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Is it really worth it for single male here
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"You have only been here 5 weeks with your account. Building connections and trust can take much longer than that. Come here to have fun with no expectations of anything happening. Personality goes a long way with a lot of people, so let that shine through. Do what you wish with your profile, it’s not for other people to tell you what to do with it.I like to have fun with my pictures and it it gives people a laugh that’s great. Don’t let it get you down, and all the best for the future "Thank you for the positive reply and my profile is new but have been here before was a lot better then. And yes prob need a bit more patience and not expect anything. | |||
"Don’t rely solely on fab to get your leg over. You’ll probably end up frustrated and disappointed. Fab can be a tough place for most guys. Your profile ain’t great so I’d suggest you start there. Ask yourself….”would I meet me if I read that?”" Agree I do need a better profile I'm not the best for things like that wish i was but rubbish at that. | |||
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 but what I would say, is don’t expect anything from fab, it includes people and we have all learned people will never give you anything easy because they aren’t obligated to.
But don’t feel down, there are some wonderful people to connect with, it’s just finding the ones that click with you.
Just my thoughts, others will give better advice on ‘how to be successful’ etc
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"Expect nothing, enjoy everything "Very well said, HotwifeSeductions! Truly my approach to life... | |||
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"Totally worth it on here. The match rate is low but quality of connection higher than IRL. Be realistic in your approaches and ask yourself if you've read the profile or just the bits you think apply to you. Just remember to be civil when someone says no or doesn't reply as outbursts tend to have the opposite effect to what's desired." Excellent advice! Well said, and I agree fully. That has been my experience. FS has a wonderful community feel and thoughtful, genuine people are present if you are patient and keep trying. | |||
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"Totally worth it. If guys actually treated this site as a swinging site and understood the lifestyle as opposed to joining up because they think its a quick and easy way to get laid then they would get alot more out of it. Treat women with the same respect you would in person if you were face to face. But then I would imagine that's the problem with some on here, they do exactly that. I've been on and off here for years and never ever had a problem. " | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " It will attract men. | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? It will attract men." I’m horny. Wanna meet now? | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " You have to remember there are 100 men to every one woman, so you have to put the work in, I’ve been told there are loads of fake accounts on here with makes it harder for the genuine guys | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " If that is all that is on your profile then I would not say it is bad… but I would say it is very very basic! Your profile is your shop window to the world! What separates you from all the other people out there! What in your profile makes people think “wow I have to meet that person!” Hand on heart, would you answer your own profile? | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " You’ve only been here 5 weeks fella, give it time | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " To be honest, it's really not great. | |||
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"…… Hand on heart, would you answer your own profile? " This is sound advice op. | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " Morning max, glad you found the forums, I told they were a friendly bunch didn't I. | |||
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"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. " I'm both.  | |||
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"Guys come on here thinking yay I'll get laid! Then shock of shocks they don't, because women maybe horny, but they also don't say yes to everyone that asks. So then they moan about being a single male. You actually need to make effort, pics and bio. If you can't write a decent bio then how the hell are you going to do anything else with a woman. It really isn't that hard. " I agree with that | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested." " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do  . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them | |||
"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. " Lies. I’m a time wasting northern southerner! | |||
"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. "  | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them "You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do. But thanks for that | |||
"Guys come on here thinking yay I'll get laid! Then shock of shocks they don't, because women maybe horny, but they also don't say yes to everyone that asks. So then they moan about being a single male. You actually need to make effort, pics and bio. If you can't write a decent bio then how the hell are you going to do anything else with a woman. It really isn't that hard. " | |||
"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. " Lol!!! | |||
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"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them "Why don't you believe women who say they message men? I do. | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " Took me almost 6 months to get a meet when I joined. Your profile could do with a few tweaks.. seeing you balls deep in someone (possible bare) could turn off many. Letting your personality shine through in your write up rather than just what you want from sex may also help. As said 1. Don't be desperate. 2. Don't be a dick. 3. Engage with people, chatting to them as if you were in the same room meeting them helps. 4. Go to socials, chat nonsense in the forums. 5. Remember that people have interests other than sex and may require an actual connection before they decide they want to have sex with you. 6. Be yourself. Good luck fella. | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that "No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave? | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that
No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave?"You said ‘such a grandiose gesture’ It’s not grandiose, it takes a lot for me to contact men, not because of who I am, or what I think of myself, but because I’m scared. | |||
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"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that
No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave?"It depends how you approach people though. I don't message anyone on here and haven't done in 2 years but all the women who have contacted me in that time have done so based on my profile and forum engagement which makes them comfortable in approaching me. They aren't contacting me for sex. They are contacting me for conversation or to get to know me. | |||
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"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested." My winks are broken so I didn’t get it Probably better to just message me next time | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that
No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave?
