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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I discussed a few weeks ago how the motorists are the worst when it comes to perving and checking out women. And I continue to say it, the cheek of how some of y’all don’t give a fuck and just u see them almost bend over backward to have a proper glance.
The other level tho is when you maybe get honked at! I got honked today … (I mean whatt..) and then I looked at him, he smiled and waved.
At the time I just waved back cos I didn’t think too much of it and just crossed the street
Now, I don’t mind it if somebody wants to check out the merch. But I mean, do it discretely jeez!
I’ve been told that it’s public harassment… what do you think? Is it?
Also if it is, what can somebody do anyway?
Yes, I do expose a little bit of clevage especially after my BA (I had the pink top from 9th of jan pic, a white crop jacket and jeans…so nothing insane) but yeah. Men should just chill 
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Smile, wave and continue with your business unless you want to take things further and get to know them.
Just males expressing their appreciation.
I've had something similar. Was a hot day and washing my car topless outside on a busy Street. Had a few honks and comments from people as they drove past. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been honked at before but he just called me a dickhead because he had to stop at the crossing  "
Haha I mean. Did u tell him he’s a dickhead back?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s happened to me once as a guy and I didn’t think anything of it.
For women though, it’s one hundred per cent harassment. Maybe record the number plate and report it?
Sorry it happens to you OP and others.  . |
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Maybe he thought he recognised you ? The smile and wave suggests maybe he did .I’m forever honking at people thinking I know them  .As a woman tho I don’t get that dread of thinking oh shit hope they don’t think I’m having a perv on them .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s happened to me once as a guy and I didn’t think anything of it.
For women though, it’s one hundred per cent harassment. Maybe record the number plate and report it?
Sorry it happens to you OP and others. . "
He seemed friendly when waving and just thought he probably was liking what he was seeing, so I didn’t think too much of it. But I mean now that I think back I’m like… what the fuck!
Why??
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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I would of looked around to see who he was honking at, if it was at me I would of just smiled and carried on, to me it’s harmless and I know others take it another way, but that’s just me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would of looked around to see who he was honking at, if it was at me I would of just smiled and carried on, to me it’s harmless and I know others take it another way, but that’s just me"
It was just me in the whole street  so yes it was definitely me and looked straight at me (checking out) and waved |
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"It’s happened to me once as a guy and I didn’t think anything of it.
For women though, it’s one hundred per cent harassment. Maybe record the number plate and report it?
Sorry it happens to you OP and others. . "
Reporting it would be a total waste of time in all honesty for starters you would have to prove that he wasn’t honking at someone around you and also that it wasn’t a case of mistaken identity. |
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Honking unnecessary could come under a driving offence
Using my eyes in my vehicle to look where I want doesn’t fall under any law I believe.
It’s a little gross but that’s what you pay for a free country |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Should have honked back and balanced a ball on your nose
With what exactly I was walking your mouth pretended to be a seal
I need to bring one of those honk horns or whatever just carry a megaphone and when they honk shout CHEERS NOW GET YOUR COCK OUT!!!!! "
This made me laugh!!! Ahhaha. Brill
I’ll definitely need to buy a portable one to carry in my Mary Poppins bag lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ignore it.
Not encourage it by responding back to it of all things.
Go straight home and put a jumper on...
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Errrr no!! I paid a lot of money for my boobs and I should be able to wear what I want without being harassed lol x I wasn’t wearing anything inappropriate.
Did I look nice? Err yes! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honking unnecessary could come under a driving offence
Using my eyes in my vehicle to look where I want doesn’t fall under any law I believe.
It’s a little gross but that’s what you pay for a free country "
Yeah I don’t mind wandering eyes as much. I check guys out if they are fit (I do it discretely) but yeah. It’s just funny how some are totally oblivious that they do it and get caught
Or
Maybe they just don’t care to be caught in the car (totally different on public transports tho or in close proximity) |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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Whats with all the driving offences bit? because someone honked there horn in appreciation of a beautiful female. Haven't the government taken the highway code laws to the ultimate extreme giving cyclists and pedestrians priority over the motorist, who actually pay to use the roads. I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. Some females love it some don't I understand that but its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done. |
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"Honking unnecessary could come under a driving offence
Using my eyes in my vehicle to look where I want doesn’t fall under any law I believe.
