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Depends how tipsy. I’ve walked away from a couple of meets in the past where the woman got absolutely hammered. Firstly that’s not attractive and secondly I wasn’t comfortable having sex with someone that d*unk. There are consent issues and all sorts. |
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"Have sex with a women if on the meet she got tipsy while you had meal/drinks together before the main event?
And yes the main event is sex  "
No I don't have anything to do with alcohol . I only have sex with women when their sences are open to get full pleasure. From what your doing |
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over a year ago
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Tipsy yes blackout d*unk no no way and that’s even girl on girl. I wouldn’t want to take advantage or be accused of anything bad.
If you’re both a little giggly tipsy yes sure thing but if one’s sober it kinda ruins the vibe.
I’ve been put in some awkward positions with couples before where she has got too d*unk and it just kills things.
I like a glass of wine or a couple of drinks to calm nerves but I wouldn’t get d*unk on a meet especially not a first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm - define ‘tipsy’.
A drink to relax is fine - but anything that could cloud judgement is not cool. I prefer to keep the alcohol to a minimum if there’s a prospect of play during a meet. |
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No I wouldn't. I don't drink at all and never have done and have no issues if others do but definitely not in a situation like that.
If someone needs that crutch I'll leave the sex part until they don't. |
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"No I wouldn't. I don't drink at all and never have done and have no issues if others do but definitely not in a situation like that.
If someone needs that crutch I'll leave the sex part until they don't. "
What if they need it for a little self confidence |
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"No I wouldn't. I don't drink at all and never have done and have no issues if others do but definitely not in a situation like that.
If someone needs that crutch I'll leave the sex part until they don't.
What if they need it for a little self confidence "
That would depend on how much confidence she would need. I won't put myself in any situation where her judgement is impeded and could say otherwise the next day. |
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"No I wouldn't. I don't drink at all and never have done and have no issues if others do but definitely not in a situation like that.
If someone needs that crutch I'll leave the sex part until they don't.
What if they need it for a little self confidence "
In my opinion one drink, maybe two , is OK but if they need to be tipsy to have sex with me... that's a no. |
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Define tipsy
Was she still able to consent to sex?
Just because sex was on the cards originally the fact she's now d*unk would make me question whether she was still in a fit state to consent, be able to voice her boundaries, be aware if she was being filmed without her knowledge etc |
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"1 bottle of wine on your own kind of tipsy? …
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I can't drink wine the way I can drink spirits, one glass of wine and I'm swaying, one bottle and I wouldn't be in a fit state to consent to sex, infact if I was anywhere near a bed id likely be asleep |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A glass or two maybe is fine, some can manage more, I get that. But as soon as I can see she is d*unk. The protective side of me kicks in and I would make sure she gets home safely, I would never take advantage. |
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By *inx.x3 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No I wouldn't. I don't drink at all and never have done and have no issues if others do but definitely not in a situation like that.
If someone needs that crutch I'll leave the sex part until they don't. "
I don’t need to have a drink. I just like to have a drink when I’m out having a meal and a nice time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Define tipsy
Was she still able to consent to sex?
Just because sex was on the cards originally the fact she's now d*unk would make me question whether she was still in a fit state to consent, be able to voice her boundaries, be aware if she was being filmed without her knowledge etc "
This is the crux. If you can't be sure without doubt that consent is 100% true,then it isn't consent. So any intoxication brings with it moral AND potentially legal implications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1 bottle of wine on your own kind of tipsy? …
i get pissed on 2 bottles of bud so id be far d*unker
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true story had 1 last saturday took me 2 hours before i felt ok to drive  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Is this a first meet or someone you know well?
As most have said, there's a huge difference between tipsy and d*unk.
But I went to several forum socials/club nights when single with women I knew well from previous meets where we got somewhat plastered during the course of the night and still fucked like rabbits when we got back to the hotel.
Context is important.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will definitely have a couple of glasses during a "meet".
I normally only get 2 large glasses of wine from a bottle if I pour them
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My kind of glasses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will definitely have a couple of glasses during a "meet".
Ugh.
“Meet”.
Meet me Johnny.
Strike one.
Strike two there’s no cake."
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Fine, we'll have a social first. |
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Definitely no.
Your version of tipsy could be their version of d*unk.
The line you took advantage of me in that state spring's to mind
Same for Club meets if they are tipsy or d*unk it's a no thank you, people's inhibitions leave, thing's get carried away..too messy possible drama  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will definitely have a couple of glasses during a "meet".
Ugh.
“Meet”.
Meet me Johnny.
Strike one.
Strike two there’s no cake.
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Fine, we'll have a social first. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hard to say without knowing what tipsy really means. Any drinks consumed make me take extra care. But unless you have a no drink maximum then it's subjective ... |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Definitely no.
Your version of tipsy could be their version of d*unk.
The line you took advantage of me in that state spring's to mind
Same for Club meets if they are tipsy or d*unk it's a no thank you, people's inhibitions leave, thing's get carried away..too messy possible drama "
Agree, and I also think therein lies the danger that what appeared to have been consent....in the cold and sober light of the day may not feel like that any more.
A glass or so , why not but I would always stay sober. Besides I enjoy sex far more when my sensitivity to touch is working at its best. |
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I also want to be sure of consent.
