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Opinion on not coming via a bj ? Would the lady be disappointed?
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
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"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing... |
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I understand that not all men are the same.
Huh? This is breaking news...
All women still are the same though, right?"
Yes, identical. That's why we have all the threads on making women reply/cum/squirt/fly - once we have the correct formula, we can just it them on any woman with the same result. |
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I understand that not all men are the same.
Huh? This is breaking news...
All women still are the same though, right?
Yes, identical. That's why we have all the threads on making women reply/cum/squirt/fly - once we have the correct formula, we can just it them on any woman with the same result."
*use it |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
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I understand that not all men are the same.
Huh? This is breaking news...
All women still are the same though, right?
Yes, identical. That's why we have all the threads on making women reply/cum/squirt/fly - once we have the correct formula, we can just it them on any woman with the same result."
Phew.
I was worried for a minute there  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have never orgasmed from oral.
Can anyone break my duck?
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*assumes superhero pose*
Challenge accepted
(YESSSSSS. works every time)"
Only for you darling |
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Orgams and ejaculation are not necessarily linked.
Surely if you are having pleasure that's all that matters.
Too much focus on the destination can mean that you don't enjoy the journey and may not reach your intended destination.
Change your goal! Make pleasure the goal and see what happens. |
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"Orgams and ejaculation are not necessarily linked.
Surely if you are having pleasure that's all that matters.
Too much focus on the destination can mean that you don't enjoy the journey and may not reach your intended destination.
Change your goal! Make pleasure the goal and see what happens."
Yep.
There's times where I've had head and I didn't come that I remember far more vividly than some times where I did come.
An orgasm isn't a gold star.
But if they were, grats on three gold stars OP! Michelin beej!
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Yeah if I’m honest I think I’d be a bit disappointed if that happened (or didn’t!  ) but I wouldn’t say or show it. "
Yeah yeah.
Your no-blow-noshing tantrums are legendary Nora dear |
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"Yeah if I’m honest I think I’d be a bit disappointed if that happened (or didn’t! ) but I wouldn’t say or show it.
Yeah yeah.
Your no-blow-noshing tantrums are legendary Nora dear"
 . Honestly never happened so I don’t know . Knowing me i’d probably throw a tantrum haha. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Yeah if I’m honest I think I’d be a bit disappointed if that happened (or didn’t! ) but I wouldn’t say or show it.
Yeah yeah.
Your no-blow-noshing tantrums are legendary Nora dear
. Honestly never happened so I don’t know . Knowing me i’d probably throw a tantrum haha. "
Same here...
Although it has happened (or not happened) to me... but that's only when the happy ending isn't what I'm looking for  |
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I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all. "
I love the pleasure it brings xx
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing..."
I've hardly ever cum from a blowjob. That's not a challenge as I'm likely to get bored of it way before I cum.
Much prefer to be wanked than given oral.
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing..."
I never fall for that crap |
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I'd be more disappointed if he let me carry on without enjoying it.
If I'm that into him that I want to taste his cock, I'm pretty sure I can read him well enough to know if he's gaining pleasure from it |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all. "
What Lily said |
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over a year ago
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing..."
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode? |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all.
What Lily said "
Yup this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all.
What Lily said
Yup this!"
Also for me too |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?"
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that "
Would I have to beam a large cock image into the night sky to summon you? |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that
Would I have to beam a large cock image into the night sky to summon you?"
I'd imagine that would summon several of the women of fab... |
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that
Would I have to beam a large cock image into the night sky to summon you?
I'd imagine that would summon several of the women of fab..."
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
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I understand that not all men are the same.
Huh? This is breaking news...
All women still are the same though, right?
Of course! "
I was really concerned for a while there... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s more mental…if I see the person giving the BJ is enjoying it and not doing it solely for me, then i enjoy them much more.
However, I too haven’t cum from a BJ*
* in the last few days
K"
 I thought you were at the holding hands stage! Shocking. |
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"Orgams and ejaculation are not necessarily linked.
Surely if you are having pleasure that's all that matters.
Too much focus on the destination can mean that you don't enjoy the journey and may not reach your intended destination.
Change your goal! Make pleasure the goal and see what happens."
LOVE this!!! There is soo much focus on orgasm as the end point, and it just puts pressure on when it is not needed.
Enjoy the moment that you are in, not the one that might happen in the future
MJ x |
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"Orgams and ejaculation are not necessarily linked.
Surely if you are having pleasure that's all that matters.
Too much focus on the destination can mean that you don't enjoy the journey and may not reach your intended destination.
Change your goal! Make pleasure the goal and see what happens.
LOVE this!!! There is soo much focus on orgasm as the end point, and it just puts pressure on when it is not needed.
Enjoy the moment that you are in, not the one that might happen in the future
MJ x"
Exactly, and everyone is different, so expecting them to all respond the same is a sure fire way of piling on the preasure.
