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Would you be on here if you were in a happy relationship
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Oh hi 
Yes, swinging is just an extra twist for us within our relationship.
We've had a lot going on family-wise lately so are not meeting just now. I find when things are difficult at home I want to pull back from swinging and focus on us. So I suppose the opposite is true in our case!
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Our relationship and swinging are two completely different things.
We keep feelings out of swinging yet our relationship is very much about feelings and love.
Swinging to use is like seasoning on a meal.
Yes on its own the food tastes fantastic and it's completely fine,add some seasoning and it adds a little something extra. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Life and loving someone is very different to play when I have to bury my dogs or go in hospital it’s important to have someone in your life that loves you and will hug you very different to playing with someone for an hour or so just to unload |
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"Our relationship and swinging are two completely different things.
We keep feelings out of swinging yet our relationship is very much about feelings and love.
Swinging to use is like seasoning on a meal.
Yes on its own the food tastes fantastic and it's completely fine,add some seasoning and it adds a little something extra."
Couldn't have put it better myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I would be here if I was in a happy relationship. For some reason I always find myself back here after the breakdown of a relationship. Then leave when I feel I've found happiness - again 
I've not yet worked out why I keep coming back. I'm sure a psychologist would have a field day with me though  |
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Werenin here because we're truly happy with each other. If we weren't then we think it could damage things between us.
We're so close, open and honest that this addition adds a little extra fun.
And if the fun stops, stop |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our relationship and swinging are two completely different things.
We keep feelings out of swinging yet our relationship is very much about feelings and love.
Swinging to use is like seasoning on a meal.
Yes on its own the food tastes fantastic and it's completely fine,add some seasoning and it adds a little something extra."
I’d love to be your hot Chili sauce x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe, not to meet though, and not secretly.
Mainly for the super mature chat in the forums.
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lol really hope you don’t find my childish ramblings too offensive x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am head over heels in love with Mr NBVN and our relationship means the world to us. Being swingers adds a naughty element to our already awesome sex life.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, we are on here because we are in a happy relationship. This is the first relationship where I trust someone 100%, know I'm respected and feel free to actually be myself.
I would never so this if I wasn't happy. Mentally that would fuck me up. |
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
Gleam Street |
I met my now husband on here... works for us as we absolutely are 1st place for each other, but with a little twist here and there. Neither of us put a meet before the other and all are run by the other party. This is the best relationship I've been in because of the freedom we have both together and apart..... took me to 42 ti meet someone I'd even remotely considered marriage to at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that depends on your relationship. Mine isn't happy so I'm on here but I have someone special on here and we enjoy the site together.
Would I like to be in a LTR with someone I loved, yes maybe. Would I still be on fab? No, not if they weren't into all this.
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"I think that depends on your relationship. Mine isn't happy so I'm on here but I have someone special on here and we enjoy the site together.
Would I like to be in a LTR with someone I loved, yes maybe. Would I still be on fab? No, not if they weren't into all this.
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And you have great lipstick testing skills.... apparently x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love to be in a happy swinging relationship, but I wouldn’t prioritise swinging over the right person "
Definitely this. If I am his priority and he makes me happy but is not looking to share me, I know which I'd choose to give up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't be in here if we weren't completely happy! It's too dangerous a game to play as a couple if either of you have a weakness on the happiness or self esteem side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Long story but yes I am in a very happy relationship, it’s just one without physical contact ( yes she knows and approves of me being here )
My partner and I stayed together throughout my transition and we are more than the very best of friends but she is 100% straight so the physical relationship ended then so long and emotional conversations had to be had about both our needs.
I guess the question should be, would I still be here if she was the least bit bi and the answer to that is a very definite no. |
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Well we have been together over 30yrs,bn on here few years now.n we both enjoy it .the difference I suppose is love ,we love n trust each implicitly n never meet solo n it adds a bit excitement into our normal day to day life R x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the reason we are on here is because our relationship is so good that things like swinging can be openly talked about ... you have to be a strong together couple to make swinging work if your not happy in your relationship then cracks will appear very quick |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
This is a red flag thread… in that I think it displays some of the feelings here that would see my running for the hills… because it’s shows up the difference people those who see it as an addition and those who see it as a replacement
Yes if there wasn’t an interest in sex then you would never have come here in the first place .. but it’s very a community and it’s the social side that will keep me always coming back….
It’s very much an addiction in my life, not a replacement for something I don’t have! … the thought of someone only being here till something better comes along almost makes me feel like I am being used! |
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"I think that depends on your relationship. Mine isn't happy so I'm on here but I have someone special on here and we enjoy the site together.
Would I like to be in a LTR with someone I loved, yes maybe. Would I still be on fab? No, not if they weren't into all this.
And you have great lipstick testing skills.... apparently x"
Bought a new one today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't be in here if we weren't completely happy! It's too dangerous a game to play as a couple if either of you have a weakness on the happiness or self esteem side |
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Yes, we are. This is just an added little extra that we enjoy doing every now and again.
If our relationship wasn't happy and secure then we wouldn't be here as it wouldn't be the right thing to do. The fact we are happy and secure means we can enjoy sex with others every now and again.
What we don't understand is couples who want to swing every single weekend, that spells to us that there are problems in their relationship. In a happy relationship you should want to spend a lot of time together just the 2 of you, not always looking for a 3rd/4th/5th etc person to join you. That is just our opinion though.
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Happy in a relationship.. ??? What is this myth ..if and when I do find someone ..I think I'll introduce them to this site and I'll be able to gauge from their response wether she's right for me or not . |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"This is a red flag thread… in that I think it displays some of the feelings here that would see my running for the hills… because it’s shows up the difference people those who see it as an addition and those who see it as a replacement
Yes if there wasn’t an interest in sex then you would never have come here in the first place .. but it’s very a community and it’s the social side that will keep me always coming back….
It’s very much an addiction in my life, not a replacement for something I don’t have! … the thought of someone only being here till something better comes along almost makes me feel like I am being used! "
I don’t think it’s a replacement thing, more like an intermission between where you want to be. Like if you go travelling and want to take in Scotland and Wales, but on your journey you spend some time enjoying yourself in England because, why the hell not. Then you carry on with your journey, but the journey has no set plan, no set destination. So you’re not seeking something better, just something different to what is set out on the map.
This made sense in my head  |
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No, because I’m not a swinger and a happy relationship would be fulfilling enough for me in many ways including sexually.
I come here in phases, usually between (short) relationships. I don’t come here to use anybody, boundaries are clear in that it’s casual, mutually enjoyable sex. I also like the excitement of meeting someone new. |
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"We're here because we're truly happy with each other. If we weren't then we think it could damage things between us.
We're so close, open and honest that this addition adds a little extra fun.
And if the fun stops, stop"
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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In an ideal word I would be happy with one soulmate but equally it could include others for both of us with full disclosure both ways. It would not HAVE to be this way but it COULD be. |
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