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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster 
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
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over a year ago
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I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried 
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Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.
I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.
I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
I do a few things, some work better than others.
I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.
I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.
I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.
I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.
I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried
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I didn't realise how much I enjoyed others' company until the lockdowns. Think the trick is just finding the right people to be around. The ones who don't suck the life out of you.
I'm getting better at the meditation/mindfulness stuff. Recommend the boom Ten to Zen. Doesn't need to feel all "new age" and out there. You can do it in the shower! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have t9 stay busy time alone with my thoughts is not good for me anymore so iv made myself extremely busy to keep the devil out of my ear with his bad ideas and stoking up my self hatred moments |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.
I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.
I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me."
That's still a way of coping though until you find a better way. We can all be a wee bit too hard on ourselves sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A big breakthrough for me was holding things purely for their own sake, refusing to count lengths in a pool is a really good one "
I can be like that sometimes. If it's not getting 100% then it's not getting done....so nothing gets done. Better just to enjoy the ride sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do a few things, some work better than others.
I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.
I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.
I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.
I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.
I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown. "
Fuck sake.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried
I didn't realise how much I enjoyed others' company until the lockdowns. Think the trick is just finding the right people to be around. The ones who don't suck the life out of you.
I'm getting better at the meditation/mindfulness stuff. Recommend the boom Ten to Zen. Doesn't need to feel all "new age" and out there. You can do it in the shower!"
I agree with that, some good people actually can give energy while others suck it out. But I think I’m also one person who really needs SOME time alone. But i enjoy company loads too
And I do it mainly with my yoga teacher and it’s very simple , mostly counting and focusing on certain things. It isn’t easy tho
Especially if your mind is a cluster fuck that thinks 50 different things at once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I soon recognise the signs and I act upon them immediately by talking to my boyfriend and taking myself outdoors for exercise, whether a short walk or a long run.
NBVN x |
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"Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good.
Glad to hear it."
Thanks. I tend to go into self destruct mode which eventually leads me into a dark place. I can see the signs now, although things went particularly wonky a couple of months ago. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I soon recognise the signs and I act upon them immediately by talking to my boyfriend and taking myself outdoors for exercise, whether a short walk or a long run.
NBVN x"
At the risk of sounding like I've disappeared it my own bumhole....it's quite empowering when you realise you can recognise the signs and act on them, isn't it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not going to lie currently struggling a little with my mh but I know I'm OK as I'm aware I'm not finding it easy.
The last few days I've been focusing on spending time in the garden pottering. The fresh air , the exercise, the sense of achievement when I've done something helps.
It got me through lockdowns and will help me again, I just need the wear to be kind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Very badly recently. But im back on my way up. So it's all good.
Glad to hear it.
Thanks. I tend to go into self destruct mode which eventually leads me into a dark place. I can see the signs now, although things went particularly wonky a couple of months ago. "
Keep at it Mr. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I eat well
I sleep well
I laugh a lot
I find joy in the ordinary
I don't spend any more time than I need to with people who sap the life out of me "
You always were sensible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I shoot barebow archery 3 times a week it pushes all thoughts from my mind and gives me focus and I send a lot of time either on the beach or in the fores sitting eyes closed just listening |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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Excercise to get the endorphins pumping.
Some solitude not too much. Some time with friends and family, again not too much.
Not spending too much time watching news, surfing net, social media and fabbing…  |
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First step is to recognise that I'm not OK. And allow myself to not be. Fuck knows I'm not ok most of the time to be honest.
Second is to try and do something, just to try and unfreeze my brain. Maybe going to the gym or a project or something.
Third is to be kind to myself, not let negative self talk get too much. Just keep shuffling through and maybe tomorrow it will be better.
It never is. |
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"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried
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Do you suffer from tinnitus? |
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away "
Best thing I ever did for my mental health and my life in general, was to give up alcohol.
Everything else got a whole lot easier after that. |
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away "
Yes all the above (my exercise of choice is yoga) and medication and talking therapy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Exercise and making time to do things that I like. Taking breaks from my phone. Spending time in nature. I like to socialise a lot too.
I'm going to switch my phone off now and snuggle up in bed with a book that I'm really enjoying. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First step is to recognise that I'm not OK. And allow myself to not be. Fuck knows I'm not ok most of the time to be honest.
Second is to try and do something, just to try and unfreeze my brain. Maybe going to the gym or a project or something.
