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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
This thread isnt about me, but rather a fellow singleton that I heard on a program speaking about the single life. I am not sure where I am going with this post, but thought that I wanted to share it.
It was a very emotional speech from him, not in a sad voice but with a dampened voice saying how he wanted to feel loved and have someone to share his life with.
My question is, how do you cope being single? I am doing fine. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
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"I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
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#notallcouples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
#notallcouples"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got used to the single life a long time ago.
I don’t trust easy, those I have trusted have always let me down, It’s easier to be single, I can’t hurt myself emotionally and that’s how I prefer it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
#notallcouples"
What's wrong with tall couples?  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I mostly do fine. I have a very hectic home life which helps so any time alone to myself is a blessing not a curse, plus I’m introvert and people tend to overwhelm me, make me anxious and generally get on my wick.
But sometimes I get a hankering to cwtch up in the arms of some fella who loves me and give in to my need for affection and touch, let him play with my hair and listen to me chat shit whilst playing with his chest hair.
But these yearnings are getting more and more infrequent, because mostly I’m happy to just have to think about me and my family’s needs without factoring in them. I see (romantic) love as extra pressure on me, and I can’t be dealing with that right now.
Some people crave love and affection. I’ll take it if it comes along, but I don’t physically ache for it. I used to, but not anymore. I think I’m lucky in that regard. But then I would say that
In a few years that might all change. If it does great. but I’ll not put my life on hold waiting for “the one”.
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"I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
#notallcouples
What's wrong with tall couples? "
I'm small sat down |
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Realise that most people are shitty and a big portion of those that aren’t, aren’t compatible with me anyways. Lots of very low value, low effort women out there and it’s easy to waste your life with one
It’s better to be alone and lonely than with someone and miserable
If you can’t be happy by yourself, how can you expect to be happy ever? |
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Only had one longer relationship in my life. Been single for almost three years now. I've settled into it mostly. At my age it's easy to become bitter. Some days are harder than others, not going to lie. I'm not going to settle for just anyone though, which is probably part of the problem. Or it's just me.
We all want to be loved, to be validated, wanted, desired. It's just that it's not going to happen to me. I've been on enough first dates and been ghosted to know that I'm just not ever going to be good enough for anyone; there's always someone with more money (not difficult), better looking, better job, better prospects.
So I do my own things. Try and find meaning in them. Try to be aware of times when I'm not OK. Definitely don't go on here and make things worse. |
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In just over a week I will have been single for 2 years now. Apart from the loneliness of moving to a new part of the country, I'm quite happy being single. Emancipation from that hell hole of a situation has surprisingly dome me a whole world of good  |
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Single by choice for 8 years now.
I am lucky to have the best of both worlds. I get to live my single life happily and have wonderful longterm partners, and we get to share our lives together on a part time basis physically, and full time mentally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I admit that I struggle being single. Or better part of me loves the freedom of it, but a big portion of me longs to be and feel loved. And also loving I guess.
I’m one of those girls… I could never stay single for too too long, but I need to really learn how to, as I think my failed relationships were partly due to me not knowing how to really love myself first (I only knew the selfish way) so yeah.
Do I love being single? I guess some parts , do I miss being with somebody? … I guess so! X  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy my life as it is for the most part, but every now and again not that often I do have times where I just want that partner to go for drinks / dates. That just seems to come on spontaneously. But I accept that is a natural part of being single you will have times like that… it’s why I really enjoy those times I do go out with someone |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
I ended up being single last year through lockdown, with everything that went on last year, I can safely say, it was the worst year of my life.
However, I am now enjoying the single life.
There are odd occasions when I get a little pang of loneliness, but on a whole, I am happy with my lot in life |
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I’m single after a very long relationship.
I don’t think I’ve been happier to be honest. I’ve got the kid, the patterdale, a really strong friend group and a great, busy life. I don’t have time for a chap anymore but I’m not burning my bras yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My married friends are enough to set me back on track if I ever begin to feel the need for another relationship.
I don’t have anyone nagging me, wanting to know where I am or who I’m with, no one cheating on me - I can do exactly what I please.
Wouldn’t give that up for all the tea in china! |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Also been single for the best part of 10 years.
I am happy being single, but after doing a lot of inner trauma work I am feeling that a relationship is a possibility. I am concerned how I will cope with not having the bed to myself though lol.
If you don’t work on yourself and the reasons why you keep attracting shitty people then you will just keep repeating the same pattern. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single by choice for 8 years now.
I am lucky to have the best of both worlds. I get to live my single life happily and have wonderful longterm partners, and we get to share our lives together on a part time basis physically, and full time mentally "
I love this |
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"Single by choice for 8 years now.
