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Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is |
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"I’m picky …. for my type
And thsts the correct answer for all of us.
Next thread please
Why don’t you start one ??"
I have before, they have less life than a mayfly |
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"I’m picky …. for my type
And thsts the correct answer for all of us.
Next thread please
Why don’t you start one ??
I have before, they have less life than a mayfly "
Try  |
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I could never ever find sex on here and I wouldn’t mind if it meant I didn’t compromise on what I was looking for just to get it.
I also have to respect myself and my own boundaries. |
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Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?  |
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"No.
I like my penis so I wouldn’t just stick him anywhere.
My standards are the same irrelevant of whether I’ve seen somebody’s tits or not. "
I like my penis too. However he has got me into some sticky situations |
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"I’m picky …. for my type
And thsts the correct answer for all of us.
Next thread please
Why don’t you start one ??
I have before, they have less life than a mayfly
Try "
Brace yourself |
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I have higher standards on here than in real life, if I'm honest! Some of my tinder dates wouldn't get a reply on Fab 
But in all honesty it comes down to whether I enjoy chatting with ya! Hot guys with no chat don't do it for me. |
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"No.
I like my penis so I wouldn’t just stick him anywhere.
My standards are the same irrelevant of whether I’ve seen somebody’s tits or not.
I like my penis too. However he has got me into some sticky situations "
^^ penis has a mind of its own. |
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"I’m picky …. for my type
And thsts the correct answer for all of us.
Next thread please
Why don’t you start one ??
I have before, they have less life than a mayfly
Try
Brace yourself"
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"So …. You see naked photos and you don’t care as much ?? "
Sort of. At times I think the horn takes over and I might be more interested based on the fact that i'm looking at tits rather than the person. If this was on a vanilla site where sex wasn't at the forefront, I would be more selective |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here? "
Correct. You should just lie back, think of England and be grateful that someone wants to spear you with their pork sausage  |
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"I check all my friends against the appropriate ISO* standards documents to ensure that they meet all the applicable quality requirements.
*(International Standards Organisation)"
Not the international organisation of standardisation? Can you guess my day job? |
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"So …. You see naked photos and you don’t care as much ??
Sort of. At times I think the horn takes over and I might be more interested based on the fact that i'm looking at tits rather than the person. If this was on a vanilla site where sex wasn't at the forefront, I would be more selective "
Ah right
I’m trying to understand |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here? "
Awww hugs beautiful I would definitely wine and dine you with nothing expected in return |
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"So …. You see naked photos and you don’t care as much ??
Sort of. At times I think the horn takes over and I might be more interested based on the fact that i'm looking at tits rather than the person. If this was on a vanilla site where sex wasn't at the forefront, I would be more selective "
Just hope whoever you plan on meeting doesn’t read this. |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Correct. You should just lie back, think of England and be grateful that someone wants to spear you with their pork sausage "
can she think of Australia if she prefers? Want her to have that choice |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Correct. You should just lie back, think of England and be grateful that someone wants to spear you with their pork sausage can she think of Australia if she prefers? Want her to have that choice"
Absolutely not! We'll have none of this choice malarkey  |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here? "
Maybe. You would habe to ask them and hope for an honest answer. This is not a gender specific question. There might be women who wouldn't usually go for a guy but are lured in by a six pack or huge cock. |
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we know what we like when we see it ... would never play with anybody that did not fit what we want .. never take one for the team and never shy away from saying no .. blunt and too the point but in a nice way ... so no we never lower our standards and niether should anyone else .... desperation is not sexy |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Correct. You should just lie back, think of England and be grateful that someone wants to spear you with their pork sausage can she think of Australia if she prefers? Want her to have that choice
Absolutely not! We'll have none of this choice malarkey "
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"I have higher standards on here than in real life, if I'm honest! Some of my tinder dates wouldn't get a reply on Fab
But in all honesty it comes down to whether I enjoy chatting with ya! Hot guys with no chat don't do it for me. "
Very honest of you which is nice to see. Yeah personality is a big one for me as well. That and sexiness. Some people just hold themselves well and command a room with charisma. Very hard to communicate that with pictures and messages |
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what is this obsession with men thinking us women only want 6 packs and big cocks ?? all our swinging friends dont look for this most of us just want normal guys and make do with whats in his pants average or big |
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"I check all my friends against the appropriate ISO* standards documents to ensure that they meet all the applicable quality requirements.
*(International Standards Organisation)
Not the international organisation of standardisation? Can you guess my day job?"
