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over a year ago
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How do you take being complimented by strangers?
Creepy or do you enjoy being complemented?
I went into this shop not long ago, and this man was like “follow me , you can pay with me”
So I paid at his till and after payment he looks at me and says
“By the way… I only reserve this till for the pretty ladies”
I smile at him and said “thanks” and wished him
A good day.
I would say I take compliments from strangers pretty well, tho it sometimes make me feel a bit like … awkward. I didn’t think it was creepy tho
Also, opening another side topic. I was watching a film last night and the woman said to her daughter
“Pretty is a tool women can use to get what they want”
Do you agree or disagree with that statement?
I really do notice how you get treated slightly differently if you are considered “pretty”
People (particularly men) are more accommodating. I got away with a lot of things a few times.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often get complimented on my accent when I'm abroad. I go with the flow and smile sweetly.
"Yes I've meet the Queen. Yes England does have trees." 
There's a fine line between complimentary and creepy. Always men who cross the line, never women. |
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"I often get complimented on my accent when I'm abroad. I go with the flow and smile sweetly.
"Yes I've meet the Queen. Yes England does have trees."
There's a fine line between complimentary and creepy. Always men who cross the line, never women. "
I disagree totally with that last statement. Certainly when I was a young man I can recall numerous incidents when an older woman (complete stranger) has invaded my personal space and been overtly sexual towards me. Usually in a bar or nightclub however once in the library. |
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Compliments from a message is nice, but it’s nowhere as good as real in life.
I was once in a gay bar in Manchester and a girl came up to me and asked if I was a guy or girl. Once I confirmed (well actually my voice gave me away) I was a guy, she was gushing over how I passed and her and her friends couldn’t tell.
I was on cloud nine that night, also happened in Napoleons in Manchester another night. They used to let Tgirls in for free but charge everyone else. This one night the guy asked me for a pound and didn’t believe me at first when I told him I was a guy. Paid the pound as I was really happy over that.
Doesn’t happen as much now    |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often get complimented on my accent when I'm abroad. I go with the flow and smile sweetly.
"Yes I've meet the Queen. Yes England does have trees."
There's a fine line between complimentary and creepy. Always men who cross the line, never women.
I disagree totally with that last statement. Certainly when I was a young man I can recall numerous incidents when an older woman (complete stranger) has invaded my personal space and been overtly sexual towards me. Usually in a bar or nightclub however once in the library. "
Fair point. I have been lucky to have never had a creepy woman but yeah they do exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like it when they look into my pendulum winky as it swings and fall asleep  i also like it when people compliment me who dont altho iv no idea what to say apart from thanks i love your earlobes |
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Compliments very much depends on the person giving and admittedly on my own mood on at the time. Sometimes especially if I've had a rough day in work, with men not taking me seriously. To have a man then compliment my looks does annoy the hell out of me.
I'm not pretty so can't comment on that part. But I will say if I'm in work meeting gear, pencil skirt, heels smart top, I am treated differently to when I'm in jeans and a jumper and that's completely different again when I wear my more floaty reto look. And this goes for all genders not just men. |
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"How do you take being complimented by strangers?
Creepy or do you enjoy being complemented?
I went into this shop not long ago, and this man was like “follow me , you can pay with me”
So I paid at his till and after payment he looks at me and says
“By the way… I only reserve this till for the pretty ladies”
I smile at him and said “thanks” and wished him
A good day.
I would say I take compliments from strangers pretty well, tho it sometimes make me feel a bit like … awkward. I didn’t think it was creepy tho
Also, opening another side topic. I was watching a film last night and the woman said to her daughter
“Pretty is a tool women can use to get what they want”
Do you agree or disagree with that statement?
I really do notice how you get treated slightly differently if you are considered “pretty”
People (particularly men) are more accommodating. I got away with a lot of things a few times.