It’s a little gross but that’s what you pay for a free country
Yeah I don’t mind wandering eyes as much. I check guys out if they are fit (I do it discretely) but yeah. It’s just funny how some are totally oblivious that they do it and get caught
Or
Maybe they just don’t care to be caught in the car (totally different on public transports tho or in close proximity)"
It’s definitely an odd thing to do because I dont think many honks are followed up with a conversation or any attempt at communication
Isn’t that how you meet people in the real world? Catch each other’s eye, he smiles, she smiles, that’s a sign to politely introduce. Dunno how that works when you honk your car and drive off at 30mph
I definitely check out women more openly when driving because in 2 seconds they’ll be gone so who cares. But in person you gotta be a little more discreet, especially if you’ve no intention of actually trying to talk to them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whats with all the driving offences bit? because someone honked there horn in appreciation of a beautiful female. Haven't the government taken the highway code laws to the ultimate extreme giving cyclists and pedestrians priority over the motorist, who actually pay to use the roads. I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. Some females love it some don't I understand that but its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done. "
I wasn’t offended or grossed out . I just waved back and smiled and carried on.
I thought it was cheeky, I don’t think he was being harmful or anything
But yeah being told it’s sexual harassment made me think tho and go.. should he have done it |
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"It’s happened to me once as a guy and I didn’t think anything of it.
For women though, it’s one hundred per cent harassment. Maybe record the number plate and report it?
Sorry it happens to you OP and others. . "
That’s nothing. There are signs on the London Underground encouraging women to report men who stare at them. Signs read” staring-intrusive staring of a sexual nature is sexual harassment and is not tolerated”
People must know what others are thinking? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like he thought he knew you going off of his actions. Mistaken identity perhaps? "
Perhaps, he seem to have a very cheeky look tho. So I’m not sure, also I don’t wanna generalise… but Tradies are the cheekiest motorists |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. "
Can you explain what you mean by this please?
Or are you meaning don't wear certain clothing, don't be an attractive woman, because otherwise you deserve it.
Surely the 'she was asking for it' mindset should be long gone, no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you explain what you mean by this please?
*honk honk*
Should have squeezed both my boobs then, see if they honked back "
Could have asked for squeakers to be put in them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore it.
Not encourage it by responding back to it of all things.
Go straight home and put a jumper on...
Errrr no!! I paid a lot of money for my boobs and I should be able to wear what I want without being harassed lol x I wasn’t wearing anything inappropriate.
Did I look nice? Err yes! X "
I was taking the piss with the jumper part! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Running along the beach front near where I used to live I once had a woman nearly twist her head off watching me - I've only ever seen an owl rotate it's neck further.
At the time I felt quite smug but looking back I've decided to feel violated.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Running along the beach front near where I used to live I once had a woman nearly twist her head off watching me - I've only ever seen an owl rotate it's neck further.
At the time I felt quite smug but looking back I've decided to feel violated.
Mr"
I mean, yes we do check guys out too x 
I did see one stunning guy the weekend, running towards me and it all just went in slow motion.
I bet he saw my lips saying “OH.. HELLO…”
Anyway, he definitely checked me and my boobs out as we passed each other .. felt like time froze for a sec… so I was like … YUSSS
He was proper fit  and sweaty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Running along the beach front near where I used to live I once had a woman nearly twist her head off watching me - I've only ever seen an owl rotate it's neck further.
At the time I felt quite smug but looking back I've decided to feel violated.
Mr
I mean, yes we do check guys out too x
I did see one stunning guy the weekend, running towards me and it all just went in slow motion.
I bet he saw my lips saying “OH.. HELLO…”
Anyway, he definitely checked me and my boobs out as we passed each other .. felt like time froze for a sec… so I was like … YUSSS
He was proper fit and sweaty!"
Well, I was definitely sweaty at the time - must have been that. Joking aside, this is the problem isn't it. The exact same actions and behaviour are welcomed from one person and called assault from another. I don't want to live in a society where assault is defined by levels of attractiveness. Then again, I don't want to live in a society where people are made to feel uncomfortable or afraid due to the behaviour of strangers. No idea how to resolve that, we can all pick examples at either end of the spectrum that are obviously either acceptable or not but that middle ground is all a confused mess of personal opinions.
My take on it? If you didn't feel like the behaviour was inappropriate then it wasn't but that doesn't mean it would be fine for all people in all situations.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Running along the beach front near where I used to live I once had a woman nearly twist her head off watching me - I've only ever seen an owl rotate it's neck further.
At the time I felt quite smug but looking back I've decided to feel violated.
Mr
I mean, yes we do check guys out too x
I did see one stunning guy the weekend, running towards me and it all just went in slow motion.