Are you the lucky person who checks that ISO 4074:2014 and ISO 23409:2011 have been properly applied? |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Correct. You should just lie back, think of England and be grateful that someone wants to spear you with their pork sausage "
Gawd yes. I really must stop saying no to men! |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Awww hugs beautiful I would definitely wine and dine you with nothing expected in return "
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"I have higher standards on here than in real life, if I'm honest! Some of my tinder dates wouldn't get a reply on Fab
But in all honesty it comes down to whether I enjoy chatting with ya! Hot guys with no chat don't do it for me.
Very honest of you which is nice to see. Yeah personality is a big one for me as well. That and sexiness. Some people just hold themselves well and command a room with charisma. Very hard to communicate that with pictures and messages"
Absolutely agree... I always have a social meet first for these reasons too! Then I decide if I want it to go further (and so do they!). |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Maybe. You would habe to ask them and hope for an honest answer. This is not a gender specific question. There might be women who wouldn't usually go for a guy but are lured in by a six pack or huge cock."
Hope for an honest answer? Do you have any idea how insulting you're being? And there might be women who drop their standards here, but mine are constant. I do not have sex with a man because he has a six pack or a huge cock - if he's not someone for me, I couldn't give a rat's ass about either. |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Pussy like an infinity gauntlet."
Till iron man snaps fingers, then pussy go poof  |
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"what is this obsession with men thinking us women only want 6 packs and big cocks ?? all our swinging friends dont look for this most of us just want normal guys and make do with whats in his pants average or big"
Maybe thinking a bit too literal here. It could be anything you find attractive in a pic. I don't speak for all men and I was just trying to put a female perspective into the mix |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Pussy like an infinity gauntlet.
Till iron man snaps fingers, then pussy go poof "
But at what cost?  |
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"I check all my friends against the appropriate ISO* standards documents to ensure that they meet all the applicable quality requirements.
*(International Standards Organisation)
Not the international organisation of standardisation? Can you guess my day job?
Are you the lucky person who checks that ISO 4074:2014 and ISO 23409:2011 have been properly applied?"
No. But that does sound like a cracking job. Iso has another meaning and I am constantly making sure tge right number is applied |
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"If I'm looking for casual sex my requirements re personality etc are going to be different to if I'm looking for a relationship.
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Agree with you there. I treat everyone I meet the same but if I know the other person only wants something casual, my emotional guard is up |
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is "
Women rate 85% of men in their age range as below average looking. Thems the facts. |
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is
Women rate 85% of men in their age range as below average looking. Thems the facts."
Source? For the "facts" |
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is
Women rate 85% of men in their age range as below average looking. Thems the facts.
Source? For the "facts""
Source: trust be bro |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings. "
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon"
I personally don't find a lot of the attention on here empowering. Some of the messages we get make me question things, big time |
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"I have higher standards on here than in real life, if I'm honest! Some of my tinder dates wouldn't get a reply on Fab
But in all honesty it comes down to whether I enjoy chatting with ya! Hot guys with no chat don't do it for me.
Very honest of you which is nice to see. Yeah personality is a big one for me as well. That and sexiness. Some people just hold themselves well and command a room with charisma. Very hard to communicate that with pictures and messages
Absolutely agree... I always have a social meet first for these reasons too! Then I decide if I want it to go further (and so do they!). "
Yep. And at times at the social, when tits aren't out, I go back to my rational self... plus the camera can lie, take it from a photographer |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Awww hugs beautiful I would definitely wine and dine you with nothing expected in return
Thank you, lovely "
Your welcome anytime |
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Maybe. You would habe to ask them and hope for an honest answer. This is not a gender specific question. There might be women who wouldn't usually go for a guy but are lured in by a six pack or huge cock.
