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So who’s married an the partner don’t know they’re on here???
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Guys, if this (for whatever reason) is the case for you be civilised about it please. I hate bitch at home posts, we get them all the time of Fabguys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Come on you naughty people..ha.."
If you're married and you are on here then you should have at very least talked this through with your marriage partner.
However, if your wife is also on here and you don't know about this, then;
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Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
So who’s married an the partner don’t know they’re on here???
Me.
I mean, she's sat next to me on the sofa but she thinks I'm watching cute cat videos on YouTube at the moment, not talking bollocks in the forums.
A
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin."
I feel your pain I’m in the same boat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To each their own but I've never understood why people cheat.
I haven’t as such but if you haven’t been here then how do you know"
Haven't been where?
I've been in plenty of relationships and not cheated, if I'm not happy I'll either speak to my partner or leave |
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"To each their own but I've never understood why people cheat.
I haven’t as such but if you haven’t been here then how do you know"
I’m open minded about peoples reasons for doing it; there’s nothing more humiliating or soul destroying than being cheated on. This isn’t the right forum for venting but I sincerely hope the spouses/partners never find out  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin."
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"70% of guys.
30% of girls.
I have no evidence of this whatsoever, the numbers just felt good. "
68% guys
32% girls
Adjusted for data smoothing
Sounds more convincing |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication. "
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I've been separated for 10 years but never divorced, so I suppose me. She knows about Alex but not these sites.
She is a lovely lady and we are good friends. She cleans my house every couple of weeks (I pay her) and I know she's seen as stuff, condoms and brown bottles etc. |
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up. "
Interesting point of view about "shit"?
Are you saying you must love someone to have sex with them?
or
You cannot love someone you have not had sex with?
or
If you love someone you cannot have sex with another?
I have loved many people that I did not have sex with and I have no feelings for many of those I have had sex with.
(And please put down that stone. My wife knows and approves of me being on here) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up.
Interesting point of view about "shit"?
Are you saying you must love someone to have sex with them?
or
You cannot love someone you have not had sex with?
or
If you love someone you cannot have sex with another?
I have loved many people that I did not have sex with and I have no feelings for many of those I have had sex with.
(And please put down that stone. My wife knows and approves of me being on here)"
In simple terms.
If you love someone you don't lie and cheat on them.
Yes you can have sex without love, most guys do.
Yes you can love someone and have sex with someone else, if you're honest about it.
Put down that stone? My comment wasn't even to you, if your wife knows and approves then you aren't cheating are you?  |
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On these forums Men are really judged for this.
I’ve seen people really go after a guy because he’s been honest..
but if a woman says it, the reaction is totally different..
So much sexism on these forums ..
Not just about this subject btw..
I’m totally single just in case you were wondering  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up. "
Well put. That's a lie that spout either hoping for sympathy or so they can tell themselves they're not ruining someone else life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up.
Interesting point of view about "shit"?
Are you saying you must love someone to have sex with them?
or
You cannot love someone you have not had sex with?
or
If you love someone you cannot have sex with another?
I have loved many people that I did not have sex with and I have no feelings for many of those I have had sex with.
(And please put down that stone. My wife knows and approves of me being on here)"
Interesting, comedic attempt to move aside a simple, clear truth.
Honesty, trust and respect are huge parts of love. If you're willing to lie to, and disrespect someone you claim to love, you don't love them. You're afraid of losing them, and not strong enough to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On these forums Men are really judged for this.
I’ve seen people really go after a guy because he’s been honest..
but if a woman says it, the reaction is totally different..
So much sexism on these forums ..
Not just about this subject btw..
I’m totally single just in case you were wondering "
The only reason that's true is down to the audience.... The hoard of desperate single guys flock to a single woman, regardless of her situation, in the hope of a shag. If you look at the responses from couples and single woman, they don't vary much between men and women cheats. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On these forums Men are really judged for this.
I’ve seen people really go after a guy because he’s been honest..
but if a woman says it, the reaction is totally different..
So much sexism on these forums ..
