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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating  and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ? |
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?"
I'd say something, maybe not that you recognise him but even that you're on and see what he says? Surely having a partner who would be open to a fab life is a bonus? The fact he already knows what it is would make that conversation easier.
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If i was going to keep talking to him then no. I would want there to be openess and honesty.
If you have no interest in talking to them then you can just let it go.
And don't be ashamed about traditional dating. You need to look after your own happiness |
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"If i was going to keep talking to him then no. I would want there to be openess and honesty.
If you have no interest in talking to them then you can just let it go.
And don't be ashamed about traditional dating. You need to look after your own happiness "
No I wouldn't stay quiet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?
I'd say something, maybe not that you recognise him but even that you're on and see what he says? Surely having a partner who would be open to a fab life is a bonus? The fact he already knows what it is would make that conversation easier.
Good luck "
Thx
I did actually say i recognise you but I didn’t twig til earlier
Maybe I’ll venture the conversation |
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?"
Bring it up you could be onto a winner  just talk about Fab see if he will mention he has a profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world "
Yeah it’s a public pic
He won’t have seen mine as face pics are friends only |
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I’ve had the same but I’ll always broach it because I prefer transparency. I’m not ashamed of being here and it’s a conversation I’d rather have sooner rather than later if there was any potential. |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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"Date him and then see if he stays active on here.
You will find out if he’s a cheater quick enough
Or he’s polyamorous"
Possibly but that should come up in convo early on and if it doesn't then cheat cheat cheater |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?"
If I was in your shoe's. I'd play innocent. Stealth.
Then if and when I really know him take her hand to the dark side and enjoy! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
Starting a potential relationship with testing him to see if he stays on fab, or to see if his reaction changes to you, or any other reason, baffles me.
If you'd seen him on Tinder, or wherever, at the gym or in the supermarket, would you tell him then?
Just be honest. Don't tell him if you don't want him knowing you're on here but own that as the reason. And don't do it to test him. Being on fab doesn't make a person "easy" or "a sure thing". And if he thinks it does, that says something about him that you then get to make a decision about.
Honesty is the way in my view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world "
I was going to ask how you recognised him  J xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Presumably he has a face photo on public display here so doesn’t mind being recognised from Fab in the outside world
I was going to ask how you recognised him J xx "
He is local and I’ve noticed him on my ‘ viewed me ‘ several times
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?"
But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?
But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting? "
No it’s the same pic , he’s never got in touch with me on here and I don’t tend to approach men on here first ( sad but true ) |
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I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.
If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.
What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.
If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.
What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’ "
That is my issue !! |
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Do I stay quiet ?
But I don't understand, you found him attractive on bumble but not here. Bad lighting? "
Thr OP didn't say she didn't find him attractive on here x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites?
Hold on fab is a dating site?"
It can be anything you want it to be !!  |
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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago
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"You could ask him how broad minded he is and if he uses any other dating sites?
Hold on fab is a dating site?"
Sone people use it as that, yes. No reason it can't be. It's a great place to find like minded people and I know of a number of couples who have met on here. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I’m also on dating sites and it really grinds my gears when men pop up and say “oh if it isn’t _onkeynut” or similar and then don’t offer their own fab name for viewing.
If they have seen me on here then I’d rather just say it and have a normal conversation about it and not be all cloak and dagger.
What I will say though is that once they know I'm on here I go from ‘dating potential’ to ‘shag potential’
That is my issue !!"
If he switches gear because you’re both in here then that’s on him.
I’ve dabble for fun on Bumble and Tinder (mostly out of curiosity tbh) and my profile is uber transparent. Quite clear I’m in poly relationships and have several lovely friends that I’ve no intention of giving up. Saves a lot of BS dancing around the pole as it were. Be straight and open. Like any relationship should be. |
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Nah don't stay quiet he maybe the one you've been looking for!Plenty of ppl are on fab and other websites getting their kicks as such...wait to meet him and see if you like him then maybe tell him your on here! Or play stupid and ask if he's on any other decent sites ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I decided to go back to traditional dating and downloaded bumble
Chatting to a decent guy ( local ) and I was like god I recognise him, was only today I realised he’s a member on here
Sorry I was wrong. I'd talk to him about it. I don't have any problems with fab. Nothing to hide? We're all adults and we all love sex. How simple could it be?
Do I stay quiet ?"
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