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More or less people meeting?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it feels like less compared to how it uses to be, but like another person has said I think many people have joined who aren't actually looking to swing.
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In fab more, its coming up to dogging and beach season, the sun gets everyone more horny and my local status updates go nuts.
On the forums less, more loved up and satisfied people are posting which is lovely to see, but for people that only seek others on the forums I can imagine a tad frustrating. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Any more thoughts on this?
Meets ...are they easier to arrange now than 5 years ago?
What you think?"
I think that I have no clue or interest in what others are doing.
Stop comparing yourself to the fun that you think others are having! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it’s getting harder to find genuine folk the internet has opened things up but so many non genuine people than compared to the contact mag days where letter writing and Polaroid pics and the effort involved stopped the time wasters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone  . Time-wasting is an art form it seems  "
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily. |
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over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily. "
Agreed.
My time waster is someone that arranges a time and a place. Then fails to show up.
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily. "
Really? When they literally dissappear? What would you call it then? |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Agreed.
My time waster is someone that arranges a time and a place. Then fails to show up.
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Indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not inundated with meet requests. But what I do know is there’s lots of chatting that fizzles out into nothing. Sadly. I don’t know why, but I’m now of the view, if we don’t meet for a social sooner than later. I’m not sure if it will ever happen, as a bigger fish has probably caught their eye. That’s fab, as I was once told.
Percentage wise, I’d say less are meeting. But that’s just my opinion from all the threads about time wasters. Fakes. How hard it is etc. mainly men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Really? When they literally dissappear? What would you call it then?"
Got bored.
Started talking to someone else.
Chatting to someone does not mean they plan to meet.
Ffs if that was the case I'd be having sex all the time. |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Really? When they literally dissappear? What would you call it then?
Got bored.
Started talking to someone else.
Chatting to someone does not mean they plan to meet.
Ffs if that was the case I'd be having sex all the time. "
No. I mean they UNLOS. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Really? When they literally dissappear? What would you call it then?
Got bored.
Started talking to someone else.
Chatting to someone does not mean they plan to meet.
Ffs if that was the case I'd be having sex all the time.
No. I mean they UNLOS. "
Then they really got bored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there are a lot of people on here that are just here for wank fodder.
I find more want to phone/cam than want to actually meet."
 what this girl said!
FAF?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Really? When they literally dissappear? What would you call it then?
Got bored.
Started talking to someone else.
Chatting to someone does not mean they plan to meet.
Ffs if that was the case I'd be having sex all the time.
No. I mean they UNLOS.
Then they really got bored. "
 . You’ve actually got a point  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any more thoughts on this?
Meets ...are they easier to arrange now than 5 years ago?
What you think?"
Things have changed in many ways. The way people use the site, we’ve had over 2 years of covid in between and various lockdowns.
To ask if it’s easier to meet all depends on yourself. |
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I meet on my own terms, never someone else's.
Anyone suggesting a meet after a week or so obviously hasn't read or understood my profile so they are wasting their own time.
If a conversation fizzles out or if they go unlos it just confirms my reasons for getting to know people before agreeing to meet.
If they are that flaky just in chat imagine the drama if we actually met!
As far as people meeting more or less my approach hasn't changed an iota in 5 years here. Covid didn't affect my meet strategy at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let’s be honest …. women can meet at a drop of a hat if they wish to, and of course if there’s a person that they find attractive ( or not in some circumstances)
So .. are people meeting more - if they want to and there’s interest. Pretty much the same now as it was in 2009 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there are a lot of people on here that are just here for wank fodder.
I find more want to phone/cam than want to actually meet."
I find this too and I never engage, not here to be someone's wank fodder or to help get them off, get to know me with normal conversation then meet me. It's not rocket science.
And if they disappear then I'm obviously not worth the effort of a coffee and they are not worth my time
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
I would never meet anyone after a week.
People throw the "time-wasters" line about a little too easily.
Agreed.
My time waster is someone that arranges a time and a place. Then fails to show up.
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Agreed.
Chatting then dropping off isn’t a time waster. That’s them getting bored or ruling you out of their interest |
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"Let’s be honest …. women can meet at a drop of a hat if they wish to, and of course if there’s a person that they find attractive ( or not in some circumstances)
So .. are people meeting more - if they want to and there’s interest. Pretty much the same now as it was in 2009 "
Some people like the thrill of the chase. There are some people I genuinely love talking to too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let’s be honest …. women can meet at a drop of a hat if they wish to, and of course if there’s a person that they find attractive ( or not in some circumstances)
So .. are people meeting more - if they want to and there’s interest. Pretty much the same now as it was in 2009
Some people like the thrill of the chase. There are some people I genuinely love talking to too xx"
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it"
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?"
Preference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?"
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it"
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
Preference"
I have to agree, people can change their mind at any time, and that’s not time wasting. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
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That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting"
I was thinking more about ghosting.
Of course it's not time wasting if they have the balls to say they've changed their mind. Many don't and that to me is time wasting
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat "
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting
I was thinking more about ghosting.
Of course it's not time wasting if they have the balls to say they've changed their mind. Many don't and that to me is time wasting
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Do you tell everyone if you change your mind? Many don’t because they don’t want the conflict or reprisals.