Hope for an honest answer? Do you have any idea how insulting you're being? And there might be women who drop their standards here, but mine are constant. I do not have sex with a man because he has a six pack or a huge cock - if he's not someone for me, I couldn't give a rat's ass about either. "
Hope for an honest answer because most people wouldn't give you one to save your feelings. That has nothing to do with you. I have no idea what you look like or who you are. I'm not trying to offend anyone but I do like objective discussions about human behaviour |
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If people meet my preferences, I'll choose which of them can fuck me. It's a pass or fail, depending on preferences and how attractive I find a guy, including his personality. It's not about standards but matching my preferences. |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon
I personally don't find a lot of the attention on here empowering. Some of the messages we get make me question things, big time "
More that women control things on here. If I waited for women to message first I would have 0 interest. I know men deceive, lie and will pretty much say or do anything to get in your pants. However, I would take that over being the one who has to chase |
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"If people meet my preferences, I'll choose which of them can fuck me. It's a pass or fail, depending on preferences and how attractive I find a guy, including his personality. It's not about standards but matching my preferences. "
I think you've just switched the terminology here |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon
I personally don't find a lot of the attention on here empowering. Some of the messages we get make me question things, big time
More that women control things on here. If I waited for women to message first I would have 0 interest. I know men deceive, lie and will pretty much say or do anything to get in your pants. However, I would take that over being the one who has to chase"
We're a couple, I'm not a single person. My husband reads the messages too. Some of the language and first "approach" by men is just so grim that it makes your teeth itch. If you want to fuck someone else's wife, you don't go about it in the way about 98% of message senders go about it!
And of course, single people shouldn't have to put up with horrible and grim messages either. |
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon
I personally don't find a lot of the attention on here empowering. Some of the messages we get make me question things, big time
More that women control things on here. If I waited for women to message first I would have 0 interest. I know men deceive, lie and will pretty much say or do anything to get in your pants. However, I would take that over being the one who has to chase
We're a couple, I'm not a single person. My husband reads the messages too. Some of the language and first "approach" by men is just so grim that it makes your teeth itch. If you want to fuck someone else's wife, you don't go about it in the way about 98% of message senders go about it!
And of course, single people shouldn't have to put up with horrible and grim messages either. "
Yeah I've heard some horror stories. But when i was on here last my gf at the time was also on here and when she showed me her messages I was also surprised by how original avd inventive some messages were. Poems and all sorts. Made me think i should up my game.
Bet your hubby wants to Will Smith a lot of them. Most are probably keyboard warriors anyway. We all deserve respect, regardless of the situation |
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is
Women rate 85% of men in their age range as below average looking. Thems the facts.
Source? For the "facts""
Ok Cupid did a user study in 2018 |
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"If people meet my preferences, I'll choose which of them can fuck me. It's a pass or fail, depending on preferences and how attractive I find a guy, including his personality. It's not about standards but matching my preferences.
I think you've just switched the terminology here"
I'm explaining how I choose partners here and elsewhere. Using the word 'standards' is loaded, potentially leaving people thinking they're not good enough. I like a range of types, including very goodlooking and regular guy next door looks
I don't sleep with people I don't find attractive. I will go months without sex, rather than ignore my own wisdom.
People here also can be open minded to engaging together in ways that aren't fully mainstream. Group sex, using clubs and swinging, amongs them. Those sorts of preferences can be very important here. |
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"If people meet my preferences, I'll choose which of them can fuck me. It's a pass or fail, depending on preferences and how attractive I find a guy, including his personality. It's not about standards but matching my preferences.
I think you've just switched the terminology here
I'm explaining how I choose partners here and elsewhere. Using the word 'standards' is loaded, potentially leaving people thinking they're not good enough. I like a range of types, including very goodlooking and regular guy next door looks
I don't sleep with people I don't find attractive. I will go months without sex, rather than ignore my own wisdom.
People here also can be open minded to engaging together in ways that aren't fully mainstream. Group sex, using clubs and swinging, amongs them. Those sorts of preferences can be very important here. "
I think it's only loaded if you percieve what I've said in such a way. Just so you know: I don't think anyone is above or below me so didn't mean it in that way. My intention is never to offend, even though my want to discuss things objectively often does just that.