I bet he saw my lips saying “OH.. HELLO…”
Anyway, he definitely checked me and my boobs out as we passed each other .. felt like time froze for a sec… so I was like … YUSSS
He was proper fit and sweaty!
Well, I was definitely sweaty at the time - must have been that. Joking aside, this is the problem isn't it. The exact same actions and behaviour are welcomed from one person and called assault from another. I don't want to live in a society where assault is defined by levels of attractiveness. Then again, I don't want to live in a society where people are made to feel uncomfortable or afraid due to the behaviour of strangers. No idea how to resolve that, we can all pick examples at either end of the spectrum that are obviously either acceptable or not but that middle ground is all a confused mess of personal opinions.
My take on it? If you didn't feel like the behaviour was inappropriate then it wasn't but that doesn't mean it would be fine for all people in all situations.
Mr"
True, but attraction happens between humans. Or we are curious and we look. Maybe we like what we see, maybe we dont.
Obviously no matter how attractive somebody is, If he pushes boundaries too far, he’s still gonna get in trouble. But I guess, we become more accommodating to somebody we find attractive
I know I’ve got away with lots of little things because somebody found me attractive. And I guess I’d be lenient myself towards somebody I found attractive too. Isn’t it life? |
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"Whats with all the driving offences bit? because someone honked there horn in appreciation of a beautiful female. Haven't the government taken the highway code laws to the ultimate extreme giving cyclists and pedestrians priority over the motorist, who actually pay to use the roads. I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. Some females love it some don't I understand that but its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done. "
‘If you don’t want to be honked at then don’t give them an excuse to honk at you’
Christ I’d hoped these attitudes didn’t exist anymore.
So we should cover up just in case we get honked at?
Also ‘ its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done.’ - sometimes it goes further and it’s not just one beep, it’s shouting things and following the woman down the street, I’ve seen plenty of evidence of it online. Hardly ‘no harm done’
It’s bloody harassment |
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"Whats with all the driving offences bit? because someone honked there horn in appreciation of a beautiful female. Haven't the government taken the highway code laws to the ultimate extreme giving cyclists and pedestrians priority over the motorist, who actually pay to use the roads. I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. Some females love it some don't I understand that but its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done. "
Is this comment for real?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years. "
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature |
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature "
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats with all the driving offences bit? because someone honked there horn in appreciation of a beautiful female. Haven't the government taken the highway code laws to the ultimate extreme giving cyclists and pedestrians priority over the motorist, who actually pay to use the roads. I'm sorry but if you don't want to be honked at then don't give them an excuse to honk at you. Some females love it some don't I understand that but its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done.
‘If you don’t want to be honked at then don’t give them an excuse to honk at you’
Christ I’d hoped these attitudes didn’t exist anymore.
So we should cover up just in case we get honked at?
Also ‘ its just showing that the guy appreciates your beauty, thinks your sexy looking etc. Give a smile and a cheeky wink, no harm done.’ - sometimes it goes further and it’s not just one beep, it’s shouting things and following the woman down the street, I’ve seen plenty of evidence of it online. Hardly ‘no harm done’
It’s bloody harassment "
when I come down I’ll just use the moving the sunglasses up off my eyes and wow look . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things. "
I face just the same exact issues , you have some women who might be more forgiving (in everything! Like I always said my heart overules red flags), some who aren’t as forgiving. It’s just we are all different x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe you were in the road looking at fab and he wanted you to move on? "
No cos I wasn’t crossing yet, I was going towards the crossing bit. Saw me and decided to send a cheeky wave. I guess the quick honk was to catch my attention. Maybe he thought he knew me or whatever |
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things.
I face just the same exact issues , you have some women who might be more forgiving (in everything! Like I always said my heart overules red flags), some who aren’t as forgiving. It’s just we are all different x "
Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things.
I face just the same exact issues , you have some women who might be more forgiving (in everything! Like I always said my heart overules red flags), some who aren’t as forgiving. It’s just we are all different x
Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here. "
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off |
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things.
I face just the same exact issues , you have some women who might be more forgiving (in everything! Like I always said my heart overules red flags), some who aren’t as forgiving. It’s just we are all different x
Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here.
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off "
Oh I do too. Just pisses me off when I see some women expecting others to conform with what they think is the right or wrong thing for a woman to do. x |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here.
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off
Oh I do too. Just pisses me off when I see some women expecting others to conform with what they think is the right or wrong thing for a woman to do. x"
A lot of the time it comes down to perception and opinion. On one hand exotic dancers can be viewed as degrading to women, on the other it's a woman choosing to do what she likes with her own body.