I am lucky to have the best of both worlds. I get to live my single life happily and have wonderful longterm partners, and we get to share our lives together on a part time basis physically, and full time mentally "
This. This is perfect  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t imagine being in a relationship again - not one where I live with someone.
I’m just coming out of 2 years of hormone related hatred of anything sexual - so, for now, I’m now rediscovering myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been single mist of my life.
So I have come accustomed to it.
I fill my life with things to do so ne er feel left out ir lonely. And u see far too much unhappiness with couples to envy them.
#notallcouples
What's wrong with tall couples?
I'm small sat down "
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I do feel the loveliness mostly on cold dark nights but then I invite the FWB over and remember why I'm single ..... the sex is great but for fxxx sake get off my pillow and my side of the bed (middle) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just gotten used to being single, it’s not changed in 9 years and it won’t anytime soon.
Not sure I could live with someone again.
I want to feel loved but it evades me "
i love your moon sized boobs thats a start  |
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It feels like I’ve been single more than I’ve been in relationships.
But judging from the amount of dating I’ve done where people very quickly start judging my life, my hobbies, etc, I think I’ll stay single for a good long while.
That’s pretty much why I came on here. |
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I'm really fine bring single.
We learn some of our expectations by influences from others and society. I think there are many who raced to marry and have kids, who would have chosen otherwise, with hindsight and maturity, when they knew themselves better etc.
It's good and healthy for us to be social animals but monogamous pairing isn't the only way to do this.
Being single is much, much more acceptable and normal here and in other parts of the world than it used to be. Thank goodness, as it means there's less real and perceived pressure on us.
It's bliss being single |
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At this point in my life im very happy to be single, by choice. I do need affection and friendship though, as well as regular sex, so have fwb to meet those needs. I do feel that i will want a full on relationship again at some point, just not right now. X |
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"Men with no veris: being single sucks
Men with 20 veris: being single is great!"
I'm a single guy with 31 veris and its no walk park I tell you,it's hard work
I get more meets from just talking to people in clubs than I do off fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mostly do fine. I have a very hectic home life which helps so any time alone to myself is a blessing not a curse, plus I’m introvert and people tend to overwhelm me, make me anxious and generally get on my wick.
But sometimes I get a hankering to cwtch up in the arms of some fella who loves me and give in to my need for affection and touch, let him play with my hair and listen to me chat shit whilst playing with his chest hair.
But these yearnings are getting more and more infrequent, because mostly I’m happy to just have to think about me and my family’s needs without factoring in them. I see (romantic) love as extra pressure on me, and I can’t be dealing with that right now.
Some people crave love and affection. I’ll take it if it comes along, but I don’t physically ache for it. I used to, but not anymore. I think I’m lucky in that regard. But then I would say that
In a few years that might all change. If it does great. but I’ll not put my life on hold waiting for “the one”.
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I totally agree with this.
I have a lover on here so he gives me all the above but I'm still single and I too have a family..
Ive never been married.
Never really found that "one" but as I get older I think a companion with sexy fun would be nice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting to see so many people more worried about being judged for being on here than being worried about opening yourself up to somebody emotionally for them just to hurt you, let you down, cheat on you and lie to you.
I’d rather not give anybody the chance or opportunity to cause me heartache and pain.
I’d take physical pain over emotional pain all day all, I’ve experienced both and I know which hurts more.
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Single for 7 after a 16 year relationship. I have my kids at times, but get lonely. I have good colleagues, but my friends are far away. I miss companionship, but I'm at an age where meeting people is difficult. It is what it is, I suppose |
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I’ve been single most of my adult life and I can’t imagine it any other way.
What love do you seriously need though?
I’ve got the love of my family; the love of a variety of friends; all of which is unconditional.
I can love a sexual companion, enjoy spending time with them, socialise with them, care about their well-being without it having to get into the romance side.
Romantic love for me comes with too many boundaries, constraint & rules and I’m never putting myself in that position again. I’m too much of a free spirit and a nomad to just settle, if I get a hint of it I tend to push people away.
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Just enjoy it.. I've been single for 5 years now. I've given up on dating as it's never worked out so now, if it does happen, it happens . Just enjoy being single and you're time will come bud "
Same here. I like being single as well |
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"This thread isnt about me, but rather a fellow singleton that I heard on a program speaking about the single life. I am not sure where I am going with this post, but thought that I wanted to share it.
It was a very emotional speech from him, not in a sad voice but with a dampened voice saying how he wanted to feel loved and have someone to share his life with.