It depends how you approach people though.
I don't message anyone on here and haven't done in 2 years but all the women who have contacted me in that time have done so based on my profile and forum engagement which makes them comfortable in approaching me.
They aren't contacting me for sex. They are contacting me for conversation or to get to know me. "Very wise words .
My experience over many years is very similar. It’s a community. | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " Most people dont even read their messages, your just one of many they receive, so put up some nice pictures of yourself, dont talk too much about yourself, if you do thats half your conversation done, so less is more and most importantly dont have expectations allow yourself to be picky, your worth just as much as what your looking for, good luck | |||
" My experience over many years is very similar. It’s a community." ...a community of cake lovers | |||
"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. " Northern ladies are great! | |||
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"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that
No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave?
You said ‘such a grandiose gesture’
It’s not grandiose, it takes a lot for me to contact men, not because of who I am, or what I think of myself, but because I’m scared. "I know it's not a grandiose gesture...I was being obviously ironic. But you still don't get it...you think it doesn't take a lot out of men to approach/contact women? You think men don't get scared when they approach a woman? The difference is that a woman winking at a man means 8 out of 10 times that man will jump on the opportunity to speak to you, if a man winks at a woman, 9 out of 10 times he will be considered a perv or a weirdo. The reality is that you will never face the rejection myself or most other men have faced, and each time it makes you feel not good enough, until eventually it just leaves you numb. And here we are you telling the OP that he's profile is not good enough and he needs to do and be better (which is something no woman on fab will ever hear) and clearly the OP is struggling. I'm not taking away your anxiety that you feel when you contact a man, I know that anxiety well too much, as it is the reason I will never contact/approach a woman ever again, because for me (and so many other men) one more rejection, one more time feeling that you are not good enough, means depression, means feeling desperately alone or even worse means being pushed over the edge, which is something 99% of women (+ all these Chad wannabes commenting) will never understand! And this is the reason why so many men are asking the question..."is being on fab worth it? " | |||
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"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that
No I haven't taken that wrong ...I pinpointed the difference between men and women when it comes to sex/dating, which you perfectly showcased. Do me a favour and try to put yourself in the shoes of the average man...now imagine you approach each guy you find attractive and each time you are rejected, then you go on with your life with this feeling in your mind and heart that you will never be good enough as a partner (because this is the reality of most men in today's society)... is that brave?
You said ‘such a grandiose gesture’
It’s not grandiose, it takes a lot for me to contact men, not because of who I am, or what I think of myself, but because I’m scared.
