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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What’s the actual end game?
Why do you waste your own time & my time just to go back to the very beginning
What’s the point in creating a profile if you’ve got no intention of ever meeting someone
You’re just here to p*ss people off for no reason at all
Whole night is ruined now |
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"What’s the actual end game?
Why do you waste your own time & my time just to go back to the very beginning
What’s the point in creating a profile if you’ve got no intention of ever meeting someone
You’re just here to p*ss people off for no reason at all
Whole night is ruined now"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People are here for different things
Some are only here for the forums
Some are only here to chat to friends they made at clubs
Some are only here to show off they pics
Some are only here for dateing
Some are here just for mindless sex
And not one person is here for the wrong reason
As long as they up front from the get go or in they profile text to why they here |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"Don't seem to remember the mocking emojis when a woman starts a thread like this. "
I have got to agree with you on this. The way people will mock another person who is obviously feeling deflated is awful. The same people are most likely to be joining in on the good mental health threads too... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As for the emoji people… grow up
What I’m basically saying is front string people along if you’re not planning on following up
It’s a waste of peoples time and effort
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
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If it is any consolation to you, you have managed far more on here than most men. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, tomorrow is another day  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
If it is any consolation to you, you have managed far more on here than most men. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, tomorrow is another day "
Cheers mate, just seems a lot of effort from both sides to then be thrown away
As you said, we move on |
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
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So you been in conversation with people, they enjoyed to such a degree that they invest time in meeting you?
You arrange another meet where presumably they agree things will progress further?
They let you know beforehand that they've changed their mind?
I agree it's frustrating, but they're obviously real people, have taken time to talk to you and meet you and let you know before the next meet that they're unavailable. We don't know why that happened, maybe a genuine emergency, maybe a better offer or sadly maybe they changed their mind about meeting you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
If it is any consolation to you, you have managed far more on here than most men. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, tomorrow is another day
Cheers mate, just seems a lot of effort from both sides to then be thrown away
As you said, we move on "
It's crap, I agree. I've had it a few times earlier in the year. Frustrating but commonplace here I'm afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't seem to remember the mocking emojis when a woman starts a thread like this. "
Me either. A woman did post a thread very recently and had a very sympathetic hearing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
I don’t mind if something comes up as we all understand, plans change etc
But this last one has now blocked me on everything which is more annoying
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So you been in conversation with people, they enjoyed to such a degree that they invest time in meeting you?
You arrange another meet where presumably they agree things will progress further?
They let you know beforehand that they've changed their mind?
I agree it's frustrating, but they're obviously real people, have taken time to talk to you and meet you and let you know before the next meet that they're unavailable. We don't know why that happened, maybe a genuine emergency, maybe a better offer or sadly maybe they changed their mind about meeting you."
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
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Inexcusable but she took a better offer in her eyes mate, her loss. Unless genuinely her aunts cousins cat got covid then it’s legit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So had this twice now
Talked for a couple of days, flowing conversation
Even had a FaceTime so we know it’s genuine
Planned a social, nothing heavy just a drink/chat no expectations from either side
Comes to the day of and it’s always some lame excuse and a block
If it is any consolation to you, you have managed far more on here than most men. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, tomorrow is another day
Cheers mate, just seems a lot of effort from both sides to then be thrown away
As you said, we move on
It's crap, I agree. I've had it a few times earlier in the year. Frustrating but commonplace here I'm afraid. "
I understand plans change and things might need to be rescheduled but to then block me on here and block my number is very strange |
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Did you speak to her/him on the phone? A lot of men pretend to be women here, we always make a rule if can’t at least send a voice note then your a man, this will ruffle a few feathers but a SIM card costs £1 and a cheap throw away phone costs what ? £20 quid, when people say they can’t talk over the phone we just end the conversation there and then. Simples really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a bit rubbish yeah, but people bottle it as well and some are embarrassed that they did that.
We had contact from someone that was visiting the area and arranged a quick social meet in town. We actually left another family social early to go meet them.
When we arrived at the pub I am fairly certain I clocked the female half sitting at a table outside. We got as far as the bar inside and had a message saying they'd had a Barney etc. Now we'd gone to alot of trouble and been messaging all the way up to the pub door, did we get a monk on and call them time wasters? Nope we walked around town picked a random bloke and fucked him instead!
Shit happens - just some people choose to deal with it in different ways |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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At least they let you know op
We never know what's happening with people in their lives,or maybe they never intended to meet ,you'll never know sadly .
It's not ideal no,but at least you weren't left waiting for a no show.
Just counter block them |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"As for the emoji people… grow up
What I’m basically saying is front string people along if you’re not planning on following up
It’s a waste of peoples time and effort
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Sometimes life gets in the way and have to cancel |
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I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some really want the meet they get too nervous or reality hits home what they are doing, even had one cancel in the hotel room as couldnt cheat on her hubby, people have many reasons to blow meets out, it just be good if everyone could do it before the effort was made by the other party. |
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"I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know "
Why would anyone judge? It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it  X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know
Why would anyone judge? It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it X"
It's happened to me three times this year. Not just single men. |
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"I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know
Why would anyone judge? It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it X
It's happened to me three times this year. Not just single men. "
Yeah, but we're use to it. We're encouraged just to suck it up. |
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"As for the emoji people… grow up
What I’m basically saying is front string people along if you’re not planning on following up
It’s a waste of peoples time and effort
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You're actually basically have a moan in the public forum.
