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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so.... |
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As far as I’m concerned, a social is for introducing yourself to someone and seeing if you both get on, with obviously a view to potentially more…
If most of the time you’re a hoody and leggings person then by all means be YOU rather than put on an act |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m offended that you just called it a social.
Ssshhh"
I’m wearing sandals.
And a coat, with a hood up, like a knobber.
Not because of the hoody, because of the word “social”. |
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I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just out of interest…
What would you wear on a meet?
Or a meet with play?
Or to meet a playmate?
Or a pre social meet?
Or a pre social social with play?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either. "
Me either!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just out of interest…
What would you wear on a meet? Dress
Or a meet with play? Dress no underwear
Or to meet a playmate? Just underwear
Or a pre social meet? The ore mentioned hoody and leggings
Or a pre social social with play? Hoody leggings and no underwear
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling? "
If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just out of interest…
What would you wear on a meet? Dress
Or a meet with play? Dress no underwear
Or to meet a playmate? Just underwear
Or a pre social meet? The ore mentioned hoody and leggings
Or a pre social social with play? Hoody leggings and no underwear
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You might get hot wearing all that. |
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"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling?
If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!!"
I can only relate to the leggings I have - all shit ones! I’d probably buy a new pair! |
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.
Me either!
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I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds perfectly fine! Is there a small hole in the crotch? Worn seams from inner thigh chafing? Pilling?
If I answer yes am I still allowed to wear them? Or do I need to buy new? Dilemma!!
I can only relate to the leggings I have - all shit ones! I’d probably buy a new pair! "
I feared this would be the case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet with her ladyship was supposed to be a social, I was wearing rigger boots, cargo trousers and a polo with my employers logo on. She didn't seem to mind.
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.
Me either!
I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now "
Proud. This is definitely a case of those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care.
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer a relaxed atmosphere, not stressing over getting dressed up. Plus I want the person I'm meeting to feel comfortable, and if that extends into their choice of outfit, that's fine by me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.
Me either!
I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now "
Proud!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first meet with her ladyship was supposed to be a social, I was wearing rigger boots, cargo trousers and a polo with my employers logo on. She didn't seem to mind.
Mr"
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?
Are there any other kind?"
I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.
This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?
Are there any other kind?
I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.
This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?"
With added diamantes.
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either.
Me either!
I've thought about it I've never dressed up for anything on here. I've either as above been in my gym gear or in clothes I would wear for work. So thinking about it I never make an effort. Can't decide if I should be proud or ashamed now
Proud. This is definitely a case of those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care.
Mr"
True enough, but I sometimes think maybe Fab gives the impression women dress up a lot more than they probably do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never dress up for anything here.. it’s socialising to see if I like them in person so it’s a very chilled out affair. It only gets worse from that point so don’t want to raise expectations. "
Start expectations off low. I like it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m offended that you just called it a social.
What is it supposed to be called?
“A coffee”.
“A drink”.
“A night out”.
“A date”.
Take your pick."
I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?
Are there any other kind?
I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.
This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?
With added diamantes.
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Offended… no.
Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be pissed off. A woman should be wearing a low cut top, mini skirt, stockings and heels for a social.
I'd still get a blow job off her but it would be crap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would sooner you be comfortable and relaxed than trying to make an impression. It's not a job interview and your life doesn't depend on how we get along. I certainly won't complain if you turn up in Leggings ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?
Are there any other kind?
I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.
This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?
With added diamantes.
Offended… no.
Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go."
Well,as it happens... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.
Surprise!!!!"
You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.
That would be a good observation test for a social.
A |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd be pissed off. A woman should be wearing a low cut top, mini skirt, stockings and heels for a social.
I'd still get a blow job off her but it would be crap. "
To be fair the blow job would be crap regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.
Surprise!!!!
You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.
That would be a good observation test for a social.
A"
What makes you think I need a banana... |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m offended that you just called it a social.
What is it supposed to be called?
“A coffee”.
“A drink”.
“A night out”.
“A date”.
Take your pick."
Can’t say date, most men don’t like that. They like to point out it’s not a date.
Don’t drink coffee.
Looks like il have to stick to A drink
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No not at all
Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo
I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These leggings… are they those ones that show off your vagina lips?
Are there any other kind?
I can’t imagine being offended by your vagina lips.
This hoody… does it say “I’m with stupid” in fancy text on the front?
With added diamantes.
Offended… no.
Sounds delicious, if you had some big silver hoop earrings in as well then we’d never let you go.
Well,as it happens..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't be offended as such, but if you make the effort to do your hair and make up, then clothes can't be that difficult to slightly improve on....