I know it's not a grandiose gesture...I was being obviously ironic. But you still don't get it...you think it doesn't take a lot out of men to approach/contact women? You think men don't get scared when they approach a woman? The difference is that a woman winking at a man means 8 out of 10 times that man will jump on the opportunity to speak to you, if a man winks at a woman, 9 out of 10 times he will be considered a perv or a weirdo. The reality is that you will never face the rejection myself or most other men have faced, and each time it makes you feel not good enough, until eventually it just leaves you numb. And here we are you telling the OP that he's profile is not good enough and he needs to do and be better (which is something no woman on fab will ever hear) and clearly the OP is struggling. I'm not taking away your anxiety that you feel when you contact a man, I know that anxiety well too much, as it is the reason I will never contact/approach a woman ever again, because for me (and so many other men) one more rejection, one more time feeling that you are not good enough, means depression, means feeling desperately alone or even worse means being pushed over the edge, which is something 99% of women (+ all these Chad wannabes commenting) will never understand! And this is the reason why so many men are asking the question..."is being on fab worth it? "
"I do get it, I really do, you’re just making assumptions In addition, the op asked for comments, and people are generally trying to help. A profile that doesn’t work won’t help him get meets…. | |||
"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. Northern ladies are great!" ^^ will get a shag for this
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" Is it really worth it for single male here?" It depends. Are you getting out of it what you wanted? If not, do you know why? Do you measure your success based on how you perceive other people to be succeeding? Only you can determine if you find this website a worthwhile endeavour, and so worth it. | |||
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"put some effort into your opening line, talk about what you're into, etc, what attracted you to the person you're messaging." I've got in to conversations, and ultimately meeting, by asking ladies what their favourite biscuit is! Apparently it makes a change from dick pics! | |||
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"To be brutally honest your pictures and profile aren't very flattering. Wearing a high vis on pics is cringe and it's not a very good angle of your nob, and it really puts me off when someone has a picture of themselves in someone. Use a pic of your face or if you want to remain anonymous a full body shot of you in your boxes. If you wear a high vis as your job, like a builder, etc, put it in your description or messages instead. Use actual personal sentences in your description (I'm, I'd like, I'm interested in...) rather than just a brief statements, so people can get a feel of your personality. Tick those boxes of what you're into so people can see if you're going to be compatible in bed. Also as a woman it's important for me that someone can accommodate, even if it's booking a hotel. I don't want a random bloke from the internet coming to my home and I want to be able to just leave if I'm not happy with a situation. It usually means you either live with your parents or your partner, if you can't accommodate. When you message people too, don't just send 'hi' or 'hey', put some effort into your opening line, talk about what you're into, etc, what attracted you to the person you're messaging." Ohhh I thought it was a photo of someone else in him | |||
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"I don’t use fab to meet people because all the women are either northern or time wasters. Lies. I’m a time wasting northern southerner!" North of Watford definitely counts! | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested. " I actually winked someone recently..." this actually made me burst out laughing... such a grandiose gesture a woman can do . Kinda proves it doesn't really matter how great a profile is, you would still never message them
You took that wrong. I actually winked because it was really brave for me, I never normally do.
But thanks for that "If you want to get over your fear of winking then I am happy to lend a helping hand  | |||
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"@hippy. Can I ask what scares you? I sense that guys will assume it's rejection (as that is what "scares" us). However I wonder it is safety or something else. " I’m scared of men, safety is the main part of it. I’m not scared of rejection, we’ve all been rejected, and I can understand that if it was continual it would grind you down, but we can’t all be for everyone | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " you could chance your arm with that group that sit on moterways and protest mate,, you Deffo have the right colour vest for it, | |||
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"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? " It’s not great | |||
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"You want to meet 121 couples , blimey fella that’s a tall order , that amount is going to keep you busy for a while , all the best "Yes I see that anyone these days is hard to meet | |||
"Reading your profile, I would say it doesn't quite stand out. Your description is very sexual all the way through but say very little about your personality so perhaps you can tweak it there maybe? As suggested by other before, visiting clubs and social events are a good way to start building friendships and connections also. Good luck bud "That's what I like to hear some advise and some of you make a lot of sense. Not everyone is good with things like profiles read ups so any help go a long way | |||