Anyway, thoughts?!"
don’t find this surprising at all in fact I can say I have been guilty of it especially when younger. I remember once going to meet a buyer in Manchester and she was absolutely stunning, literally stunning and it scrambles your brain. It’s hard to explain. I just agreed to everything she asked for and I didn’t make a single written note. The older I’ve got the less I am influenced by that now. No idea why that is btw
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By (user no longer on site)
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A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Compliments very much depends on the person giving and admittedly on my own mood on at the time. Sometimes especially if I've had a rough day in work, with men not taking me seriously. To have a man then compliment my looks does annoy the hell out of me.
I'm not pretty so can't comment on that part. But I will say if I'm in work meeting gear, pencil skirt, heels smart top, I am treated differently to when I'm in jeans and a jumper and that's completely different again when I wear my more floaty reto look. And this goes for all genders not just men. "
It is so true about “presentation” and how you present yourself to the world, you might be treated differently!
Same goes for men, if they are handsome, and wear a suit. Compared to “scruffy”
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"A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers. "
I agree with you. I also find women tend to compliment you on your hair or an item of clothing. And will carry on with what they were doing afterwards. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t consider myself pretty I’m an acquired taste, whilst I think I have a nice face I wouldn’t use my looks in terms of moving up the career ladder or to get something for free as I always feel there’s a a mentality of ‘wanting something in return’ some will say pretty makes life easier and perhaps it does in terms of influencers/models etc where the profession is based on looks but not in all professions.
Compliments of a genuine nature I enjoy and I like to give them too, if I’m out and about and I see someone with a cool vibe/nice outfit/great hair I’ll give them a little compliment on it, I think it’s nice to put a smile on someone’s face or indeed have an unexpected one on yours.
The continuous your hot/sexy/I wish to pummel you into next week messages I take with a pinch of salt there just flippant musings of what some men/woman feel you wish to hear on here.
Compliments like ‘you have a nice smile/eyes/dress sense’ I always take well those which compliment a body part that could be sexualised not so much as for me that’s when it can become creepy xx |
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Being a Redhead with long hair, especially in the summer, I constantly get compliments on the colour etc from women and men. That type of compliment I accept graciously. Anything sexual I take with a pinch of salt x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn’t consider myself pretty I’m an acquired taste, whilst I think I have a nice face I wouldn’t use my looks in terms of moving up the career ladder or to get something for free as I always feel there’s a a mentality of ‘wanting something in return’ some will say pretty makes life easier and perhaps it does in terms of influencers/models etc where the profession is based on looks but not in all professions.
Compliments of a genuine nature I enjoy and I like to give them too, if I’m out and about and I see someone with a cool vibe/nice outfit/great hair I’ll give them a little compliment on it, I think it’s nice to put a smile on someone’s face or indeed have an unexpected one on yours.
The continuous your hot/sexy/I wish to pummel you into next week messages I take with a pinch of salt there just flippant musings of what some men/woman feel you wish to hear on here.
Compliments like ‘you have a nice smile/eyes/dress sense’ I always take well those which compliment a body part that could be sexualised not so much as for me that’s when it can become creepy xx"
I agree with all you said.
I also love complimenting other women on their style. Maybe they have an amazing hair cut, or a cool vibe about them. Or even the best bag! I think those are usually well received x
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I enjoy being complimented but as other posters have said: it depends on a number of factors like who from, what's the general vibe I'm getting, how am I feeling about myself and in myself at that particular time. Can it be creepy, can it be awkward - absolutely.
And I definitely believe that "pretty/attractive" or whatever adjective you want to use for anyone, woman or man, is a tool used to "get away" with stuff, to further yourself etc. Not everyone, not even necessarily consciously.
It is human nature to use ones assets.
Some use their looks, some their natural charm and/or wit, some their intelligence, some their "status" in society, some their financial assets.
Whatever gets you where you want to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers. "
You've said this better than I could. I find compliments on here not very enjoyable. I think men who message me when I've posted a photo or video think I expect them and desire them. I don't. And whilst I am called pretty sometimes, I don't ever want to use that for my advantage. I'd rather use my brain. |
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"A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers.
You've said this better than I could. I find compliments on here not very enjoyable. I think men who message me when I've posted a photo or video think I expect them and desire them. I don't. And whilst I am called pretty sometimes, I don't ever want to use that for my advantage. I'd rather use my brain. "
I tend to turn to putty though if someone compliments my mind not my boobs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers.
