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I’m curious to know …..
If you were saying this sentence to somebody which word would you use woman, lady, her.
That lady over there in the white top
That woman over there in the white top
Her over there in the white top.
It’s not a debate on which should be used. If possible I just want which word you’d naturally say. Genuinely intrigued.
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If the person can hear, like if I'm telling my kids to say thank you, then it'd be lady. As in "say thank you to the nice lady"
If I'm just talking about someone out of earshot it could be woman or lady. Both words would feel natural to use. But it certainly wouldn't be female  |
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Lady most likely, certainly if I were talking to my son.
Oddly, probably woman if I were talking to my wife.
Not sure why the difference, maybe it’s because I’d expect a teenager to defer to another adult, but would myself treat another adult as a peer…
Person if I was at work, or if there was any ambiguity on gender. |
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Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there 
Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.
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I worked for a long time in retail, and Lady seemed the most polite and formal in that context.
Woman just feels less polite to me now, so unless in a very casual environment, it's what I fall back to. |
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"Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there
Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.
Mr"
This! I do catch myself saying / typing it a lot and change it, as I really do worry about upsetting people.
As an overthinker, even relatively simple things like this do really play on my mind. Probably doesn't help with my social anxieties. |
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"I’m curious to know …..
If you were saying this sentence to somebody which word would you use woman, lady, her.
That lady over there in the white top
That woman over there in the white top
Her over there in the white top.
It’s not a debate on which should be used. If possible I just want which word you’d naturally say. Genuinely intrigued.
Thanks "
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The second or third I think but it depends on the context like if they're a stranger or if I'm just pointing out a friend to another friend or if it's part of a longer conversation. I'm not 100% on when I'd use each but they're the ones I remember saying. |
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"I would use woman but not in that sentence. I would say "There's a woman over there who such and such" as it feels a lot less harsh to say rather than "That woman"  "
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"What about if the roles were reversed....sorry Nora to go off topic x
I’d say man "
We use fella a lot in Yorkshire (in Scotland, I tend to get called big man). I rarely get offended, except when people shout 'oi'. Fir some reason it triggers a bad reaction. X |
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Woman.
Or (and I know this isnt great)
Girl if she's relatively young.
(I'm a guys and girls kinda guy, so would probably say guy rather than man)
Ladies is very formal for me. I'd not say look at that gentleman over there. |
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"Ho for me Nora - that Ho over there
Actually, like Hippy, I'd instinctively think lady but would likely change it to woman as that seems to annoy the least amount of people.
Mr
This! I do catch myself saying / typing it a lot and change it, as I really do worry about upsetting people.
As an overthinker, even relatively simple things like this do really play on my mind. Probably doesn't help with my social anxieties. "
Huh, try being an over thinker and insatiably curious with a desire to understand why people think the way they do and where the logic is in their opinions. It's very hard not to offend when you start probing someone's cognitive dissonance. My solution is to try my best not to offend but not care too much when, despite my best efforts, I do.
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It would depend on context.
If for example I'm suggesting to a child they can go to a shop worker to ask for something, I'm likely to say ..... The lady in the white top.
Her in the white top,
may be my way to express lack of respect, say if I noticed her behaving badly.
Woman in white top, may be used towards another adult.
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"Woman as it's more natural in my Yorkshire accent. Unless Inam addressing the lady of the manor. Ow do mi lady"
I’ve got Hilda Ogden in my head say “woman, Stanley”….
I would say lady or woman. Although someone asked their children to move the way to let the lady (me) through last week - I said don’t call me that I’ll be getting ideas above my station
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