. I think either fakes profiles or truly delusional women. Point incase I fucked a chick of here on tinder. No on fab a sex site, fucked after a drink tinder. Women hold the power, rude hungry men don't help. Though understandable from some of these women reactions or no reaction. Thing is it's a sex site. And the women are ruining it slyly. Possibly alot of undercover insecurities and/or mental health. It's just sex aslong as it's safe and people are respectful. Most of these women ain't! "
If you're doing well on Tinder then why bother with Fab?
If you really believe Fab is a sex site then you probably think Tinder is a dating site too. Like POF used to be of course. Full of people looking for genuine LTR's.......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is a sex site (swingers). I mean your just highlighting your delusion. Tinder is a dating site. Litterally I know couples off tinder and people who’ve got married. And exactly what would YOU call fab then? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Fab is a sex site (swingers). I mean your just highlighting your delusion. Tinder is a dating site. Litterally I know couples off tinder and people who’ve got married. And exactly what would YOU call fab then?"
Well the clue is in the name of course.....
There are probably as many people on Tinder looking for nothing more than casual sex as there are on Fab.
Which means there's as many using both sites for potentially the wrong reasons.
Swinging isn't just about casual sex. Neither is dating.
And 'literally' I know couples who have met and married via Fab, So what?
Us included.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How you use fab and present yourself is what gets you meets.
But actually getting out there to socials and clubs also helps. Not the amount of time you’ve been here. "
Exactly this. I use 'Meets, Events' to initiate a meet or bump into other Fab users at clubs and parties. I've had several meets following on from those encounters.
I'm pretty new here but I'm proactive which results in meets, I believe. |
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"How you use fab and present yourself is what gets you meets.
But actually getting out there to socials and clubs also helps. Not the amount of time you’ve been here.
Exactly this. I use 'Meets, Events' to initiate a meet or bump into other Fab users at clubs and parties. I've had several meets following on from those encounters.
I'm pretty new here but I'm proactive which results in meets, I believe."
You obviously live in the club scene now then, and gave up on Fab completely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it is
It give you time to filter out all the fantasies
It will give you time to filter out
People who aren’t attracted to you or sexually compatible with
And you be left with a search off people who will meet you |
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Been on here around 10yrs on and off...
Made some good friends from the site,sadly some have left.
But it`s strange I could go to the pub and think to myself,I could try and get lucky.But then would be thinking nah can just go on fab.
But then I go on fab and turn down meets,it just don`t excite me in a sexual way.
forums and cams |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely not. Bring on fab has totally killed my sex drive dead."
It was the opposite for me. My hunger for sex again was brought back from the brink of dying off from talking to a certain woman.
Her sexy mind matched mine and BOOM. I realised I did have a pulse … I still need mouth to mouth every now and then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely not. Bring on fab has totally killed my sex drive dead.
Really? Because you get bored or have had too much?
A (female)"
Noooo, just over exposure to the site of dicks, the repetitive sex talk that them becomes mundane.
None of it excites anymore because it’s all so saturated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. The longer I am on it, the more picky I become
Picky = preferences.
Right?
Yes. As my likes evolve the search for like-minded souls becomes more difficult "
The problem is. Likeminded doesn’t just mean we all like sex does it?
And that’s what some think it means, you can’t believe how I can feel when someone can match my mind and keep up with me or take everything I have.
Those that I’m lucky to connect with amaze me, and they have a loyal friend, forget that we met in a sex website forum. That why i stick around, there’s some cool people that will get each other. |
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