Not just about this subject btw..
I’m totally single just in case you were wondering
The only reason that's true is down to the audience.... The hoard of desperate single guys flock to a single woman, regardless of her situation, in the hope of a shag. If you look at the responses from couples and single woman, they don't vary much between men and women cheats."
I judge everybody equally.
Because I hate everybody equally.
Dick, vag, makes no difference. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"On these forums Men are really judged for this.
I’ve seen people really go after a guy because he’s been honest..
but if a woman says it, the reaction is totally different..
So much sexism on these forums ..
Not just about this subject btw..
I’m totally single just in case you were wondering "
That’s because a lot of men like the thought of taking (shagging) another man’s wife.
A lot of men think shagging a married woman is easier because they won’t get attached.
A lot of men just think it’s sexy as fuck.
And they are very vocal on the forums in stating this.
Women might like all of this but they go about it in a much more low key way.
And it’s very rare on Fab for a woman to start a “I’m married but” thread. They are, on the whole, more discreet.
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up.
Interesting point of view about "shit"?
Are you saying you must love someone to have sex with them?
or
You cannot love someone you have not had sex with?
or
If you love someone you cannot have sex with another?
I have loved many people that I did not have sex with and I have no feelings for many of those I have had sex with.
(And please put down that stone. My wife knows and approves of me being on here)
In simple terms.
If you love someone you don't lie and cheat on them.
Yes you can have sex without love, most guys do.
Yes you can love someone and have sex with someone else, if you're honest about it.
Put down that stone? My comment wasn't even to you, if your wife knows and approves then you aren't cheating are you? "
I agree with your point of view in general but would ask you to consider if refusing to allow sex inside marriage is also a breach of trust?
Is a desire to live a celibate life when your marriage was originally based on having sex a form of cheating by going back on the understanding the marriage was predicated on?
I know they should talk. (Fab cliche no9.) But if the celibate one won't (as is often the case) is that good grounds for divorce if they are still loved and the relationship still wanted?
It is not a simple equasion. |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex. "
What sort of illness ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?"
A penis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?"
She's got a C*not allergy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people want to cheat that's their choice. I don't agree with it but people do.
But coming on looking for sex whilst stating you love your partner?? Load of shit. That isn't love no matter how you dress it up.
Interesting point of view about "shit"?
Are you saying you must love someone to have sex with them?
or
You cannot love someone you have not had sex with?
or
If you love someone you cannot have sex with another?
I have loved many people that I did not have sex with and I have no feelings for many of those I have had sex with.
(And please put down that stone. My wife knows and approves of me being on here)
In simple terms.
If you love someone you don't lie and cheat on them.
Yes you can have sex without love, most guys do.
Yes you can love someone and have sex with someone else, if you're honest about it.
Put down that stone? My comment wasn't even to you, if your wife knows and approves then you aren't cheating are you?
I agree with your point of view in general but would ask you to consider if refusing to allow sex inside marriage is also a breach of trust?
Is a desire to live a celibate life when your marriage was originally based on having sex a form of cheating by going back on the understanding the marriage was predicated on?
I know they should talk. (Fab cliche no9.) But if the celibate one won't (as is often the case) is that good grounds for divorce if they are still loved and the relationship still wanted?
It is not a simple equasion. "
It's pretty simple.
You either love someone or you don't.
If sex means a lot to you and is a need then you talk about it, and if it can't be resolved you come to an agreement or you end it.
You don't ruin someone just so you get your dick wet. |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
A penis."
Tw*t. |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?"
Crohns. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns. "
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
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"I’ve seen people really go after a guy because he’s been honest..
but if a woman says it, the reaction is totally different..
So much sexism on these forums .."
--This hasn't been my experience here at all, as you portray it anyway. The first bit may be true (some men may have been 'gone after' - as well as being cheered on by some others no doubt!) but women chastise other women on Fab all the time, in this area too I'm sure. Its not anything like as sexist here as you suggest imo. So many different characters on here - you never know how the next poster will respond! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
A penis.
