"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
I can reassure you without doubt that every one apart from you is NOT shagging. |
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"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
Swings and roundabouts, mate. You can just do you: comparing yourself to others, in any walk of life, is just futile.
As Tomantana says, have a think about what you might be able to differently if it's really bothering you... |
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Envy is a hard emotion to live with.
In the past I have had envious thoughts and I had to examine why I was feeling these thing and look at the root causes
For example. I'm lonely yes. But what did I do to actually fix the problem? Did I go and be pro active? In your case, to get on in fab you are either a specimen or you work hard. The hard work is going to socials, being not creepy, being a part of the community. And not just doing it once. Going again and again to make friends and connections and then see where you ate at |
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"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
Yep. It's grinding as fuck, to be shown again and again how undesirable you are. You've got to be in the right headspace for it. I can completely see why constant and unrelenting rejection tosses a lot of men's mental health straight into the toilet. |
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over a year ago
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I've spent enough time here to know that many people are not meeting every week and having loads of fun. I'm not. Don't believe other people's hype as it makes you feel worse. Take a break if the site is getting to you. It's a very shallow place - it's not worth your mental health. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe |
"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
Nope. Doesn't bother me one bit! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?
Yep. It's grinding as fuck, to be shown again and again how undesirable you are. You've got to be in the right headspace for it. I can completely see why constant and unrelenting rejection tosses a lot of men's mental health straight into the toilet. "
Not just the men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NSP is right. There are lots and lots of women I know who find it hard to deal with fab. It grinds you down "
For different reasons, but yes. I don't have the feelings of rejection which must be hard to deal with I think. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"NSP is right. There are lots and lots of women I know who find it hard to deal with fab. It grinds you down
For different reasons, but yes. I don't have the feelings of rejection which must be hard to deal with I think. "
That's you though lovely. There are some women who all they see and feel is the rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is hard. For so many different reasons for us all. Dating is hard. Swinging is hard. looking for casual sex is hard. Meeting the *right* people is hard. But it’ll happen. If you can’t manage the shit, I genuinely advise a break.  |
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"NSP is right. There are lots and lots of women I know who find it hard to deal with fab. It grinds you down
For different reasons, but yes. I don't have the feelings of rejection which must be hard to deal with I think.
That's you though lovely. There are some women who all they see and feel is the rejection."
I worded that badly! Of course. Lots of people here have feelings of rejection and they must be hard to cope with when it keeps coming. I've certainly felt that elsewhere and it's horrible. I find it's feeling used and lied to and objectified that often overwhelms me. Sometimes we need to step away for a while. Or just stop looking and enjoy the silly forum threads  |
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You may think that everyone on here are having meets all the time and getting lots of fun but that isn't the case. Take us for example, we haven't had a meet together this year yet.
What approach have you tried, are you solely relying on messages on this site to meet people in the swinging scene? |
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"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
--The first part of your dilemma will improve when you realise the second is a complete misapprehension!
You are not being pushed back or left behind, you've just likely read a few too many verifications. -- |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jump on a dating app, I have a lot more success talking to females on them but then again I do reveal a lot more about myself including face pics which helps. Best of luck dude .  |
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You could be honest and admit to being bisexual too (ie not still 'bicurious'  ). You don't want intercourse, just oral and anal - mate, that's properly bisexual.
Obviously reach out and use Search for bisexuals into oral.
Also, why start with that you are looking for friendship? That could turn a lot of people off as most on here want no-strings sex. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to put, just maybe not to start with. |
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"Jump on a dating app, I have a lot more success talking to females on them but then again I do reveal a lot more about myself including face pics which helps. Best of luck dude . "
--this isn't bad advice if you want friendship etc - try okc maybe (and you can say you are bi there lol too, I found a bisexual woman on there) |
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over a year ago
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If you are feeling depressed by it or if it’s damaging your mental health why would you continue to put yourself through it? Take a break, take another look at your profile, re-evaluate and come back (if it’s what’s right for you)
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"Does anybody else get down and a bit lonely when you can’t get a meet however hard you try, and see everyone else getting meets and having lots of naughty fun?"
There’s more to life than fab my friend. |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
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It isnt easy as a single guy, used to be part of a couple and we had planty of meets, and invited to socials, but that doesnt seem to happen as a single guy, but there is more to life than swinging, so i just enjoy other parts of my life, im still looking, but kind of resigned to the fact that im unlukely to find people to meed, but never mind |
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