My question is, how do you cope being single? I am doing fine."
Don't like it. I enjoy some of it but I much prefer being with someone. Maslows hierarchy of needs and all that. |
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After spending most of my life in relationships I decided to give single life a try and it's not all that bad.
I can talk and flirt as I please and I don't have to share food 
Yes there's things I miss about having a partner but single life is a lot less stressful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could it be like this, if one is single like us for a long time, you become accustomed to it, so would it be hard to share your life with someone?"
Yes I think that can be the case for some |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been single for two years now, the ex broke up with me during the first lockdown. It really knocked me and damn well almost broke me but I eventually got through it. I've learned to be alone again but I miss company and sharing things with someone x |
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"Been single for two years now, the ex broke up with me during the first lockdown. It really knocked me and damn well almost broke me but I eventually got through it. I've learned to be alone again but I miss company and sharing things with someone x"
Bastard. 7 years here. It's a tough gig, but you'll pull through x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been single for two years now, the ex broke up with me during the first lockdown. It really knocked me and damn well almost broke me but I eventually got through it. I've learned to be alone again but I miss company and sharing things with someone x
Bastard. 7 years here. It's a tough gig, but you'll pull through x"
I have pulled through, in more ways than you know but it's left scars. I keep reminding myself I'm in a better position now than he ever will be |
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"Been single for two years now, the ex broke up with me during the first lockdown. It really knocked me and damn well almost broke me but I eventually got through it. I've learned to be alone again but I miss company and sharing things with someone x
Bastard. 7 years here. It's a tough gig, but you'll pull through x
I have pulled through, in more ways than you know but it's left scars. I keep reminding myself I'm in a better position now than he ever will be "
Good for you! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been single now three years, ok 2yrs spent getting my life back and feeling me again….after 9yrs living with a lying cheating fuck wit, so for me I am very happy being single, with a sex life, when I feel lonely, just think of your ex and how lonely you actually felt in that relationship…trust me I couldn’t be any happier, I would rather be lonely than be with an ass hole in a shite relationship, because you will find they are the Linley ones not you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been single now three years, ok 2yrs spent getting my life back and feeling me again….after 9yrs living with a lying cheating fuck wit, so for me I am very happy being single, with a sex life, when I feel lonely, just think of your ex and how lonely you actually felt in that relationship…trust me I couldn’t be any happier, I would rather be lonely than be with an ass hole in a shite relationship, because you will find they are the Linley ones not you "
I fully agree with you. |
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I married my first serious relationship, turned out to be a major mistake, didn't see or want to see all that was wrong with that one. Now would rather be single than be with the wrong or not quite right one.
I do hope to be in a relationship in the future but for now choosing to stay single and enjoying having fab experiences which I yearned for in the relationship (though that was the least of the problems). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have terrible FOMO. When I'm single, I feel like I'm missing out on all the fun stuff that relationships bring. But when I'm offered a relationship, I know I'll miss being single and not having to consider anyone else when I'm making decisions.
I have a lot of very close family and friends and I think this makes it easier to be single too. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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Being single is great Mon to Fri when im busy working but absolutely sucks at weekends when I really want to be out having fun and visiting places.
Seeing others out with their significant others enjoying life makes me sad that I dont have that and probably never will since it keeps evading me. Ive got so much love to give but nobody wants it  |
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I enjoy being single mostly. Though sometimes I get a pang of wanting a big spoon or just wanting to do coupley things with someone.
Then I come back to my senses and realise that I quite like living my life without having to think of anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jeez...where do you start..if you are with the right person..now that's IF..it's brilliant..fun .. exciting ..all that being with someone should be BUT IF it's wrong then it's hell..you are walking on egg shells all the time ..please don't gimme that crap about that's what relationships are about ..if it's wrong it's wrong ..full stop. Covid really put being single to the test , the World was shut down there was only a few certain things you could do on your own but now the World is opening up again , you have pubs .games .music ..a bigger choice to fill your time , the only thing that stands to single people is that they only have themselves to look after the cost of such can be lonliness but if you are single be very careful what you wish for cause when you step off that single train you may never get back on it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been single now three years, ok 2yrs spent getting my life back and feeling me again….after 9yrs living with a lying cheating fuck wit, so for me I am very happy being single, with a sex life, when I feel lonely, just think of your ex and how lonely you actually felt in that relationship…trust me I couldn’t be any happier, I would rather be lonely than be with an ass hole in a shite relationship, because you will find they are the Linley ones not you "
Go you !! am delighted to hear that , sometimes you can bend over backwards to help people and still get a serious kick , am delighted to hear you are now living your life , so so important. |
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