And yes I'm aware of the diverse range of sexual exploits on here |
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Iv made my life really busy to re focus my mind im very difficult to nail down so if im ever going to risk using what little free time i have with someone i have to feel real uncontrollable excitement and un unstoppable urge to have them but im also pretty guarded against being that excited too so it will always take women of remarkable seductive powers to get me to penetrate my barrier and make me try and give the time they deserve and have earned by that point |
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"Iv made my life really busy to re focus my mind im very difficult to nail down so if im ever going to risk using what little free time i have with someone i have to feel real uncontrollable excitement and un unstoppable urge to have them but im also pretty guarded against being that excited too so it will always take women of remarkable seductive powers to get me to penetrate my barrier and make me try and give the time they deserve and have earned by that point "
Hard man to please. Can only think of a couple of times I've had uncontrollable excitement. Never had an unstoppable urge though. Can be stopped by a range of things |
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"Iv made my life really busy to re focus my mind im very difficult to nail down so if im ever going to risk using what little free time i have with someone i have to feel real uncontrollable excitement and un unstoppable urge to have them but im also pretty guarded against being that excited too so it will always take women of remarkable seductive powers to get me to penetrate my barrier and make me try and give the time they deserve and have earned by that point
Hard man to please. Can only think of a couple of times I've had uncontrollable excitement. Never had an unstoppable urge though. Can be stopped by a range of things"
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"Iv made my life really busy to re focus my mind im very difficult to nail down so if im ever going to risk using what little free time i have with someone i have to feel real uncontrollable excitement and un unstoppable urge to have them but im also pretty guarded against being that excited too so it will always take women of remarkable seductive powers to get me to penetrate my barrier and make me try and give the time they deserve and have earned by that point
Hard man to please. Can only think of a couple of times I've had uncontrollable excitement. Never had an unstoppable urge though. Can be stopped by a range of thingsyou have no idea how much of a pain i am "
Well there's only one person who can change that.... |
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"Iv made my life really busy to re focus my mind im very difficult to nail down so if im ever going to risk using what little free time i have with someone i have to feel real uncontrollable excitement and un unstoppable urge to have them but im also pretty guarded against being that excited too so it will always take women of remarkable seductive powers to get me to penetrate my barrier and make me try and give the time they deserve and have earned by that point
Hard man to please. Can only think of a couple of times I've had uncontrollable excitement. Never had an unstoppable urge though. Can be stopped by a range of thingsyou have no idea how much of a pain i am
Well there's only one person who can change that...."
bugger that i like it this way means i get the best |
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Drop or raise standards? What, for a dare or a challenge or something? 
No. I fancy someone because I fancy them, there’s no changing that because I might not have the offers rolling in or I think I need to pull a popular girl to show off to my mates. Twice I’ve been told I’ve ‘punched above my weight’ and I try to think who they are insulting as they are making that remark?
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Your observations are all over the place. On one hand you are saying that men are quicker to drop their standards than women and then you say we all deserve respect. Does that not include self respect because anyone prepared to drop their standards for a shag doesn't have any respect for themselves first and foremost or never had standards in the first place.
In regard to the waiting on women to message part, that's exactly what I do and believe it or not they actually do.
In 5 years here I can honestly say I've said no to many more women than I have throughout the rest of my life in total.
Then again I can count on one hand the number of women I've ever discussed sex with in the real world so I'm probably not the best example.
I have 60+ veries across this profile and previous ones and only 7 of those have involved sex.
I'm a grown adult and I make my own decisions on standards rather than listen to my dick.
Those decisions are often based on the woman's standards as much as my own.
If I'm going to be a number or a plan B or C or if she is working her way through someone else's verifications in an attempt to keep up with the Jones' I'll give her a wide berth. |
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There's no such thing as standards. What actually happens is people pick their playmates based on who their self esteem chooses for them. We all are naturally drawn to people we think match us or what we believe we deserve. It's a very shallow attitude but we are visual creatures.
Personally, I'd rather focus my 'standards' on qualities like honesty, respect and the way my playmate treats me. |
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"I don't look at men through standards. It's purely down to 1 do I fancy them and 2 do I want to spend time with them "
^ This is exactly how my mind works
Well, I’ve never matched up with someone’s post before, I’ve normally had to scroll through a profile filled with rules and code words to see if they are in the same wavelength as me.
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"I don't look at men through standards. It's purely down to 1 do I fancy them and 2 do I want to spend time with them
^ This is exactly how my mind works
Well, I’ve never matched up with someone’s post before, I’ve normally had to scroll through a profile filled with rules and code words to see if they are in the same wavelength as me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have connected and met some amazing men through Fab...I approach it like I do in real life my standards don't slip. Talk, connect meet socially. If anything more happens great, if not then I've found a friend. I don't look for quick hook ups, that's not me regardless of being on Fab or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a standard and it’s quite a high one. Especially when it comes to sex.
Like really it’s mostly about how they look (well and there has to be some sort of connection too)
But they have to look pretty for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon"
I don't find it empowering. Its easy for a woman to get sex.
What I find empowering is achieving something that is difficult to obtain. |
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over a year ago
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon
I don't find it empowering. Its easy for a woman to get sex.
What I find empowering is achieving something that is difficult to obtain. "
Yes. It flatters and that’s the real seduction. Having something you didn’t know you wanted, or giving someone something they wanted to resist.
Having whatever falls at your doorstep is easy and unfulfilling after a time.