Tw*t."
Oh.
Well that’s normal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am, but I am however upfront about it. Besides I'm mostly here for the banter, the odds of me finding someone and hooking up etc is practically non existent so I don't worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know this is a sensitive topic.
I still do struggle to understand how people prioritise their sexual needs above the relationship.
They say they still want the relationship, but, by cheating, have essentially destroyed the relationship and the person who they cheated on. What kind of relationship is that anyway? Where there's a massive secret being kept.
I just don't understand. |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
A"
And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
A
And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging. "
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
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And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging. "
To be fair, you've put yourself up to be judged. If you didn't want people's opinions..... |
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"Oh shit this post doing numbers.  "
Reading this thread didn’t feel real at points. Some of the information that’s volunteered is in itself a testament to how little respect people have, not even considering the fact they’re cheating.
It’s one thing to be cheating on your partner but to then be volunteering information about them online without their knowledge or consent in an effort to absolve yourself of blame is pretty grim.
Trying to get the validation/approval of people on the Internet on something like this feels as though you haven’t forgiven yourself for what you’re doing. And that’s not reason (obvs) to disrespect your partner even further by doing summersaults to get us to do the forgiving for you. Work on that shit. Do better. |
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Well that was an interesting read. Can i just say only 1 women admitted she is married an her partner don’t know.
Women are more honest that men in my opinion but women do cheat, take it from me i know.
Interesting how the majority of lady’s here will defend each other without knowing each other, but then tar every man with the same brush without knowing them or they’re situation.
So yeah just like Eastenders all the men are made out to be shit and all the lady's are made out to be innocent saints 
But we all got something in common, we are all on here for a good shag an not to know someones life story. Stop being so judgemental relax an have a good time.
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
A
And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging.
I'm sure your wife will be pleased you clarified that. "
Fucks sake, he is damned if he does, damned if he doesn’t.
Someone asked him what the issue was, then proceeded to say that was strange then he clarifies and that isn’t good enough either.
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
A
And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging.
I'm sure your wife will be pleased you clarified that.
Fucks sake, he is damned if he does, damned if he doesn’t.
Someone asked him what the issue was, then proceeded to say that was strange then he clarifies and that isn’t good enough either.
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I found that extremely unfair to be even asked for details of his wife’s illness, very unfair indeed   |
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"Me.
It's stated in the first paragraph of my profile.
Yes I feel guilty, yes I feel bad, yes I love her and she loves me.
But she no longer fancies me sexually and she's told me. We still get on really well.
But soooo miss those naked cuddles.
Ok, let the barrage begin.
Why not speak to her about it then? I'm not judging as I can understand where you are coming from, sexual intimacy (or just sex) can be important to mental health. But It's a very strange situation. She doesn't want to have sex with you (or anyone?) which is fine that is her choice but for her to not want that and also expect you to go without is selfish and unfair, and something that needs to be considered. Just as bad (personal view) as cheating.
If you love somebody you don't deprive them of needs in such a way. If sex is that important to you that you do it without her knowing then how much love is there to still be together in that sense? I just can't fully wrap my head around it I guess.
The lack of communication is what stumps me I guess. Love should include honest communication.
I quite agree with what you've said, and yes it's a strange situation to be in. There's quite a big age gap between us, I'm 14 years older, I think that's at the root of it to be honest.
She also has an illness that stops penetrative sex.
What sort of illness ?
Crohns.
Odd.
My sister has lived with Crohns all her life.
And has two adult children, not by immaculate conception......
A
And did she actually poo from her vagina due to recto-vaginal fistula's?
Stop judging.
I'm sure your wife will be pleased you clarified that.
Fucks sake, he is damned if he does, damned if he doesn’t.
Someone asked him what the issue was, then proceeded to say that was strange then he clarifies and that isn’t good enough either.
I found that extremely unfair to be even asked for details of his wife’s illness, very unfair indeed "
I asked because as a health professional it's quite unusual, I thought it may be radiotherapy damage. |
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