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By *ryandsee OP Man
over a year ago
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Do you find sometimes you just can't get away from all the noise, the rowdy people and sorry to say some unruly children to just sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or a nice meal in some peace and quiet? Should there be adult only quiet cafes and restaurants or spaces giving people choice for a more quiet time? I hope it does not sound controversial but some people really have no respect for others around them and there is hardly anywhere to go these days for that peace and quiet, sometimes not even your own home and garden due to lack of consideration of neighbours. I went for coffee the other in a lovely but really tiny little cafe. It was great till this couple and their two very young children came in and chaos ensued. In that tiny little space which I could see even the kids hated, it was all unbearable and within minutes almost everyone else got up and left. Should we all be more considerate of others, more aware of the environment, its appropriateness and expectations of certain behaviour or just all accept it is what it is?  |
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over a year ago
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Your own home is the only place you can have quiet space these days. Even places with designated quiet zones, you will always get some knobhead talking just to be a rebel. These zones don't make a difference, humans are naturally selfish beings who don't consider others around them. Go home, shut your curtains and shut out the world noise for a little bit. |
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By *ryandsee OP Man
over a year ago
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"Some people think their lives are more important than everyone else's. There should be child free spaces.
Hope you find a quieter cafe. "
Thanks. Don't take me wrong, families and children have just as much right to enjoy a day out but it's just that lack of awareness, appropriateness and selfish behaviour I just find a little hard to comprehend. I would never of course blame the kids for that. And often it's not just kids, it's some adults too who behave even worse and spoil the experience for everyone else. |
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By *ryandsee OP Man
over a year ago
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"Your own home is the only place you can have quiet space these days. Even places with designated quiet zones, you will always get some knobhead talking just to be a rebel. These zones don't make a difference, humans are naturally selfish beings who don't consider others around them. Go home, shut your curtains and shut out the world noise for a little bit."
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over a year ago
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I just jump in the car and drive to a couple of favorite quiet points. With a flask and a sandwich. But it's quite easy though when your within touching distance of Cairngorms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be like this, until I realised I can't ask other people to stop living their lives just to make me more comfortable. I discovered "brown noise" (like white noise but with different frequencies filtered out) which has a complete noise cancelling effect and now just put it on in my earphones if I need to drown anything out. Really good for sleeping/getting more work done/general misophonia |
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Kids you can normally avoid, I just tend to go places where they don't cater for them. What you can't are the people who are just loud. But then you're in a confined space with strangers. Which is why I prefer a walk in the hills loads of peace and quiet and eat a picnic sorted.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you find sometimes you just can't get away from all the noise, the rowdy people and sorry to say some unruly children to just sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or a nice meal in some peace and quiet? Should there be adult only quiet cafes and restaurants or spaces giving people choice for a more quiet time? I hope it does not sound controversial but some people really have no respect for others around them and there is hardly anywhere to go these days for that peace and quiet, sometimes not even your own home and garden due to lack of consideration of neighbours. I went for coffee the other in a lovely but really tiny little cafe. It was great till this couple and their two very young children came in and chaos ensued. In that tiny little space which I could see even the kids hated, it was all unbearable and within minutes almost everyone else got up and left. Should we all be more considerate of others, more aware of the environment, its appropriateness and expectations of certain behaviour or just all accept it is what it is? "
I find that people in general are becoming ruder and more entitled.
We were at a restaurant and a family sat next to us, kid kept climbing over the back of my sons chair, knowing how volatile he can be I asked the parents to ask them to stop....Mother told them, she was ignored, she gave up the kid carried on so I said to the Mother 'I asked politely, now I'm telling you to stop her, it's either me or him tell her next time and believe me, he's not as polite as I am' I did complain to the waiting staff who told her they'd have to leave if the child disturbs customers again.
Meal spent with the Mother glaring and the kid sulking
Costs nothing to teach manners, though I think parents needs it more than the kids sometimes |
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"I think you mean 'pink noise'.
Brown noise is something rather different. 
No I meant brown noise, which is why I said it "
My apologies, it seems 'brown noise' is now a sleep thing. A few years ago it meant something very *very* different.
You live and learn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Pretty sure there are places that are adults only obviously depends on the area but may be worth a Google OP. I'm not keen on quiet personally, I prefer a bit of noise bit each to their own.
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We go on adult only holidays.
Do we have a right to expect peace and quiet in public places though? Some of the adults on the holidays we go on know how to turn the volume up and behave poorly.
Having said that we're a bit miffed at our neighbour (fully retired) who is using loud machinery on a Sunday morning. |
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Noise drives me round the bend. As we speak, S's downstairs neighbour is allowing their child to bang on the radiators which of course reverberates up to us. Drilling and hammering going on all day at work rn and digging up the roads around my house all night installing faster broadband. Oh for some quiet!!! T |
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By *ryandsee OP Man
over a year ago
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"We go on adult only holidays.
Do we have a right to expect peace and quiet in public places though? Some of the adults on the holidays we go on know how to turn the volume up and behave poorly.
Having said that we're a bit miffed at our neighbour (fully retired) who is using loud machinery on a Sunday morning. "
I know what you mean. About 5 years ago now went for a short break away, fantastic hotel and adults only. Everybody was enjoying their holiday. This group arrived, six of them I think and a mix of men and women. They were so loud and horrendous to be around. Anyway, we had a day and an half of that before I found out the hotel kicked them out as they had even started being aggressive to staff when they were asked to be more quiet. Everyone was relieved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We go on adult only holidays.
Do we have a right to expect peace and quiet in public places though? Some of the adults on the holidays we go on know how to turn the volume up and behave poorly.
Having said that we're a bit miffed at our neighbour (fully retired) who is using loud machinery on a Sunday morning.
I know what you mean. About 5 years ago now went for a short break away, fantastic hotel and adults only. Everybody was enjoying their holiday. This group arrived, six of them I think and a mix of men and women. They were so loud and horrendous to be around. Anyway, we had a day and an half of that before I found out the hotel kicked them out as they had even started being aggressive to staff when they were asked to be more quiet. Everyone was relieved. "
Probably Swingers.  |
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Some of the worst unnecessary noise on our Tenerife holiday last year, came from adults. A large family of mainly adults, who defied the pool rules to move loads of sun loungers into a small area, who drank far too much, who shouted their food/drink order across the pool to each other and who would throw room keys and other bits across other people who might be sitting nearby. I was pleased when they departed.
We had no issue with any of the children in attendance at the hotel (there were many of Russian and Scandinavian origin, but few Brits). |
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