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"All the people I have met off fab have remained as good friends if I'm honest. Fab was just the place I first started to speak to them from. Some I've had naughties with, some I haven't and don't intend too. Some like Grumpy above have always been a good mate, but he no longer has decent biscuits at his house so his quite crap now to be fair. And Nora is on another level, I've had to give up trying to be naughty with her, her standards are too high to meet .... so nights out it is for our Nora only! "Ffs  | |||
 but I everyone on my friends list have never had me naked….yet So, friends on fab again, is a fuzzy term.
I do think you can find good friends anywhere though, as proven to me wether online or not.  | |||
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But yes I do call them fab friends because they are kinky sexual deviants | |||
"The term friends is used a lot on fab and is often a coverall from everything from someone I’d die for, to meeting them once and they smelled of biscuits. What does that term mean for you? Are people from fab actually friends or is it a vague term for someone you know and might have sex with? If the sex stopped, would you still be friends? I’m wondering if we need new terms! " What sort of biscuits? There is a huge difference between fig rolls and choc digestives. And we mustn't mention Jaffa Cakes... As far as still being friends if the sex stopped, I'm still waiting for the sex to start but I've got friends anyway. | |||
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"I don't think it is just on fab that people use the term "friends" differently. Some people see friendship in different ways, for some it is all about what they can get from the other person or people, for some it is more about what they give out. In rare cases friendship can be equally give and take, and that's whe it lasts. It doesn't mean that it has to be equal all the time, sometimes one person will need to take more and sometimes it'll switch over. But when that is what happens, a friendship will last. For me, I have made actual, lasting friendships, fully give and take, from fab. Because it is like anywhere else, and you can make friends here. I've also been used for various reasons by people I thought were that sort of friend, and that's a harsh lesson. I've also got "fab forum friends", who I bounce off, flirt with, mess about with and all the usual. Mostly I've not met them and maybe I won't ever, maybe we will meet and get on, on a surface level, but they're unlikely to ever know my last name or where I live. As for the people I get nekkid with... they tend to be the former. People I really like, who like me for me, and who happen to have had a smack to the head and find me attractive (and I find them attractive too). I don't want to do the bow chicka wow wow (I've now said that 3 times in my life) with someone I don't like and trust. I'm hard work to become friends with, and that is my failing. But get over the fact I'm crap at keeping in touch (mainly because I assume I'm interrupting something more important, or the person doesn't actually want to hear from me so I talk myself out of messaging for ages), and I'm yours. Stuck with me until you shake me off, or really hurt me." I has been on your actual bed, am I proper friends yet … | |||
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"Wait, you have to have sex with your fab friendlist? I thought it was just there so people could masturbate over strangers genitals. " You do you, if that’s what makes you happy. | |||
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"I don't think it is just on fab that people use the term "friends" differently. Some people see friendship in different ways, for some it is all about what they can get from the other person or people, for some it is more about what they give out. In rare cases friendship can be equally give and take, and that's whe it lasts. It doesn't mean that it has to be equal all the time, sometimes one person will need to take more and sometimes it'll switch over. But when that is what happens, a friendship will last. For me, I have made actual, lasting friendships, fully give and take, from fab. Because it is like anywhere else, and you can make friends here. I've also been used for various reasons by people I thought were that sort of friend, and that's a harsh lesson. I've also got "fab forum friends", who I bounce off, flirt with, mess about with and all the usual. Mostly I've not met them and maybe I won't ever, maybe we will meet and get on, on a surface level, but they're unlikely to ever know my last name or where I live. As for the people I get nekkid with... they tend to be the former. People I really like, who like me for me, and who happen to have had a smack to the head and find me attractive (and I find them attractive too). I don't want to do the bow chicka wow wow (I've now said that 3 times in my life) with someone I don't like and trust. I'm hard work to become friends with, and that is my failing. But get over the fact I'm crap at keeping in touch (mainly because I assume I'm interrupting something more important, or the person doesn't actually want to hear from me so I talk myself out of messaging for ages), and I'm yours. Stuck with me until you shake me off, or really hurt me. I has been on your actual bed, am I proper friends yet … "Shh... don't tell anyone. I don't accommodate, remember  | |||
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There are a few on my friends list whom I hope remain friends even if I were to leave Fab.  | |||
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" If the sex stopped, would you still be friends? " That’s what counts to me, people I’ve met here and chat to about normal and quite personal stuff , who know what’s going on , but haven’t had sex with or we have but we’d carry on chatting and he friends if we didn’t continue to have sex. | |||
" If the sex stopped, would you still be friends? I’m wondering if we need new terms! " Yes. If the sex started I’d still be friends. | |||
 with me and now we are just regular friends and some still get to do bad things with me and also be my friend.
I think we are ok to keep things simple and hold onto the term friends. | |||
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"Hi OP, A friend to me is someone who you’ve shared a connection with and build on it to exchange a moment of intimacy from your life. Not necessarily sexual intimacy. For example we have never met but we have exchanged conversations of a personal nature at a time we both needed someone to have those exchanges with. I’d still consider you a friend despite having not met in person. Sometimes those connections and conversations spill into real life meetings and life long friendships. Sometimes they are a short lived moment of shared joy before we move along different paths in life. Some have done bad things with me and now we are just regular friends and some still get to do bad things with me and also be my friend.
I think we are ok to keep things simple and hold onto the term friends. "Everything from the word Sometimes in your post is so spot on .. My take on things exactly | |||
"My friendships are forged from connection and trust and yes I have formed friendships with people from Fab, have known my oldest Fab friend for over 10 years, he is someone I trust and he trusts me, we know each others secrets Some guys I have remained friends with after the sex stopped...we have lunch dates and coffee when we can I find it sad that connections can be lost after you've had sex with someone. If you get on well enough to want to have sex with them then why not continue a friendship" I love to be able to continue the friendship. That's why I take a long time to decide to have sex with someone to start with. I'm still friends with a few men I've had sex with. | |||
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