I'll run away now.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No not at all
Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo
I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark "
Yeah, mine are about the £2-3 Primark version. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always dress up for my meets but that's because it makes me feel comfortable. I'm not too bothered what the other person does, whatever makes them comfortable is fine by me. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.
Surprise!!!!
You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.
That would be a good observation test for a social.
A
What makes you think I need a banana..."
Well otherwise you wouldn't be able to pull it out when they say "Is that a banana in your leggings.......", before replying with "and this is my cock." 
A |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most blokes on here would just be happy that you’re actually a woman.
Surprise!!!!
You could always do just that, simply by placing a small banana down the front of your leggings.
That would be a good observation test for a social.
A
What makes you think I need a banana...
Well otherwise you wouldn't be able to pull it out when they say "Is that a banana in your leggings.......", before replying with "and this is my cock."
A"
I like your thinking |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.
I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.
I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.
I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.
I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social. "
I like those cardigans you wear that show off your vagina lips |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No not at all
Could be lounge ware leggings and hoody combo
I have seen some velvet and satin hoody lounge ware combos runing in to the £200-300 pounds mark
Yeah, mine are about the £2-3 Primark version. "
That’s fine also was just spitballing that just because it’s a hoody and leggings combo it’s the in fashion these days marked as what they call lounge ware
Littler PLT and all that have made a market on it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This animal doesn't wear makeup when she goes on a social. Terrible I know.
I don't mind what people wear as long as they're clean, comfortable and presentable. It's nice when people have confidence in what they're wearing.
I wouldn't wear what you do OP, only because I don't own any hoodies or leggings, but I do wear dresses, skirts and cardigans day to day so would tend to wear them at a social. "
I need the make up though. Wearing make up is my idea of dressing up!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it's down at the local Costa Coffee or Dog & Duck, then it's OK.
But if it were at the Ritz then I would be disappointed 
The Ritz!! Are we doing bingo??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m offended that you just called it a social.
What is it supposed to be called?
“A coffee”.
“A drink”.
“A night out”.
“A date”.
Take your pick.
I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all. "
Stop asking me to finger you in Costa then!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.
I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.
I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?
Jx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
I wouldn't care if you turned up in a bin bag
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.
I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.
I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?
Jx "
Oh, I'm just after cake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wearing what you wear is individual. Doing things around the house I am fairly casual. However, if I or we go out I like to dress smart as it makes me feel good. If a hoody and leggings make you feel good, who is to argue? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m offended that you just called it a social.
What is it supposed to be called?
“A coffee”.
“A drink”.
“A night out”.
“A date”.
Take your pick.
I'll take all 4, my hoody and leggings are functional for all.
Stop asking me to finger you in Costa then!!"
Right I won't ask again!!
How about Starbucks? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
no offence take OP  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!"
Lip balm is my fav.
I feel very unsexy dressed up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally dress up, that’s how I portray myself on my profile. The getting ready and dressing up is a big part of the whole scenario for me.
I don’t do socials unless I’m out of the area anyway.
I really think you do what makes you feel confidant and sexy( male or female). I mean the whole point of this is to hopefully have sex, isn’t it?
Jx
Oh, I'm just after cake. "
I know a good cake site but better not mention it  J xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
Not at all. Whatever makes someone feel more confident and comfortable then go for it, in my eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!
Lip balm is my fav.
I feel very unsexy dressed up! "
Again. I refer you to my first suggestion 
Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!
Lip balm is my fav.
I feel very unsexy dressed up!
Again. I refer you to my first suggestion
Hope this helps. "
It's the smile part I'd struggle with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv never got it why people get funny about how you dress, always say come as you are because it shows the real you dress how you want and what makes you happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so....
I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best!"
So I'll save my best hoody for the second date? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!
Lip balm is my fav.
I feel very unsexy dressed up!
Again. I refer you to my first suggestion
Hope this helps.
It's the smile part I'd struggle with. "
Someone else could help with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont wear makeup... i just can't do it, i never learned so my eyelashes are fake and my eyeliner tattood on.. i might put lipbalm on if i want to kiss you... but other then that i can only dress up with my clothes i wear!
I would have no problem meeting a lady in leggings and a hoodie if that is what made her comfortable!"
Eyeliner tattooed on ? That must of hurt ? |
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After perusing your profile I’m more interested in what the 99 year old guy wants to see you wearing and will you assist if he requires pushing in his wheelchair , help with his walking up stairs or cardiac massage if your beauty takes his breath away ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
I’d be chuffed to bits that you turned up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After perusing your profile I’m more interested in what the 99 year old guy wants to see you wearing and will you assist if he requires pushing in his wheelchair , help with his walking up stairs or cardiac massage if your beauty takes his breath away ? "
I'll be drinking coffee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
No.