Maybe some women do feel empowered, I think some beautiful intelligent women should, they captivate me. |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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"If I'm looking for casual sex my requirements re personality etc are going to be different to if I'm looking for a relationship.
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This hits the mark for me.
I hav different standards ( read requirements) for fab and and the outside world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hang on. So men who would not want to sleep with me outside of Fab would fuck me on here because I have my tits out? Would that mean also that I shouldn't get too uppity here?
Maybe. You would habe to ask them and hope for an honest answer. This is not a gender specific question. There might be women who wouldn't usually go for a guy but are lured in by a six pack or huge cock.
Hope for an honest answer? Do you have any idea how insulting you're being? And there might be women who drop their standards here, but mine are constant. I do not have sex with a man because he has a six pack or a huge cock - if he's not someone for me, I couldn't give a rat's ass about either.
Hope for an honest answer because most people wouldn't give you one to save your feelings. That has nothing to do with you. I have no idea what you look like or who you are. I'm not trying to offend anyone but I do like objective discussions about human behaviour"
You've misunderstood. What's insulting is you saying that you will "drop your standards" here and "be less picky" because a woman is naked/semi-naked. |
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over a year ago
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"There's no such thing as standards. What actually happens is people pick their playmates based on who their self esteem chooses for them. We all are naturally drawn to people we think match us or what we believe we deserve. It's a very shallow attitude but we are visual creatures.
Personally, I'd rather focus my 'standards' on qualities like honesty, respect and the way my playmate treats me."
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is "
This is exactly why I drop my standards on here. Highly unlikely I would meet anyone for sex from here for this very reason. |
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I’d say my standards are the same, but the effort most couples/women put in means I rarely meet because of that.
No one in real life just walks up to you and says “hi” then expects you to lead the interaction while they demand up close penis pictures and other intimate details. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is "
For some the difference between 'yes' and 'no' will be determined by how long it's been since they got laid.
For others it'll be the volume of alcohol they've consumed that may influence their eyesight and make someone appear more attractive than they would sober.
For others it may be down to how much they've paid to get into a club. They want their moneys worth after all.
For some it may be a sympathy shag due to someone being incredibly nice and having a great personality, but not someone they physically fancy, so they may give them a quick hand shandy/gobby wank/doggy style quickie - it happens possibly more than some will admit.
Some are just too lazy to wank so any offer of a blowjob is acceptable, likewise if someone is out of batteries and it's a bank holiday and the shops are all shut, then they may opt for the natural choice over the artificial one.
Some enjoy playing in darkrooms or at gloryholes so..let's face it....looks don't really come into the equation.
Some consider anyone on fab to be a lesser species than the general population anyway (see the many past threads along the lines of 'I'd never have a relationship with someone I met on Fab' or 'All single men on here are dicks') so by definition will have dropped their standards with anyone they meet on here vs out in the real world.
And others? Like many have said. They're more choosy on here than off-site. Because they can be. And why the fuck not.
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"I’d say my standards are the same, but the effort most couples/women put in means I rarely meet because of that.
No one in real life just walks up to you and says “hi” then expects you to lead the interaction while they demand up close penis pictures and other intimate details. "
I challenged a guy yesterday who did the equivalent about my boobs in a message. I've challenged a few guys about saying that stuff here but they wouldn't say it in a bar. They all just say it's because it's different here. But we are the same people. It's nonsense! |
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"I’d say my standards are the same, but the effort most couples/women put in means I rarely meet because of that.
No one in real life just walks up to you and says “hi” then expects you to lead the interaction while they demand up close penis pictures and other intimate details.
I challenged a guy yesterday who did the equivalent about my boobs in a message. I've challenged a few guys about saying that stuff here but they wouldn't say it in a bar. They all just say it's because it's different here. But we are the same people. It's nonsense! "
I find it weird from couples and women because they must receive a lot of it, so why are they so happy to give it back? Surely if you don’t like receiving, you’d know not to give it
It’s fine, because it shows me quickly not to waste time on them. A couple did it last week and I just blocked, so they both went on their single accounts to give me abuse. Suspicions confirmed. You’re both shit |
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"I’d say my standards are the same, but the effort most couples/women put in means I rarely meet because of that.
No one in real life just walks up to you and says “hi” then expects you to lead the interaction while they demand up close penis pictures and other intimate details.
I challenged a guy yesterday who did the equivalent about my boobs in a message. I've challenged a few guys about saying that stuff here but they wouldn't say it in a bar. They all just say it's because it's different here. But we are the same people. It's nonsense!