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"Depends how much effort you put in I think if you’re somewhat attractive and friendly enough, visit a few clubs / socials would give any guy some success on here. The issue with that is a very tiny fraction of the site uses socials / clubs, and those are the only ones that you’d see success with. For example, it wouldn’t help me because I’m not willing to travel very far for meets. So there’s no socials within my travel limit that would net me anyone close enough I’d want to meet. And with clubs, I hate the idea of paying 3-5x what everyone else pays just to get in, just to spend the evening wondering around trying to convince everyone I’m not some kinda creepy pervert single guy stalking the club scene. Doesn’t sound fun to me at all and it’s expensive A fair few guys on the forums have come to the conclusion I have. Fabs is worth it, messaging isn’t. Make a nice profile, put your best pics up, make it clear on your bio that you do not message 1st, and let the ones that actually like you and have the balls to do so, message 1st. You could spend hours reading profiles, constructing witty and charming 1st messages, attaching your best pics, and the majority won’t even get opened. Most couples and females inboxes are so flooded with messages it turns into a game of luck where the odds aren’t in your favour It’s all up to you how you play it. " Thanks helps a lot | |||
"Totally worth it on here. The match rate is low but quality of connection higher than IRL. Be realistic in your approaches and ask yourself if you've read the profile or just the bits you think apply to you. Just remember to be civil when someone says no or doesn't reply as outbursts tend to have the opposite effect to what's desired." I am allways civil and OK with a no thank you. | |||
"I’ve been here for 5 years and regularly go to clubs, I’ve had 3 meets in that time. I’ve been told that I have a good profile. Most messages I send get ignored or deleted but when I do get replys (about 8 in 5 years) I make in count. So op keep the faith, make the most of your profile and keep trying " Thanks | |||
"There’s nothing on your profile that would draw me in, the photos aren’t great, and the bio is a bit off putting. You will always get people who say it makes no difference, but that’s rubbish. I actually winked someone recently because his profile was great and I was interested." Thank you | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? Morning max, glad you found the forums, I told they were a friendly bunch didn't I. "Hi both yes getting lots of good advise on this topic the last one not so good. Nice to see you both hear too | |||
"Yes, there is a lot of single men on the site. But the cream rises to the top. Put the effort in, hang out in the forum's and have fun. Almost everyone here is after the same thing, but standing out from the crowd is easier if you step forward and participate, in socials and forums etc. And if you do get a meet, turn up, don't be selfish (unless that's what the other person is looking for) and make sure everyone has a good time (including yourself) Hard work but worth it." Thanks | |||
"I have many friends on fab, most i have taken time to build up a friendship and trust. Some meets are instant others have taken a long time to come together. Lots of good advice on hear, use the forums, go to socials, even clubs. Go with no expectations then everything else is a bonus. " I agree I'm taking the advise and greatful for it. Even if negative towards my profile as its not great I agree | |||
"It's a lottery. People are attracted to who they are comfortable with. Nobody knows what someone else over t'net truly likes/comfortable with. Some don't message as they are shy/nervous themselves. What you find attractive, the other person may not. It's the world. As you are bi- much easier guy wise "Thank you | |||
"Yes it is,really worth it you just haven't gotten over the first hurdle and reading your profile haven't finished completing your interests which is just a tick option" | |||
"We don’t look or respond to single males on here but at parties we play with them, it’s just so hard to spot the diamonds in the rough on here, as soon as our single guy filter is lifted the messages come in hard and fast, too much to read "That's fair answer and works for you | |||
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"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. " Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius! | |||
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"Do love these threads, it really pinpoints the women haters and incels! Just the ones the ladies need to avoid." Yesterday was incel day. I scared him off. | |||
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"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. " this sounds like "you're not in traffic, you are the traffic". | |||
"Don’t rely solely on fab to get your leg over. You’ll probably end up frustrated and disappointed. Fab can be a tough place for most guys. Your profile ain’t great so I’d suggest you start there. Ask yourself….”would I meet me if I read that?”" *Note, this advice requires self esteem... | |||
"The amount of time I spend looking here is shocking is my profile really that bad??? Took me almost 6 months to get a meet when I joined. Your profile could do with a few tweaks.. seeing you balls deep in someone (possible bare) could turn off many. Letting your personality shine through in your write up rather than just what you want from sex may also help. As said 1. Don't be desperate. 2. Don't be a dick. 3. Engage with people, chatting to them as if you were in the same room meeting them helps. 4. Go to socials, chat nonsense in the forums. 5. Remember that people have interests other than sex and may require an actual connection before they decide they want to have sex with you. 6. Be yourself. Good luck fella."
