ok this is question for the woman would you fuck a guy who had a stoma bag a lot on here have said they would like fun with me but soon as i say i have a stoma bag its a no so ladys would you have fun with guy who had a stoma bag |
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"ok this is question for the woman would you fuck a guy who had a stoma bag a lot on here have said they would like fun with me but soon as i say i have a stoma bag its a no so ladys would you have fun with guy who had a stoma bag"
I think that as it’s very much a part of you, I’d be honest up front & put in your bio on your profile, that way it can come up in conversation & you can reassure the ladies on whatever they want or need to know. |
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"The correlation here is lost on me
What's hard to understand? The poor guy's colostomy bag is putting the ladies off.
Good luck OP, I hope you find somebody"
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"ok this is question for the woman would you fuck a guy who had a stoma bag a lot on here have said they would like fun with me but soon as i say i have a stoma bag its a no so ladys would you have fun with guy who had a stoma bag
I think that as it’s very much a part of you, I’d be honest up front & put in your bio on your profile, that way it can come up in conversation & you can reassure the ladies on whatever they want or need to know. "
i did have it on my bio and received some really nasty messages so took it off |
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Some people are put off by disabilities (all sorts of different disabilities) but as Lorenzo says, plenty of people with various disabilities also have lots of sex. It might be worth including a photo that makes your stoma bag obvious and/or mention on the profile? I use wheelchair and have some wheelchair pics on the profile to illustrate. I keep meaning to mention it in the writing too but we're not really actively seeking meetings right now.
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"I have a friend with one who gets laid left, right, and centre. So in my experience, it's the person not the bag they are about.
LvM"
well you are right there but lot guys lose there confidence when they get alot off no due to it |
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"Some people are put off by disabilities (all sorts of different disabilities) but as Lorenzo says, plenty of people with various disabilities also have lots of sex. It might be worth including a photo that makes your stoma bag obvious and/or mention on the profile? I use wheelchair and have some wheelchair pics on the profile to illustrate. I keep meaning to mention it in the writing too but we're not really actively seeking meetings right now.
Good luck!"
i did have it on my profile an photo but got lots nasty comments about it saying take that ugly thing off here it makes us sick |
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"Fair play to you talking about this OP. I'm not sure I could.
One of my kids had one but it has been reversed now and I often thought how would it impact their life when they met someone. "
mine cant be reversed a i think people need to see beyond bag an who person is |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"Fair play to you talking about this OP. I'm not sure I could.
One of my kids had one but it has been reversed now and I often thought how would it impact their life when they met someone. mine cant be reversed a i think people need to see beyond bag an who person is "
Yes they do. There are lots of sites that will explain what a stoma is and answer lots of FAQs. |
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I'd ask what point you are bringing it up in the chat? Not being harsh but your profile is pretty blank. If you don't want to mention it in that fair enough!
But people do like to know any information that might feel relevant fairly soon on? |
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"Some people are put off by disabilities (all sorts of different disabilities) but as Lorenzo says, plenty of people with various disabilities also have lots of sex. It might be worth including a photo that makes your stoma bag obvious and/or mention on the profile? I use wheelchair and have some wheelchair pics on the profile to illustrate. I keep meaning to mention it in the writing too but we're not really actively seeking meetings right now.
Good luck!i did have it on my profile an photo but got lots nasty comments about it saying take that ugly thing off here it makes us sick"
That says far more about them than it does about you - your stoma is not ugly or anything else negative. We get abuse amount my wheelchair use. The thing is, I can no more hide my chair than you will be able to hide your stoma, especially if it's more than a social. The thing is to report and block anyone abusive.
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"Some people are put off by disabilities (all sorts of different disabilities) but as Lorenzo says, plenty of people with various disabilities also have lots of sex. It might be worth including a photo that makes your stoma bag obvious and/or mention on the profile? I use wheelchair and have some wheelchair pics on the profile to illustrate. I keep meaning to mention it in the writing too but we're not really actively seeking meetings right now.
Good luck!i did have it on my profile an photo but got lots nasty comments about it saying take that ugly thing off here it makes us sick
That says far more about them than it does about you - your stoma is not ugly or anything else negative. We get abuse amount my wheelchair use. The thing is, I can no more hide my chair than you will be able to hide your stoma, especially if it's more than a social. The thing is to report and block anyone abusive.
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i try an laugh the abuse off an say at least i can never do smelly fart like you plus when we was in lockdown i was only person not panic buying toilet roll |
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"Some people are put off by disabilities (all sorts of different disabilities) but as Lorenzo says, plenty of people with various disabilities also have lots of sex. It might be worth including a photo that makes your stoma bag obvious and/or mention on the profile? I use wheelchair and have some wheelchair pics on the profile to illustrate. I keep meaning to mention it in the writing too but we're not really actively seeking meetings right now.