Have you any idea how many threads there are like this?
Have you any idea how many people of all sexes have this happen to them?
You think it's only you and we're the ones that need to grow up?  |
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"It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it X
And so do do us women. The smart ones amongst us don't let a whole night be ruined on a promise though  "
Yeah.....I'm always turning up though  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know
Why would anyone judge? It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it X
It's happened to me three times this year. Not just single men.
Yeah, but we're use to it. We're encouraged just to suck it up. "
What else are any of us to do? And it happens to women and couples just as much. I fail to see that this is just a single man pity party. I've been ghosted so often I may as well wear a white sheet. |
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"I have had 2 no shows, I always message for a few days, phone call and then a quick cam call to check before we meet for a social. I'm a single woman on here don't judge!
One guy just didn't turn up or have the decency to text me, weeks later he messaged me on another platform saying that he'd just bottled meeting me (I was apparently too confident), begged me for another chance. I blocked him, maybe I wouldn't have done if he'd let me know he wasn't not turning up, maybe i would... he'll never know
Why would anyone judge? It's annoying though, but us single fellas get use to it X
It's happened to me three times this year. Not just single men.
Yeah, but we're use to it. We're encouraged just to suck it up.
What else are any of us to do? And it happens to women and couples just as much. I fail to see that this is just a single man pity party. I've been ghosted so often I may as well wear a white sheet. "
No pity here, I don't desire that at all. Just making a contribution to the debate |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Sped read this OP but it seems you did speak to them to check they were genuine so at least you did your homework.
The trouble is.....Fab guarantees nothing, and nor should it. It's just a means to contact someone, much like any other chat/message website or app.
People get let down every day on vanilla dating apps so why should fab be any different?
It's always good to have a plan B, and by that I mean an alternative idea of something to do, not a back-up shag waiting in the wings, although if you have a hotel booked it never hurts to stick a last minute 'meet today' post up. The night isn't 'ruined' unless you've gone to great expense and cancelled other plans - it's just no longer what you hoped for.
Much like your car breaking down on the way to a gig, or you waking up on a rare day off on a sunny day with the raging shits, or settling on the sofa to watch a PPV boxing match only to have a power cut just as the first round bell rings.....shit happens. You can't prevent it. You can't control it. You can't change it.
You just have to suck it up and look for something else to do. 
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Shit happens.
I was chatting to a lady on fab she left fab, we still kept chatting on kik and chatting on the phone
Then covid, finally its safe to meet probably 2 1/2 years after we had first started chatting.
Arranged a meet in a town near were she lived, hotel all booked and paid ( by her ) she sent me a screenshot of the booking.
I drove just under 4 hours got there and in the room I stayed, no sign of her.
No replies to my kik, phone just ringing out, after sitting there for around 4 hours I drove home.
I then blocked her on all my messaging apps and her number.
I just felt angry, I'm over it now
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd rather somebody gave a 'crap excuse', or even ghosted me that day vs going ahead if they weren't really feeling it.
Nothing worse than sitting spending time making awkward small talk with someone who only showed up because they felt obliged |
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"Never been accused of being a time waster. A disappointment and a tease. Perhaps!"
The day before my first ever meet, I landed in hospital.
He cancelled it while I was sitting in A&E. Years later, he still calls me a time waster  and is one of my best friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never been accused of being a time waster. A disappointment and a tease. Perhaps!
The day before my first ever meet, I landed in hospital.
He cancelled it while I was sitting in A&E. Years later, he still calls me a time waster and is one of my best friends"
Guess you should be thanking the OP then. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the comments people, I was just a little frustrated and clearly it’s a common occurrence
I appreciate everyone who commented and will take it on the chin and move forward
Hope you all have a lot of fun and fingers crossed I might have my own |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sped read this OP but it seems you did speak to them to check they were genuine so at least you did your homework.
The trouble is.....Fab guarantees nothing, and nor should it. It's just a means to contact someone, much like any other chat/message website or app.
People get let down every day on vanilla dating apps so why should fab be any different?
It's always good to have a plan B, and by that I mean an alternative idea of something to do, not a back-up shag waiting in the wings, although if you have a hotel booked it never hurts to stick a last minute 'meet today' post up. The night isn't 'ruined' unless you've gone to great expense and cancelled other plans - it's just no longer what you hoped for.
Much like your car breaking down on the way to a gig, or you waking up on a rare day off on a sunny day with the raging shits, or settling on the sofa to watch a PPV boxing match only to have a power cut just as the first round bell rings.....shit happens. You can't prevent it. You can't control it. You can't change it.
You just have to suck it up and look for something else to do.
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I thought you were about to break out a bit of Alanis Morrissete then - wouldn't that be ironic |
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I swear some people on Fab would literally shag anything if they made their mind up it was going to happen 