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"Get under someone new
What he said 
Lol well I need some offers then"
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face |
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over a year ago
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face "
Dude ur a legend. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Reflect on where it all went wrong. Play Sad love songs. Cry into a tub of Ben & Jerry’s. Drink. Cry some more. Burn all items pertaining to said ex. Send them a 16 part text message declaring undying love and 12 reasons why they’re a shithead. Delete all signs of them from social media. Order in a pizza. Reflect on all the other hotties you could have dated. Howl into your pillow. Sleep. Wake up.
Do it all again for at least two weeks until you really block them on everything and everything. Go out. Shag anything with a pulse. Book a 2 week holiday with a beach to sit on and reflect on.
Start to slowly feel better.  |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face "
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good"
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good"
Indeed tinder is terrible. |
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Distraction is key, spend time doing things you enjoy, and remember time heals. Try and do lots of fun stuff, not just sex, but other activities. Join some social groups and clubs, not swinging related but of course you can enjoy the swinging scene as a single man too, do a bit of allsorts that makes you feel good in yourself.
Whatever you do, look after yourself. |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink"
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good"
Agreed, most of Tinder are on here anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Best way to cheer up when split up with the misses"
If you have kids with her .. fight for your relationship pal .. grass isnt always greener on otber side .. good luck |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing."
Hmm… wonder why I don’t struggle?
Who knows, best of luck though, whatever works (or doesn’t) for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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take a leaf out of my book... make slutty plans with sexy friends and go and have an orgy on a spectacular club night 
i am the queen of distraction, because if i sit and think about shit, i'll spiral.
so cocks and clits and cum galore will do me just fine until one day i just won't care anymore.
Hugs to you OP, you aren't alone  Px |
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"take a leaf out of my book... make slutty plans with sexy friends and go and have an orgy on a spectacular club night
i am the queen of distraction, because if i sit and think about shit, i'll spiral.
so cocks and clits and cum galore will do me just fine until one day i just won't care anymore.
Hugs to you OP, you aren't alone Px "
That's my kind of party  x |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing.
Hmm… wonder why I don’t struggle?
Who knows, best of luck though, whatever works (or doesn’t) for you "
You aren't fussy I'm guessing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I found the best way is to focus on yourself, see friends, spend time with them.
If you can afford it, travel!!
It really does wonder for the soul.
Also , sit with your emotions. It can feel shitty but trust me, it’s part of the process and you will have to eventually face it. So… yeah x
Its gonna be alright
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing.
Hmm… wonder why I don’t struggle?
Who knows, best of luck though, whatever works (or doesn’t) for you
You aren't fussy I'm guessing "
Beggars can’t be choosers but if someone can’t even get a reply on tinder I’d bet it’s nothing to do with them being too fussy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was absolutely heart broken, I booked a last min retreat (I think I booked it 2 days before going lol) and met some amazing people there, and it is what I needed. Much better than if I hooked up with guys. (I’d have felt shit afterwards)
So step out of your comfort zone and do what you always wanted to do! X |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing.
Hmm… wonder why I don’t struggle?
Who knows, best of luck though, whatever works (or doesn’t) for you
You aren't fussy I'm guessing
Beggars can’t be choosers but if someone can’t even get a reply on tinder I’d bet it’s nothing to do with them being too fussy "
Problem with it is even ones that are apparently verified can be fake and most people including myself don't go on it often because people have forgotten how to actually communicate |
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"Get under someone new
What he said
Lol well I need some offers then
Go get it lad. Don’t wait for offers. Tinders easy. Get out there.
You need time to heal, but you also need to be reminded that your desirable to people. So go splooge on a girls face
Tinder is rubbish full of fakes and no one talks. Not sure how you think its good
Maybe your chat is bad and your pics suck? Easy pulling for me if I can be bothered to take them out for a drink
Nothing wrong with my pics or chat but if no one chats how can i take them out? Dateing is a 2 way thing.
Hmm… wonder why I don’t struggle?
Who knows, best of luck though, whatever works (or doesn’t) for you
You aren't fussy I'm guessing
Beggars can’t be choosers but if someone can’t even get a reply on tinder I’d bet it’s nothing to do with them being too fussy
Problem with it is even ones that are apparently verified can be fake and most people including myself don't go on it often because people have forgotten how to actually communicate "
Hmm… not my experiences on there. Very rarely come across fakes and I dunno about “most” people not going on it. Although it’s not as easy now, back few years back I’d reliably pull 1-2 times a week no issue. Now it’s a little less but still pretty good. And compared to here where it’s 1000:1 men:women? No competition
Too each their own. |
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"Get under someone new
Does that even work???"
It’s not gonna fix it right away but I think it’s important for guys specifically to go out and remind themselves that they are desirable. Very rarely are men reminded that |
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"Get under someone new
Does that even work???
No. It doesn’t "
For an attractive woman like yourself whose inbox is always full and has offers left right and centre constantly reminded you your wanted? Probably not?
For the average guy that never gets even a sniff of attention from the opposite sex and doesn’t remember what it’s like to feel even slightly desirable? Probably |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get under someone new
Does that even work???