Communicate, observe and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never cum from one start to finish. Partner's I've been with like the challenge but as soon as its in there mouth they dont wanna bite of more then they can chew.. So to speak but for me a blowjob is forplay followed by me or her on top right |
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"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all.
What Lily said
Yup this!
Also for me too"
And me … |
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"It’s more mental…if I see the person giving the BJ is enjoying it and not doing it solely for me, then i enjoy them much more.
However, I too haven’t cum from a BJ*
* in the last few days
K
I thought you were at the holding hands stage! Shocking."
He's been on his own the last few days
C |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve found the better I become at communicating what I like, the more often it happens "
This 
Ex wife didn’t like giving BJ - and it showed …so had to learn not to cum via that.
Took a long while to unlearn that and actually relax and enjoy that pleasure , now find it extremely hot when the communication is open and the lady wants it.  |
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"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that
Would I have to beam a large cock image into the night sky to summon you?
I'd imagine that would summon several of the women of fab...
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That’s just me walking beside the bedside lamp! |
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"Orgams and ejaculation are not necessarily linked.
Surely if you are having pleasure that's all that matters.
Too much focus on the destination can mean that you don't enjoy the journey and may not reach your intended destination.
Change your goal! Make pleasure the goal and see what happens.
LOVE this!!! There is soo much focus on orgasm as the end point, and it just puts pressure on when it is not needed.
Enjoy the moment that you are in, not the one that might happen in the future
MJ x"
Thanks.
It equally applies to men and women too! |
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"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all.
What Lily said
Yup this!
Also for me too
And me … "
Hurrah, hurrah, hurrah!! |
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Ive only ever cum from one BJ many years ago no one since has ever come close to getting me there.
In fact the last few BJ were a bit uncomfortable with teeth getting in the way which always kills it for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Heard that from a few guys ive met that they struggled. I accepted the challenge and won of course
?? this , no matter how long it takes"
Exactly!! The guy has to be relaxed. Its not a rush job. Requires time and enthusiasm  |
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Joanne and two other women i dated are the only ones to make me cum from a blow job. And only once so far has that happened with joanne. Its not i dont enjoy being blown, its that it does not rock my boat. I rather give oral to make them orgasm than me orgasm that way. We are all different. Id hate a woman to take that as a challange as nothing worse than a long blow job as it eventually gets boring for me. Guess i am weird eh. John |
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I find it odd when people say they can always make a guy cum from oral, and if he doesn't it because he's not had it good.
If a guy says anything like this about a women, he'd get slated no end, and told that not all women come from oral, and that not all women even enjoy it. |
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By *uce1977Woman
over a year ago
Suffolk coast |
"I usually assume that any man who says that is looking for it to be taken as a challenge and wants the lady to rise to it...
*assumes superhero pose*
"I will be the woman who makes this fellow blow his sack into my throat"
That kinda thing...
And the men that like to chase cock too
So what name do you go by when in full superhero mode?
Ooh. I hadn't thought of that
Would I have to beam a large cock image into the night sky to summon you?
I'd imagine that would summon several of the women of fab..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Heard that from a few guys ive met that they struggled. I accepted the challenge and won of course
?? this , no matter how long it takes"
Exactly as it should be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never cum from them, I enjoy them but become to sensitise and they become painful.
Receiving a BJ isn’t high on my desires. - giving however I will never come up for air unless dragged away. |
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"I don't give blow jobs with the sole intention of making him cum, I do it because I enjoy it, and would hope that he also enjoys it...him orgasming and me being able to taste him is a pleasurable outcome, but not the be all and end all.
What Lily said
Yup this!
Also for me too
And me … "
and me also,
From the guys point of view,
I'm receiving a BJ and looking down at a sexy lady going to town on my beef Sausage, I'm not wanting a finish here, I'd be enjoying the moment sure but eventually I'd want to flip the script and get to diving, or exploring,,
Besides the BJ can be revisited many times during the evening/session,
Cummings from one would be a bonus but I could never imagine lying/standing there that long without wanting more. If that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It baffles me that there’s so many people never cum from a BJ…
I’ve must have had some god damn amazing BJ’s in my time cos I’ve blasted a big load every single time without fail  |
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"I find it odd when people say they can always make a guy cum from oral, and if he doesn't it because he's not had it good.
If a guy says anything like this about a women, he'd get slated no end, and told that not all women come from oral, and that not all women even enjoy it."
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't want them to cum anywhere near my mouth
I don't want him to cum near my mouth either.
In the mouth, or below the neck please. I've got great aim ladies,, just putting that out there,  "
Yes. Yes you have |
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"I've only ever come 3 times via bj "
To be honest, I find that the best blowjobs are the ones when they're NOT trying to make me cum, just trying to give me as much pleasure as possible for as long as possible.
Cal |
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