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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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God I feel like I haven’t done one of these in AGES!
Anyway, Im back again asking for your thoughts and pick your brain
Today I wanna touch on sex and the big O!
So, when you have sex with ladies, how much pressure do you feel to give her an orgasm?
Do you crumble from pressure? Also what if they don’t orgasm?
Would you be disappointed? And do you feel you can tell when an orgasm is faked?
Personally, I always like to tell my men, that regardless, I enjoy the sensation of being fucked. So I always perceived an orgasm as the cherry on top. Rather than the all end all. But for me, being penetrated feels amazing and that’s enough of a sensation. And guys are cool with that.
I’ve had this discussion with some of my girl friends and some even said “what’s the point of having sex if they can’t make me cum”
Which I didn’t totally agree and thought it was harsh. Sex can be amazing regardless
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I can’t always orgasm and still enjoy it. Knowing my partner stresses about that makes the sex worse for me. Orgasm is part of the journey, not the sole goal.
I treat women the same way. So no pressure on me. A great partner will direct me if she needs/wants certain things to help her cum. If she doesn’t, that’s on her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can’t always orgasm and still enjoy it. Knowing my partner stresses about that makes the sex worse for me. Orgasm is part of the journey, not the sole goal.
I treat women the same way. So no pressure on me. A great partner will direct me if she needs/wants certain things to help her cum. If she doesn’t, that’s on her "
Makes sense tho it seems like there’s this pressure from both sides.
Tho I always perceived it a bit different as in, I think (maybe?) a guy might find it easier to orgasm… I’m a bit gutted if I don’t make a guy cum. It happened maybe 2-3 times and it was cos of particular circumstances… (like too much to drink etc ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i tend to hunt multiples so would feel iv failed if i dont hit the target i set myself as iv not excited her mind enough to get it luckily iv rarely had much problem and if my cock ain't getting it done the combo of my hands eyes and voice will it wouldn't be a bad mark against them tho and it doesn't mean iv not had a good time im just very self critical and expect the best from myself its my nature |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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I feel that there's always pressure on the guy to make the woman orgasm. It takes a female longer to climax than it does a man so if I'm not hitting the right spot, I'd like her to direct me to where I should be hitting. Most guys will say they know if she's faking an orgasm but females have been doing it for ages just to make the guy feel good about himself. They've said before that it doesn't matter how big his cock is, but when he's not near they say something completely different...and if that's the case why do so many women on here only want to meet a guy who is 8inches plus? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m similar. The whole sexual experience is wonderful. The big O is a bonus and usually only happens after more than one meet. I don’t like it when my partner puts pressure on themselves to make me come. But similarly, I feel like somewhat of a failure if they don’t. Probably because (generally speaking) it’s a lot easier for men to orgasm, and then I wonder if I’m just not doing it for them. I don’t make a big deal out of it though. If everyone has had fun, great. I usually lick my insecure wounds privately, rather than bringing it to their door to deal with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m similar. The whole sexual experience is wonderful. The big O is a bonus and usually only happens after more than one meet. I don’t like it when my partner puts pressure on themselves to make me come. But similarly, I feel like somewhat of a failure if they don’t. Probably because (generally speaking) it’s a lot easier for men to orgasm, and then I wonder if I’m just not doing it for them. I don’t make a big deal out of it though. If everyone has had fun, great. I usually lick my insecure wounds privately, rather than bringing it to their door to deal with. "
Omg totes!!
I felt crap about myself when I didn’t make the cum but then it was to do with what they took that didn’t help. But I felt not sexy enough or good enough  it’s fucked up
But I also came to conclusion that sometimes sex can feel amazing even with no orgasm so x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m similar. The whole sexual experience is wonderful. The big O is a bonus and usually only happens after more than one meet. I don’t like it when my partner puts pressure on themselves to make me come. But similarly, I feel like somewhat of a failure if they don’t. Probably because (generally speaking) it’s a lot easier for men to orgasm, and then I wonder if I’m just not doing it for them. I don’t make a big deal out of it though. If everyone has had fun, great. I usually lick my insecure wounds privately, rather than bringing it to their door to deal with.
Omg totes!!
