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Would you go to a wedding alone?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A friend has asked me if I'd chaperone her to a wedding as she doesn't want to go alone.
I've been without a plus one. Made me think, is this a gal/boy thing... Is there more pressure for a gal to have a date ... Or is it a safety thing?
Or have I read a gender thing based on a n=2 sample ? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm attending a wedding shortly and I'll be going alone (well without a plus one). It's kind of different because I know some brilliant people also attending.
So, maybe it is a kind of date (but a wedding? Really?). Maybe she just wants company and so there's someone around she can easily talk to. |
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"A friend has asked me if I'd chaperone her to a wedding as she doesn't want to go alone.
I've been without a plus one. Made me think, is this a gal/boy thing... Is there more pressure for a gal to have a date ... Or is it a safety thing?
Or have I read a gender thing based on a n=2 sample ?"
I’ve been to several weddings without a plus one. It’s not great but if you’re good friends with one or other of the happy couple then you’re blind to know their friends and family so it doesn’t really matter if you’re “alone” however I accept that it’s a big thing for many women. Some friends still won’t sit in a restaurant or pub alone or go to the theatre or cinema alone whereas I happily will just bob along on my own to stuff that I want to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a man absolutely! Women should also not mind. Weddings are a fantastic way to make new friends as a single and often lead to a great night with someone  |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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If you take a chaperone, it reduces the interfering Family trying to play matchmaker...
Or the creeps letching..
But also nice just as company so that you can relax a little.
I've been to weddings alone but much prefer to have someone on my side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you take a chaperone, it reduces the interfering Family trying to play matchmaker...
Or the creeps letching..
But also nice just as company so that you can relax a little.
I've been to weddings alone but much prefer to have someone on my side."
Fair point about the matchmaking and letching! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually took a female friend so I had someone to dance with  . I love dancing but I’m not hitting that dance floor alone! "
It’s the wrong crowd I’ve you are not going asked to dance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go to the wedding at all if I could get out of it.
Weddings are usually total bollocks. Social soap operas where people have to act and dress a certain way.
Surely a wedding/ similar ceremony is for 2 people to share their love as they 'join' together.
If they need to have a specific type of day where everyone is coupled up then it's all just for show.  |
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I’m going to a wedding soon…. On my own …. But there will be others there I already know.
A wedding invite is a very personal thing and there’s usually a group of people/family you would already know but I get the not wanting to go alone thing.
Wedding invites might not be for everyone but I consider it a privilege to be asked to celebrate with the happy couple on their special day. It’s a huge expense to invite guests so it should be regarded as an honour to be part of it. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I’d rather go on my own than take someone who didn’t know anyone else there. I’d be too worried that they were left on their own or were bored if I was chatting to people I know. Especially if it was a family do, so chat would be catch up with relatives. Nowt more boring if the shoe was on the other foot. It’s boring enough if you do know them a lot of the time! . |
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"I’d rather go on my own than take someone who didn’t know anyone else there. I’d be too worried that they were left on their own or were bored if I was chatting to people I know. Especially if it was a family do, so chat would be catch up with relatives. Nowt more boring if the shoe was on the other foot. It’s boring enough if you do know them a lot of the time! . "
Treat it like a club meet. Get naked after the first hour and everyone will chat  x |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"I’d rather go on my own than take someone who didn’t know anyone else there. I’d be too worried that they were left on their own or were bored if I was chatting to people I know. Especially if it was a family do, so chat would be catch up with relatives. Nowt more boring if the shoe was on the other foot. It’s boring enough if you do know them a lot of the time! .
Treat it like a club meet. Get naked after the first hour and everyone will chat x"
Well this is why my answer was hypothetical- I’m now banned from all family functions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to a wedding without a plus one. I knew people there so didn't feel uncomfortable or anything.
Even if I didn't know anyone I'd just talk to people and get to know them.
Weddings are happy times, with lots of booze so people feel sociable. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part"
Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either. |
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"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part
Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either. "
Me being socially awkward and an introvert didn't help. I don't like large groups at all |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, I've been as a plus one. I knew a couple of people where as she knew almost everyone. I was a complete spare part
Same - I’d hate it and wouldn’t want to let anyone else feel like that either.
Me being socially awkward and an introvert didn't help. I don't like large groups at all"
Kudos to you for even going - I wouldn’t be able to.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's quite common now at weddings for people not to be offered a plus one. We didn't offer plus ones because we just couldn't because of numbers. The only people that had been given a plus 1 are people that didn't know anyone else but there's only 3 of those. No only that but to be honest I didn't want a bunch of strangers that my wedding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x"
That sounds like a shit wedding |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x"
Haggis is lovely
Oooooh cola bottles  |
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x
That sounds like a shit wedding "
No, it was rather nice x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x
That sounds like a shit wedding "
Really! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x
Haggis is lovely
Oooooh cola bottles "
We are having cola bottles at our wedding |
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x
Haggis is lovely
Oooooh cola bottles "
Usually, I'm very d*unk when I eat it. It numbs the taste. Cola bottles were fantastic, and they brought the rest to work! Oh, and a free bar! x |
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"They always have nice food at weddings so hell yes.
Last one i was at served haggis. They made up for it by giving us cola bottles in bags at the end x
Haggis is lovely
Oooooh cola bottles
We are having cola bottles at our wedding "
They go down so well x |
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I can see how someone would be more comfy taking a plus one if they didn’t know many of the other guests or if they knew everyone else would be coupled up. If there are for friends going though I wouldn’t mind going without a plus one. In fact it’s easier as otherwise if they don’t know the other people I’d feel like I had to stay with them all night to make sure they didn’t feel awkward.
Kx |
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I've been to plenty of weddings over the years and have always been single.
It's not through choice, just shit out of luck when it comes to having a girlfriend.
If someone invites you to a wedding, it's a momentous occasion to celebrate their special day. You should always go, even if single.
It's often a shitty feeling being alone but the day is about them, not the singleton.
Theres no shame going as an individual |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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The last 3 couples to get married and who were friends of mine were all second timers who went to the registry office, got married then told everyone a few days later.
The perfect solution, |
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I've been to weddings alone. Usually I have my friends meeting me there at some point but it can be annoying going along.
The people I end up speaking to all seem to be in a relationship and it looks like I'm the only single person there!
Thankfully when the seating is being planned they've not had a 'singles' table and everyone was grouped in their friendship circles.
Weddings are fun but they can also be annoying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in. "
Is it a Fab wedding? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in.
Is it a Fab wedding?"
No I don't think so. It might be an invitation for the people that lived here before me. That would be funny though if it was. I'll be the one lurking about the buffet. |
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I would go alone if I was going to know other people there. If I wasn't I would probably be nervous about going alone, especially if the venue was somewhere that could potentially be difficult to get home from. Lots of wedding venues are quite remote and I would worry about getting stranded somewhere if I wasn't staying. I've been at parties where I can't get a taxi at the end of the night before and that's traumatic enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes definitely. I've had an invitation through the post that I think has come to me by mistake as I don't know the couple. I'm going on my own and I probably won't know anyone there at all but it says there will be food and entertainment so I'm in.
Is it a Fab wedding?
No I don't think so. It might be an invitation for the people that lived here before me. That would be funny though if it was. I'll be the one lurking about the buffet. "
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