A bit of an extreme example but I think it gets my point across |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that you're embracing your womanhood op, but I do think you're perhaps a bit too accepting of some of the behaviours that have pissed women off for years.
I just have a very accommodating personality. Sad as it is. But this is from everyone. Not that I’m a push over, but do I slightly justify others even if they have a shitty behaviour? And maybe pin it on me?
Yeah I do. I guess it’s a bit in my nature
It’s not sad at all. You do you and enjoy what you want. We don’t all have to be pissed off by the same things.
I face just the same exact issues , you have some women who might be more forgiving (in everything! Like I always said my heart overules red flags), some who aren’t as forgiving. It’s just we are all different x
Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here.
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off
Oh I do too. Just pisses me off when I see some women expecting others to conform with what they think is the right or wrong thing for a woman to do. x"
The only thing that needs to be taken into consideration a hell of a lot more when this sort of thing happens is its not always being doing in a cheeky flirty way.
You could be putting yourself in a lot of danger from the nutcases out there that have very different intentions/reasons for doing it.
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"Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here.
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off
Oh I do too. Just pisses me off when I see some women expecting others to conform with what they think is the right or wrong thing for a woman to do. x
A lot of the time it comes down to perception and opinion. On one hand exotic dancers can be viewed as degrading to women, on the other it's a woman choosing to do what she likes with her own body.
A bit of an extreme example but I think it gets my point across"
Oh don’t get me started on that . Although that is exactly what I mean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Absolutely we are all different. I don’t blame you for enjoying the male attention especially after all you’ve been through to get here.
Ha don’t get me wrong some times I get fucked off too
“Are you single sweetheart?”
Errr …fuck off
Oh I do too. Just pisses me off when I see some women expecting others to conform with what they think is the right or wrong thing for a woman to do. x
A lot of the time it comes down to perception and opinion. On one hand exotic dancers can be viewed as degrading to women, on the other it's a woman choosing to do what she likes with her own body.
A bit of an extreme example but I think it gets my point across"
Oooooh very interesting! And I agree
As long as she enjoys doing what she does |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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I've had to put up with beepers for years, I just ignore them. I think I'll be more worried when they stop doing it I wish they wouldn't do it when I'm out with my horse though the beeping scares him. So for any beepers out there please don't do it to horse riders! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would think by now guys would learn a quick look isn't awful but some the stares and worse I see the "lads" out on the piss down skeggy give to women and young girls is just disgusting, gives men a bad name.
Am sure plenty of women may give the odd look and comment but it's not to the level given out by guys, police should treat it more seriously like other types of abuse be it verbal or physical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Worse still are the lads that go past a woman and simply scream out the window
“Get your rat out!!”
Totally unnecessary and inappropriate
Cunt is a much better option. Rat is a too ambiguous |
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"Worse still are the lads that go past a woman and simply scream out the window
“Get your rat out!!”
Totally unnecessary and inappropriate
Cunt is a much better option. Rat is a too ambiguous "
Bravo sir |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would think by now guys would learn a quick look isn't awful but some the stares and worse I see the "lads" out on the piss down skeggy give to women and young girls is just disgusting, gives men a bad name.
Am sure plenty of women may give the odd look and comment but it's not to the level given out by guys, police should treat it more seriously like other types of abuse be it verbal or physical."
Yeah I'd like to think by now things might have changed. When is it ok to start honking your horn at female people - when they're 13? 15? My teen is already getting the stares from cars. Does she just need to get used to the constant male gaze because she's pretty? Or does she just have to lump it because men want to do it. Does she have to smile when men say "give us a smile, luv"? Can she go for a run without stares or comment? |
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over a year ago
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"Running along the beach front near where I used to live I once had a woman nearly twist her head off watching me - I've only ever seen an owl rotate it's neck further.
At the time I felt quite smug but looking back I've decided to feel violated.
Mr
I mean, yes we do check guys out too x
I did see one stunning guy the weekend, running towards me and it all just went in slow motion.
I bet he saw my lips saying “OH.. HELLO…”
Anyway, he definitely checked me and my boobs out as we passed each other .. felt like time froze for a sec… so I was like … YUSSS
He was proper fit and sweaty!
Well, I was definitely sweaty at the time - must have been that. Joking aside, this is the problem isn't it. The exact same actions and behaviour are welcomed from one person and called assault from another. I don't want to live in a society where assault is defined by levels of attractiveness. Then again, I don't want to live in a society where people are made to feel uncomfortable or afraid due to the behaviour of strangers. No idea how to resolve that, we can all pick examples at either end of the spectrum that are obviously either acceptable or not but that middle ground is all a confused mess of personal opinions.