I felt crap about myself when I didn’t make the cum but then it was to do with what they took that didn’t help. But I felt not sexy enough or good enough it’s fucked up
But I also came to conclusion that sometimes sex can feel amazing even with no orgasm so x "
Exactly. My knee jerk response is usually tempered with my logic. Sex feels good even without orgasms. If it’s like that for me, surely to GOD it must be like that for them  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things "
Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it
Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm  |
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I could say I've never failed to make anyone orgasm but women lie
I don't feel pressure, nobody has ever looked dissapointed or not wanted to sleep with me again and I love sex, I just enjoy the moment and pay attention to their body language and sounds they're making to work out if they're enjoying what I'm doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If what I'm doing isnt working I'll ask what does not all women are the same so if exploring and trying lots of things hasn't worked then I'd ask plus I find that part fun too been shown where n pressure to use etc |
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things
Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it
Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm "
So do you prefer when a guy who makes a lot of noise during sex to as can be a sign if he will orgasm to? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things
Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it
Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm
So do you prefer when a guy who makes a lot of noise during sex to as can be a sign if he will orgasm to?"
I do love a noisy guy but not because it’s a sign of him enjoying himself. Just that it’s horny to hear a guy loving my body so much and how it feels x it’s a turn on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that there's always pressure on the guy to make the woman orgasm. It takes a female longer to climax than it does a man so if I'm not hitting the right spot, I'd like her to direct me to where I should be hitting. Most guys will say they know if she's faking an orgasm but females have been doing it for ages just to make the guy feel good about himself. They've said before that it doesn't matter how big his cock is, but when he's not near they say something completely different...and if that's the case why do so many women on here only want to meet a guy who is 8inches plus?"
If your flicking the clit right she’d cum in no time at all, it’s always taken me longer to cum than the female involved |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m not a man last time I checked but I think it’s fine not to orgasm as long as you’ve had fun together. Orgasms are just a cherry on top kinda things
Not to be hypocritical but I assume that I’ll make the guy cum by the end of it
Excluding particular circumstances that can prevent him to orgasm "
Nope I don’t feel that way anymore. I used to but felt it sometimes added pressure to the situation and everyone has off days sometimes. Plus I met a guy who didn’t always cum when he had sex and at first it felt odd not achieving that goal but we talked about it and he made me realise that it’s still great fun even if he didn’t orgasm all the time. I felt less pressured to achieve them too which actually helped me reach more. Minds and bodies are weird things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that there's always pressure on the guy to make the woman orgasm. It takes a female longer to climax than it does a man so if I'm not hitting the right spot, I'd like her to direct me to where I should be hitting. Most guys will say they know if she's faking an orgasm but females have been doing it for ages just to make the guy feel good about himself. They've said before that it doesn't matter how big his cock is, but when he's not near they say something completely different...and if that's the case why do so many women on here only want to meet a guy who is 8inches plus?
If your flicking the clit right she’d cum in no time at all, it’s always taken me longer to cum than the female involved "
What is this clit you speak of?  |
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"God I feel like I haven’t done one of these in AGES!
Anyway, Im back again asking for your thoughts and pick your brain
Today I wanna touch on sex and the big O!
So, when you have sex with ladies, how much pressure do you feel to give her an orgasm?
Do you crumble from pressure? Also what if they don’t orgasm?
Would you be disappointed? And do you feel you can tell when an orgasm is faked?
Personally, I always like to tell my men, that regardless, I enjoy the sensation of being fucked. So I always perceived an orgasm as the cherry on top. Rather than the all end all. But for me, being penetrated feels amazing and that’s enough of a sensation. And guys are cool with that.
I’ve had this discussion with some of my girl friends and some even said “what’s the point of having sex if they can’t make me cum”
Which I didn’t totally agree and thought it was harsh. Sex can be amazing regardless
Anyway, guys.. on the set . Go! "
I ALWAYS try to ensure the lady has at least one orgasm during an encounter. Nothing like getting pleasure from giving... Oh my god when she orgasms or squirts while you're fucking !!, the best (next to when you're giving her oral of course) |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I don’t feel any pressure to orgasm or give an orgasm,,it almost always happens for both, several times, but sometimes it just isn’t to be and it doesn’t bother me if the sex and company is good thats more than enough.
Some women who don’t orgasm easily will subtly let you know beforehand , almost managing your disappointment in them , it makes me a bit sad like they been hurt by guys reactions in the past. Makes me even more patient and understanding but not determined, determination is often just the same as pressure.
Some women , usually younger less experienced, are obsessed with giving you multiple orgasms, like they are so hot you should just squirt every 100 strokes , it’s very tedious continually being asked have you come yet, why not, what am I doing wrong etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t feel any pressure to orgasm or give an orgasm,,it almost always happens for both, several times, but sometimes it just isn’t to be and it doesn’t bother me if the sex and company is good thats more than enough.
Some women who don’t orgasm easily will subtly let you know beforehand , almost managing your disappointment in them , it makes me a bit sad like they been hurt by guys reactions in the past. Makes me even more patient and understanding but not determined, determination is often just the same as pressure.