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"Don’t rely solely on fab to get your leg over. You’ll probably end up frustrated and disappointed. Fab can be a tough place for most guys. Your profile ain’t great so I’d suggest you start there. Ask yourself….”would I meet me if I read that?” " I'd definitely meet me, what's not to like? I'm fun, got and sexy. Meeting myself would be enough to turn me bi | |||
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"Need to do a helicockter vid ladies love it "Good advice here gentlemen ^^^
And a boing | |||
"Need to do a helicockter vid ladies love it
Good advice here gentlemen ^^^
And a boing "noted ! | |||
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" Also as a woman it's important for me that someone can accommodate, even if it's booking a hotel. I don't want a random bloke from the internet coming to my home and I want to be able to just leave if I'm not happy with a situation. It usually means you either live with your parents or your partner, if you can't accommodate." This is actually one of the things that annoys me most about fab. The whole men have to accommodate or sort a hotel and the presumption they are on a relationship or living with parents if they don't. Yet a woman is seen as being safe. While yes I agree with the point of not having a stranger come to my home I'm the same I would never let someone i didn't know come to my house.Only people I have met several times and want to continue to meet learn where I live. By why should a man be expected to being women he doesn't know well to his. Women are just as bad at stalkers and bad behaviour. And I know when I meet at a hotel it's a joint decision where and I pay half always. I also do not jump to conclusions and I presuame a man doesn't accomadate for the exact same reasons I don't This one rule for men and another for women is hypocrisy at a pretty high level . | |||
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" Also as a woman it's important for me that someone can accommodate, even if it's booking a hotel. I don't want a random bloke from the internet coming to my home and I want to be able to just leave if I'm not happy with a situation. It usually means you either live with your parents or your partner, if you can't accommodate. This is actually one of the things that annoys me most about fab. The whole men have to accommodate or sort a hotel and the presumption they are on a relationship or living with parents if they don't. Yet a woman is seen as being safe. While yes I agree with the point of not having a stranger come to my home I'm the same I would never let someone i didn't know come to my house.Only people I have met several times and want to continue to meet learn where I live. By why should a man be expected to being women he doesn't know well to his. Women are just as bad at stalkers and bad behaviour. And I know when I meet at a hotel it's a joint decision where and I pay half always. I also do not jump to conclusions and I presuame a man doesn't accomadate for the exact same reasons I don't This one rule for men and another for women is hypocrisy at a pretty high level . " Agree! I’ve said this for years | |||
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"To be brutally honest your pictures and profile aren't very flattering. Wearing a high vis on pics is cringe and it's not a very good angle of your nob, and it really puts me off when someone has a picture of themselves in someone. Use a pic of your face or if you want to remain anonymous a full body shot of you in your boxes. If you wear a high vis as your job, like a builder, etc, put it in your description or messages instead. Use actual personal sentences in your description (I'm, I'd like, I'm interested in...) rather than just a brief statements, so people can get a feel of your personality. Tick those boxes of what you're into so people can see if you're going to be compatible in bed. Also as a woman it's important for me that someone can accommodate, even if it's booking a hotel. I don't want a random bloke from the internet coming to my home and I want to be able to just leave if I'm not happy with a situation. It usually means you either live with your parents or your partner, if you can't accommodate. When you message people too, don't just send 'hi' or 'hey', put some effort into your opening line, talk about what you're into, etc, what attracted you to the person you're messaging." Thank you | |||
"I kinda see fab (and dating) as being like looking for a job. If you want a decent job, then you need a CV that sells you well. You need to interview well. But most of all, you need to have invested in yourself so you have the skills to do the job. If you really invest, you can even get headhunted. But many treat fab as if loading a shit CV online will land you a CEO role. And often the advice is aimed at polishing the CV. It helps, but only to get you to the next stage. Good luck blow job hunters "Thank you | |||
"Need to do a helicockter vid ladies love it
Good advice here gentlemen ^^^
And a boing "*boops your nose with penis.. | |||
"Need to do a helicockter vid ladies love it
Good advice here gentlemen ^^^
And a boing
*boops your nose with penis.."Oooh I say | |||
"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius! "Yep not helped himself there | |||
"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. " how did I miss this | |||
"Won't lie... bloody love this site! Took time to get recognised as "genuine" but, once people realise you are, it's a different site altogether. Just, be honest, respectful... patient. Good luck, were all in the same "single man" boat " | |||
"@hippy. Can I ask what scares you? I sense that guys will assume it's rejection (as that is what "scares" us). However I wonder it is safety or something else. I’m scared of men, safety is the main part of it. I’m not scared of rejection, we’ve all been rejected, and I can understand that if it was continual it would grind you down, but we can’t all be for everyone " | |||
"Plenty here to meet single males, I'll be honest nothing on your profile would draw me in. Your single but have an " action " pic shows more of the other person than you. Your profile is your shop window you need to entice us in " | |||
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"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius!