Where are we going? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
If we are answering this question honestly then yes. I don't expect full on formal dress etc but a bit of effort would be nice otherwise we would assume that you don't think we are worth your time or effort. |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
I'd pretty much expect you to turn up wearing just that |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so....
If we are answering this question honestly then yes. I don't expect full on formal dress etc but a bit of effort would be nice otherwise we would assume that you don't think we are worth your time or effort. "
I love the honesty, but wonder if the other person was clear ahead of the social that they would be dressed casually would you still be offended? |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
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God no, casual all the time. It's not like it's a job interview. In fact if somebody was that hung up on what a person is wearing I'm not sure I'd be that interested in going forward.
Obviously clean would be expected |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
I didn’t realise we’d organised a time yet, but a hoody is 100% acceptable, thanks in advance |
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Nope, sometimes I forget lippy so I may require a bit of lip service.
Make sure our outfits don’t match. Last thing you want is for people think we’re a happy couple |
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"I really don't think many men will care what you're wearing on a date! I think most are just interested in what's underneath.  "
Some of us actually want to know more about the person we could potentially be getting intimate with x |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
Nothing wrong with that at all |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
Well I know u but I guess if you did turn up, any way anytime is just perfect
If u genuine
You've seen the little mate in me |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so....
I would like more effort than that, if it was a coffee social then OK but if it was a night out I would hope to see someone looking at their best!
So I'll save my best hoody for the second date? "
Maybe go for your best onesie instead |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
would you be offended if I turned up in a hoodie and track bottoms? You wear what you feel comfortable wearing. I'd want to know the real you and not you pretending to be somebody else . Can I get you a pint? |
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I met a woman from here for a social a year or so back. She chose the venue, which was the cafe at the local railway station.
Turned up in a mini skirt, fishnet tights (with extra holes) and a very tight off-white blouse.
Wish she’d worn joggers and a hoody! |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.
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I went to a social once in leggings and a t shirt, a longish one so it covered my bum etc.
Later was told I should have dressed up more and most women on fab did by the guy I'd met.
I just didn't want to go dressed like a hooker or so dressed in a way that made me looked desperate, in a cafe! If you don't like the look of me in normal attire then you can forget anything else.
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"I went to a social once in leggings and a t shirt, a longish one so it covered my bum etc.
Later was told I should have dressed up more and most women on fab did by the guy I'd met.
I just didn't want to go dressed like a hooker or so dressed in a way that made me looked desperate, in a cafe! If you don't like the look of me in normal attire then you can forget anything else.
PW
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I don't need to say it but I will anyway
That guy is a dick.
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"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.  "
Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.
He's a lucky guy!!!  |
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"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.
Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.
He's a lucky guy!!! "
A ‘low maintenance’ woman, is there ever truly such a thing, sounds a bit like the mythical unicorn |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so....
I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.
C "
Women should wear what men tell them to. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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In general I try to dress to the occasion, look nice, but that’s what makes me comfortable. It’s always about personal comfort.
If the person you’re meeting has an issue with your own personal comfort levels, then they’re not the right person for you. |
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"You should never make too much effort to do or be something different than your norm as that would really hide from others the real you and that is never a good thing in my opinion.
Real me = hoodies/joggers/leggings, low maintenance, I can do my make up in 2mins, never get my nails done, only dye my hair to cover the grey's, and unless anybody is going to see, hardly shave/wax.
He's a lucky guy!!! "
Rather see the real you than something you don't like being |
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"I've turned up for a social in the past in my gym gear. Was meeting for a coffee after work on my way to the gym. Yeah it is nice to dress up but I don't see the need to dress up to the nines either. "
Bloody hell just realised i did too 
I was enroute to a class at the gym and it was the only way i could fit it in
I looked fit as fuck in my gym leggings lol... Oooo maybe that is the way to always dress |
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so...."
Perfectly fine it’s a social not a restaurant dinner date |
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"Nope! It’s a social - casual!
I’d expect dress up if we were going out for drinks and getting naughty!
Oh dam, so if it's a combination of all 3??"
We’ll under the dress up is casual and under the casual is naughty  great day I’d say haha. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"If I turned up for our "social" dressed in a hoody and leggings?
Or do you expect more effort?
I mean I'd wash my hair and put make up on, I'm not a complete animal.
But me 99% of the time is super casual so....
I'd turn up in jeans and either a tee or shirt. Be comfortable and be you. P would likely make the extra effort but I'd tell her to dial it back.
C
Women should wear what men tell them to. "
Nah but with P there is the chance of her tryibg to hard and feeling bad about herself. I'd rather P didn't burn herself out and was instead comfortable.
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