Some women , usually younger less experienced, are obsessed with giving you multiple orgasms, like they are so hot you should just squirt every 100 strokes , it’s very tedious continually being asked have you come yet, why not, what am I doing wrong etc "
I do always warn a guy that I struggle with the big O, so I get it. But I want to let him know that sex is amazing regardless so there’s no pressure on him ! X good sex is amazing for me |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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Sorry I kinda agree with your girlfriends, especially if it is a monogamous relationship and she only has sex with one man ...regardless of how good the sex act is, if there is no orgasm, it will become frustrating after a while. If I can't make a woman orgasm (by any means- penetration/oral/fingers/toys) I simply think we are not sexually compatible.
But I do think there is more pressure on men when it comes to sexual performance (just my opinion). I will always ask a woman after sex, how many times she had orgasmed (and I expect an honest answer) - if the answer is none, I would be gutted...if the answer
is once, that is still very much a disappointment for me  ...if the answer is twice, I think to myself I need to do better...if the answer is 3 times, that's acceptable |
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I don't feel stressed about making a lady cum but I do like to know she has enjoyed the whole experience; even if she does not cum. However if she does cum then that is the ultimate reward; although I never want her to pretend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't let it stress me out but I do ask if they'd like me to help get them to their 'happy place' if they haven't got there already. I feel it's important that both get what they desire from the occasion regardless of what that may or may not be  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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If I'm with someone for the first time, then I don't feel as much pressure - we're both exploring and that's part of the fun.
At those times, I feel like we're both responsible for both our pleasure. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Sorry I kinda agree with your girlfriends, especially if it is a monogamous relationship and she only has sex with one man ...regardless of how good the sex act is, if there is no orgasm, it will become frustrating after a while. If I can't make a woman orgasm (by any means- penetration/oral/fingers/toys) I simply think we are not sexually compatible.
But I do think there is more pressure on men when it comes to sexual performance (just my opinion). I will always ask a woman after sex, how many times she had orgasmed (and I expect an honest answer) - if the answer is none, I would be gutted...if the answer
is once, that is still very much a disappointment for me ...if the answer is twice, I think to myself I need to do better...if the answer is 3 times, that's acceptable "
If you need to ask, the number is probably zero |
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We had been together a few months when my gf at the time, admitted to always faking it. I was quite inexperienced and hadn't realised.
Although angry at first, it started me off wanting to know about all her previous partners and what they had been like. |
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Sometimes you can have the best time, be incredibly turned on and in the zone but that orgasm isn’t going to happen, not even if I tried for ages myself, and if I can’t make it happen for me then nobody else stands a chance. So don’t stress out it’s normal. |
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I dont feel pressure but it is definitely a thought when having sex
If it doesnt then yes i feel a little disappointed but know that in most occasions they still would have had a very good time anyway |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry I kinda agree with your girlfriends, especially if it is a monogamous relationship and she only has sex with one man ...regardless of how good the sex act is, if there is no orgasm, it will become frustrating after a while. If I can't make a woman orgasm (by any means- penetration/oral/fingers/toys) I simply think we are not sexually compatible.
But I do think there is more pressure on men when it comes to sexual performance (just my opinion). I will always ask a woman after sex, how many times she had orgasmed (and I expect an honest answer) - if the answer is none, I would be gutted...if the answer
is once, that is still very much a disappointment for me ...if the answer is twice, I think to myself I need to do better...if the answer is 3 times, that's acceptable "
If I can think enough to count past one... I've not had a proper orgasm |
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I don’t feel any pressure at all as long as we both have an enjoyable experience.
I’m not the sort of guy that’s going to lick for hours either 
When you are aware you know it’s going to happen or not.
Orgasms are not the end goal unless of course that is what is set out from the beginning. I’m also aware of when I’m not going to orgasm too.
I would say that 90% of the time I can tell a fake orgasm
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people need working in different ways and can find orgasming more difficult than others.
Bad bitch seems to pop em out like they are going out of fashion and is the first person I've witnessed have a 60 second long orgasm shaking and trembling uncontrollably that can be left for no more than 30 seconds and be stimulated to another orgasm again. The attendees of the hellfire after party were similarly surprised by it too 
Myself I will generally cum once in a 24 hour period, be extremely rare if I do twice and I can count on one hand the amount of times in my life that I've popped a load three times in 24 hours on one hand.
I had some brief flings before BB and I met and had two women tell me the only way they ever orgasmed was by themselves. I like a challenge and I like to experiment and I like to think I make trying all different ways fun (not stressful). Not trying to be a self important dick head but they both had repeated orgasms once WE found what did it for them. |
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