You've said this better than I could. I find compliments on here not very enjoyable. I think men who message me when I've posted a photo or video think I expect them and desire them. I don't. And whilst I am called pretty sometimes, I don't ever want to use that for my advantage. I'd rather use my brain.
I tend to turn to putty though if someone compliments my mind not my boobs. "
Don't give away our secrets!!   |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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When I get a compliment it gives me a little boost and I say thank you and I have a smile on my face.
I've been called handsome, I don't see it, from a work colleague who is male and from women but for some reason I feel embarrassed when they say it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think there's been switch up lately with women becoming more empowered with their bodies. The growth of streamers on twitch or youtube where I think there's some definite pandering to the male gaze in order to earn cash. I'd say its abusing good looks but then some of the guys get pretty toxic.
It does make me sad though when I get youtube recommendations that are just a pretty girl trying on bikinis...kind of drowns out people actually crafting good videos. |
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"A compliment from someone I love means everything.
I don’t enjoy them from strangers or those I don’t know well (men).
Women that I don’t know, I accept and am grateful.
Sexist I know, but with women it seems more genuine and not just like they’re trying to get into my knickers.
You've said this better than I could. I find compliments on here not very enjoyable. I think men who message me when I've posted a photo or video think I expect them and desire them. I don't. And whilst I am called pretty sometimes, I don't ever want to use that for my advantage. I'd rather use my brain.
I tend to turn to putty though if someone compliments my mind not my boobs.
Don't give away our secrets!! "
Not so clever of me that's was |
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To be complemented is amazing but it sounds like that guy was hitting on you in a rather creepy way. I once had my fishmonger slip me a note with his number in my bag when I was buying fish. I'm a confident person but I don't go there anymore to save him the heart ache.
But if a man or a lady pays a compliment we shouldn't be embarrassed. We should embrace the comment and learn to be more confident in ourselves x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be complemented is amazing but it sounds like that guy was hitting on you in a rather creepy way. I once had my fishmonger slip me a note with his number in my bag when I was buying fish. I'm a confident person but I don't go there anymore to save him the heart ache.
But if a man or a lady pays a compliment we shouldn't be embarrassed. We should embrace the comment and learn to be more confident in ourselves x"
Maybe he was but I didn’t find him to be particularly lechy so i just thanked him
I agree that sometimes we should embrace the comment |
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"I think it very much depends on how the compliment is given. Context and delivery are everything."
This. Depends how they say it.
Being attractive definitely helps in life. I know it's got me jobs before, especially in hospitality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The thing is that many comments I receive here are so hyperbolic and daft that they're not empowering at all. They're embarrassing. I don't believe any of them. In person Id probably feel differently. I don't think playing on my looks is something I've ever done nor would I encourage my kids to do so. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Strangers...
It depends on my mood really and what the compliment is about. If it's late at night and "nice tits luv" shouted at me from a passing car, I'm probably not going to be overcome with gratitude and glowing from the praise. If it's something like "Oh you have a lovely voice Meli" or something mentioning my way with words I'll be sucking that up like the needy sponge I am. |
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I'm really not a fan of compliments at all as a way to strike up conversation. I find it quite lazy and, rightly or wrongly, think I'm not gonna have an interesting interaction with the person.
I much prefer someone who is complimentary by showing interest in what we're chit chatting about.
As to the other point, yeah there's evidence for that in society.
But I'm not a fan of women playing on that to excuse things. |
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What an interesting thread! I find it fascinating because I agree with a lot of what had been said around how the compliment is delivered. That’s important. “Cor Darling, nice tits” doesnt sit quite as well as “just want to tell you your hair looks very pretty”.
Also people compliment others on their intellect. “Ooooo you’re so brainy!” ( I get that constantly. (I don’t)).
But somehow complimenting attractiveness is more frowned upon.
Neither of these attributes are down to the individual- they’re purely down to genetics and luck.
Super interesting though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Pretty privilege is a very real thing. And that applies to both men and women. I do believe those who are what society deems attractive do get it easier in life.