Third is to be kind to myself, not let negative self talk get too much. Just keep shuffling through and maybe tomorrow it will be better.
It never is."
A cliché, I know, but you get another day to try at least. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried
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Meditation can be quite dangerous if you struggle with mental wellbeing, it’s best avoided. Simple mindfulness / being present and practising gratitude is a much better option. |
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away "
1. Thinking positively as much as possible   
2. Learning to avoid/block the deep black sea of timewasters on here  |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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Time away from fab can actually be quite rejuvenating. This site continually reminds me of my insignificant size, which is really important to women for sex, and it can be pretty depressing.
Detaching from the phone/social media can be very helpful otherwise |
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"Time alone. Although that also leads to over thinking, which doesn't help.
I'm not a talker. I bottle it up, place things in boxes on a shelf in the corner of my mind and bimble along aimlessly.
I'm pragmatic. I've done well so far rationalising what's happened in my life and around me.
That's still a way of coping though until you find a better way. We can all be a wee bit too hard on ourselves sometimes."
Do I need a better way? If it ain't broke and all that schnizzle |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"I do a few things, some work better than others.
I run and go to the gym and I've recently bought a bike.
I make me time every day for a coffee and watch the world go by.
I have a camera that I go out walking with, but I haven't done that for ages because of the pissin rain.
I read every day, sometimes just for 10 minutes other times for a lot longer.
I trying not to bottle things up and say what I think to others, this has come about because of lockdown.
Fuck sake.
Check you Yoda "
Well we are both small.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between. "
By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.
Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.
I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.
You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fresh air, exercise, time with friends and occasion mediation via the Calm app
Me feeding you Jaffa cakes up ur bum 
I need therapy "
When are you coming to Landaaan |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Time away from fab can actually be quite rejuvenating. This site continually reminds me of my insignificant size, which is really important to women for sex, and it can be pretty depressing.
Detaching from the phone/social media can be very helpful otherwise"
If anyone directly comments on your dick size tell them to "get to fuck", no holds barred. Your insecurities are possibly just that...your insecurities. Some want a raging massive boabie. But most women on here want a personality and a guy who's confident in his own skin. That goes a long way |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
" If anyone directly comments on your dick size tell them to "get to fuck", no holds barred. Your insecurities are possibly just that...your insecurities. Some want a raging massive boabie. But most women on here want a personality and a guy who's confident in his own skin. That goes a long way "
Considering most profiles have "Hung Only" painted across them, that's not likely what they want. Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between.
By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.
Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.
I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.
You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that."
I get what your saying and I'm not thinking negative of it , I asked a guy in the work just yesterday if he was OK as he looked tired and fucked right at the start of the shift and he said he was fine, clearly he wasn't fine and I get it he's not alone but I also think it's a get out of jail card for GPS to palm off natural life feelings and experiences as a mental health issue and pass it onto hard stretched services that are struggling to deal with the more serious cases. I googled what is classed as a possible mental health issue and I don't meet the normal standard definition as shown on quote a few different websites and I wonder how many above on this thread are the same. Its like a comfort blanket now for GPS , oh it's depression I'll schedule you a therapist. Just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" If anyone directly comments on your dick size tell them to "get to fuck", no holds barred. Your insecurities are possibly just that...your insecurities. Some want a raging massive boabie. But most women on here want a personality and a guy who's confident in his own skin. That goes a long way
Considering most profiles have "Hung Only" painted across them, that's not likely what they want. Haha"
There are just as many who don't put as big an emphasis on this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between.
By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.
Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.
I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.
You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.
I get what your saying and I'm not thinking negative of it , I asked a guy in the work just yesterday if he was OK as he looked tired and fucked right at the start of the shift and he said he was fine, clearly he wasn't fine and I get it he's not alone but I also think it's a get out of jail card for GPS to palm off natural life feelings and experiences as a mental health issue and pass it onto hard stretched services that are struggling to deal with the more serious cases. I googled what is classed as a possible mental health issue and I don't meet the normal standard definition as shown on quote a few different websites and I wonder how many above on this thread are the same. Its like a comfort blanket now for GPS , oh it's depression I'll schedule you a therapist. Just my opinion. "
Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness."
can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Recently started doing poi again, sucked for a couple of days but now I’m flowing it feels good especially now the sun is coming out and I can spin in the warmth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As someone that’s let my mental health get bad a wile back I now focus on small things that make me happy, I’ve noticed it really helps to spend time with other people doing something it and when I want alone time I put on my Xbox and play some games, I know it’s nothing wile but I have found it’s really helped me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between.