Yep not helped himself there"He did not say all women here are fussy and picky...he only questioned what (all) the fussy and picky women and couples on the site would do if all men would dissappear and got no more attention from them... it's an interesting question | |||
"I wonder have you changed any of your profile yet, am I seeing the same one? What I'm reading still isn't great tbh and won't catch many people's eye (ie for what it's doing, I don't compare it to ones like mine). And as you did ask... Are you playing it cool perhaps? Honestly this is the best advice I think (and I feel I see it all the time)... Surely there is nothing cool in having a throwaway profile that looks like you only slightly care. Most women on here especially are, yes, not exactly looking for husband, but they ARE looking for at least some element of attentiveness! As someone else pointed out, you somehow manage to make 'eating pussy' sound vulgar... but that's just because you are being too terse imo. It's too inattentive. The full age range too - it's probably the terseness again (maybe even some politeness), but the 18-99 can often look like a cop-out too. It may be true, but with everything else it looks like 'inattentiveness' again (someone might wonder, how *well* does this guy actually eat that pussy?). You haven't ticked any interests too. Maybe oral? People have to find you too (ie via search), remember. So give them things to add to the search. So for me it's all about the cumulative effect of actually providing too little. On the plus side, you have said bisexual over bicurious, and you clearly understand it's largely all about searching and reaching out here (ie the work you put into it), and that all the effort is ultimately backed up by a profile too... so good luck!---" Thank you I will be changing the profile just reading through here first | |||
"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius!
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He did not say all women here are fussy and picky...he only questioned what (all) the fussy and picky women and couples on the site would do if all men would dissappear and got no more attention from them... it's an interesting question "I’m fussy and picky. Extremely! And I’m not ashamed of that. I would imagine if all the men left then the women who were looking for men would leave too. Quite an easy question to answer I would think | |||
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"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius!
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He did not say all women here are fussy and picky...he only questioned what (all) the fussy and picky women and couples on the site would do if all men would dissappear and got no more attention from them... it's an interesting question
I’m fussy and picky. Extremely! And I’m not ashamed of that. I would imagine if all the men left then the women who were looking for men would leave too. Quite an easy question to answer I would think "There’s nothing wrong with being fussy, picky and having high standards. It’s actually a sign of a high quality woman. There are a few women on here that mix that with “all men are shit” attitude which I don’t like. If you will only settle for Tom Hardy then good for you, but that doesn’t mean everyone that’s not Tom Hardy isn’t worth anyones time. Then there’s those that offer very little while expecting to be given a lot. But that’s not exclusive to women. Lots of blank profiles making lots of demands | |||
"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius!
Yep not helped himself there
He did not say all women here are fussy and picky...he only questioned what (all) the fussy and picky women and couples on the site would do if all men would dissappear and got no more attention from them... it's an interesting question
I’m fussy and picky. Extremely! And I’m not ashamed of that. I would imagine if all the men left then the women who were looking for men would leave too. Quite an easy question to answer I would think
There’s nothing wrong with being fussy, picky and having high standards. It’s actually a sign of a high quality woman.
There are a few women on here that mix that with “all men are shit” attitude which I don’t like.