I find it weird from couples and women because they must receive a lot of it, so why are they so happy to give it back? Surely if you don’t like receiving, you’d know not to give it
It’s fine, because it shows me quickly not to waste time on them. A couple did it last week and I just blocked, so they both went on their single accounts to give me abuse. Suspicions confirmed. You’re both shit "
Completely agree with all of this and I’m very mindful that when I do come across a single guy or couple that peaks my interest to always put effort in the message. |
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In the past it has depended on what I was looking for. I'm not ashamed to say that there have been times in clubs where the only standard I had was to have someone aesthetically pleasing to bounce on for a while. When it comes to one to one meets though, I've always been ridiculously fussy, both here and in the big bad outside world. |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"Just wondering folk's opinion on whether they drop or raise their standards on fab? Can imagine there's going to be a differing opinion dependant on gender. With this crazy ratio, I feel that I'm a lot more selective when meeting women outside of fab. Don't get me wrong, I would never just sleep with someone I didn't find attractive. I just feel that when the first pictures I see are of them naked, I become less picky.... Wonder why that is "
Considering my age & appearance, I have hypocritically narrow preferences on Fab- I also know as absolute fact that most of the men who message me on here wouldn't look twice at me in a bar or on the street, so my opinion is that men become less selective here, so to me, that does say that they lower their standards!!
I tend to be a realist & not let the interest in me go to my head, but I hear from alot of men that women can get an inflated ego from the attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I up my standards on fab.
I have a pussy, I like the power it brings.
Ha! I have often thought that it must be empowering to have so many men throw themselves at you.
It reminds me of the philosopher that talked about strippers being goddesses that control the sex and should not be looked down upon
I don't find it empowering. Its easy for a woman to get sex.
What I find empowering is achieving something that is difficult to obtain.
Yes. It flatters and that’s the real seduction. Having something you didn’t know you wanted, or giving someone something they wanted to resist.
Having whatever falls at your doorstep is easy and unfulfilling after a time.
Maybe some women do feel empowered, I think some beautiful intelligent women should, they captivate me. "
An example of the flattery you mentioned? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course men lower their standards; couples, tv/ts do too. I'm still getting winks, messages and friend requests even with my shit profile.
That tells me all I need to know. |
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over a year ago
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"It's all so subjective, I have no idea. I know what I want when I see it. "
This is true. Compare past people some women have chosen to share a sexual experience with, I am expecting them to drop their standards beyond imaginable to ever consider myself.
My standards are my own, I don’t really any idea how I would explain what they are or why I fancy someone. It’s a ‘feeling’ you can’t tell someone. |
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"I have higher standards on here than in real life, if I'm honest! Some of my tinder dates wouldn't get a reply on Fab
But in all honesty it comes down to whether I enjoy chatting with ya! Hot guys with no chat don't do it for me. "
This. If it's just sex, then my standards are much higher. Because I'm very selective about who I go to bed with. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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My standards are the same I won't drop them just for sex because it would be crap and I'd most likely regret it if I did. And I'd hate to be someone that others dropped their standards for if I got an inkling that was the case they would get shown the door. |
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Thanks all for your honest comments and interesting points of view.
Yes I have made some contradictory comments, but I guess that's me. How I am each day changes, I have different opinions now then I did a few years ago. The word standards is not meant in a derogatory way, it's the terminology I use. As someone stated earlier, maybe preference would have been a better word for some, but hey, it's fab, someone always gets offended.
And let's not get confused, this is not about worth. I'm sure I've been on the receiving end of dropped standards because of alcohol, situation, circumstance etc. But I would never let it get to me. I know my own self worth, which is the same as any other monkey on this rock. |
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"Thanks all for your honest comments and interesting points of view.
Yes I have made some contradictory comments, but I guess that's me. How I am each day changes, I have different opinions now then I did a few years ago. The word standards is not meant in a derogatory way, it's the terminology I use. As someone stated earlier, maybe preference would have been a better word for some, but hey, it's fab, someone always gets offended.
And let's not get confused, this is not about worth. I'm sure I've been on the receiving end of dropped standards because of alcohol, situation, circumstance etc. But I would never let it get to me. I know my own self worth, which is the same as any other monkey on this rock."
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"I have a standard and it’s quite a high one. Especially when it comes to sex.
Like really it’s mostly about how they look (well and there has to be some sort of connection too)
But they have to look pretty for sure "
Thats me out then dammit |
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