By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.
Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.
I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.
You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.
I get what your saying and I'm not thinking negative of it , I asked a guy in the work just yesterday if he was OK as he looked tired and fucked right at the start of the shift and he said he was fine, clearly he wasn't fine and I get it he's not alone but I also think it's a get out of jail card for GPS to palm off natural life feelings and experiences as a mental health issue and pass it onto hard stretched services that are struggling to deal with the more serious cases. I googled what is classed as a possible mental health issue and I don't meet the normal standard definition as shown on quote a few different websites and I wonder how many above on this thread are the same. Its like a comfort blanket now for GPS , oh it's depression I'll schedule you a therapist. Just my opinion.
Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite "
Tell your GP, Love to be a fly on the wall with you and a therapist, the therapist would need a therapist after meeting you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you be more specific on mental health.? Have a friend who deals with mental health issues and the majority of the people she sees are experiencing what is know as simply life situations. So please be more specific. I take life situations as they come, death in the family equals sadness and not depression as often bounded around, family party equals happiness. With whole lot of situations in between.
By mental health, I mean how people look after their mind and emotions, in the sane way that someone can post on here asking about how to improve their physical health.
Mental health automatically conjures up negative connotations but every has it. In the same way we all have physical health.
I get what you're saying about "simple life situations". But if people are now looking for professional help for situations and life events that were once deemed normal or taken for granted, then something in our lives and society must have changed quite significantly.
You're lucky to have the outlook you have and I genuinely mean that.
I get what your saying and I'm not thinking negative of it , I asked a guy in the work just yesterday if he was OK as he looked tired and fucked right at the start of the shift and he said he was fine, clearly he wasn't fine and I get it he's not alone but I also think it's a get out of jail card for GPS to palm off natural life feelings and experiences as a mental health issue and pass it onto hard stretched services that are struggling to deal with the more serious cases. I googled what is classed as a possible mental health issue and I don't meet the normal standard definition as shown on quote a few different websites and I wonder how many above on this thread are the same. Its like a comfort blanket now for GPS , oh it's depression I'll schedule you a therapist. Just my opinion.
Mind me not to message you when I'm feeling shite
Tell your GP, Love to be a fly on the wall with you and a therapist, the therapist would need a therapist after meeting you. "
Probably spot on there to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness. can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ? "
Fuck sake Sigmund....gonnae fuck off and stop spoiling my thread!
Let folk speak without grilling them. |
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"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness. can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ?
Fuck sake Sigmund....gonnae fuck off and stop spoiling my thread!
Let folk speak without grilling them."
I diagnose anger issues. congratulations you've found a sign. |
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"Combination of exercise, some time with family and friends. I am also lucky enough to work in a creative industry which is my form of mindfulness. can you explain, sounds to me you enjoy the gym , enjoy your family and your job. Your happy with your life, what's that got to do with mental health. ? "
Mental health problems/depression very often don’t have a reason.
That kind of comment is why people won’t talk about it - ‘well you have this and that and good job etc, what reason do you have to feel rubbish?’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get regular fresh air.
Write “to do” lists and goals, for organising mind.
Count my blessings.
Turn off digital/phones.
Stop drinking alcohol.
Just be outside in nature
Do something good to your body daily (exercise it vigorously, feed it healthy food, teach it something).
Eat home made biscuits.
Your profile is very good, OP X
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Get regular fresh air.
Write “to do” lists and goals, for organising mind.
Count my blessings.
Turn off digital/phones.
Stop drinking alcohol.
Just be outside in nature
Do something good to your body daily (exercise it vigorously, feed it healthy food, teach it something).
Eat home made biscuits.
Your profile is very good, OP X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Writing. That saves me. I have a folder in my notes called ‘writing to stay sane’ where I keep poems/ stories/ rants/ letters/ ramblings. It’s really useful.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bit of both, time alone and time with others. A good balance of the two can sometimes help. I'm a writer, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings. I've done that for years and it gets everything out of my head. Meditation helps too and so does getting out for a walk as it clears my head too x |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
North West, Outer Letterkenny area |
Keeping a diary for years now. But to be honest it just shows not much has changed. Letting go of things and trying to feel the pain or void and learning as much as possible. Still haven't got it figured out. Never will. But incremental getting by does the trick. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
For me I like to be busy. I find cooking calming, although I do miss the sharing aspect of food. (I suppose one good thing about a meet with me is I will probably cook you dinner). I enjoy challenging myself, especially with training. Headphones in, I can de-stress easily. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Multifactorially: a busy daily schedule; exercise regime-walking; decisive problem-solving; lots of high quality sleep; no alcohol or tobacco; good quality food and the ability to forget past mistakes, indiscretions and disappointments. |
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Depends what mood I am in.