Leaving a conversation isn’t ghosting either |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting
I was thinking more about ghosting.
Of course it's not time wasting if they have the balls to say they've changed their mind. Many don't and that to me is time wasting
Do you tell everyone if you change your mind? Many don’t because they don’t want the conflict or reprisals.
Leaving a conversation isn’t ghosting either"
Everyone has a viewpoint. Mine is that ghosting or UNLOS has wasted my time. Each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting
I was thinking more about ghosting.
Of course it's not time wasting if they have the balls to say they've changed their mind. Many don't and that to me is time wasting
Do you tell everyone if you change your mind? Many don’t because they don’t want the conflict or reprisals.
Leaving a conversation isn’t ghosting either"
If I had been chatting to them then yes I will because it's courteous.
There is no right or wrong is there! Your perception is different to mine and that is fine is it not? |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx"
Aww what a shame. I think you can chat to more than one person at a time. They probably just decided they didn’t like you after chatting. That’s not time wasting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Any time spent on a person whether it's online or in life is wasted if they ghost or fuck off for whatever reason imho. It's all about perception
That line of thinking labels anyone who changes their mind a time waster.
People can and should be able to change their minds without being derided.
Perception and perspective is often what labels women as ‘teases’ when they’re not.
In my opinion, unless you’ve gone out of your way and wasted a portion of your time, it’s not time wasting. Messaging online isn’t time wasting
I was thinking more about ghosting.
Of course it's not time wasting if they have the balls to say they've changed their mind. Many don't and that to me is time wasting
Do you tell everyone if you change your mind? Many don’t because they don’t want the conflict or reprisals.
Leaving a conversation isn’t ghosting either
Everyone has a viewpoint. Mine is that ghosting or UNLOS has wasted my time. Each to their own."
90% of chats fizzle out and do t go no where that's not time wasting.
Time wasters are the sad group of people who deliberately lead people on arrange. Face to face meet at a location, say they are going and the simply don't show up without an explanation. That my friend is a time waster.
By your definition every fab member including ourselves are time wasters because nobody follows up on all their chats, as stared earlier about 90% fizzle out mostly when one party loses interest and doesn't reply to the last message received.
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx
Aww what a shame. I think you can chat to more than one person at a time. They probably just decided they didn’t like you after chatting. That’s not time wasting "
No, they UNLOS. If that was a real life situation, would you consider that good form to just dissappear? Some people seem to think that online isn't real  |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx
Aww what a shame. I think you can chat to more than one person at a time. They probably just decided they didn’t like you after chatting. That’s not time wasting
No, they UNLOS. If that was a real life situation, would you consider that good form to just dissappear? Some people seem to think that online isn't real "
It's just a week... |
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx
Aww what a shame. I think you can chat to more than one person at a time. They probably just decided they didn’t like you after chatting. That’s not time wasting
No, they UNLOS. If that was a real life situation, would you consider that good form to just dissappear? Some people seem to think that online isn't real "
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We could meet regularly (daily, weekly) if we wanted to.
However we aren’t on FAB to meet randoms. We are here to build connections and friendships so aren’t interested in the FAF brigade which plague this site.
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"We could meet regularly (daily, weekly) if we wanted to.
However we aren’t on FAB to meet randoms. We are here to build connections and friendships so aren’t interested in the FAF brigade which plague this site.
K"
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Loads of people chatting, but when you get a week or so in and suggest the meet......they're gone . Time-wasting is an art form it seems
That’s not time wasting really is it
Ok, I'll bite. What do you call it then?
We’re friends … but I’ll bite - Why is that time wasting ?
Maybe they just like to chat
Yeah, we're friends, we chat, but you haven't spent a week chatting, then just UNLOS. That's not preference, that's wasting my time, when I could be chatting to someone else xx
Aww what a shame. I think you can chat to more than one person at a time. They probably just decided they didn’t like you after chatting. That’s not time wasting "
No. It's time wasting when they pretend they are looking to meet people but they are only here for the conversation.
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"We could meet regularly (daily, weekly) if we wanted to.
However we aren’t on FAB to meet randoms. We are here to build connections and friendships so aren’t interested in the FAF brigade which plague this site.
K
Enjoy the daily worshiping "
The daily cock pics and meet now requests
For a straight guy I’ve seen too many cocks for my liking 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So to add to this thread
who has had a meet in May 2022 ?
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Me!... But I definitely pick/choose. Frankly when I can be arsed? This is a bit of fun, not my real life. And I use it that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting..  "
Isn't it? Bottom line is there's a 'core' within each area who actually actively look to meet. Then there's the 'I like the idea/teasing chat', who will never meet in a 100yrs. Plus the 'I like to dip a toe?' who may/may not meet? But dunno if they really want to?... I'd say Fab is 90% time wasters (as in zero intention to ever meet), and probably 5% again who may? But 'only' within perimeters to 1%...so that basically leaves you with a core of 5% who may, on a good day if the stars all align... Maybe |
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Bottom line... Hardly anyone wants to meet and fuck on Fab. Minus the very few!... You'd probably have more luck on the frozen meal for one in your local Tesco |
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