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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Got a meet on wednesday 3 hour journey, profile is a couple but the lady is messeging me, says she wants to meet seperatly but at her home, husband is working but knows and is very excited about the meet, she wont send me any updated pics just the one on there profile, i need to be there after 10 but leave before lunch time before hubby comes home and only given me postcode not house number, what are your thoughts guys ?????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you’ve got doubts it’s probably fake.
The pictures alone would tell me it’s fake. Everyone had a smartphone so there’s no excuse that she can’t send a pic holding up your username to prove she’s genuine. |
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That sounds dodgy to me, that’s quite a round trip on the basis of an old photo and a post code, ask to speak on the phone or for them to send an updated photo, if that’s a no go then politely decline and save your fuel money   |
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Think about it from the opposite side for a moment. A married woman has a two hour window to meet a guy for fun. Rather than look closer to home, she messages a guy three hours away.
Admittedly you could be everything she’s been looking for in a meet. But do you feel that the interactions you’ve had with her, brings you to that conclusion ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would consider giving a swerve. Myself and another gent on here planned a mmf with lady of couple from here. I travelled three hour roubd trip, he bought all the 'provisions' she stipulated...no show from her despite us all chattinv and planning for weeks.
We messaged her to say we were both there, etc. Radio silence...
Then in the evening after I had driven home, she said it was because we had not responded to her message at lunchtime, when I was driving to the meet that we had all chatted about earlier that morning.
Learning experience! |
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"Definitely have a phone call, "she" can call you on number withheld if "she" doesn't want to give "her" number."
And I'd ask to speak to them both as it's coming across as though the hubby doesn't know. |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
Back of Nowhere and Beyond |
I think the very fact you've posted the thread and titled it as you have has really spoken volumes.
It is a long way to go for someone you don't know is the person in the one picture you have seen.
Follow your head, not your peen, is the best advice I can give.
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Honestly I agree it's likely a fake especially if they approached you
Most couples won't go near an account with a sillohette profile and no verifications
The not giving out an address wouldn't faze me as I don't give that out until an hour or so before a meet as I've found the longer in advance people have it the more likely they are to no show, I also wouldn't give out my phone number for a phone conversation and I've never webcamed but why can't she send over a more recent photo
3hrs is a long way to travel if you have suspicions they are a fake account, I've always found my gut has served me well on FAB if it sounds to good to be true it likely is
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Don't go,
It'll be a wrong address they give you and 3hours is a long way to go to be given the run around.
No reason you can't be sent up to date pics ,unless it's a single male who doesn't have any .
Most women I know wouldn't invite a stranger round 1st meet . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always go with your gut instinct if it sounds fishy pull away
Without getting in to details
I made a decision not to go to a club night because they wouldn’t give the adress off the club before hand was told I would receive it the day before or on the day
So completely decided it am not going at all
Red flags were reased |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
You’re seriously considering driving three hours to fuck a random married woman you barely know abs who sounds dodgy as fuck , are you insane or really desperate for sex ?
Honest advice , Just block it. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you"
Because they might want to mug you.
Folk do that you know!
Could also be a fella.
All sorts of possibilities.
Be careful and proceed on Fab with caution.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
So many red flags. The fact she contacted you when you bad no pics up its extremely rare a woman will contact a blank profile like that, and they won't give you any info or any recent pics and wants you to call to her house when her husband is out would be a massive red flag. It's most likely a guy you are talking to. 3 hours is a long drive for a meet like that especially with someone who is being so secretive. I know if it was me I'd walk away and it sounds like it's just someone playing games. |
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I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.
I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.
They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so! |
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"Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you"
They get a kick out of leading people on. We often get messages off fake profiles. One was a "Birmingham hot wife", but an image search showed she was an American model, "she" had fake verifications too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Got a meet on wednesday 3 hour journey, profile is a couple but the lady is messeging me, says she wants to meet seperatly but at her home, husband is working but knows and is very excited about the meet, she wont send me any updated pics just the one on there profile, i need to be there after 10 but leave before lunch time before hubby comes home and only given me postcode not house number, what are your thoughts guys ?????? "
Definitely sounds like a set up. Don't waste your time.
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Personally I wouldn't travel 3 hours for someone I'd never met unless I had video called them and even then I'd be a bit hmmmm. What if you don't get on and its awkward ect. No thanks. Now if I had previously met the person then it wouldn't be a problem |
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By *MCMan
over a year ago
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Something similar happened to me, but was only 40 minutes drive..
Wouldn’t give any info except a name of a car park across the road from their house, they’d give me the number when I was there… It all seemed very suspicious but went along with... she ended up blocking me because I read their message and didn’t reply straight away.. 
Shame as if the pictures were actually her she was hot..
They were also verified so don’t be fooled by that.. |
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"Imagine chatting to someone for weeks. They agree to meet you then out the blue tell you they are not meeting. I hope this is a fake account and you've not just wasted her time"
as said everyone has a smart phone or access to one especially as they're using fab. So if they were serious they would prive they're real
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"Got a meet on wednesday 3 hour journey, profile is a couple but the lady is messeging me, says she wants to meet seperatly but at her home, husband is working but knows and is very excited about the meet, she wont send me any updated pics just the one on there profile, i need to be there after 10 but leave before lunch time before hubby comes home and only given me postcode not house number, what are your thoughts guys ?????? "
Don't go 
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"Imagine chatting to someone for weeks. They agree to meet you then out the blue tell you they are not meeting. I hope this is a fake account and you've not just wasted her timeas said everyone has a smart phone or access to one especially as they're using fab. So if they were serious they would prive they're real"
I wouldn't video call or send a pic online. Ever  |
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"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.
I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.
They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so! "
Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.
I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.
They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!
Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home "
Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!! |
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"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.
I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.
They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!
Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home
Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!! "
Made for a better relationship though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't be meeting anyone for the first, second or third time in their own home so if they sent me a postcode I would politely thank them and move on.
I've had numerous offers over the years that I've turned down because of concerns over personal safety and not just my own.
They didn't know me either and were inviting me into their home after just a few messages. I don't think so!
Even after 100 meets, no-one comes to my home
Don't I know it, we was married and wasn't allowed in!!
Made for a better relationship though "
Fucking dog kennel was freezing during the winter!! |
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"Thank you everyone, im fairly new to fab and this would have been my 1st meet, been speaking for a couple of weeks and seemed to get on, i just dont get why i would be set up what would they get out of it? But will deffinatly politly decline, thank you"
They get wank fodder out if it
Likely photos from you, the chat the thrill of a potential meet with no intention of following through with it
There's a dozen posts a week from single guys saying the can't get a meet so why would a genuine couple pick someone 3hrs away, no profile pic or verifications when there's very likely 100 similar men only 10 minutes away
There's a lot of odd folk on here, as soon as alarm bells ring run a mile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell her you feel uncomfortable meeting without some reassurance. if she doesn’t try to help with that in some way, think, do I want to meet someone who makes you feel uncomfortable? |
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I see it slightly differently. She's inviting a random unverified man off t'internet into her home, I'm guessing she will give you the house number on the day? But it's an awful long round trip and as others have said, I wouldn't attempt it without having a chat on the phone. If you genuinely don't mind what she looks like maybe you're being blinded by your hopes a bit. |
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