Good luck!i did have it on my profile an photo but got lots nasty comments about it saying take that ugly thing off here it makes us sick
That says far more about them than it does about you - your stoma is not ugly or anything else negative. We get abuse amount my wheelchair use. The thing is, I can no more hide my chair than you will be able to hide your stoma, especially if it's more than a social. The thing is to report and block anyone abusive.
i try an laugh the abuse off an say at least i can never do smelly fart like you plus when we was in lockdown i was only person not panic buying toilet roll"
You should definitely not have to laugh off abuse.
Unfortunately, abuse seems to come with the territory on Fab. People seem to get abuse for all sorts of reasons (often not disability related) - it's a sad reflection on the anonymity of the internet.
You be you. If someone cannot see past your stoma, that's their issue. It's definitely not a reason to be abusive. |
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Also hopefully constructive criticism - I'd personally just add it as a side note? Maybe post it in your friends pics? I mean frankly I don't show my fanny in my public gallery either 
Well worth filling out your profile with a bit about 'you' though I think. And yep defo get shot of the status. If something is a part of your life don't apologise for it OP |
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"Also hopefully constructive criticism - I'd personally just add it as a side note? Maybe post it in your friends pics? I mean frankly I don't show my fanny in my public gallery either
Well worth filling out your profile with a bit about 'you' though I think. And yep defo get shot of the status. If something is a part of your life don't apologise for it OP"
im not going hide photo in friends as not ashamed of it i might fill out more in profile |
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I remember seeing someone on here I found attractive and she had one and she was young as well, it didn't put me off.
I think if you like someone then things like that shouldn't really matter at all, after all it could happen to anyone and I think it's important to remember that.
Good luck for the future buddy |
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No-one deserves to receive abuse for whatever reason. Says a lot more about them than the person they target. In my profession, I see stomas a lot and I have never once found them off putting. I think it's mostly down to ignorance on some people part.
Good luck in your search OP x |
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"No-one deserves to receive abuse for whatever reason. Says a lot more about them than the person they target. In my profession, I see stomas a lot and I have never once found them off putting. I think it's mostly down to ignorance on some people part.
Good luck in your search OP x"
thank you for your positive comment |
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Some folk on here just like to give out abuse no mater what if your happy with it then sod what anybody else thinks ok it’s hard if you want to meet but if they can’t get past it then they are not right for you. You have to just keep trying I’ve been on here for months and never had a meet get to some socials let folk see you for who you are |
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"ok this is question for the woman would you fuck a guy who had a stoma bag a lot on here have said they would like fun with me but soon as i say i have a stoma bag its a no so ladys would you have fun with guy who had a stoma bag"
It wouldn't bother me. I've met a guy with one. We didn't end up playing after our social but it was nothing to do with that. I don't think he actually told me but you could see it on photos. |
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"Also hopefully constructive criticism - I'd personally just add it as a side note? Maybe post it in your friends pics? I mean frankly I don't show my fanny in my public gallery either
Well worth filling out your profile with a bit about 'you' though I think. And yep defo get shot of the status. If something is a part of your life don't apologise for it OP im not going hide photo in friends as not ashamed of it i might fill out more in profile"
Definately fill out more in your profile. And I wasn't suggesting you should feel ashamed mate. A lot of us have a disability on here. Good luck to you |
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I personally would meet someone with a stoma but i have my reasons for that
I have my own issues that I'm always up front about when speaking to someone new on here and majority of the time it puts men off and the conversation ends up fizzing out
It happens I'm afraid but no one would be abusing you because of it |
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"ok this is question for the woman would you fuck a guy who had a stoma bag a lot on here have said they would like fun with me but soon as i say i have a stoma bag its a no so ladys would you have fun with guy who had a stoma bag
I think that as it’s very much a part of you, I’d be honest up front & put in your bio on your profile, that way it can come up in conversation & you can reassure the ladies on whatever they want or need to know. i did have it on my bio and received some really nasty messages so took it off"
Sorry to hear that. Did you report them? |
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Good on you for being upfront OP
None of us are perfect, I've had an op on my leg which has left scars, but if that puts someone off that's their problem.
I would be more concerned that you drink Fosters judging by your photos!! |
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By *ugme247Man
over a year ago
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I’ve got a ileostomy bag 32 years I find it so rude when people turn you down because of the bag in 32 years I had a accident when I first had it during sex. It just a plastic bag it not dirty smelly you don’t poo constantly ,most like me would put a new bag on before meeting a lady. I find it no difference if someone has false teeth or body odour I find that gross but I wouldn’t be rude enough to leave |
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By *tan1964TV/TS
over a year ago
brentwood |
Unfortunately I find myself in the same position as a wearer of a stoma pouch. I’ve not actually met anyone yet, but I can see it’s going to be a struggle, because I find myself being blanked when I’m exchanging messages and ask if they’ve read my profile. I hate having it, but it kept me alive, so it is what it is. I have had a few nice chats with some guys and they have tried to make me feel a little more positive about myself, but my confidence is really low still |
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