Go out on the bike and get some miles in my legs, I usually find it helps to get a lot of aggression out of me.
Go play airsoft or paintball, as shooting people can be very therapeutic. |
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"I need both time alone and time with others. Too much alone time and I get drowned by the noise of my head. Too much time with others and I get my energy sucked out so i need balance.
Best way is to find things that I enjoy doing, particularly playing music and being creative.
I’m crap at meditation, I fidget so much it’s unreal, but I tried
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this. However, I fall asleep when I try to meditate! |
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Gym and sports mainly, but on bad days can actually make it worse - getting annoyed/down I'm not doing enough etc. But the doggo is pure joy!
I need to do better; definitely better at looking after my physical health than mental. Can now access Headspace through work - anyone used it? Recommended?
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not doing too well at the moment with anxiety and tears.
I tell myself the small problems building up will be dealt with one by one, and I'll feel better.
I'm trying to cut down the Lucozade consumption as it isn't helping.
I try to go out most days, even for a short walk to the shops.
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away "
Not opening up or expressing my struggles on these God forsaken forums anymore, so that people like yourself won't be able to judge me and impulsively tell me to "man up" or "grow up", without knowing me or understanding my struggles |
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away
Not opening up or expressing my struggles on these God forsaken forums anymore, so that people like yourself won't be able to judge me and impulsively tell me to "man up" or "grow up", without knowing me or understanding my struggles "
I have not been following this but seriously hope that nobody said to anyone to man up. That to me would be a despicable response to someone expressing the fact they are struggling. As I said, I am not sure what it refers to but I would hope that most people on here would not judge but comfort and share what they do to cope. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Time with others?
Time alone?
Exercise?
Mindfulness or meditation?
Heard an interview on BBC Scotland where they were talking about someone who actually meditates on a roller coaster
Genuinely interested to hear what folks do.
Fire away
Not opening up or expressing my struggles on these God forsaken forums anymore, so that people like yourself won't be able to judge me and impulsively tell me to "man up" or "grow up", without knowing me or understanding my struggles "
I wouldn't ever say that if someone was trying to open up about their mental health.
Think the only time I've told a guy to man up on here was when he was being a total dick after being knocked back by a woman. |
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When I'm in low mood, I tend to spend a lot of time walking, with or without the dogs. I don't like to interact too much with others when like this. Simple breathing exercises while trying to observe thoughts that arise.
Past few months have been a bit of a struggle as seem to have gotten into a bit of a hole, but managing it pretty well for now. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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A couple of years ago my gf told me to man up a week or so after we split up. I was during lockdown and my last family member had died about 6 weeks before and my daughter was struggling with Long Covid.
I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history. |
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"A couple of years ago my gf told me to man up a week or so after we split up. I was during lockdown and my last family member had died about 6 weeks before and my daughter was struggling with Long Covid.
I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history. "
Quite right too.
"Bolt hen!". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I go to the gym, submerge myself in work, I love going into the hills or the woods and just surrounding myself with calm. Sitting on the beach or just having a cuddle, a mindless, endless cuddle. |
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By *avie65Man
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"A couple of years ago my gf told me to man up a week or so after we split up. I was during lockdown and my last family member had died about 6 weeks before and my daughter was struggling with Long Covid.
I had been thinking we would get back together but when she sent that message her erse was history.
Quite right too.
"Bolt hen!"."
Yip. That was after we had been chatting about MH in general a few weeks before and I told her it was a horrible saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Over the weekend. I don’t wear my Apple Watch. Have DnD turned on perpetually and stay away from emails.
I spend my time cooking, baking and with actual friends, not work friends or acquaintances.
Do keep a journal next to me at all times so I can mind-vomit into it and scratch out ideas. Spend a few minutes in the day reading whatever book I’m carrying at that time.
Those are a few things I do in a week to look after my mental health. |
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