I guess when it comes to compliments it depends on what was said. I've had lots of nice compliments from women which I thank them for, but with men it never seems as genuine. It's always like they hope to gain something from it. I just tend to ignore men mostly if they do say something to me. |
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I am terrible at giving compliments I dont mean to be I just struggle lol x I can compliment strangers on their style etc but that's about it hahaha xim so terrible at receiving them, I always get coy and shy when a woman compliments me and when a man does I immediately question their validity and intentions x J x |
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By *eliWoman
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"But somehow complimenting attractiveness is more frowned upon.
Neither of these attributes are down to the individual- they’re purely down to genetics and luck.
Super interesting though. "
I don't mind being complimented on my appearance by a man or a woman if it's just that, not a line. I'm not saying the majority of the time it is but you learn when more is expected because you're on the receiving end of a compliment. And that can quickly make me feel uncomfortable. |
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I never used to take compliments all that well when I was younger. Always to be suspicious when someone complimented me. Now though it's nice, unless it's a back handed compliment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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They're nice to get whether in relation to my appearance, work or anything else.
Compliments from women about my looks carry more weight for me though. In real life I take what most guys say with a very big pinch of salt. There will always be someone younger & prettier just around the corner.
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"I like complementing folks on here, but if anyone feels uncomfortable, please tell me "
I feel uncomfortable by the fact you’ve never complimented me! As a straight man you can flirt with me, but don’t touch! |
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"But somehow complimenting attractiveness is more frowned upon.
Neither of these attributes are down to the individual- they’re purely down to genetics and luck.
Super interesting though.
I don't mind being complimented on my appearance by a man or a woman if it's just that, not a line. I'm not saying the majority of the time it is but you learn when more is expected because you're on the receiving end of a compliment. And that can quickly make me feel uncomfortable. "
Absolutely get that. No one should feel uncomfortable by compliments.
I think dishing out compliments “should” be ok, even if it’s a fishing expedition, after all sexy time has to have a catalyst. But if it clearly makes someone even slightly uncomfortable, one must take a step back and make things right. Minefield! I’m sure it’s not easy to make feelings known though if uncomfortable. |
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"How do you take being complimented by strangers?
Creepy or do you enjoy being complemented?
I went into this shop not long ago, and this man was like “follow me , you can pay with me”
So I paid at his till and after payment he looks at me and says
“By the way… I only reserve this till for the pretty ladies”
I smile at him and said “thanks” and wished him
A good day.
I would say I take compliments from strangers pretty well, tho it sometimes make me feel a bit like … awkward. I didn’t think it was creepy tho
Also, opening another side topic. I was watching a film last night and the woman said to her daughter
“Pretty is a tool women can use to get what they want”
Do you agree or disagree with that statement?
I really do notice how you get treated slightly differently if you are considered “pretty”
People (particularly men) are more accommodating. I got away with a lot of things a few times.
Anyway, thoughts?!"
Most guys will say things to the pretty girls that catch their attention that they wouldn't say to other girls that didn't catch their attention , it's the way things go sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How do you take being complimented by strangers?
Creepy or do you enjoy being complemented?
I went into this shop not long ago, and this man was like “follow me , you can pay with me”
So I paid at his till and after payment he looks at me and says
“By the way… I only reserve this till for the pretty ladies”
I smile at him and said “thanks” and wished him
A good day.
I would say I take compliments from strangers pretty well, tho it sometimes make me feel a bit like … awkward. I didn’t think it was creepy tho
Also, opening another side topic. I was watching a film last night and the woman said to her daughter
“Pretty is a tool women can use to get what they want”
Do you agree or disagree with that statement?
I really do notice how you get treated slightly differently if you are considered “pretty”
People (particularly men) are more accommodating. I got away with a lot of things a few times.
Anyway, thoughts?!
don’t find this surprising at all in fact I can say I have been guilty of it especially when younger. I remember once going to meet a buyer in Manchester and she was absolutely stunning, literally stunning and it scrambles your brain. It’s hard to explain. I just agreed to everything she asked for and I didn’t make a single written note. The older I’ve got the less I am influenced by that now. No idea why that is btw
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Like you were spell bound? x |
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