If you will only settle for Tom Hardy then good for you, but that doesn’t mean everyone that’s not Tom Hardy isn’t worth anyones time.
Then there’s those that offer very little while expecting to be given a lot. But that’s not exclusive to women. Lots of blank profiles making lots of demands "Oh yes I agree. I don’t like women who do that either. And I’d be quick to comment on those things too. | |||
"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. Ah you know how to win the women over! Tell them they're all fussy and picky. Genius!
Yep not helped himself there
He did not say all women here are fussy and picky...he only questioned what (all) the fussy and picky women and couples on the site would do if all men would dissappear and got no more attention from them... it's an interesting question "do these people only use fab? And what makes someone picky? I imagine people have names for the ones that aren't "picky". And they aren't nice !! | |||
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"Single and bi? You are ticking all the available boxes but still no interest? Pics/profile/effort. Or more importantly, just relax and enjoy your time here. There's no rush." Nope it's my profile it's shit lol | |||
" Also as a woman it's important for me that someone can accommodate, even if it's booking a hotel. I don't want a random bloke from the internet coming to my home and I want to be able to just leave if I'm not happy with a situation. It usually means you either live with your parents or your partner, if you can't accommodate. This is actually one of the things that annoys me most about fab. The whole men have to accommodate or sort a hotel and the presumption they are on a relationship or living with parents if they don't. Yet a woman is seen as being safe. While yes I agree with the point of not having a stranger come to my home I'm the same I would never let someone i didn't know come to my house.Only people I have met several times and want to continue to meet learn where I live. By why should a man be expected to being women he doesn't know well to his. Women are just as bad at stalkers and bad behaviour. And I know when I meet at a hotel it's a joint decision where and I pay half always. I also do not jump to conclusions and I presuame a man doesn't accomadate for the exact same reasons I don't This one rule for men and another for women is hypocrisy at a pretty high level . " Many reasons for men that can't accommodate | |||
"Op better pictures use your imagination ". Thanks | |||
"Op you have some great advice above on how to increase your chances on here on getting a meet. Yes it's definitely harder for men on here but plenty who do make an effort get results back. Quite simply it's up to you what you do plenty don't take any advice and they never get off the starting block. " Thanks | |||
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"Wouldn't it be fun if all the males left the site...I wonder what all the fussy,picky females and couples would do then. No one to wine and dine them,or tell them what age, body size, cock size etc etc etc. They'd have to use other means to get what they want. I know it'll never happen but.....well if carlsburg done boycotts, that would be an excellent boycott do do, don't you think. " I am extremely fussy and picky over who I meet off here and I really don't care if that doesn't suit others and I shall continue to be just as fussy in the future .In saying that I have never expected anyone to wine or dine me or to jump through hoops to meet me. I do prefer men who do speak their mind but don't feel the need to demean others when putting their points across and people who will jump through hoops or blow smoke up my ass telling me how wonderful,sexy,better than all others on here do not appeal to me as it's just patter some men use to flatter women into bed for a shag and I'm too old and world wise to fall for that talk. If men left here then I would too as they are the reason I joined. But it wouldnt be that big a deal as my life does not revolve around fab and I have a wonderful Fwb who I would continue to meet anyhow | |||
"Need to do a helicockter vid ladies love it
Good advice here gentlemen ^^^
And a boing
*boops your nose with penis..
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"Profile is being updated hard bit left to do" Funny profile pic. | |||
"Profile is being updated hard bit left to do Funny profile pic. "Thanks been updating it. Funny as good funny or still needs improvement? | |||
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"Profile is being updated hard bit left to do Funny profile pic.
Thanks been updating it.
Funny as good funny or still needs improvement? "Good funny , but I would wear clothes instead of cloths | |||
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"Profile is being updated hard bit left to do Funny profile pic.
Thanks been updating it.
Funny as good funny or still needs improvement?
Good funny , but I would wear clothes instead of cloths "Funny enough I missed that but been corrected now lol x | |||
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"You nailed it with your new profile. Very entertaining and shows your funny side. "Thank you very greatful for the feedback was unsure x | |||