My take on it? If you didn't feel like the behaviour was inappropriate then it wasn't but that doesn't mean it would be fine for all people in all situations.
Mr"
I don't think men should be made to feel uncomfortable by female stares either. Nothing wrong with looking at someone you find attractive - of course not - but proper twist your neck stares - why? |
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"Would think by now guys would learn a quick look isn't awful but some the stares and worse I see the "lads" out on the piss down skeggy give to women and young girls is just disgusting, gives men a bad name.
Am sure plenty of women may give the odd look and comment but it's not to the level given out by guys, police should treat it more seriously like other types of abuse be it verbal or physical.
Yeah I'd like to think by now things might have changed. When is it ok to start honking your horn at female people - when they're 13? 15? My teen is already getting the stares from cars. Does she just need to get used to the constant male gaze because she's pretty? Or does she just have to lump it because men want to do it. Does she have to smile when men say "give us a smile, luv"? Can she go for a run without stares or comment? "
My 14 year old was whistled at by a guy easily in his 60s a few weeks back, she’d only walked up to the shop, came back and felt horrible.
Not that it matters but to those above saying ‘if you don’t wanna be honked at don’t give them an excuse to honk at you’ etc, - she was wearing jeans, t shirt and a hoodie, and surprise surprise it still happens, no matter what you wear |
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I'd say it's harassment yes.
It's just odd, serves no purpose. I've had some really bad experiences with men in cars so this kind of thing really makes me uncomfortable.
But sadly, nothing can be done, just something else we have to deal with.
I've learned to blank and ignore it now, but I'll never understand a person who thinks it's an ok way to show your appreciation for someone. |
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"Would think by now guys would learn a quick look isn't awful but some the stares and worse I see the "lads" out on the piss down skeggy give to women and young girls is just disgusting, gives men a bad name.
Am sure plenty of women may give the odd look and comment but it's not to the level given out by guys, police should treat it more seriously like other types of abuse be it verbal or physical.
Yeah I'd like to think by now things might have changed. When is it ok to start honking your horn at female people - when they're 13? 15? My teen is already getting the stares from cars. Does she just need to get used to the constant male gaze because she's pretty? Or does she just have to lump it because men want to do it. Does she have to smile when men say "give us a smile, luv"? Can she go for a run without stares or comment?
My 14 year old was whistled at by a guy easily in his 60s a few weeks back, she’d only walked up to the shop, came back and felt horrible.
Not that it matters but to those above saying ‘if you don’t wanna be honked at don’t give them an excuse to honk at you’ etc, - she was wearing jeans, t shirt and a hoodie, and surprise surprise it still happens, no matter what you wear "
And she's a child. But that's when it starts. Even younger sometimes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Worse still are the lads that go past a woman and simply scream out the window
“Get your rat out!!”
Totally unnecessary and inappropriate
Cunt is a much better option. Rat is a too ambiguous "
soooooo tempting |
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"Worse still are the lads that go past a woman and simply scream out the window
“Get your rat out!!”
Totally unnecessary and inappropriate
Cunt is a much better option. Rat is a too ambiguous
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"Worse still are the lads that go past a woman and simply scream out the window
“Get your rat out!!”
Totally unnecessary and inappropriate
Cunt is a much better option. Rat is a too ambiguous "
Well played mate
Why bring fun to the forums when you can use it as a soap box to highlight your a miserable / half glass empty belter.
More comments like the one from this gentlemen please |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Wierdly I've been on the receiving end of this too.
Back in about 1996-1998 I had 1986-88 Jon Bon Jovi hair - but even more blonde.
Walking home late at night I'd get cars rolling up slowly behind me only to speed off then they realised that the 6ft blonde they were kerb crawling wasn't a 6ft blonde woman walking by herself but a dude.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I did do a double take and laugh at a car full of young men a few summer's back.
I was walking past, in normal summer top and cotton trousers, when one of them one of them said something to me in a sexual tone. I can't remember what it was but it made me look back and go eh  This made them laugh and I walked away laughing to myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It doesn't happen to me any more, unless I wear a low cut top in summer.
It's never bothered me and it doesn't turn my head.
I'm pretty good at ignoring people "
Im also pretty good at ignoring people x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd just take it as a compliment in truth. There's a fine line between being honked at with an appreciative wave/comment and feeling like you're being harassed I guess  As a guy I wouldn't know how it truly feels so I'd say this is one more for the ladies to answer |
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