No. It doesn’t
For an attractive woman like yourself whose inbox is always full and has offers left right and centre constantly reminded you your wanted? Probably not?
For the average guy that never gets even a sniff of attention from the opposite sex and doesn’t remember what it’s like to feel even slightly desirable? Probably "
I see what you mean. Like because it’s easily
Accessible to me , I can decide when to want it or whatever…and in that frame of mine I just dont. Cos it does the opposite (or it feels good right in the moment but crap after - the worst is when I’m having sex and I’m thinking… wish it was the person who broke my heart instead of the new guy)
But I can see if I struggled, maybe the attention and feeling desirable could be appealing then. Maybe.
I think boys and girls just see it differently? |
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"Get under someone new
Does that even work???
No. It doesn’t
For an attractive woman like yourself whose inbox is always full and has offers left right and centre constantly reminded you your wanted? Probably not?
For the average guy that never gets even a sniff of attention from the opposite sex and doesn’t remember what it’s like to feel even slightly desirable? Probably
I see what you mean. Like because it’s easily
Accessible to me , I can decide when to want it or whatever…and in that frame of mine I just dont. Cos it does the opposite (or it feels good right in the moment but crap after - the worst is when I’m having sex and I’m thinking… wish it was the person who broke my heart instead of the new guy)
But I can see if I struggled, maybe the attention and feeling desirable could be appealing then. Maybe.
I think boys and girls just see it differently?"
Which is exactly why I give that advice when a guy is asking.
If it was a girl I wouldn’t give that advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Reflect on where it all went wrong. Play Sad love songs. Cry into a tub of Ben & Jerry’s. Drink. Cry some more. Burn all items pertaining to said ex. Send them a 16 part text message declaring undying love and 12 reasons why they’re a shithead. Delete all signs of them from social media. Order in a pizza. Reflect on all the other hotties you could have dated. Howl into your pillow. Sleep. Wake up.
Do it all again for at least two weeks until you really block them on everything and everything. Go out. Shag anything with a pulse. Book a 2 week holiday with a beach to sit on and reflect on.
Start to slowly feel better. "
Love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get out and join something. You'll be busy and meet new people.
If you total up the hours you spend thinking about the crap couples involve each other with, you realise how much of your life is wasted on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's alright to feel sad, so allow yourself to feel however you're feeling. I've never been through a breakup but I would be such a mess I just know it. If you want to meet someone, do it. If you just want to keep yourself to yourself then do that and just take it one day at a time. |
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"Mmmmm so I can either try and work on my relationship, or go out and get off my nut and get a fuck. Hmmm a lot to think about lol"
Unless there’s kids involved never go back to an ex mate. She’s already got 16 other blokes lined up on tinder and it’ll never be the same.
It broke for a reason, don’t go rooting through the bin for something. |
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"Mmmmm so I can either try and work on my relationship, or go out and get off my nut and get a fuck. Hmmm a lot to think about lol"
Depends what's happened and how long the relationship was, if you've got kids etc. Definitely let yourself heal first. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok thank you for all the advice it’s something to reflect on. It may sound stupid but out of interest Cus obviously I feel quite down, and shit about myself. I dnt care where ur from if u would hang out with me few beers or even a shag please wink me as it’s been so long since I’ve been “out there” lol |
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"Ok thank you for all the advice it’s something to reflect on. It may sound stupid but out of interest Cus obviously I feel quite down, and shit about myself. I dnt care where ur from if u would hang out with me few beers or even a shag please wink me as it’s been so long since I’ve been “out there” lol"
I'd have a beer with you fella. Know the feeling, but jump into something. Self care is important |
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"Ok thank you for all the advice it’s something to reflect on. It may sound stupid but out of interest Cus obviously I feel quite down, and shit about myself. I dnt care where ur from if u would hang out with me few beers or even a shag please wink me as it’s been so long since I’ve been “out there” lol"
Go join a sports group. Plenty of CrossFit places that are known for having great communities. Or martial arts, 5 a side football is huge everywhere and always looking for players. Great for breaking the ice with lots of new people and gets you fit and healthy. Plus beers after! |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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Best way to cheer up is to realise you don’t need someone else to be happy, happiness starts with you.
In the mean time fuck a lot of women, make a list of things you want to do and then do them. Spend time around your friends and family, make new friends take up a new hobby. |
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Is it that simple?
Who split with who? What where the circumstances? Who long where you together etc?
All those questions can have a bearing on how your feeling and what you need to make you smile again.
Simple answer, probably not the one you would expect from here either is to do what ever you want to do. What does make you happy, what did you used to do before this relationship to put a smile on your face?
Take your time. Have good days, have bad days. See friends, see no one. Have fun, don't have fun.
There's no hard and fast rule, everyone is different. |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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"Get under someone newdisagree with that if you do it too early you end up with fried noodles"
Iv done this and I did it very very quickly after a split. Why didn’t anyone bring me fried noodles? I love Chinese food.
I do recommend it though. It was a pleasurable distraction and I didn’t feel worse after. |
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